What's on your mind?

OpheliaCooter · November 2021

I was so jealous that the gf got a week and a half off but she had to go back today 🤪😛😝

I should really take a vacation.

ReenieHJ · November 2021

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MelG7777 wrote: »

“Exciting new things”? Sounds scary.

It's only scary if they start showing who reacts to your post 😉

I hope they do this 😂

Yes! 😂

Me too! Bet the disagree-ers would hide a little bit.

Wondering how long MFP will be shut down today. Sounds like a good movie day for me.

steelrod1 · November 2021

Marine Corps Birthday 246 years of serving our country
Semper Fi Marines

bellababy9031 · November 2021

internationalplayboy wrote: »

Utah.....

Get me two (2)!!!

Sophisticatted_Gentlemanz · November 2021

I hope the features this forum gets are all related to pizza

KosmosKitten · November 2021

I still don't really fit in anywhere.. or into any groups of people. Kind of bums me out, honestly. It just leaves me feeling... "other" for lack of better terminology.

cmsienk · November 2021

Working at home today, which is not necessarily a good thing. Puts me way too close to my fridge and pantry. 😑

KickassAmazon76 · November 2021

KosmosKitten wrote: »

I still don't really fit in anywhere.. or into any groups of people. Kind of bums me out, honestly. It just leaves me feeling... "other" for lack of better terminology.

You are not alone in your "other"ness.

I never really feel like I fit in. Even with social gatherings full of people I love and care for... I always feel like I'm on the outside trying to say / do the right thing. It's crazy, because other people don't see that about me, but it is so very real.

Getting an invite to a gathering fills me with dread. I don't want to go, to see people, to feel that way. And at the same time, I don't like feeling lonely.

steelrod1 · November 2021

KickassAmazon76 wrote: »

KosmosKitten wrote: »

I still don't really fit in anywhere.. or into any groups of people. Kind of bums me out, honestly. It just leaves me feeling... "other" for lack of better terminology.

You are not alone in your "other"ness.

I never really feel like I fit in. Even with social gatherings full of people I love and care for... I always feel like I'm on the outside trying to say / do the right thing. It's crazy, because other people don't see that about me, but it is so very real.

Getting an invite to a gathering fills me with dread. I don't want to go, to see people, to feel that way. And at the same time, I don't like feeling lonely.

Interesting thought. Perhaps the fact that "WE" don't fit in is exactly the opposite. Perhaps we do and every one else doesn't. I think the trap of society is just a modern day slavery the elite wants us in. Wake up work your job pay your bills you must conform or you won't fit in. We've gotten so far from real freedom that we can't recognize it anymore. So ladies do you and trust in yourself we do fit in just not with that group. Totally get the lonely thing I'm with ya, just waiting for my people to wake up and notice.

KosmosKitten · November 2021

KickassAmazon76 wrote: »

KosmosKitten wrote: »

I still don't really fit in anywhere.. or into any groups of people. Kind of bums me out, honestly. It just leaves me feeling... "other" for lack of better terminology.

You are not alone in your "other"ness.

I never really feel like I fit in. Even with social gatherings full of people I love and care for... I always feel like I'm on the outside trying to say / do the right thing. It's crazy, because other people don't see that about me, but it is so very real.

Getting an invite to a gathering fills me with dread. I don't want to go, to see people, to feel that way. And at the same time, I don't like feeling lonely.

Are you sure you and I aren't the same person? Oh, wait.. I can't lift like an absolute champ. 😂

You've described it (and me by association) pretty well. And usually, if I force myself to go to the gatherings, I have a good time (most of the time), but it leaves me feeling really, really drained. Like my "people battery" has run out of juice. Alone time replenishes the "juice", but I feel like I require a lot more of it (alone time) than maybe most people I know?

I know that has to do with being introverted, but still.. kinda sucks when you want to be personable, reach out and do things with people, but feel that the very core of your being rejects that idea entirely. It does lead you to feeling a bit like a freak, honestly.

KickassAmazon76 · November 2021

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/comment/46421442#Comment_46421442

It's interesting you say this. My oldest is 16 and she is neurodivergent. She hasn't been officially diagnosed (in progress), but we believe she has both ADHD and is autistic / has Tourettes.

She has uncontrollable tics, which often cause her to jump, cringe, hit herself, or almost hit herself. Sometimes these are accompanied by sounds, clicks or pops.

If I were in her shoes, i would have felt that I had to do everything in my power to suppress them.

Must. Assimilate. Right?

But for her, when I talk about getting her help to manage / control / minimze the tics, she gets upset with me because "this is who I am. Why should I have to change? To make other people feel more comfortable? Nah, they just need to realize there is nothing wrong with me. I'm just different and different isn't bad."

Note: I don't think she is broken, or needs fixing, or even needs to suppress her stims. I just want her to have as smooth a life as possible.

I wish I was as comfortable in my skin as she seems to be in hers. I am so proud of her.

KosmosKitten · November 2021

Completely unrelated, but aww.. bowling ball grouchy face no longer looks like bowling ball grouchy face.

KosmosKitten · November 2021

KickassAmazon76 wrote: »

It's interesting you say this. My oldest is 16 and she is neurodivergent. She hasn't been officially diagnosed (in progress), but we believe she has both ADHD and is autistic / has Tourettes.
She has uncontrollable tics, which often cause her to jump, cringe, hit herself, or almost hit herself. Sometimes these are accompanied by sounds, clicks or pops.
If I were in her shoes, i would have felt that I had to do everything in my power to suppress them.
Must. Assimilate. Right?
But for her, when I talk about getting her help to manage / control / minimze the tics, she gets upset with me because "this is who I am. Why should I have to change? To make other people feel more comfortable? Nah, they just need to realize there is nothing wrong with me. I'm just different and different isn't bad."
Note: I don't think she is broken, or needs fixing, or even needs to suppress her stims. I just want her to have as smooth a life as possible.
I wish I was as comfortable in my skin as she seems to be in hers. I am so proud of her.

This is fair. She shouldn't have to change if it's not bothering her nor affecting her negatively. Good on her!

For me, personally, the only time I "change" is when personal well-being is taking such a hit due to mental health struggles that I have to actively seek help, either by reaching out and talking to someone I know (which I dread), or talking to a complete stranger (and paying them), which oddly, I dread a lot less.

It's not changing, either, when I think about it since I fundamentally cannot alter my brain chemistry to be "not-depressed" and "not-anxious". It just helps figuring things out without my own personal biases getting in the way. Same with talking to folks here: I get different strategies, viewpoints and anecdotes to draw information from and find a solution.