Is porn ruining expectations about sex?
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lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »Well I can tell you porn can be extremely destructive. My ex husband had an addiction to it. It sickens the soul.
You ever think you just weren't sexually compatible and you both were unsatisfied?6 -
merryward13 wrote: »All I know is no matter how hard I try, I can't get on board with dirt talking. I start laughing. "Who's your daddy?".....my eyes roll. I can't hide it. I'm loud....naturally....but sheesh is that not enough? Now I have to talk dirty too? I kid you not....one guy was trying to get me to talk dirty and I tried to play along. I'm on top doing my thing, and he literally asked me if I was going to make him a sandwich afterwards. Like that was part of the talk that was supposed to be turning him on.
I got off, got dressed and left.
I'm dead. Who thinks sandwiches are hot?
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I think it's like anything, if you have too much of it it's a problem. I like watching it as foreplay and it doesn't worry me that it's unrealistic. All entertainment is unrealistic otherwise we would all be sitting at home watching TV shows where people do laundry and spend hours looking at their phones...3
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sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »Well I can tell you porn can be extremely destructive. My ex husband had an addiction to it. It sickens the soul.
You ever think you just weren't sexually compatible and you both were unsatisfied?
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The 90s porn I watched was always through the squiggly lines hoping to catch a peak of something on the "naughty" channel. Unless I decided to trip acid, I'm pretty sure it was unrealistic...1
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lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »Well I can tell you porn can be extremely destructive. My ex husband had an addiction to it. It sickens the soul.
You ever think you just weren't sexually compatible and you both were unsatisfied?
No.
Sounds like a match made in heaven3 -
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sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »Well I can tell you porn can be extremely destructive. My ex husband had an addiction to it. It sickens the soul.
You ever think you just weren't sexually compatible and you both were unsatisfied?
No.
Sounds like a match made in heaven
he is an ex. and porn addiction is an actual thing. you sound like you've take her split from a porn addict rather personally.
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wolverine66 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »Well I can tell you porn can be extremely destructive. My ex husband had an addiction to it. It sickens the soul.
You ever think you just weren't sexually compatible and you both were unsatisfied?
No.
Sounds like a match made in heaven
he is an ex. and porn addiction is an actual thing. you sound like you've take her split from a porn addict rather personally.
You seem to be taking my comment to someone else rather personally . . .
I just enjoy seeing people hate on their exes and talk about how horrible they are. It's a thing. Porn is whatever. I don't get why it upsets people.
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sunnybeaches105 wrote: »wolverine66 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »Well I can tell you porn can be extremely destructive. My ex husband had an addiction to it. It sickens the soul.
You ever think you just weren't sexually compatible and you both were unsatisfied?
No.
Sounds like a match made in heaven
he is an ex. and porn addiction is an actual thing. you sound like you've take her split from a porn addict rather personally.
You seem to be taking my comment to someone else rather personally . . .
I just enjoy seeing people hate on their exes and talk about how horrible they are. It's a thing. Porn is whatever. I don't get why it upsets people.
in what way does it seem like i am taking it personally?
yes. porn is whatever. i like it. it doesn't upset me. it goes against what some people believe, and that's fine.
i don't know anyone personally with a porn addiction, but i have heard stories where men choose porn over an actual woman. if it was to that point, i can see how it would be upsetting.
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wolverine66 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »wolverine66 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »Well I can tell you porn can be extremely destructive. My ex husband had an addiction to it. It sickens the soul.
You ever think you just weren't sexually compatible and you both were unsatisfied?
No.
Sounds like a match made in heaven
he is an ex. and porn addiction is an actual thing. you sound like you've take her split from a porn addict rather personally.
You seem to be taking my comment to someone else rather personally . . .
I just enjoy seeing people hate on their exes and talk about how horrible they are. It's a thing. Porn is whatever. I don't get why it upsets people.
in what way does it seem like i am taking it personally?
yes. porn is whatever. i like it. it doesn't upset me. it goes against what some people believe, and that's fine.
i don't know anyone personally with a porn addiction, but i have heard stories where men choose porn over an actual woman. if it was to that point, i can see how it would be upsetting.
I suppose the same way I was taking it personally? You'll have to explain it to me.
I read people talking about addiction to all sorts of things on here. It doesn't make it real. I'm sure there are people so obsessed with it that t ruins their sex lives, don't get me wrong, but I always assumed these were guys with issues anyway. It's not the porn. There also seems to be a "porn is bad" thing on the other end of the spectrum. I honestly don't get either. My point was that if a couple isn't sexually compatible then go your merry ways and call it a day.0 -
sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »Well I can tell you porn can be extremely destructive. My ex husband had an addiction to it. It sickens the soul.
You ever think you just weren't sexually compatible and you both were unsatisfied?
No.
Sounds like a match made in heaven
You know nothing about me or my situation, so I'm not going to react defensively to your assumptions.4 -
lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »Well I can tell you porn can be extremely destructive. My ex husband had an addiction to it. It sickens the soul.
You ever think you just weren't sexually compatible and you both were unsatisfied?
No.
Sounds like a match made in heaven
You know nothing about me or my situation, so I'm not going to react defensively to your assumptions.
Sorry - I reread it and it was a bit much. Apologies. My point is above. I just don't get why porn is such a big deal or why bad mouthing exes is too.0 -
sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »Well I can tell you porn can be extremely destructive. My ex husband had an addiction to it. It sickens the soul.
You ever think you just weren't sexually compatible and you both were unsatisfied?
No.
Sounds like a match made in heaven
You know nothing about me or my situation, so I'm not going to react defensively to your assumptions.
Sorry - I reread it and it was a bit much. Apologies. My point is above. I just don't get why porn is such a big deal or why bad mouthing exes is too.
No worries- we don't know each other here. Porn at an early age can lead to more porn, and more "graphic" porn. This can lead to a messed up perception of women and sex to a young boy. He continues to engage in it throughout his life and eventually it leads to "acting out". It can lead to dangerous situations with hookers, etc. As a spouse you try to be loving and see it as an "addiction" and go to SA and counseling, but after years of being a cool, loving, awesome wife you just get tired of being repeatedly cheated on because he can't control himself. Then you eventually get angry and begin to hate him for it. So it was a big deal in my life.3 -
My wife and I occasionally watch porn together...it's fun and sometimes we're like, "hey...let's try that."..but I don't think my wife feels pressure to do anything she doesn't want to do...there are plenty of things I've wanted to try and she just laughs.2
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I actually really like parody porn, not really for sexy reasons, but I find the bad acting and blatant "spin-off" references hilarious. Some of it can be sexy too, which is great, but not my primary interest. My biggest frustration with porn is that it often presents (female) same-sex relationships as less valid, and as a result I have had MANY dates interrupted by men under the impression we need an additional party to end the night. Just no.4
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So....like what's y'all's favorite categories to search?2
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i like porn, i especially like it if it stars someone like stoya or sacha gray, both of whom are vocal about maintaining their personal agency as sex workers. i guess i can't disconnect the fantasy with the behind the scenes reality very well, and i prefer my porn as guilt free as possible.2
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So my first real boyfriend (and first guy I had sex with when I was like 19) watched a lot of porn and I guess he thought that real sex was like that.
And no.
I think that porn creates unrealistic expectations in men about how a woman should perform in bed. A lot of porn is very degrading to women and some guys are gross enough to think degrading their partner is hot. Sorry. Not into being slapped in the face or spit on or anything. Show respect for your partner. If she ain't into that nonsense then don't act like something is wrong with her either.
It scares me that I have a daughter that's going to grow up in a society where porn is so readily available to young boys and teenagers and that these kids think that stuff they see in hardcore porn is normal.2 -
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AriesGal329 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »sunnybeaches105 wrote: »lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »Well I can tell you porn can be extremely destructive. My ex husband had an addiction to it. It sickens the soul.
You ever think you just weren't sexually compatible and you both were unsatisfied?
No.
Sounds like a match made in heaven
You know nothing about me or my situation, so I'm not going to react defensively to your assumptions.
Sorry - I reread it and it was a bit much. Apologies. My point is above. I just don't get why porn is such a big deal or why bad mouthing exes is too.
No worries- we don't know each other here. Porn at an early age can lead to more porn, and more "graphic" porn. This can lead to a messed up perception of women and sex to a young boy. He continues to engage in it throughout his life and eventually it leads to "acting out". It can lead to dangerous situations with hookers, etc. As a spouse you try to be loving and see it as an "addiction" and go to SA and counseling, but after years of being a cool, loving, awesome wife you just get tired of being repeatedly cheated on because he can't control himself. Then you eventually get angry and begin to hate him for it. So it was a big deal in my life.
We'll have to agree to disagree on porn0 -
If my husband brings pizza home he does act like he is in a porn.0
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Caporegiem wrote: »So it's not a good idea to lead off with a full nelson and spit on your partner? Well I'm off to go write some apology letters.
LOL! This made me choke on my water!0 -
Porn is nothing more then entertainment... guys are visual, woman are not. Thats why guys are the ones who like it most.0
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