Ladies, would you date a guy who dislikes gay people?

bemyyfriend0918

So my question is this. My closest friend is a gay male. My brother is also gay and has a wonderful fiancé who I absolutely adore. We hang out often and usually do things together as a group. The guy ive been seeing says he doesn't approve of a gay lifestyle and doesn't even want to be in the same room with them because of this. Im thinking this is a deal breaker, but I was wondering if anyone had a similar experience? Im guessing there isn't a way to change his mind.

Is it really common still in modern society for Strait males to feel uncomfortable around gays? I didn't even think people still thought like that! People are people to me, regardless of orientation.

jenmar222

That's pretty much a first date deal breaker for me

For many reasons, but among the top:
1. I don't date narrow-minded people in general
2. Guys who are narrow-minded about sexual orientation often have overly-conservative ideals around gender norms in general that don't jive w/ my lifestyle
3. I have a number of gay guy friends and love them very much. I would never purposely bring someone into their lives who thinks "less" of them. What kind of friend would I be?

tcunbeliever

deal breaker, find someone who is a decent human being

km8907

Being gay is not a good reason to dislike someone. I don't date people that dislike without a good reason. So yes, it's a deal breaker.

beagletracks

DEAL BREAKER

dfc4

I used to work in a Gay freindly Gym here in Germany, best bunch of dudes i ever had the pleasure of spending time with.
For me it doesent matter if someone is gay, fat , thin, black yellow white....no two people on this planet are the same and if you show respect to others......they will respect you too

Big up to all the Gays and Lesbians out there hope you have a lovely christmas

NEOHgirl

Total deal breaker. Your friend and brother are important parts of your life, so if your significant other can't stand to be in a room with them, how can you sustain a relationship with him? And why would you want to? People do still think like that, but they are not people that I would ever willingly associate with. I don't have much tolerance for bigotry.

JSaus13

He's not worth your time. I think if you continued to date him, your best friend and brother would be hurt (just my opinion). Let this guy do his judging far away from you and your family.

juliemouse83

Yup. Deal breaker. Big time. Several members of my family re gay, as are some of my friends, and if my SO couldn't accept my family and friends because of their sexual preference, he'd be gone. *poof*

NorthCascades

Deal breaker. My Uncle Bob is gay. You have a problem with my family, don't let the door hit you on the way out.

kam3190

Ca you imaine never having your significant other and your brother in the same room ? Holidays and Birthday without one or the other? What happens if you have children? Will said man not want your family around them?

dfc4

If he was dying of Blood cancer and finds out that a gay guy had a perfect bone marrow match.
He would probably think that gays are ok after that.

angelxsss

I wouldn't

JSaus13

Cutaway_Collar wrote: »

Doesn't want to be in the same room. Definitely in the closet. In fact, many homophobic men fall into the sexually insecure category and have personal gay proclivities.

I have often thought that.

How many times have you heard from the anti-gay people, "If they hit on me, I'll kick their *kitten*." Seriously, what are the chances that the gay person will find non-gay person attractive. Not all gay people (or straight people) are sexual deviants.

KrazyDaizy

I wouldn't date ANYONE who didn't want to be in the same room with someone based on race, sex, sexual preference, religion etc. That's not ok. I think that makes them a POS.

Just because you don't agree with one's sexual preference (or political views or religion) doesn't mean you can't respect, love and have a personal relationship with them. That's ridiculous and makes the person who can't have a relationship with someone different than them a total *kitten*.

JSaus13

Noel_57 wrote: »

bemyyfriend0918 wrote: »

People are people to me, regardless of orientation.

I disagree. I despise people who walk backwards.

You made me giggle.

kschwab0203

If he is that much of a closed minded individual then, no, I would not continue to date him

jenilla1

Deal breaker. I wouldn't have anything to do with a guy who detested and shunned my brother and close friends. Plus, I can't stand people who completely reject entire groups of people. Just exchange the word "gay" for any other group of people (race, gender, religion, socio-economic status) and see how that sounds. Sounds like an a-hole to me. I guess if you agree with his stance, you would keep him, but otherwise, why would you WANT him? Drop this guy - fast.

bemyyfriend0918

Cutaway_Collar wrote: »

Doesn't want to be in the same room. Definitely in the closet. In fact, many homophobic men fall into the sexually insecure category and have personal gay proclivities.

These were my thoughts also! I've dated other men who had no problem with my brother and his fiancé, and in fact enjoyed it when we would all hang out. Something doesn't seem right.