The Sad Story of Ricky Naputi....Who was to blame?

bbolesta70

Oh, and furthermore, technically, she wasn't really his wife, so I doubt she would have been charged with neglect. By their own admission they'd never consummated their marriage. This is necessary to be legally a married unit. Yes, there is a marriage license and all, but you must consummate the marriage. He had a caring family, so had she wanted to leave she could have just told them and then no worries if neglect, but hell, doesn't seem to me that anyone would've given a damn anyway! They'd just have ruled it that he are himself to death anyway. I think the wife drugged him. She straight up more than once started saying she didn't care anymore. Then the 911 call was lame. She as much as said "I didn't do anything, I was just laying here. " You could tell the guilt had set in. She didn't give him CORRECT and didn't attend the funeral. Come on, she got away with murder! Yes, he ate too much, begged her for more and lacked accountability, but he was mobile when she came into his life. She fed him and shopped for the groceries. If she could boldly tell America on National Television that she didn't care anymore, then damn it, she could've told Ricky no on more food or poor quality, fattening food!

Kalikel

People have the right to make their own choices, even if we don't approve of those choices and even if we know they're bad choices.

My father ate like a guy who wanted to have a heart attack. Red meat, white bread and butter. The healthiest thing he ever ate was a can of Cambell's soup, lol. As a young man, he was very fit and athletic. Picture of health. Envy of all. But most people cannot get away with that crap forever and he had his first heart attack in his fifties. Then a second and a third. The fourth one killed him.

I asked, cajoled and begged him to make better eating choices - eat some healthy food. I'd even prepare something that wasn't actually healthy, but was less unhealthy. Nope! He was all "Get the hell outta here" with the very idea of eating food that wasn't what he liked. The only thing he gave in on was vitamins. If I handed him the vitamin, he'd swallow it. Since he'd snack on fruit sometimes, I ordered him Fruit of The Month Clubs, so there'd always be good fruit, lol.

He might still be alive today if he'd eaten healthy food. But he didn't want it. He didn't pretend that his diet was really healthy. No denial at all! He knew healthy food was better for him and chose to go the other way. Had this "Life isn't worth living if you don't enjoy it" attitude that was very frustrating.

I'd pick him up food that I knew wasn't good for him. I'd order steaks online. I'd buy ice cream at the grocery store. I knew he shouldn't eat that stuff, but I got it for him.

My heart was broken when he died and I miss him every single day, still.

People have the right to make their own choices. His choice was to eat crap, so I helped him do it.

And I'd do it again.

PRMinx

It kind of blows my mind that someone would even suggest the doctors are to blame. Wow.

drabbits3

what about all the years BEFORE he hit 900 pounds? there were many opportunities before he got to that extreme for him and the people around him to make different choices. we all have a weight limit in our heads I think-a weight we will NOT go over, but maybe he didn't. what happens to an addict who never hits rock bottom? well, they die. just like a drug addict or an alcoholic who never gets to ENOUGH. what then? I don't know. my dad died because he was an alcoholic who never reached his ENOUGH, so I guess that what happens.

FatFreeFrolicking

Yes, his wife absolutely enabled him. But HE was the one who chose to eat 10k calories/day. HE was the one who fed himself. He could've cut back on calories at any time. All he had to do was lose 75-150 lbs, which would've been a piece of cake at his weight. He simply wouldn't because he "couldn't do it by himself." He is the only person to blame.

Keynsham

bbolesta70 wrote: »

Oh, and furthermore, technically, she wasn't really his wife, so I doubt she would have been charged with neglect. By their own admission they'd never consummated their marriage. This is necessary to be legally a married unit. Yes, there is a marriage license and all, but you must consummate the marriage. He had a caring family, so had she wanted to leave she could have just told them and then no worries if neglect, but hell, doesn't seem to me that anyone would've given a damn anyway! They'd just have ruled it that he are himself to death anyway. I think the wife drugged him. She straight up more than once started saying she didn't care anymore. Then the 911 call was lame. She as much as said "I didn't do anything, I was just laying here. " You could tell the guilt had set in. She didn't give him CORRECT and didn't attend the funeral. Come on, she got away with murder! Yes, he ate too much, begged her for more and lacked accountability, but he was mobile when she came into his life. She fed him and shopped for the groceries. If she could boldly tell America on National Television that she didn't care anymore, then damn it, she could've told Ricky no on more food or poor quality, fattening food!

Just watched this program and after listening to that 911 call I believe she TOTALLY MURDERED HIM she said he took some tablets after they argued then she dialled 911 immediately!! Yeh right did he take them intravenously?? As that's the only way they would have an immediate reaction. Tablets take about 20minutes to get into the blood stream as they go to the stomach first.. I'm appalled they didn't do a autopsy!! But why would they after all one giant problem just went away and no longer put a financial burden on any of the agency's concerned with his care.

Cheryl Naputi is an enabler and was only happy when she had her victim totally dependant on her. It was when he was beginning to find some self will and finally managed to stand up when the two Drs from Australia came to see him that her attitude completely changed as seen on TV!! I feel concerned for the next man in her life!!

North44

He was already huge when she married him. She was also morbidly obese. I don't think either of them had a clue how to fix the situation.

sixele96

I guess because of him and his wife.

bigd66218

He had an addiction to food and yes, it's sad but unfortunately he can only blame himself....

GoPerfectHealth

Each person is responsible for what they put in their mouth. And, I'm not sure what kind of person would feed someone who can't walk 10,000 calories per day. That's messed up.

Keynsham

Yes I agree he was addicted "an addict" if your child had a heroin addiction would you go and find them more drugs?? No you wouldn't you would seek help and not take NO for an answer! Why because you love and care for them and would not want them to die!

mommarnurse

I think we should all be treating this for what it is: an addiction. Addiction is certainly not limited to drugs and alcohol. One can be addicted to anything as its a disease and where there's addiction there's almost almost a co disease aka co dependency. I can't begin to explain how psychologically strong those dieases are. Bottom line - he and his wife were both very, very Ill.

Mr_Knight

Don't see it as an either/or.

They're both responsible.

MamaBirdBoss

Social workers should have removed her from the home.

Ladydociii

bbolesta70 wrote: »

Oh, and furthermore, technically, she wasn't really his wife, so I doubt she would have been charged with neglect. By their own admission they'd never consummated their marriage. This is necessary to be legally a married unit. Yes, there is a marriage license and all, but you must consummate the marriage. He had a caring family, so had she wanted to leave she could have just told them and then no worries if neglect, but hell, doesn't seem to me that anyone would've given a damn anyway! They'd just have ruled it that he are himself to death anyway. I think the wife drugged him. She straight up more than once started saying she didn't care anymore. Then the 911 call was lame. She as much as said "I didn't do anything, I was just laying here. " You could tell the guilt had set in. She didn't give him CORRECT and didn't attend the funeral. Come on, she got away with murder! Yes, he ate too much, begged her for more and lacked accountability, but he was mobile when she came into his life. She fed him and shopped for the groceries. If she could boldly tell America on National Television that she didn't care anymore, then damn it, she could've told Ricky no on more food or poor quality, fattening food!

This is entirely ridiculous. A marriage is a legally binding marriage, regardless of consumation. No one other than Cheryl or Ricky could have pursued annulment. In Guam he would have had to claim she REFUSED to ever (past, present, future), under any circumstances, have sex with him/bear his child. Cheryl clearly stated she wanted children. OR SHE would have to have proven that HE was incurably impotent. Family Law is extremely strict in the Philippines. Divorce is illegal. Neither one said anything like that about the other. His enormous folds of fat tissue made intimacy impossible.
I am 5 feet tall and have come down from 280 to 125, twice. I've now maintained for several years at 52 years old. My HUSBAND does all of the shopping/cooking. My weight wasn't HIS issue/problem/responsibility! It was mine. Now I'm the caretaker for an immobile obese person. It is frustrating and frankly disgusting to watch an adult, who cannot walk to the bathroom, kick, scream and yell about "I want what I want when I want it! It makes me feel good!" like a 3 year-old! And if she DOES binge, she vomits everywhere, and lays there in a pit of self-hatred. It's a terrible way to live, but could be changed fairly quickly. A person has to tell him or herself NO, and accept it from others. None of us gets gratification whenever we want it. Whether it's putting food in your mouth, a needle in your arm, having random unprotected sex, etc-- failing to rein in your impulses-- your OWN failure will kill you!