I'm trying to eat healthy but my Spouse isn't??
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SusanMFindlay wrote: »I am amazed at the number of people who seem to think that putting food (i.e. doughnuts) in the cupboard is some sort of huge imposition on a partner. Food goes in cupboards; otherwise, there's no counter space left to cook on.
My husband is not trying to lose weight or watch what he eats. He can buy (and eat - even in front of me) anything junky he wants. But it lives in the "snacks" cupboard - which is a perfectly valid location and easily accessible within our kitchen.
Marriage is a partnership. We help each other out. We plan and eat meals together. And, yes, we will be using less bacon in the carbonara because otherwise I couldn't eat it anymore (and since I'm the one who cooks it, that would mean nobody got to eat it anymore).
Right?! I'm honestly shocked by the amount of people that seem to think that marriage is like living with a roommate, you deal with your own struggles and they deal with theirs and if you need some help you better figure it out yourself because you wouldn't want to put out your spouse....wouldn't you prefer a partner that you can rely on to support you when you're struggling, even if it means putting themselves out somewhat?2 -
SusanMFindlay wrote: »I am amazed at the number of people who seem to think that putting food (i.e. doughnuts) in the cupboard is some sort of huge imposition on a partner. Food goes in cupboards; otherwise, there's no counter space left to cook on.
My husband is not trying to lose weight or watch what he eats. He can buy (and eat - even in front of me) anything junky he wants. But it lives in the "snacks" cupboard - which is a perfectly valid location and easily accessible within our kitchen.
Marriage is a partnership. We help each other out. We plan and eat meals together. And, yes, we will be using less bacon in the carbonara because otherwise I couldn't eat it anymore (and since I'm the one who cooks it, that would mean nobody got to eat it anymore).
Right?! I'm honestly shocked by the amount of people that seem to think that marriage is like living with a roommate, you deal with your own struggles and they deal with theirs and if you need some help you better figure it out yourself because you wouldn't want to put out your spouse....wouldn't you prefer a partner that you can rely on to support you when you're struggling, even if it means putting themselves out somewhat?
Obviously you would, but if you don't then what?
Do you wait until you are both on the same page till you start?0 -
SusanMFindlay wrote: »I am amazed at the number of people who seem to think that putting food (i.e. doughnuts) in the cupboard is some sort of huge imposition on a partner. Food goes in cupboards; otherwise, there's no counter space left to cook on.
My husband is not trying to lose weight or watch what he eats. He can buy (and eat - even in front of me) anything junky he wants. But it lives in the "snacks" cupboard - which is a perfectly valid location and easily accessible within our kitchen.
Marriage is a partnership. We help each other out. We plan and eat meals together. And, yes, we will be using less bacon in the carbonara because otherwise I couldn't eat it anymore (and since I'm the one who cooks it, that would mean nobody got to eat it anymore).
Right?! I'm honestly shocked by the amount of people that seem to think that marriage is like living with a roommate, you deal with your own struggles and they deal with theirs and if you need some help you better figure it out yourself because you wouldn't want to put out your spouse....wouldn't you prefer a partner that you can rely on to support you when you're struggling, even if it means putting themselves out somewhat?
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Therealobi1 wrote: »SusanMFindlay wrote: »I am amazed at the number of people who seem to think that putting food (i.e. doughnuts) in the cupboard is some sort of huge imposition on a partner. Food goes in cupboards; otherwise, there's no counter space left to cook on.
My husband is not trying to lose weight or watch what he eats. He can buy (and eat - even in front of me) anything junky he wants. But it lives in the "snacks" cupboard - which is a perfectly valid location and easily accessible within our kitchen.
Marriage is a partnership. We help each other out. We plan and eat meals together. And, yes, we will be using less bacon in the carbonara because otherwise I couldn't eat it anymore (and since I'm the one who cooks it, that would mean nobody got to eat it anymore).
Right?! I'm honestly shocked by the amount of people that seem to think that marriage is like living with a roommate, you deal with your own struggles and they deal with theirs and if you need some help you better figure it out yourself because you wouldn't want to put out your spouse....wouldn't you prefer a partner that you can rely on to support you when you're struggling, even if it means putting themselves out somewhat?
Obviously you would, but if you don't then what?
Do you wait until you are both on the same page till you start?
Don't...have a partner that supports you? That sounds like an issue out of the scope of the deep well of MFP advice....0 -
So does he have a TV outside to watch sports while he snacks on what he likes?cushman5279 wrote: »I simply stated to my husband that if he wanted that kind of stuff he would have to have it outside of the house, and if he did bring it home, he needed to hide it LOL!
The control issue is yours, not his. Imposing restriction on him because there's no self control on your part is pretty selfish. How about when he wants to eat some "junk", you go up to your bedroom till he's done? That's just as fair right?
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My fiancé and I do a similar thing but it doesn't feel like me imposing a rule on him, since we are equals in the relationship and neither of us can impose rules on the other. I request on occasion that he hides tasty things so I'm not tempted, and he complies because he knows it's difficult and wants to support me. He also is not offended if I excuse myself from the room when he's eating something and I'm too tempted. I do join him in eating tasties on occasion too. This is the compromise we have made so that I can do my healthy eating and he can support me but still have treats. Likewise this way I can support his choice not to cut out treats without risking my diet.
OP: don't try to impose rules on your partner. Tell her you need support, and you are struggling with temptation when she eats tasty foods. If your relationship is strong, she will want to help you and you will be able to find a compromise.0 -
Therealobi1 wrote: »SusanMFindlay wrote: »I am amazed at the number of people who seem to think that putting food (i.e. doughnuts) in the cupboard is some sort of huge imposition on a partner. Food goes in cupboards; otherwise, there's no counter space left to cook on.
My husband is not trying to lose weight or watch what he eats. He can buy (and eat - even in front of me) anything junky he wants. But it lives in the "snacks" cupboard - which is a perfectly valid location and easily accessible within our kitchen.
Marriage is a partnership. We help each other out. We plan and eat meals together. And, yes, we will be using less bacon in the carbonara because otherwise I couldn't eat it anymore (and since I'm the one who cooks it, that would mean nobody got to eat it anymore).
Right?! I'm honestly shocked by the amount of people that seem to think that marriage is like living with a roommate, you deal with your own struggles and they deal with theirs and if you need some help you better figure it out yourself because you wouldn't want to put out your spouse....wouldn't you prefer a partner that you can rely on to support you when you're struggling, even if it means putting themselves out somewhat?
Obviously you would, but if you don't then what?
Do you wait until you are both on the same page till you start?
Don't...have a partner that supports you? That sounds like an issue out of the scope of the deep well of MFP advice....
Lol, your funny
We see this topic time and time again since I have been here
In fact isn't that what the op wrote about in the first place1 -
goofyrick24 wrote: »I'm trying to have a healthy lifestyle and diet and it is hard when my Wife isn't. She continues to buy sodas, donuts, fast food, etc and the temptation is killing me.... I don't know what to do!!
It is really difficult. I managed to get hubby to join me with losing weight, and he stopped bringing in the potato chips, cheetos, crackers, nacho chips, bugles, etc. But if he were to bring them in I think I would be strong enough now. But early on I would have given in and joined him
Have a talk with your wife and ask her if she would like you to get fatter. If not, maybe she will support you?0 -
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BreezeDoveal wrote: »Therealobi1 wrote: »SusanMFindlay wrote: »I am amazed at the number of people who seem to think that putting food (i.e. doughnuts) in the cupboard is some sort of huge imposition on a partner. Food goes in cupboards; otherwise, there's no counter space left to cook on.
My husband is not trying to lose weight or watch what he eats. He can buy (and eat - even in front of me) anything junky he wants. But it lives in the "snacks" cupboard - which is a perfectly valid location and easily accessible within our kitchen.
Marriage is a partnership. We help each other out. We plan and eat meals together. And, yes, we will be using less bacon in the carbonara because otherwise I couldn't eat it anymore (and since I'm the one who cooks it, that would mean nobody got to eat it anymore).
Right?! I'm honestly shocked by the amount of people that seem to think that marriage is like living with a roommate, you deal with your own struggles and they deal with theirs and if you need some help you better figure it out yourself because you wouldn't want to put out your spouse....wouldn't you prefer a partner that you can rely on to support you when you're struggling, even if it means putting themselves out somewhat?
Obviously you would, but if you don't then what?
Do you wait until you are both on the same page till you start?
Don't...have a partner that supports you? That sounds like an issue out of the scope of the deep well of MFP advice....
Chances are they have a happy marriage though:
http://psychcentral.com/news/2013/04/05/happy-marriage-tends-to-mean-weight-gain/53453.html
Maybe they do! Who knows, certainly not me
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BreezeDoveal wrote: »Therealobi1 wrote: »SusanMFindlay wrote: »I am amazed at the number of people who seem to think that putting food (i.e. doughnuts) in the cupboard is some sort of huge imposition on a partner. Food goes in cupboards; otherwise, there's no counter space left to cook on.
My husband is not trying to lose weight or watch what he eats. He can buy (and eat - even in front of me) anything junky he wants. But it lives in the "snacks" cupboard - which is a perfectly valid location and easily accessible within our kitchen.
Marriage is a partnership. We help each other out. We plan and eat meals together. And, yes, we will be using less bacon in the carbonara because otherwise I couldn't eat it anymore (and since I'm the one who cooks it, that would mean nobody got to eat it anymore).
Right?! I'm honestly shocked by the amount of people that seem to think that marriage is like living with a roommate, you deal with your own struggles and they deal with theirs and if you need some help you better figure it out yourself because you wouldn't want to put out your spouse....wouldn't you prefer a partner that you can rely on to support you when you're struggling, even if it means putting themselves out somewhat?
Obviously you would, but if you don't then what?
Do you wait until you are both on the same page till you start?
Don't...have a partner that supports you? That sounds like an issue out of the scope of the deep well of MFP advice....
Chances are they have a happy marriage though:
http://psychcentral.com/news/2013/04/05/happy-marriage-tends-to-mean-weight-gain/53453.html
I'll use that as my "excuse".
JK lol0
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