How to get gf into fitness?

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  • angelamichelle_xo
    angelamichelle_xo Posts: 646 Member
    synchkat wrote: »
    Poke her mushy tummy like you would the Pillsbury dough boy, tell her it's cute her thighs jiggle like Jello. This will get her motivate I guarantee it. If it fails though try the cake out the car window trick previously mentioned

    if anyone god damn did this to me, i kick them in the balls and tell them it's cute how it hurts them real bad.
  • angelamichelle_xo
    angelamichelle_xo Posts: 646 Member
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....

    My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?

    TREAD LIGHTLY DUUUUUDE.
    i mean if she's the one offering the "im fat" emotion, then be her buddy. just be like if you wanna try to come to the gym with me. we can spend more time together and i can show you some things to get started. dont you ever dare say she's fat or squishy.
  • junelove89
    junelove89 Posts: 759 Member
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....

    My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?

    Or maybe try going hiking, walking, something outdoors. That's always nice instead of being in the gym where one feels insecure from the sight of all the nice bodies working out.
  • angelamichelle_xo
    angelamichelle_xo Posts: 646 Member
    i effin love going hiking with my boyfriend.

    yeah. bring ya girl hiking! and kiss her when you see stupid landmarks like bridges or huge rocks or some sh-t.

    thatseffinadorable.

    sry. just learned BBCODE.
  • _incogNEATo_
    _incogNEATo_ Posts: 4,537 Member
    i effin love going hiking with my boyfriend.

    yeah. bring ya girl hiking! and kiss her when you see stupid landmarks like bridges or huge rocks or some sh-t.

    thatseffinadorable.

    sry. just learned BBCODE.

    Calm your *kitten* down please.
  • AskTracyAnnK28
    AskTracyAnnK28 Posts: 2,817 Member
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....

    My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?

    I think if she wants to lose weight she'll do it when she's ready. In the meantime maybe you can ditch going to out eat so much and try to come up with activity dates - like hiking or bike riding, or maybe taking a fun zumba or spin class together.

    It happens to almost everyone...those 15 pounds are called "love weight" :)

  • JeffreyMGiron
    JeffreyMGiron Posts: 3,582 Member
    i effin love going hiking with my boyfriend.

    yeah. bring ya girl hiking! and kiss her when you see stupid landmarks like bridges or huge rocks or some sh-t.

    thatseffinadorable.

    sry. just learned BBCODE.

    Calm your *kitten* down please.

    i was thinking the same, I havent had my coffee yet,
  • synchkat
    synchkat Posts: 37,368 Member
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....

    My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?

    I think if she wants to lose weight she'll do it when she's ready. In the meantime maybe you can ditch going to out eat so much and try to come up with activity dates - like hiking or bike riding, or maybe taking a fun zumba or spin class together.

    It happens to almost everyone...those 15 pounds are called "love weight" :)

    "love weight" i love that You really are the love guru aren't you @AskTracyAnnK28
  • _incogNEATo_
    _incogNEATo_ Posts: 4,537 Member
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....

    My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?

    break up
  • JeffreyMGiron
    JeffreyMGiron Posts: 3,582 Member
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....

    My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?

    I think if she wants to lose weight she'll do it when she's ready. In the meantime maybe you can ditch going to out eat so much and try to come up with activity dates - like hiking or bike riding, or maybe taking a fun zumba or spin class together.

    It happens to almost everyone...those 15 pounds are called "love weight" :)

    i gained like 50 lbs of love weight, she just cooked so damn good...
  • yourhiddengem
    yourhiddengem Posts: 171 Member
    alafabeta wrote: »
    You should leave her - she deserves someone who can see past her physique and doesn't think that changing her body will make her more attractive.

    I don't think so. I see real potential in her. Just need to find a way to realize it...

    Aren't you supposed to date someone for who they are now, not who they could maybe be in the future???
  • yusaku02
    yusaku02 Posts: 3,472 Member
    junelove89 wrote: »
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....

    My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?

    Or maybe try going hiking, walking, something outdoors. That's always nice instead of being in the gym where one feels insecure from the sight of all the nice bodies working out.
    We already do stuff like this. We're going curling tomorrow morning, I'm trying to find a day to go out snowboarding, she seemed cool with snowshoeing next month. We got kayaks in the summer and take them up to her grandma's lake at least once a month (when it's not frozen). I'm more looking for advice (especially from girls) on how to respond when she complains about her weight.
  • AskTracyAnnK28
    AskTracyAnnK28 Posts: 2,817 Member
    synchkat wrote: »
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....

    My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?

    I think if she wants to lose weight she'll do it when she's ready. In the meantime maybe you can ditch going to out eat so much and try to come up with activity dates - like hiking or bike riding, or maybe taking a fun zumba or spin class together.

    It happens to almost everyone...those 15 pounds are called "love weight" :)

    "love weight" i love that You really are the love guru aren't you @AskTracyAnnK28

    The Love Doctor is in B)

  • LindsayB072
    LindsayB072 Posts: 399 Member
    Love her how she is or find someone who's more into fitness. She needs to be the one asking to go to the gym, not the other way around.
    If I was your girl, and read this post, I'd dump you and find a guy who enjoyed my squish.
  • ValerieMartini2Olives
    ValerieMartini2Olives Posts: 3,024 Member
    If you think she's fat now, wait until you get married.

    The entire time, this was the only thing I could think of.
  • RebeccaNaegle
    RebeccaNaegle Posts: 236 Member
    Ask her to workout with you. Tell her you love her company and she motivates you. You want to spend more time with her blah blah blah.
  • synchkat
    synchkat Posts: 37,368 Member
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    junelove89 wrote: »
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....

    My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?

    Or maybe try going hiking, walking, something outdoors. That's always nice instead of being in the gym where one feels insecure from the sight of all the nice bodies working out.
    We already do stuff like this. We're going curling tomorrow morning, I'm trying to find a day to go out snowboarding, she seemed cool with snowshoeing next month. We got kayaks in the summer and take them up to her grandma's lake at least once a month (when it's not frozen). I'm more looking for advice (especially from girls) on how to respond when she complains about her weight.

    I'm going curling tonight....yay for curlers

    just tell her you think she's beautiful. That's all she needs to hear
  • JeffreyMGiron
    JeffreyMGiron Posts: 3,582 Member
    synchkat wrote: »
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    junelove89 wrote: »
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....

    My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?

    Or maybe try going hiking, walking, something outdoors. That's always nice instead of being in the gym where one feels insecure from the sight of all the nice bodies working out.
    We already do stuff like this. We're going curling tomorrow morning, I'm trying to find a day to go out snowboarding, she seemed cool with snowshoeing next month. We got kayaks in the summer and take them up to her grandma's lake at least once a month (when it's not frozen). I'm more looking for advice (especially from girls) on how to respond when she complains about her weight.

    I'm going curling tonight....yay for curlers

    just tell her you think she's beautiful. That's all she needs to hear

    Hey Kat youre beautiful!
  • harrybananas
    harrybananas Posts: 292 Member
    Slap her with your pork chop and tell her to get her shiz sorted before she starts to smell like a fat lady.

    This is the best advice I've ever read on mfp, besides my own.
  • yusaku02
    yusaku02 Posts: 3,472 Member
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....

    My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?

    TREAD LIGHTLY DUUUUUDE.
    i mean if she's the one offering the "im fat" emotion, then be her buddy. just be like if you wanna try to come to the gym with me. we can spend more time together and i can show you some things to get started. dont you ever dare say she's fat or squishy.

    Haha, what if I say it like this? I shall call you Squishy and you shall be mine and you shall be my Squishy.
    She's seen finding Nemo 100+ times so she might like that... or I might get hit. Worth the risk?
    I like your snake btw.
  • kaylasgriffin88
    kaylasgriffin88 Posts: 34 Member
    Its one thing to try get your girl into fitness because you are a fitness orientated person, like myself I prefer to date a girl who plays sport or has the occasional gym visit weekly as I know she will understand my lifestyle. Its a whole other thing to get her into fitness because you think shes as you describe her "squashy chubbiness". Shallow fool, everyone is right she deserves better. Little bashful about it no wonder when guys like you cant see past it..

    Yesssss
  • junelove89
    junelove89 Posts: 759 Member
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    junelove89 wrote: »
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....

    My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?

    Or maybe try going hiking, walking, something outdoors. That's always nice instead of being in the gym where one feels insecure from the sight of all the nice bodies working out.
    We already do stuff like this. We're going curling tomorrow morning, I'm trying to find a day to go out snowboarding, she seemed cool with snowshoeing next month. We got kayaks in the summer and take them up to her grandma's lake at least once a month (when it's not frozen). I'm more looking for advice (especially from girls) on how to respond when she complains about her weight.

    Well, then just tell her she won't see any results by complaining about it. It would be wonderful if we got what we wanted just by complaining instead of going out there and doing something about it. Maybe in a parallel universe... Maybe
  • provencal73
    provencal73 Posts: 1,275 Member
    Have her get on top during sex and say you can't breathe.
  • JeffreyMGiron
    JeffreyMGiron Posts: 3,582 Member
    Have her get on top during sex and say you can't breathe.

    Thread is over, i think we have a keeper here.
  • AskTracyAnnK28
    AskTracyAnnK28 Posts: 2,817 Member
    Love her how she is or find someone who's more into fitness. She needs to be the one asking to go to the gym, not the other way around.
    If I was your girl, and read this post, I'd dump you and find a guy who enjoyed my squish.

    This^^^

    If you're not attracted to her anymore then let her go find someone who will love her just the way she is.

    If you say anything negative to her when she comments about her weight gain it's only going to make her feel worse and you'll get into a fight and that will be that.

    Then you can meet someone else in one of the "person above you" threads.
  • provencal73
    provencal73 Posts: 1,275 Member
  • JeffreyMGiron
    JeffreyMGiron Posts: 3,582 Member

    aww shucks, she winked at me :3
  • dwulet130
    dwulet130 Posts: 108 Member
    HeidiLynnK wrote: »
    Are we not all okay with telling someone, hey, you should get a haircut or giving advice/direction on things a person can easily change? Why is asking someone to work on fitness so insulting?"

    If someone tells me to get a haircut, I would be super offended. It's okay if asked for an opinion, but nobody likes unsolicited advise.
  • Escloflowne
    Escloflowne Posts: 2,038 Member
    yusaku02 wrote: »
    Not to derail this thread but if we're talking about girlfriends and weight already....

    My girlfriend keeps looking at herself in the mirror and saying that she's so fat. I'm not sure how to respond to her when she says that. She's gained about 15 pounds in the 8 months we've been dating and is currently the heaviest she's ever been. I don't like the idea of lying to her to try and spare her feelings because that doesn't help anyone in the end. Last time she said that I told her that if she doesn't like it then she should do something about it. I'd love it if she came to the gym with me but that doesn't seem to interest her much so I've never pushed it. I'd like to encourage her but not be pushy about it. Any suggestions on how to respond when she does this?

    TREAD LIGHTLY DUUUUUDE.
    i mean if she's the one offering the "im fat" emotion, then be her buddy. just be like if you wanna try to come to the gym with me. we can spend more time together and i can show you some things to get started. dont you ever dare say she's fat or squishy.

    Mine does this, I go oink oink when she says she looks fat, also whenever she eats.
  • mojohowitz
    mojohowitz Posts: 900 Member
    Dump her. Find fit woman at gym. Profit.