Does your partner having an interest in fitness matter to you?
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AdamAthletic
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So, I've dated a fair number of people with no interest in health and fitness, I really didn't think it'd matter to me.. But, it does!
The sheer amount of time I spend in gyms and outdoors means that unless my other half has similar interests - we would hardly see each other!
What's other people's take?
Does it matter to you?
The sheer amount of time I spend in gyms and outdoors means that unless my other half has similar interests - we would hardly see each other!
What's other people's take?
Does it matter to you?
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I think it's necessary for me. I love living an active lifestyle. If the man I am with doesn't enjoy that then someone is sacrificing. I would love to do these things with him.1
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I think it's important because I feel it's good to embrace a healthy lifestyle regardless of who you are to me. I really like staying active, so I would want a partner who is equally on the move or willing and able to keep up.2
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Conversely I had a policy of steering clear of gym addicts, though a handful expressed interest when I was on the prowl.
My reasoning was that there is room for only one vain person under a roof and I have always been immensely vainI think it's necessary for me. I love living an active lifestyle. If the man I am with doesn't enjoy that then someone is sacrificing. I would love to do these things with him.
That's a great way to look at it too, fitness is a great thing for bonding because there are so many different things that people can do together to keep/get fit!callmejessica wrote: »I think it's important because I feel it's good to embrace a healthy lifestyle regardless of who you are to me. I really like staying active, so I would want a partner who is equally on the move or willing and able to keep up.
Totally agree with this too!0 -
It's unimportant to me but a plus if she is into it.2
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I'm very active and love to dance. I love that my husband will dance with me, go for hikes, walks, and be generally active and adventurous. Plus good health means a long, healthy, happy life together.1
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My husband has zero interest in health and fitness. I'd love it if he did, but that's like him wanting me to enjoy Star Wars.5
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MsAmandaNJ wrote: »My husband has zero interest in health and fitness. I'd love it if he did, but that's like him wanting me to enjoy Star Wars.
This!!! He can go to boardgame night, I don't have to be included. We don't have to have all the same interests although for his health I'd like him to have a little more interest.3 -
MsAmandaNJ wrote: »My husband has zero interest in health and fitness. I'd love it if he did, but that's like him wanting me to enjoy Star Wars.
This!!! He can go to boardgame night, I don't have to be included. We don't have to have all the same interests although for his health I'd like him to have a little more interest.
Exactly. Sure, it'd be cool if he wasn't bored with my gym/workout stories, but I'd really like for him to care about his health. He recently said that he'll get concerned when he turns 40...as if quitting smoking, getting active, and eating right are going to be easier then. We'll see what happens in two years.2 -
Yes because there are things I like to do fitness wise (hiking, climbing, jogging, etc.) and if she can't join in, then she feels left out. And that usually doesn't turn out well for a long term relationship. Good thing my SO does want to stay in shape by being a ballroom competitor and instructor.
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I try to get to the gym 5 days a week. Not out of vanity, but more so I don't want tons of loose skin and I have a desk job, so it's often the only exercise I get all day. My ex never wanted to exercise and made so many excuses, but didn't have any problems chirping up about how I shouldn't lift heavy weights because I'd lose my chest. So yeah, I want my partner to be active. I think if you care about someone, you should want to make some attempt to keep yourself healthy.1
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MsAmandaNJ wrote: »MsAmandaNJ wrote: »My husband has zero interest in health and fitness. I'd love it if he did, but that's like him wanting me to enjoy Star Wars.
This!!! He can go to boardgame night, I don't have to be included. We don't have to have all the same interests although for his health I'd like him to have a little more interest.
Exactly. Sure, it'd be cool if he wasn't bored with my gym/workout stories, but I'd really like for him to care about his health. He recently said that he'll get concerned when he turns 40...as if quitting smoking, getting active, and eating right are going to be easier then. We'll see what happens in two years.
haha yes everything after 40 is WAY easier!!!
I have been an athlete all my life. I like having my thing be my thing. I would gladly teach my husband to skate but he will never be as good as I am and I know that would frustrate him. It's bad enough I get all the glory when we go curling since I'm a "natural", I'm just a natural athlete. He's a natural thinker.
He does need to do something but I won't force him that has to be his decision but I'm happy to have my alone time at the rink, well except when people want me to help them but then there are times I just sneak in so I can have the ice to myself1 -
I really wish my husband had more interest in working out. He is not overweight and looks great but, his blood pressure is high and diabetes runs in his family (his sugar is not high but they are "watching" it). I'm a runner and I also lift heavy. He doesn't like the amount of time I spend at the gym or my Saturday morning "long runs" because of the amount of time I spend away from the house. Therefore, I get up at 4:00 AM so I can be at the gym by 5:00 and at work by 8:00. Not interrupting his schedule. It would be a lot easier if it were something we could do together.2
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At first I thought it would not matter, but as time goes on, and you get busy, and life and family happen, its nice to have someone who understands, some of the life lessons learned by pushing your body to its limits. Most people just see it as getting fit. There are things you learn like discipline, perseverance, how to grind out, when it gets hard.
When you have learned these things, and your partner has no idea, it makes things difficult. I would definitely get a partner who was into the out doors, working out, being health, if that's your thing.5 -
After the last two relationships "throwing me off course", I'm determined to stay aware of myself and would be more drawn to someone with an active lifestyle now. It only is my fault if I let someone else effect my choices, but it'd certainly be a lot easier if we were just on the same page from the start!
Single, yet married to my health2 -
Yes, it matters. Neither my husband nor I have any interest in joining a gym, but we enjoy a lot of outdoor activities together. I am more focused on proper diet than him, but that's okay since I do most of the shopping and cooking.3
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Important, just can't see myself with someone who isn't in to fitness0
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Beth and I both value our fitness, we invest time and effort into it, eat well together, etc. I'm much more into the outdoors than she is, though. At first, we both thought this would sink us.
Sometimes we rent a cabin out in the mountains. She likes to read, or paint, or watch a movie, or play a game, in the hot tub, while I go out and do a really difficult ride or hike or climb. We both enjoy the "me time" and it works really well for us.
We do easier hikes together. Sometimes I come back and tell he about something beautiful I saw, and we go back and see it together.4
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