Hey, how about if you don't read someone's diary...

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  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    How about you just unfriend the person who's offending you? Or unfriending the person who eats so little that their friends comments offend you? Job done!

    And then people get on you for being 'mean' and caring too much about what people eat and not being supportive/a good friend. Been there, done that.
  • cleotherio
    cleotherio Posts: 712 Member
    I rarely even close out my diary. So it doesn't post on my feed, and I don't get the annoying message that I'll be two pounds heavier in 5 weeks.
  • erinsueburns
    erinsueburns Posts: 865 Member
    I especially hate this when the person they do this to is HONESTLY and publicly battling eating disorder and has to gain weight.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    I rarely even close out my diary. So it doesn't post on my feed, and I don't get the annoying message that I'll be two pounds heavier in 5 weeks.

    You can make it so that doesn't post on your feed.
  • norahwynn
    norahwynn Posts: 862 Member
    I usually comment without reading the diary. I'm sure the majority of people are this way.


    ummmmmm

    no.

    why would you comment without looking?

    This.

    What are you commenting on if you haven't looked at their diary. I've commented on without looking if they have a closed diary, but that's on a very rare occasion. If it's open, you should look so you know what the heck is going on.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    DON'T comment "great job!"... I'm tired of seeing comments of that nature, then I look at the diary and the person only ate 500 calories that day. :noway: Wtf? How the hell is that a good job? STOP encouraging eating disorders! If you aren't going to take the time to at least glance at the diary... just don't comment. :explode:

    Ok, rant over. Carry on. :wink:

    Maybe their goal is 500. Perhaps they've had weight loss surgery or are on some Dr. supervised low calorie diet.

    If YOU don't want to comment, then don't. It's not your place to tell the rest of us what to do.
  • sarahthin
    sarahthin Posts: 210 Member
    I don't always read diaries. When I do it is to get an idea for different meals or I'm trying to figure out what I might be doing something wrong.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    I rarely even close out my diary. So it doesn't post on my feed, and I don't get the annoying message that I'll be two pounds heavier in 5 weeks.

    I stopped closing mine out too. It seems silly. But I sometimes read and comment on my MFP friends diaries when they close them.
  • slowlow1
    slowlow1 Posts: 31 Member
    I have noticed that a lot of people post encouraging comments for people who come in under their calorie goal. I thought that the goal was to at least eat at your net calorie goal. I think that so many of us have learned that food is bad and that is why eating under your goal is looked upon as a great thing. Hopefully this post will enlighten some people.
  • Jett_05
    Jett_05 Posts: 95 Member
    Yes! This is a pet peeve of mine too. Sometimes the remarks remind me of those horrible pro-ana sites that are used to fuel budding eating disorders.


    500 calories today....Boy those 5 peas really filled me up - "awesome!"
    I had explosive diarrhea and lost 5lbs - "great job!"
    Looks like I have an eating disorder but hell ... I met my goal weight of 92lbs! - "so jealous!"
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    I have noticed that a lot of people post encouraging comments for people who come in under their calorie goal. I thought that the goal was to at least eat at your net calorie goal. I think that so many of us have learned that food is bad and that is why eating under your goal is looked upon as a great thing. Hopefully this post will enlighten some people.

    You've learned that food is bad??
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    Unless something looks really yummy or unusual I dont comment. I'm the odd one in that I have mine open but dont want comments.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    Also MFP encourages people to cheer when they come under. I would rather see something says so and so completed their dairy today and they were over on their fiber, met their calories goals with exercise, ate the recommended amount of calcium, or under on their trans fats. So it is inherent you encourage someone for undereating.
  • Confuzzled4ever
    Confuzzled4ever Posts: 2,860 Member
    I unfriended someone because they ate like 6 meal replacement bars a day along with peanut butter sandwichs, 4-6 cuties, chocolate milk and cookies to reach thier 2000 calorie goal everyday. IMO that is not a good job and is not healthy eating. I think she was trying to gain weight.. but still not the right way to do it. Oh yea and when I asked her why she didn't eat more real food she blew up at me saying that cuties and pb sandwiches are real..

    I had someone comment on my diary good job.. on a day when I logged nothign but garbage and junk.. I was like..umm really? Not so much.. sure I was under my goal calories because I exercise like a feind.. but there was nothing good about that day.. LOL
  • LJSmith1989
    LJSmith1989 Posts: 650
    I usually comment without reading the diary. I'm sure the majority of people are this way.


    ummmmmm

    no.

    why would you comment without looking?

    Ummm because can't be arsed to read it? Just a thought...
  • Nissi51
    Nissi51 Posts: 381 Member
    Agree!

    The diaries that get "good work", "nice eating", "great logging", "i like", etc. are astonishing sometimes! READ them people before commenting or say nothing.
  • LJSmith1989
    LJSmith1989 Posts: 650
    I usually comment without reading the diary. I'm sure the majority of people are this way.


    ummmmmm

    no.

    why would you comment without looking?

    This.

    What are you commenting on if you haven't looked at their diary. I've commented on without looking if they have a closed diary, but that's on a very rare occasion. If it's open, you should look so you know what the heck is going on.

    lmao - What the heck is going on? Like its your place? tbh I don't care what other people eat
  • __Di__
    __Di__ Posts: 1,659 Member
    So people are actually trolling other people's food diary? This is why I turned off my "...completed her food diary..." autoposts. If it isn't in their newfeed, they aren't going to comment.

    Just done this myself, well I did this earlier today. My diary is now private, my end of day will not appear on mine or anybody else's newsfeed.

    Personally, I do not need anybody commenting on what I eat and I do not comment on theirs.

    This place has changed you know and it isn't for the better either.

    (Had an account first time here in 2010).
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
    Perhaps it is a good job. Maybe a week ago they only ate 200 calories because they are recovering from a disorder or they were sick and they still got 500 calories into them.

    I don't encourage disordered eating but I do know that I have had friends in the past who were struggling and when they got 500 calories compaired to that 200 it was a good job so I would tell them it was a good job. Not that it was a good job that they were under their calories but that they got 300 more calories than the week before.


    I Rarely comment on diaries or exercise but I alway look before I say anything - most of the time its to see what said person has eaten so I can take ideas from them.

    I do agree with the don't just blindly say WTG though.
  • MzPix
    MzPix Posts: 177 Member
    What?
    LOL.

    So, if I properly understand the OP....
    Someone (Person A) commented on someone else's (Person B) food diary congratulating them and telling them good job.
    And then you went to check out whether or not Person B actually met your standards of what a good job is, and when you found that what they had consumed for the day was not to your liking, you got upset with Person A for telling Person B good job.

    Maybe you should put together jigsaw puzzles or volunteer at the local animal shelter. It sounds like you have way too much time on your hands.

    Hahaha. Evermore. The internet is a weird place. :laugh:
  • DeeVanderbles
    DeeVanderbles Posts: 589 Member
    When I notice that someone has a low net after exercise I tend to pick a food or meal that they ate and comment on that specifically instead of an overall comment about the day.
  • Sunflower_8803
    Sunflower_8803 Posts: 24
    This is the exact reason why I hide my diary. You will always have this nut that knows it all and they will always find something to comment about. Worry about your own body and own life. If advise is needed then I think it will be asked.
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
    I usually comment without reading the diary. I'm sure the majority of people are this way.


    Not so I read everyones diary before commenting
  • sarahharmintx
    sarahharmintx Posts: 868 Member
    And dont comment "great loss" when its -.2lbs.
  • toutmonpossible
    toutmonpossible Posts: 1,580 Member
    I try to be supportive, but don't have the time to read everyone's diary (and mine is not open). I assume people are eating like adults.
  • Joreanasaurous
    Joreanasaurous Posts: 1,384 Member
    I always read people's diaries before commenting. That way I can say something other than a generic "way to go". Seems more personable. And if they eat an unhealthy level then I usually try and mention that they ate more than they logged. I have gotten unfriended more than once for that
  • alibee81
    alibee81 Posts: 62
    I usually comment without reading the diary. I'm sure the majority of people are this way.

    No way! I take the time to read people's diaries for ideas and to see how they're all doing. I'm nosy that way I guess! I only comment if I'm impressed with their day. I find it a little annoying to post generic 'great job!' comments all the time when you haven't even read their diary.

    One day I had a massive 1000 calorie pizza and 8 cans of lager, that's another 2500 cals. I got about 5 'great job!' and 'well done!' comments. Lol,
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    And dont comment "great loss" when its -.2lbs.

    Geez, people get slammed for eating too little and losing too fast. But they can't get congratulated for a small loss. Sanctimonious people sure have a lot of rules. :grumble:
  • __Di__
    __Di__ Posts: 1,659 Member
    I usually comment without reading the diary. I'm sure the majority of people are this way.


    ummmmmm

    no.

    why would you comment without looking?

    This.

    What are you commenting on if you haven't looked at their diary. I've commented on without looking if they have a closed diary, but that's on a very rare occasion. If it's open, you should look so you know what the heck is going on.

    and what if, when you read it to see what the heck is going on, you disagree with their choices?

    It doesn't matter what the heck is going on, what really matters is what you are doing.
  • __Di__
    __Di__ Posts: 1,659 Member
    And dont comment "great loss" when its -.2lbs.

    Geez, people get slammed for eating too little and losing too fast. But they can't get congratulated for a small loss. Sanctimonious people sure have a lot of rules. :grumble:

    Now that (points to the word "sanctimonious") is exactly the word I have been looking for. :flowerforyou:

    Too much of it going on in the forums lately :frown:

    Some people need to start realizing that they do not know everything there is to know about anybody else, except themselves and it is themselves, that they really need to start concentrating on.

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