Hurtful comments towards my appearance.

Krisstastic_

I took this photo July 13th 2016.

Today a couple of co workers told me that I looked Sick and Gaunt.
I had to google what that word meant as i had never heard it before.
They told me that my cheeks were thin and my eyes were sunken in and that i didn't look healthy.

I am 5 foot 3, 139.2 pounds and at my goal weight.
I cried after i was told this.. Losing 113 pounds, i feel very self conscious still about my body, as far as loose skin goes, etc, but i didn't think i looked that bad?

Please be honest, do i look ill?

Bee_Le

What the hell is wrong with people?! You look fab. Don't cry over idiots.

navdeeprana

Hell no , you look absolutely gorgeous and beautiful. Dont give a f*** to people. Stay strong

Shells918

No, you don't look ill. You are a pretty, healthy looking girl, and I like your tattoo.
You're coworkers are either mean spirited or jealous. Don't listen to them.
Congrats on the huge loss too. That's fantastic!!!

jackie_van_d

U look great

Jealous people say mean things.

juliegilburd

You do not look ill. You look wonderful! Try not to let mean comments get to you.

noctilumina

You look healthy and beautiful to me. You've done an amazing thing; be proud of yourself!

sunnybeaches105

You look great. Don't allow people with self esteem problems put their issues on you.

Dali032484

Wow...some people can be extremely rude. You don't look ill to me. The truth of the matter is, who cares how they feel about your appearance? Who cares what they think? Don't let it affect you. You know what I like to do when people say stupid things to me? I simply imitate my cats with my attitude: It's c rap, cover it real good and move on, walk pretty, head up, smile on! BOOM!!

FatimaStartsAllOver

No, you do not look ill at all. You look great to me. Congrats on your huge weight loss.

JosetteGetsFit

Who ever said that to you has problems. Keep your chin up and be proud because all of that is nonsense!

MaryPoole1

First off, don't take other people's opinions too much to heart. ESPECIALLY if their comments are mean spirited or if these people are not super close to you. Second, I think you're a cutie. You look a little like my daughter actually. She is very small and skinny and has the same face shape. About your appearance- in this photo, you DO look a little pale or washed out to me. I think part of that may be due to your makeup. I think your liner is a too heavy and dark and your lips or cheeks could use a touch of subtle color- think lip balm with a little bit of a tint. it's also possible you may have some extra skin going on after the weight loss, and even if you're a healthy weight it could be making you look "wasted away". You do almost look hungry in this picture, but I think mostly you just look unsure of yourself. You don't need other people's approval, just your own. Congratulations on the weight loss and make sure you continue to get a well rounded diet that includes healthy fats- such as avocados, olives/olive oil, nuts, etc.

MissusMoon

Given your stats, you are NOT underweight. You look like a healthy, beautiful girl. Adorable, actually. Sometimes I think with obesity being so prevalent, we forget what a healthy weight looks like. Either that, or as suggested, they are mean spirited and jealous. Either way, you know you're at a healthy weight and you will get used to the new you.

sunnybeaches105

MaryPoole1 wrote: »

First off, don't take other people's opinions too much to heart. ESPECIALLY if their comments are mean spirited or if these people are not super close to you. Second, I think you're a cutie. You look a little like my daughter actually. She is very small and skinny and has the same face shape. About your appearance- in this photo, you DO look a little pale or washed out to me. I think part of that may be due to your makeup. I think your liner is a too heavy and dark and your lips or cheeks could use a touch of subtle color- think lip balm with a little bit of a tint. it's also possible you may have some extra skin going on after the weight loss, and even if you're a healthy weight it could be making you look "wasted away". You do almost look hungry in this picture, but I think mostly you just look unsure of yourself. You don't need other people's approval, just your own. Congratulations on the weight loss and make sure you continue to get a well rounded diet that includes healthy fats- such as avocados, olives/olive oil, nuts, etc.

I'm really eager to see pictures of you now. I promise to be as kind as you . . .

ETA: OP, the above post is exactly what I was talking about in first post. There seems to be something about attractive women that just brings out the knives. It happens the same with men but it's far less common from what I've experienced. Shake it off.

JosetteGetsFit

sunnybeaches105 wrote: »

MaryPoole1 wrote: »

First off, don't take other people's opinions too much to heart. ESPECIALLY if their comments are mean spirited or if these people are not super close to you. Second, I think you're a cutie. You look a little like my daughter actually. She is very small and skinny and has the same face shape. About your appearance- in this photo, you DO look a little pale or washed out to me. I think part of that may be due to your makeup. I think your liner is a too heavy and dark and your lips or cheeks could use a touch of subtle color- think lip balm with a little bit of a tint. it's also possible you may have some extra skin going on after the weight loss, and even if you're a healthy weight it could be making you look "wasted away". You do almost look hungry in this picture, but I think mostly you just look unsure of yourself. You don't need other people's approval, just your own. Congratulations on the weight loss and make sure you continue to get a well rounded diet that includes healthy fats- such as avocados, olives/olive oil, nuts, etc.

I'm really eager to see pictures of you now. I promise to be as kind as you . . .

I second that!!

davert123

Krisstastic_ wrote: »

Thanks for the make up tips, i apologize for not being tanned? i dont really know how to respond to that comment.

you look great to me. Your make up suits you :-) There are plenty of people will try and knock you. This has nothing to do with as such and everything to do with them. They have insecurities and then seem to need to pull other people down to pull themselves up - f**k um, really. Don't carry idiots around in your head. You have done a truly fantastic job. Try and realize it

Dali032484

Kris, thanks for posting your before and after. You look amazing girl! Great job!

MelodyandBarbells

MaryPoole1 wrote: »

First off, don't take other people's opinions too much to heart. ESPECIALLY if their comments are mean spirited or if these people are not super close to you. Second, I think you're a cutie. You look a little like my daughter actually. She is very small and skinny and has the same face shape. About your appearance- in this photo, you DO look a little pale or washed out to me. I think part of that may be due to your makeup. I think your liner is a too heavy and dark and your lips or cheeks could use a touch of subtle color- think lip balm with a little bit of a tint. it's also possible you may have some extra skin going on after the weight loss, and even if you're a healthy weight it could be making you look "wasted away". You do almost look hungry in this picture, but I think mostly you just look unsure of yourself. You don't need other people's approval, just your own. Congratulations on the weight loss and make sure you continue to get a well rounded diet that includes healthy fats- such as avocados, olives/olive oil, nuts, etc.

Enough with the pep talk already!!!