Please stop feeding my child junk!!
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sunnybeaches105 wrote: »
Of course it matters. Until you have a child, you have no clue of the love, the worry and the stress involved. You just don't, sorry. And of course that is just my opinion. I am as biased as I accused @stevencloser of being...stevencloser wrote: »Of course I have. I would have omitted that fact if I wanted to mislead you into thinking I'm being completely objective here.
But my points still stand. Don't treat your children like property, other people have just as much capacity of knowing what's good for your children as you do, sometimes even more, and you have a responsibility towards your children to at least consider what they're saying because children are not some inanimate property that you can do with as you please. Don't ignore other people who come in contact with your child for the sole reason that "you're their parent so you automatically know better than anyone else" because that is just not true.
Are you a parent?
I am not sure it matters. His comments are right. Kids need to be exposed to different perspectives. Parents can't provide all perspectives. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, my friends, teachers, coaches, strangers and many others have made contributions in some way.
As a father of two I'm having trouble connecting love and stess to discounting the perspectives of family members and the rest of society.
And you are entitled to your opinion...0 -
6pkdreamer wrote: »Generally provided good nutrition for the family but let the kids decide when going to a party etc.
After one party of excess promply chucked up from the gorging of sugar, chocolate etc
A valuable lesson thats not forgotten!
And that lesson is for them to pace themselves next time...
...a valuable lesson indeed that is applicable to many facets of life.2 -
sunnybeaches105 wrote: »
Of course it matters. Until you have a child, you have no clue of the love, the worry and the stress involved. You just don't, sorry. And of course that is just my opinion. I am as biased as I accused @stevencloser of being...stevencloser wrote: »Of course I have. I would have omitted that fact if I wanted to mislead you into thinking I'm being completely objective here.
But my points still stand. Don't treat your children like property, other people have just as much capacity of knowing what's good for your children as you do, sometimes even more, and you have a responsibility towards your children to at least consider what they're saying because children are not some inanimate property that you can do with as you please. Don't ignore other people who come in contact with your child for the sole reason that "you're their parent so you automatically know better than anyone else" because that is just not true.
Are you a parent?
I am not sure it matters. His comments are right. Kids need to be exposed to different perspectives. Parents can't provide all perspectives. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, my friends, teachers, coaches, strangers and many others have made contributions in some way.
As a father of two I'm having trouble connecting love and stess to discounting the perspectives of family members and the rest of society.
And you are entitled to your opinion...
Oh. Silly me. Looking for a logical connection again. It seems that I came to the wrong place.2 -
Rage_Phish wrote: »god, parents love complaining about non-breeders offering advice
Don't love complaining about it, just can't stand getting it...1 -
Rage_Phish wrote: »god, parents love complaining about non-breeders offering advice
Try pregnancy boards for real fun3 -
sunnybeaches105 wrote: »Rage_Phish wrote: »god, parents love complaining about non-breeders offering advice
Try pregnancy boards for real fun
well aware of them and how they are (at least the bump)0 -
This "first child" business is *kitten*. I had one child, she grew up on mac&chs, hamburger helper, happy meals, root beer, etc. I wasn't taught healthy choices, so I raised my daughter the same way. It wasn't until about 5 years ago, that I started learning health and fitness. Had I known what I know now, there would have been almost none of that in my house, like there isn't now. Luckily my daughter was just getting into high school when I started changing our lifestyle, and she adapted well, and got really into fitness with me. She still loves mac&chs, Raman noodles, and some soda. But she loves the healthy stuff I make her, and is conscience of the fact that you need to limit unhealthy choices.
1st kid or 5th kid, they all deserve to eat healthy food that nourishes their bodies. And there is NOTHING wrong with starting them off right. And if this mom doesn't want her child having garbage snacks during the day when she has perfectly healthy snacks at her disposal, then she shouldn't have to worry about someone else disrespecting her decisions. Doesn't matter if its 'just one oreo'.
If I had more kids now, they would not be eating the way my first child was. They would be eating better.6 -
sunnybeaches105 wrote: »Rage_Phish wrote: »god, parents love complaining about non-breeders offering advice
Try pregnancy boards for real fun
Or baby boards. Good times.0 -
Of course it matters. Until you have a child, you have no clue of the love, the worry and the stress involved. You just don't, sorry. And of course that is just my opinion. I am as biased as I accused @stevencloser of being...stevencloser wrote: »Of course I have. I would have omitted that fact if I wanted to mislead you into thinking I'm being completely objective here.
But my points still stand. Don't treat your children like property, other people have just as much capacity of knowing what's good for your children as you do, sometimes even more, and you have a responsibility towards your children to at least consider what they're saying because children are not some inanimate property that you can do with as you please. Don't ignore other people who come in contact with your child for the sole reason that "you're their parent so you automatically know better than anyone else" because that is just not true.
Are you a parent?
I am not sure it matters. His comments are right. Kids need to be exposed to different perspectives. Parents can't provide all perspectives. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, my friends, teachers, coaches, strangers and many others have made contributions in some way.
Well I'm given birth to 3 little hellions, er children, and I think the OP is over the top. My little darlings are all thin/healthy as well, even though I'm pretty laid back about what they eat. But, to each their own!1 -
ReaderGirl3 wrote: »
Of course it matters. Until you have a child, you have no clue of the love, the worry and the stress involved. You just don't, sorry. And of course that is just my opinion. I am as biased as I accused @stevencloser of being...stevencloser wrote: »Of course I have. I would have omitted that fact if I wanted to mislead you into thinking I'm being completely objective here.
But my points still stand. Don't treat your children like property, other people have just as much capacity of knowing what's good for your children as you do, sometimes even more, and you have a responsibility towards your children to at least consider what they're saying because children are not some inanimate property that you can do with as you please. Don't ignore other people who come in contact with your child for the sole reason that "you're their parent so you automatically know better than anyone else" because that is just not true.
Are you a parent?
I am not sure it matters. His comments are right. Kids need to be exposed to different perspectives. Parents can't provide all perspectives. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, my friends, teachers, coaches, strangers and many others have made contributions in some way.
Well I'm given birth to 3 little hellions, er children, and I think the OP is over the top. My little darlings are all thin/healthy as well, even though I'm pretty laid back about what they eat. But, to each their own!
Oh I don't necessarily agree with the op. I'm like you, my sons diet overall is very healthy. He gets plenty of treats. The only real hard rule we have at home is, if you're not hungry for dinner then you're not hungry for dessert. You don't even have to finish your plate, lol!4 -
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stevencloser wrote: »
Lol, spoken like a someone who does not have children. I get it though, before I had a kid, I was the same way...0 -
Rage_Phish wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »Rage_Phish wrote: »god, parents love complaining about non-breeders offering advice
Try pregnancy boards for real fun
well aware of them and how they are (at least the bump)
They are bad. I used to be on one where this terrible women just complained about how awful her kids were (and often her husband too). Everything she posted was a gigantic pity party (and her kids just did the normal things kids do, although she used to leave them shut in another room with toys and tv while she sat in another room on the Internet or watching Netflix then was surprised when they got into stuff.) Why have kids in the first place if all you're going to do is b**ch about them on the Internet and ignore them??. I am sure one day her kids and husband will see all the awful stuff she said about them. The Internet is never private.0 -
Of course it matters. Until you have a child, you have no clue of the love, the worry and the stress involved. You just don't, sorry. And of course that is just my opinion. I am as biased as I accused @stevencloser of being...stevencloser wrote: »Of course I have. I would have omitted that fact if I wanted to mislead you into thinking I'm being completely objective here.
But my points still stand. Don't treat your children like property, other people have just as much capacity of knowing what's good for your children as you do, sometimes even more, and you have a responsibility towards your children to at least consider what they're saying because children are not some inanimate property that you can do with as you please. Don't ignore other people who come in contact with your child for the sole reason that "you're their parent so you automatically know better than anyone else" because that is just not true.
Are you a parent?
I am not sure it matters. His comments are right. Kids need to be exposed to different perspectives. Parents can't provide all perspectives. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, my friends, teachers, coaches, strangers and many others have made contributions in some way.
But loving and worrying does not automatically make your opinions more valid the moment you become a parent. If e.g. you knew nothing about what a balanced diet is, loving your child will not change this.7 -
All of my children are now adults. When they were little, I tried very hard to keep them on a healthy diet and to not eat junk. It is hard, it looks like your child is still very small. It gets harder...stick to your guns and try to always give them healthy options-they will get used to it and expect healthy options through out everything they do. There will ALWAYS be people who want to give your child an Oreo when you want them to have a multigrain bar-One way I got around that at class parties and day care etc. is to make a healthy option type cookie at home and bring it in for all of the kids..I.e. Carrot, oatmeal cookies-when all the other kids think that what YOUR child has is a special treat, they will want it too. Makes your child feel special that you want them to be healthy. Easter Baskets and stockings had exotic fruit and pricy protein bars that they didn't normally get. My children never felt deprived because they didn't get junk. They all still come home and want the food that I make for them-vegetables and all! ;-)
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Some people who have kids have no clue what they're doing, yet their kids grow up to do great things. Some people have kids, think they know everything and their kids grow up to be gangbangers and end up in prison for murder or become a serial killer.
All anyone can do is what they know and think is best at the time. I am a very different mother today than I was at 19 when I had my first child. But all of my kids have turned out healthy, smart and happy. I still don't know what the heck I'm doing most of the time.2 -
Char231023 wrote: »Your baby is still a baby right? Just wait. Hopefully your kid isn't doesn't start being a picky eater at 2.
Not to mention what she's going to be like at 16.1 -
ReaderGirl3 wrote: »
Of course it matters. Until you have a child, you have no clue of the love, the worry and the stress involved. You just don't, sorry. And of course that is just my opinion. I am as biased as I accused @stevencloser of being...stevencloser wrote: »Of course I have. I would have omitted that fact if I wanted to mislead you into thinking I'm being completely objective here.
But my points still stand. Don't treat your children like property, other people have just as much capacity of knowing what's good for your children as you do, sometimes even more, and you have a responsibility towards your children to at least consider what they're saying because children are not some inanimate property that you can do with as you please. Don't ignore other people who come in contact with your child for the sole reason that "you're their parent so you automatically know better than anyone else" because that is just not true.
Are you a parent?
I am not sure it matters. His comments are right. Kids need to be exposed to different perspectives. Parents can't provide all perspectives. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, my friends, teachers, coaches, strangers and many others have made contributions in some way.
Well I'm given birth to 3 little hellions, er children, and I think the OP is over the top. My little darlings are all thin/healthy as well, even though I'm pretty laid back about what they eat. But, to each their own!
I raised two sons and a daughter to adulthood and all three are healthy, productive adults. Two have children of their own. We had ice cream, sodas and cookies in the house but for the most part ate healthy. If you don't allow children choices when young, they don't know how to make choices when they're older. Teach your daughter to say "no" (if she's close to two she will figure it out soon enough!) and reward her for good choices.2 -
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