Is it wrong to have a cyber GF and a real one as well?

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  • sw33tp3a15
    sw33tp3a15 Posts: 1,674 Member
    JessicaJS23 wrote: »
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    This is a lesson most people learn till is too late.
  • bigeasy50
    bigeasy50 Posts: 48 Member
    keep it real brother
  • _whatsherface
    _whatsherface Posts: 1,235 Member
    sw33tp3a15 wrote: »
    JessicaJS23 wrote: »
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    This is a lesson most people learn till is too late.

    Omg. This is actually pretty *kitten* amazing.
  • HannaSusi
    HannaSusi Posts: 857 Member
    Summersoul130 wrote: »
    MadMc28 wrote: »
    is this seriously a topic? am i seriously commenting on it.....lol. do your thing, face whatever consequences occur. we are all adults.

    *kitten* right!? This is the weirdest thing I've ever read. The internet is destroying our brains.. ):

    ....if THIS is the weirdest thing you've ever read, you must have not been around the internet a lot O_o
  • ThatFatAsianNerd
    ThatFatAsianNerd Posts: 1,415 Member
    edited January 2016
    Several years ago, met and started seeing someone who belonged in the same guild on WoW for almost a year. Not really ashamed nor embarrassed or anything about it. Nobody believed us when we'd tell people how we met.

    You guys try this coffee and bagel thing? Interesting dating app.
  • fat2fitaddict
    fat2fitaddict Posts: 90 Member
    ald783 wrote: »
    I think I'd be more embarrassed than jealous if someone I was dating had a cyber girlfriend. Like is this a 1997 AOL chatroom?
    ...what she said. Lets just all pretend we are not 13 yr olds here
  • ThatFatAsianNerd
    ThatFatAsianNerd Posts: 1,415 Member
    fat2fitaddict wrote: »
    ald783 wrote: »
    I think I'd be more embarrassed than jealous if someone I was dating had a cyber girlfriend. Like is this a 1997 AOL chatroom?
    ...what she said. Lets just all pretend we are not 13 yr olds here

    I think at 12-13, I didn't give a crap about AOL lol

    I was killin' it on Crash Bandicoot and Twisted Metal around that age.
  • _whatsherface
    _whatsherface Posts: 1,235 Member
    ThatFatAsianNerd wrote: »
    fat2fitaddict wrote: »
    ald783 wrote: »
    I think I'd be more embarrassed than jealous if someone I was dating had a cyber girlfriend. Like is this a 1997 AOL chatroom?
    ...what she said. Lets just all pretend we are not 13 yr olds here

    I think at 12-13, I didn't give a crap about AOL lol

    I was killin' it on Crash Bandicoot and Twisted Metal around that age.

    Does that mean you play hearthstone? @ThatFatAsianNerd
  • firead
    firead Posts: 56 Member
    Unless the "real" gf is cool with it, it's dangerous ground.

    Personal experience here. I've been married for over 14 years. We've had a lot of issues, but stuck through for comfort (some issues were major, there was ongoing emotional/financial control/abuse, etc that made leaving less of an option even after it was obvious we were toxic for eachother).
    In another possibly bad idea, we were poly/open for the majority of the time. The marriage weathered several outside partners and consensual "affairs" with no bad effects, but cyber relationships are what killed it.

    I started texting a guy who was in the military. No harm, no foul, right. He was overseas, married, and it was all platonic. His wife left him, but when he came back to the US he was still 11 or 12 hours away. We flirted a little, and my husband was cool with it, even offered to let me fly out to go visit. We kept texting and talking on the phone and, he was there for me during some really bad times when my husband was emotionally unavailable. He was a really good friend, then something happened that had me worried for his safety and I realized I was in love with him. When his enlistment ended, he moved across the country, within a few hours of me. We're spending as much time as we can together and taking it slow, because we really are starting at zero to get to know eachother as we are, not as we pictured eachother online.

    During this, my husband started asking an "old friend" for relationship advice. Said friend has experience with polyamory, but also has happened to have a crush on him for years. Her advice ended up making things much worse, because it kept coming back to him leaving me, taking our son, and going to live with her (she lost custody of her own child and wants a replacement - not happening with mine). But when he's stressed or wants advice, she's just a few clicks on the mouse or taps on the phone screen away, so he keeps confiding in her.

    Online is even more convenient than real life relationships, because people are available, and because they can hide the negative or hard parts of interacting with eachother. And it becomes very easy to turn the other person into your fantasy partner, projecting what you want onto them, instead of seeing them as they are, because it isn't the same as spending time together in person. It may not be the best way to start or build a new relationship, but it will end an existing one easy enough.
  • ThatFatAsianNerd
    ThatFatAsianNerd Posts: 1,415 Member
    Lol @ _whatsherface

    Your situation just sounds way too F'd up, firead. Nevertheless, I agree with your last paragraph.





  • kchuskey
    kchuskey Posts: 882 Member
    Well that escalated quickly... lol
  • doglover485
    doglover485 Posts: 58 Member
    lol
  • ThatFatAsianNerd
    ThatFatAsianNerd Posts: 1,415 Member
    edited January 2016
    If you're a dude, just assume every girl online is some 60 year old weirdo perv and play along with it. Once you get bored, go out and talk to real people, which I think I should do for myself right now lol






  • jlisa24
    jlisa24 Posts: 305 Member
    ^^ howd you know?! Btw im 61 and definitely a man :neutral:
  • KD454
    KD454 Posts: 1,548 Member
    I really think some people took this thread way too seriously......MFP noobs? I think so......it's a joke people.
  • RNGRZulu
    RNGRZulu Posts: 3,964 Member
    jlisa24 wrote: »
    ^^ howd you know?! Btw im 61 and definitely a man :neutral:
    You 61 year old creepy dudes are all the same!
  • FromFattie2Fittie
    FromFattie2Fittie Posts: 139 Member
    ald783 wrote: »
    I think I'd be more embarrassed than jealous if someone I was dating had a cyber girlfriend. Like is this a 1997 AOL chatroom?

    Lmao
  • jlisa24
    jlisa24 Posts: 305 Member
    doglover485 wrote: »
    lol
    RNGRZulu wrote: »
    jlisa24 wrote: »
    ^^ howd you know?! Btw im 61 and definitely a man :neutral:
    You 61 year old creepy dudes are all the same!

    Muahahahaha!
  • GreenGoddess22
    GreenGoddess22 Posts: 3,818 Member
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  • Rax1974
    Rax1974 Posts: 408 Member
    Good to go, listen to Shia and just do it
  • _whatsherface
    _whatsherface Posts: 1,235 Member
    ThatFatAsianNerd wrote: »
    Lol @ _whatsherface

    Your situation just sounds way too F'd up, firead. Nevertheless, I agree with your last paragraph.





    Wait... What? Lol. What situation?
  • JessicaJS23
    JessicaJS23 Posts: 1,863 Member
    _whatsherface wrote: »
    ThatFatAsianNerd wrote: »
    Lol @ _whatsherface

    Your situation just sounds way too F'd up, firead. Nevertheless, I agree with your last paragraph.





    Wait... What? Lol. What situation?

    I got a headache and almost lost my eyes in the back of my head reading it. Proceed with caution.
  • LAMCDylan
    LAMCDylan Posts: 1,218 Member
    Cyber GF is a waste of time....
  • Tialuna18
    Tialuna18 Posts: 9,591 Member
    If you have to ask this question legitimately, you shouldn't be in a relationship that isn't open, period.
  • Tialuna18
    Tialuna18 Posts: 9,591 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    Tialuna18 wrote: »
    If you have to ask this question legitimately, you shouldn't be in a relationship that isn't open, period.

    Pretty sure he was just joshing.

    Why do people bother making these threads then?
  • schibsted750
    schibsted750 Posts: 355 Member
    Tialuna18 wrote: »
    newmeadow wrote: »
    Tialuna18 wrote: »
    If you have to ask this question legitimately, you shouldn't be in a relationship that isn't open, period.

    Pretty sure he was just joshing.

    Why do people bother making these threads then?

    trolling
  • KD454
    KD454 Posts: 1,548 Member
    Tialuna18 wrote: »
    newmeadow wrote: »
    Tialuna18 wrote: »
    If you have to ask this question legitimately, you shouldn't be in a relationship that isn't open, period.

    Pretty sure he was just joshing.

    Why do people bother making these threads then?

    Just look how much fun it was
  • nukephysicist
    nukephysicist Posts: 283 Member
    People are just jealous they don't have enough skill or game to do it all.
  • Tialuna18
    Tialuna18 Posts: 9,591 Member
    Yeah...takes a lot of skill to cheat. : /
  • AskTracyAnnK28
    AskTracyAnnK28 Posts: 2,817 Member
    Tialuna18 wrote: »
    newmeadow wrote: »
    Tialuna18 wrote: »
    If you have to ask this question legitimately, you shouldn't be in a relationship that isn't open, period.

    Pretty sure he was just joshing.

    Why do people bother making these threads then?

    That would be the "Fun" part of "Chit-Chat Fun & Games"

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