Men, what do you REALLY think of girls w/ stretch marks?
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My husband had me look up sites to see women's bodies after birth, so that I could see that I had bounced back (just got some tiny white stretch marks on my thighs that everyone keeps saying aren't even stretch marks). But, when we were looking at the pictures my husband said that he doesn't find any of the stretch marks unattractive. He said they just look like patterns. He said they even look pretty. He said that my stretch marks are like imaginary friends because I'm the only one that can see them. He even showed me that he has them too. And I didn't even know. That's how hard to see and unnoticeable they are. Mine are like that. I asked him how he got them and he said, "From having skin".
The 'imaginary friends' part is really cute.
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Thank you for all the positive comments! They definitely make me feel a lot better! 0
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Im 36, and have had stretchmarks since I was 19 when I had kiddo. I was nervous about them at first, but no guy, from the time I was younger til now had an issue with them... one of my ex's would tell me it was a beautiful part of me, and a lover I had would trace them with his finger and tell me he thought they make pretty patterns on my skin.
I guess maybe since I got them when I was so young, and no one ever made them feel bad about them, that it was something I was never self conscious about or felt was a negative about my body. UNTIL!!! my most recent ex. Who after 2yrs together, while complaining about what he didnt like about my body, mentioned I should do something about my stretchmarks.
I felt really horrible...and then I realized...shoot, after almost 20 years, this is the first guy to have a problem with them and go as far as make me feel bad over something that 1) I cant help 2) really is a beautiful part of me as a mother. If I meet another guy who thinks thats a turn off, I will do him a favour and not let him see me naked anymore LoL.
But I can say from personal experience, there really are guys who either done care one way or the other, or even think its a beautiful part of you and really do like them even.0 -
I do this too.I also think of it as having "earned my stripes." I use to have a severely low self-esteem which led to social anxiety and depression. Not fun. I have gone through a lot of recooperation to get to where I am today. Now I finally feel fine wearing shorts, and I even worked with a trainer today and not one care was given to him seeing my stretch marks. It is really more of a mental thing than a physical thing. Laser surgery may reduce the visibility of them, but your mind will still still have an exaggerated view of them unless you put in the effort to accept your body.I look at them as battle scars for what I have been through. Seriously, if someone said, "I like you but can't get past the stretch marks," would you respect that? I had a guy tell me that he'd like me more if I had blonde hair, and I responded that I'd like him more if he had better manners and maybe a job......0 -
I'm with this dude. Having lost 130 lbs, I'm in the same boat as the women. I probably have more stretch marks than most women.Do. Not. Care.
Keep up, be active, healthy - physical. This matters.
If you are overwhelmed by them and can't go out and must hide. Yeah, that's a problem.0 -
Only if they are on the outside of your lips. I'd be intimidated.
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Pfft! Maybe, just maybe I gave a damn when I was young, dumb, and full of c.... crap! I'm 40 and couldn't give 2 s#its about them. I have a few around the kidney area... IDGAF! I'm old enough to know what they do in magazines and on TV/film (PhotoShop and makeup) to cover that stuff up. To be truthful, if I saw a woman my age without any stretch marks ANYWHERE, I'd be suspicious! Especially since I like a little meat on the bones.... #IfYouKnowWhatIMean0
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Stretch marks are like fingernails and ear rings. For the most part, only women notice them. 0
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14 pounds of twins doesn't fit into a 5'2 body no matter which way you squeeze em :-) So, needless to stay my badges of honor stripe my stomach and "it is what it is"... my ex didn't seem to matter and the couple of others who have seen them didn't seem to care at all.
If a guy minds your weight, he probably isn't going to attempt to get to the skin at all, let alone the stretch marks...if he goes for skin, he apparently doesn't care :-) LOL....silly boys!1 -
Stretch marks are like fingernails and ear rings. For the most part, only women notice them.
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I have stretch marks on my stomach and my biceps. Why would I care if a woman has them? They are apart of life, unless you're an alien.1
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48 here, 4 kids...way too many stretch marks to count in way more colors than the rainbow... Do I care: NOPE Do Men Care: Nope, not as long as they are getting any if you know what I mean.
Now here is the truth: if I could turn back time and take care of my body would I do it differently? You bet your behind I would!!!
if we were talking about cellulite.....men still wouldn't care...but that is a whole different topic for me...0 -
Well personally, I don't know what other men or women think, but I have stretch marks and have had them for a long time. People usually complement me and say I look good. I really love/appreciate the body of a woman, I am attracted to women physically (aren't all of us?) And I personally don't care about stretch marks. And if you're with a man who cares about whether you have stretch marks or not, then that person is dumb. Own your stretch marks and be confident. Confidence is sexy.
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<--- My kid wrecked my stomach. I had some on my hip prior to getting pregnant. I get self conscious. But I've never encountered a man who had a problem with them.0
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Real men dont care. that is all.0
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I have them all over my tummy ( i have 3 kids...1 was 10lbs and the latest child was 12 lbs) I was not blessed with super stretchy skin! They do not bother my husband at all, he says he loves me no matter what I look like, plus they are from carrying our children so it makes them even more beautiful! If your stretch marks are from children be proud, if they're from weight gain and loss be proud! I have my moments when I am self conscious about them...but they aren't going anywhere and I love my children to pieces!0
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Still laughing at the comment about having them around the mouth/lips...0
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I have some, I'm sure my wife does, but I have never noticed them and she doesn't give a thought about mine! I hem and haw sometimes because I have them on the sides of my bust and along top.. But my shirts hide them, even tanktops, so really it is me just being overly critical of myself I just tell myself it was worth the outcome - hella cleavage and hips to grab onto
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My husband had me look up sites to see women's bodies after birth, so that I could see that I had bounced back (just got some tiny white stretch marks on my thighs that everyone keeps saying aren't even stretch marks). But, when we were looking at the pictures my husband said that he doesn't find any of the stretch marks unattractive. He said they just look like patterns. He said they even look pretty. He said that my stretch marks are like imaginary friends because I'm the only one that can see them. He even showed me that he has them too. And I didn't even know. That's how hard to see and unnoticeable they are. Mine are like that. I asked him how he got them and he said, "From having skin".
You have the husband you deserve. He sounds awesome.
Exactly. I have minor ones, but let me tell ya... It's mostly genetics. However, time will help, coconut oil will help, and SUNSCREEN is your best friend for this. Do NOT tan, as another poster suggested. Ask any dermatologist.
and I find my husband's stretch marks (on his shoulders, from muscle growth) incredibly endearing. Beauty is in imperfection...0 -
I have no love for stretch marks on myself, but no one else has seemed to care, or ever commented. I notice them a lot less when I feel fitter.
Btw, if you wanted to go that route, apparently the red ones are most responsive to laser treatment (not much can be expected for the old pale kind). Not sure if all the laser does to the red ones is make them pale, though
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Why should you give a s**t about what men or anyone else thinks about you?!0
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I have 'em from eating too much. My mother has them from having me and my brother.
Why would I care if someone else has them too? Why would you care if I care?0 -
In for insecurity and validation!1
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They do fade over time so don't be worrying too much. My teenage boy even has them pretty badly on his back just from growing tall too quickly, never been fat a day in his life.0
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More importantly, what do YOU think of girls with stretch marks? The most intense stretch marks I ever saw was on a man, not a woman and I've yet to hear a man ask if women think it's a turn off.
The feminist is coming out and I have to say I wait eagerly for a generation of women who won't need to ask these questions - I don't mean to be unkind here - the reverse is true. How about asking this question: Would you really want to hang out with a guy that's got some primal hang-up about stretch marks? You're better than that! Have faith in your character.1 -
Couldn't care less. I've never heard any my male friends mention them either.0
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My husband has them, when they appeared I was freaked out because they looked pretty severe. They were so bright red first and there were a lot of them suddenly. But I got used to them quickly and didn't care. Now they are faded and I don't mind at all (neither does he)
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More importantly, what do YOU think of girls with stretch marks? The most intense stretch marks I ever saw was on a man, not a woman and I've yet to hear a man ask if women think it's a turn off.
The feminist is coming out and I have to say I wait eagerly for a generation of women who won't need to ask these questions - I don't mean to be unkind here - the reverse is true. How about asking this question: Would you really want to hang out with a guy that's got some primal hang-up about stretch marks? You're better than that! Have faith in your character.
This! If someone has a problem with ANY part of your body or your being, they can kick rocks! :drinker:0 -
I have never had a guy comment on my stretchmarks. Honestly, if they are close enough to see them, they better be focused on other things.
Haha perfect response.0 -
that they like to be stretched.Period! 0
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