Girlfriend not losing weight on deficit
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cmriverside wrote: »courtneyfabulous wrote: »Calories too high
Probably not eating enough protein
High sugar or high carbohydrates cause water weight gain and increased appetite- no more chocolate cake for now, let her have chocolate protein shakes instead
Have her do more exercise than just walking (and walking doesn't burn 500 calories a day)
Make sure she sticks to proper macros not just calories
Myfitnesspal ProTip:
Read the entire thread before replying. More was revealed, and it may change your perspective. At least, I hope it does.
Ew.
What is "ew" about this? It's a pretty basic message board good practice.3 -
cmriverside wrote: »courtneyfabulous wrote: »Calories too high
Probably not eating enough protein
High sugar or high carbohydrates cause water weight gain and increased appetite- no more chocolate cake for now, let her have chocolate protein shakes instead
Have her do more exercise than just walking (and walking doesn't burn 500 calories a day)
Make sure she sticks to proper macros not just calories
Myfitnesspal ProTip:
Read the entire thread before replying. More was revealed, and it may change your perspective. At least, I hope it does.
Ew.
I don't know what you mean, but I'll laugh anyway assuming it was supposed to be funny?0 -
Carlos_421 wrote: »If she didn't lose weight, she wasn't actually in a deficit (even though she thought she was).0
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cmriverside wrote: »courtneyfabulous wrote: »Calories too high
Probably not eating enough protein
High sugar or high carbohydrates cause water weight gain and increased appetite- no more chocolate cake for now, let her have chocolate protein shakes instead
Have her do more exercise than just walking (and walking doesn't burn 500 calories a day)
Make sure she sticks to proper macros not just calories
Myfitnesspal ProTip:
Read the entire thread before replying. More was revealed, and it may change your perspective. At least, I hope it does.
Ew.
What is "ew" about this? It's a pretty basic message board good practice.
Just how gross all of that sounded together.0 -
cmriverside wrote: »courtneyfabulous wrote: »Calories too high
Probably not eating enough protein
High sugar or high carbohydrates cause water weight gain and increased appetite- no more chocolate cake for now, let her have chocolate protein shakes instead
Have her do more exercise than just walking (and walking doesn't burn 500 calories a day)
Make sure she sticks to proper macros not just calories
Myfitnesspal ProTip:
Read the entire thread before replying. More was revealed, and it may change your perspective. At least, I hope it does.
Ew.
What is "ew" about this? It's a pretty basic message board good practice.
Just how gross all of that sounded together.
I know. Words. Right?2 -
cmriverside wrote: »courtneyfabulous wrote: »Calories too high
Probably not eating enough protein
High sugar or high carbohydrates cause water weight gain and increased appetite- no more chocolate cake for now, let her have chocolate protein shakes instead
Have her do more exercise than just walking (and walking doesn't burn 500 calories a day)
Make sure she sticks to proper macros not just calories
Myfitnesspal ProTip:
Read the entire thread before replying. More was revealed, and it may change your perspective. At least, I hope it does.
Ew.
What is "ew" about this? It's a pretty basic message board good practice.
Just how gross all of that sounded together.
Oh. So you were saying "Ew" to the parts I bolded in the @courtneyfabulous post? Yeah, I was pretty surprised to see that she is a 35YO woman.
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Codependency is always bad! Both need therapy (sorry) but there is all kinds of wrong with OP and the situation.
He, she, they will figure it out at some point..1 -
Also, why would a 5'7" 136 pound woman be using a 500 calorie deficit?
None of this is making sense to me.
I had to reverse diet and take a short "diet break" (eating at a gradually increasing maintenance level --not a big increase all at once) after I stalled out for a period of time. I can plateau on low calories.
Your girlfriend is at an ideal weight for her height. She shouldn't be going for an aggressive deficit IMO. I am fairly close to goal and made that mistake. Have her calculate her TDEE and subtract 250 calories a day for a 0.5 pound loss a week.
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Also, why would a 5'7" 136 pound woman be using a 500 calorie deficit?
None of this is making sense to me.
I had to reverse diet and take a short "diet break" (eating at a gradually increasing maintenance level --not a big increase all at once) after I stalled out for a period of time. I can plateau on low calories.
Your girlfriend is at an ideal weight for her height. She shouldn't be going for an aggressive deficit IMO. I am fairly close to goal and made that mistake. Have her calculate her TDEE and subtract 250 calories a day for a 0.5 pound loss a week.
smh @bolded....5 -
I'll just chime in with this. . . I have a history of an eating disorder, and to be honest, I realize that I will ALWAYS have disordered thoughts regarding food. If I say I don't, I'm not being truthful. However, MFP helps me control my anxiety because I feel it gives me more control. I went from being anorexic to binge eating, and I would NEVER admit to ANYONE just how much I binged because I embarrassed, humiliated, had deep self hatred. So I can tell you, she isn't telling you everything that is running through her head, and nothing is "fixed".23
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joshsparkes wrote: »To all of the pessimists on this forum - I am not trying to get her to do anything, she had a eating disorder consisting of getting extremely anxious when eating as she didnt know if it would make her gain weight, she was extreme dieting to lose weight.
I introduced her to fitnesspal under the premise -track your calories, hit 1200 for optimum fat loss, and anything under 1700 (her maintenance) will cause fat loss and that she could eat whatever, just weigh it and track it. She was so happy for 9 weeks, being able to snack on chocolate yet knowing she was losing weight... i had fixed her eating disorder... until now, the blame lies at the feet of fitnesspal who say 6 hours walking burns 500-600 cals... now shes lost confidence in the system and gone back to binge eating. So *kitten* you fitnesspal
joshsparkes wrote: »Maybe fixes is the wrong word... but she had no negative thoughts about food for 9 weeks, the longest ever whilst she thought she was losing weight, sounds good to me, and it was good, clearly im pissed off with this set back, I know the process works and have had to learn my own numbers, but its harder for her to trust it as she now thinks she cant lose weight eating chocolate. Its going to be tough/impossible to get her to put her faith in the system again, which is a shame because i know it works long term and is flexible.
I'lll forget the walking calories, try and get her to track and and lift weights. The challenge here is to regain her faith in MFP. Thanks for the input I think we have a plan.
Please take a step back and really think about my next words:
You cannot do this for your loved one, but you can point her in the right direction to get help from a professional versed in eating disorders.
Nobody is to blame for her eating disoder-not her, you, MFP or the man in the moon.
I've read enough to see you are trying to fix her, but you can't do it. If she's that afraid to take charge of her own weight management, then she's not recovered. Please help her find help.
The best of luck to you both.13 -
Well I only read the original post and a few the comments past that. Didn't bother to read every single comment but I'm guessing there's more to the story then?
I don't see what's wrong with my comment though - and were you saying "ew" and "no no no no" to my suggestions or me being 35 years old? That seems kind of weird to me either way.0 -
courtneyfabulous wrote: »Well I only read the original post and a few the comments past that. Didn't bother to read every single comment but I'm guessing there's more to the story then?
I don't see what's wrong with my comment though - and were you saying "ew" and "no no no no" to my suggestions or me being 35 years old? That seems kind of weird to me either way.
No. I was saying Ew. To all the LET her, MAKE her, TELL her to's. It was gross.4 -
Oh ok sorry yeah that's bad choices of words- not my intention. Should have taken more time in commenting.
Also I just did the conversion from metric to imperial and seems like she's at a healthy weight for her height.
She might just want to lose some fat and gain some muscle if she's not happy with her physique as it is now.1 -
Wow yeah I wrote that really fast- the advice was sound but I see where the phrasing was pretty bad.1
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I agree that recomp is probably exactly what she wants/needs for her health but I think she also needs to talk to someone.0
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I was really rooting for a D/s consensual power exchange thing as the reasoning for this guy being inappropriately controlling of his partner's dieting. But no. Gotta be some dude "fixing" his "broken" girlfriend because he knows everything, eating disorder be damned.
Gross.
This. As someone in a total power exchange relationship (bit more deep than D/s) I didn't really bat an eye at the first post. I hate when people lecture me for my 2 significant others (something else people seem to lecture about) being controlling.
However the subsequent posts throw huge red flags.3 -
Also, why would a 5'7" 136 pound woman be using a 500 calorie deficit?
None of this is making sense to me.
I had to reverse diet and take a short "diet break" (eating at a gradually increasing maintenance level --not a big increase all at once) after I stalled out for a period of time. I can plateau on low calories.
Your girlfriend is at an ideal weight for her height. She shouldn't be going for an aggressive deficit IMO. I am fairly close to goal and made that mistake. Have her calculate her TDEE and subtract 250 calories a day for a 0.5 pound loss a week.
smh @bolded....
Whatever.3 -
Also, why would a 5'7" 136 pound woman be using a 500 calorie deficit?
None of this is making sense to me.
I had to reverse diet and take a short "diet break" (eating at a gradually increasing maintenance level --not a big increase all at once) after I stalled out for a period of time. I can plateau on low calories.
Your girlfriend is at an ideal weight for her height. She shouldn't be going for an aggressive deficit IMO. I am fairly close to goal and made that mistake. Have her calculate her TDEE and subtract 250 calories a day for a 0.5 pound loss a week.
I don't follow how you can plateau on low calories, at least if they are lower than your TDEE. My guess is you were underestimating your calorie balance and were not in a deficit as you originally thought.3 -
I made the mistake of eating below my resting metabolic rate and learned from experience. I lost at first but then my body slowed down to compensate. It was miserable. My rmr is 1660, so I need to eat at least 1600 calories. 1200 calories were not enough daily for me. BTW, I plugged in OP's girlfriend's stats and got 1669 calories as her rmr. 1200 calories a day are TOO LOW for her height, weight, and age.1
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