Has seeing your weight loss results make you become more arrogant? Or confident?

red99ryder

Not sure i can answer this question myself , hard to see my own changes .. i do know when i see results it helps me to do good with my eating and when i dont see results its like why bother ,, but i know eat the numbers and they will work , most time when they dont i know why .

good luck

Therealobi1

Same personality
Type of clothes i wear has changed. Not going for baggy anymore. Also have more dresses and skirts than I used to

Therealobi1

Bearbo27 wrote: »

elisa123gal wrote: »

To speak to this... I have not lost all my weight yet.. but I tire of the whining and weakness of some of the posts in the forums.. and I look at people eating globs of fattening bad food and I too judge. Now where is that coming from i dunno.

spinnerdell wrote: »

jrulo16 wrote: »

I have zero patience for fatlogic now.

Yep, in spite of my own many years of denial about my weight, I'm appallingly judgmental about others' excuses now that I'm almost at goal.

Just curious why it matters what foods people eat. I am now down 41 lbs and I fit in sweets when I can. As long as I can fit it in my goal, I eat it. I just eat 18 m&m's now instead of 18 servings

I think the whole idea of there being "bad" foods is what makes people fail.

I agree with this
Also am not studying what people are eating same way I don't expect people to watch me .

Aaron_K123

dhimaan wrote: »

I am more confident. People think I am arrogant. I can't really control that.

Yeah I'd echo this. If anything as I got leaner and more specifically stronger I tended to carry myself more upright (better posture) which made me stand taller and just generally look more confident. When I was overweight I tended to have worse posture, was a bit hunch and just appeared meeker.

That said I think I managed to be arrogant regardless of how overweight I was :-)

kazminchu

Oddly enough, a bit of both. I find myself judging people with crappy excuses for not losing weight (my co-worker is constantly whining about not losing despite "eating healthily, I only had one kebab and a few slices of pizza and and and")
But on the other hand, I am also cripplingly aware of my own flaws, more so than when I was fat. I never realised I was fat so like another poster said, I thought I was hot sh1t, now I've lost weight I feel like I look even worse sometimes.
Basically a lose/lose situation. I'm an *kitten* who hates herself as well.

trigden1991

Being honest; yes & yes. Why shouldn't you be proud of what you have achieved by doing things that others don't have the willpower to do.

Sk1mble

As a result of finding the will to lose weight and sticking to calorie counting virtually every day for the last three years, I've noticed several changes to my personality and attitudes as the weight has come off.

First, my moods are less in equilibrium. I used to be pretty even-tempered all the time when I ate whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. Now, I'm often 'hangry' or short tempered during times of low-blood sugar such as just before lunch or late in the afternoon. This often feeds into low willpower when I go shopping after work, leading to bad decisions like buying rock cakes (I'm so addicted to the cinnamony, raisin-y deliciousness) that I then have to exercise off on my stationary bike later that evening.

Second, and this is something I'm really trying hard to overcome, is the fact that I find myself judging the people I see who are significantly overweight and wanting to proselytize the magic of calorie counting. I suspect this is typical of a mindset that develops in people who have overcome an addiction. Just as ex-smokers are some of the most persistent nags of their friends who still smoke, I think people who've made a change and lost a significant amount of weight can be super-critical of people who haven't taken that step.

I don't like this about myself, and I keep having to remind myself that it's possible to work hard on eating healthily and improving one's own weight and lifestyle without internalizing the 'fat phobia' that is so common in today's society. Being overweight doesn't make anyone a second-class citizen and it's immensely hypocritical of me to judge anyone just because they are now where I was a few years ago with my weight and eating habits.

amusedmonkey

Neither. I didn't lack in that department when I was at a high weight. The only reason I lost weight was because of health issues. If anything, it has made me slightly less self confident. For some reason, I started noticing things about my body that I never paid attention to, as if dieting caused me to pull out this magnifying glass that has always been hidden.

newheavensearth

I haven't changed, but the fact that I get noticed more and care for my appearance better has people accusing me of being vain.

I am usually the person who doesn't speak until spoken to. That's how I was raised. So now when someone compliments me on something appearance related and it opens the door to conversation, this shy violet will speak.

Also I've spent a lot of time in other people's shadow and hiding behind the extra weight, so now when I get really done up is like "Whoa" and I get accused of stealing the spotlight. I like getting dressy. It's more fun now!

Francl27

Not really. I'm still fat at heart though... still love food, still likely to eat too much of baked goods (I probably gained two pounds from them in the last 10 days). Actually kinda jealous of the people who eat what they want and don't care about the consequences.

I'm not more confident because I'm still not happy with my body and I have some loose skin (and a large waist) so you're still likely to see that pouch/a bit of a muffin top when I wear clothes (pants either give me a muffin top or fall off, basically).

I think that the two things that changed the most for me now are that I'm pickier about what I eat (and annoying about it, if you ask my husband, but I won't spend calories on something mediocre or that I don't really want) and that I get cabin fever if I have to sit somewhere for more than a couple hours without doing anything... let's say that my idea of a good time now is more going for a hike than hanging out and playing games, which also makes it annoying for my family (although obviously it really depends on the company).

So I suppose that in that sense, I can be arrogant to some people... but it's really about me and not about them, you know?

Gamliela

I felt strong and stable before I started losing weight. I could make decisions and remember things well, it seemed my brain was faster. Almost right at the beginning of my weight loss with CICO I felt more insecurity and less strong, more quite and withdrawn. I go out less and interact less. I'm very happy with my appearance, so its not a matter of lack of confidence in that, I don't know what it is really. I feel something lacking inside myself that I had before.

beachbumm1965

I have never really been arrogant, but I have always been outgoing, but now I am a little more confident in my appearance. I still have a long journey ahead of me, but I refuse to give up the battle. I have worked to hard for where I am, to just give up. So, yes, I am a little more confident and have more sell esteem. I constantly remind myself, it is mind over matter...I don't mind, and it doesn't matter. I will defeat my enemy.

Machka9

raneshiaanderson4027 wrote: »

Has loosing weight changed your personality?

I wouldn't think that losing weight has change my personality. It wasn't so long ago I was this weight ... my weight gain was just a temporary blip.

_sacar

I am definitely more confident. I will always be a wallflower, but I used to figure there was no point in doing anything to look nice because I was gross. I'm not exactly in love with myself, but I don't feel as gross anymore. I dyed my hair a neat color, I've bought clothes that are more fitted.

I wouldn't say I'm more arrogant - but I catch myself sometimes thinking crappy thoughts about people that whine about their weight without changing it, which is hypocritical because I was there for a few years myself.

DebSozo

Machka9 wrote: »

raneshiaanderson4027 wrote: »

Has loosing weight changed your personality?

I wouldn't think that losing weight has change my personality. It wasn't so long ago I was this weight ... my weight gain was just a temporary blip.

That's the same for me. My self image is one of a thinner person. I'm hoping the weight will stay off. At least I have the tools to keep it off, so I'm hopeful that I won't creep on the fringes of overweight BMI ever again

divcara

I felt like that too @DebSozo. I always felt like a thin person in my head, even when there was a point that must have been delusional. When I saw myself in the mirror (or basically I had started avoiding mirrors), or in pictures, it didn't feel like me at all. I held back so much. I just wanted to be invisible. Once I dropped the weight, I started feeling like the me I always was.

DebSozo

leaninsc wrote: »

I felt like that too @DebSozo. I always felt like a thin person in my head, even when there was a point that must have been delusional. When I saw myself in the mirror (or basically I had started avoiding mirrors), or in pictures, it didn't feel like me at all. I held back so much. I just wanted to be invisible. Once I dropped the weight, I started feeling like the me I always was.

Totally understand that

cross2bear

At my highest weight, I knew I was wearing clothes designed to blend in, cuz I didnt want to stand out and be noticed. Drab colours, little makeup, just my wedding ring - very plain. I wanted to be forgettable, rather than be remembered for being the heavy set one.

Now I am wearing brighter colours and trendier (but still conservative - I am old, after all) outfits, cuz I dont mind being looked at - I feel less of an outlier now.

Also I think I am a bit more adventurous, and I dont worry that my weight will embarrass me, like I wont fit into a seat, or I will be over the weight restriction for an activity, so I think I am a little more outgoing.

But I am far far pickier about what I eat than I was. Unless I am really into it, I will pass up food that I normally would have consumed if for nothing else out of boredom or politeness. I say no a lot more to stuff like that, so I guess I am a bit more assertive.

cathipa

Funny you post this. I have not changed except I am more mindful of what I consume. I recently was told someone I once considered a close friend was telling people I have become "too good for everyone" because I lost weight. I'm an ambivert and there is no way I have ever felt "too good" for any one. I'm proud of my accomplishments and I don't shove it down anyone's throat. If someone asks how I did it I'm more than happy to share and would be more than happy to help someone achieve their goals.

sgt1372

Simply proud of my strength & appearance and confident of my ability to maintain & enhance it.

Arrogance has nothing to do w/it; that's not how I roll. I celebrate and congratulate each person's ability to achieve their personal goals w/o regard to my own, which is as it should be.

cwolfman13

No...I never even really realized that I had gotten fat...it happened very slowly. I was always lean and fit so even when I was fat, that's basically how I saw myself physically and my personality is what it is...

z4oslo

I'm more arrogant when it comes to how to lose weight.
MY method is the best, and anyone not doing it MY way is just lab rats.

YUP.

But im also more supportive to people trying to change their lives for the better.

peaceout_aly

jrulo16 wrote: »

I have zero patience for fatlogic now.

^^ SAME.

peaceout_aly

I am definitely more confident. Wear clothes I never would have before, talk about lifting, etc. Some people may think it's arrogant but it's a hobby that I enjoy and want to share with others. You're never going to please everyone.

crzycatlady1

wow, MFP's forum update has created epic double/triple/quad triple posts all over the forum lol

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crzycatlady1

I'm much more comfortable in my own skin now but my personality hasn't really changed. It's actually been other people who's attitudes have changed towards me. Mostly positive but a few negative ones as well. One acquaintance in particular seems to hold a grudge-she's a bb coach and even though she aggressively pushes their products she still struggles with her weight. I've been maintaining my weight loss for several years now, without the help of any expensive woo, and I think it irritates her

newheavensearth

cross2bear wrote: »

At my highest weight, I knew I was wearing clothes designed to blend in, cuz I didnt want to stand out and be noticed. Drab colours, little makeup, just my wedding ring - very plain. I wanted to be forgettable, rather than be remembered for being the heavy set one.

Now I am wearing brighter colours and trendier (but still conservative - I am old, after all) outfits, cuz I dont mind being looked at - I feel less of an outlier now.

Also I think I am a bit more adventurous, and I dont worry that my weight will embarrass me, like I wont fit into a seat, or I will be over the weight restriction for an activity, so I think I am a little more outgoing.

But I am far far pickier about what I eat than I was. Unless I am really into it, I will pass up food that I normally would have consumed if for nothing else out of boredom or politeness. I say no a lot more to stuff like that, so I guess I am a bit more assertive.

Totally get this!

Fiftyls2looz

Urm..i think i feel more confident. .and i dont judge myself as much now. Hoever now that im thinner, people and especislly men look at me which makes me uncomfortable. I kinda liked being invisible because of my big size. Now i dont like people looking at me ughh

Im still not at my goal weight though and after having 3 kids my breasts and stomach is soo flabby and sagging and im only 24.

im nearly 11 stone but want to be 9.5 again...