Ladies, would you date a guy who dislikes gay people?
bemyyfriend0918
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So my question is this. My closest friend is a gay male. My brother is also gay and has a wonderful fiancé who I absolutely adore. We hang out often and usually do things together as a group. The guy ive been seeing says he doesn't approve of a gay lifestyle and doesn't even want to be in the same room with them because of this. Im thinking this is a deal breaker, but I was wondering if anyone had a similar experience? Im guessing there isn't a way to change his mind.
Is it really common still in modern society for Strait males to feel uncomfortable around gays? I didn't even think people still thought like that! People are people to me, regardless of orientation.
Is it really common still in modern society for Strait males to feel uncomfortable around gays? I didn't even think people still thought like that! People are people to me, regardless of orientation.
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That's pretty much a first date deal breaker for me
For many reasons, but among the top:
1. I don't date narrow-minded people in general
2. Guys who are narrow-minded about sexual orientation often have overly-conservative ideals around gender norms in general that don't jive w/ my lifestyle
3. I have a number of gay guy friends and love them very much. I would never purposely bring someone into their lives who thinks "less" of them. What kind of friend would I be?36 -
deal breaker, find someone who is a decent human being16
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Being gay is not a good reason to dislike someone. I don't date people that dislike without a good reason. So yes, it's a deal breaker.7
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DEAL BREAKER7
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I used to work in a Gay freindly Gym here in Germany, best bunch of dudes i ever had the pleasure of spending time with.
For me it doesent matter if someone is gay, fat , thin, black yellow white....no two people on this planet are the same and if you show respect to others......they will respect you too
Big up to all the Gays and Lesbians out there hope you have a lovely christmas8 -
Total deal breaker. Your friend and brother are important parts of your life, so if your significant other can't stand to be in a room with them, how can you sustain a relationship with him? And why would you want to? People do still think like that, but they are not people that I would ever willingly associate with. I don't have much tolerance for bigotry.7
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He's not worth your time. I think if you continued to date him, your best friend and brother would be hurt (just my opinion). Let this guy do his judging far away from you and your family.4
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Yup. Deal breaker. Big time. Several members of my family re gay, as are some of my friends, and if my SO couldn't accept my family and friends because of their sexual preference, he'd be gone. *poof*3
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Deal breaker. My Uncle Bob is gay. You have a problem with my family, don't let the door hit you on the way out.5
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Ca you imaine never having your significant other and your brother in the same room ? Holidays and Birthday without one or the other? What happens if you have children? Will said man not want your family around them?6
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If he was dying of Blood cancer and finds out that a gay guy had a perfect bone marrow match.
He would probably think that gays are ok after that.
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Doesn't want to be in the same room. Definitely in the closet. In fact, many homophobic men fall into the sexually insecure category and have personal gay proclivities.
I have often thought that.
How many times have you heard from the anti-gay people, "If they hit on me, I'll kick their *kitten*." Seriously, what are the chances that the gay person will find non-gay person attractive. Not all gay people (or straight people) are sexual deviants.1 -
I wouldn't date ANYONE who didn't want to be in the same room with someone based on race, sex, sexual preference, religion etc. That's not ok. I think that makes them a POS.
Just because you don't agree with one's sexual preference (or political views or religion) doesn't mean you can't respect, love and have a personal relationship with them. That's ridiculous and makes the person who can't have a relationship with someone different than them a total *kitten*.7 -
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I disagree. I despise people who walk backwards.bemyyfriend0918 wrote: »People are people to me, regardless of orientation.
You made me giggle.2 -
If he is that much of a closed minded individual then, no, I would not continue to date him2
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Deal breaker. I wouldn't have anything to do with a guy who detested and shunned my brother and close friends. Plus, I can't stand people who completely reject entire groups of people. Just exchange the word "gay" for any other group of people (race, gender, religion, socio-economic status) and see how that sounds. Sounds like an a-hole to me. I guess if you agree with his stance, you would keep him, but otherwise, why would you WANT him? Drop this guy - fast.4
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Doesn't want to be in the same room. Definitely in the closet. In fact, many homophobic men fall into the sexually insecure category and have personal gay proclivities.
These were my thoughts also! I've dated other men who had no problem with my brother and his fiancé, and in fact enjoyed it when we would all hang out. Something doesn't seem right.
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Gay guys don't bother me in the least...
I always just thought : More available chickas for me !
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I love gay people.
What's up ladies.
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He is secretly gay himself and not comfortable with the idea.... lol... He is afraid of his own sexuality. I have a number of friends that are gay, I happen to be straight. They are just like any of my other friends, you should just pass on this guy... hes not worth it.. Think about how uncomfortable family gatherings will be, ? and the drama is not worth it.2
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bemyyfriend0918 wrote: »So my question is this. My closest friend is a gay male. My brother is also gay and has a wonderful fiancé who I absolutely adore. We hang out often and usually do things together as a group. The guy ive been seeing says he doesn't approve of a gay lifestyle and doesn't even want to be in the same room with them because of this. Im thinking this is a deal breaker, but I was wondering if anyone had a similar experience? Im guessing there isn't a way to change his mind.
Is it really common still in modern society for Strait males to feel uncomfortable around gays? I didn't even think people still thought like that! People are people to me, regardless of orientation.
I disagree with the lifestyle myself, but some of my closest friends are gay and it doesn't change how I treat them. My two closest friends at work are gay and I we hang out all the time! I don't "approve" of the lifestyle, but I love the person.4 -
_unsteady_ wrote: »PowerMan40 wrote: »He is secretly gay himself and not comfortable with the idea.... lol... He is afraid of his own sexuality. I have a number of friends that are gay, I happen to be straight. They are just like any of my other friends , you should just pass on this guy... hes not worth it.. Think about how uncomfortable family gatherings will be, ? and the drama is not worth it.
Wrongo! Gay guys are waaay funnier than straight guys they're better wingmen too
you are actually right on all of those point lol ...and they can fix my outfit for me, since im color blind.... lol2 -
KrazyDaizy wrote: »Just because you don't agree with one's sexual preference (or political views or religion) doesn't mean you can't respect, love and have a personal relationship with them.
Political views/religion are world views that we choose and/or can change. Some of my friends were simply born gay...they can't just choose to be straight.
Personally, I wouldn't have a "personal relationship" with someone who didn't "agree" with such a central aspect of who I am.
Maybe if they were immediate family, then I'd muscle through... But just for friends, there are enough people in the world, that I'd rather have my "personal relationships" be with people who don't "disagree" with how I was born. Just a personal preference though... I'm picky about who I'm close with.11 -
I could never be gay.
.... I simply don't find Diana Ross to be all that fabulous.9 -
Cutaway_Collar wrote: »
Let's do this!2 -
KrazyDaizy wrote: »Just because you don't agree with one's sexual preference (or political views or religion) doesn't mean you can't respect, love and have a personal relationship with them.
Political views/religion are world views that we choose and/or can change. Some of my friends were simply born gay...they can't simply choose to be straight.
Personally, I wouldn't have a "personal relationship" with someone who didn't "agree" with such a central aspect of who I am.
Maybe if they were immediate family, then I'd muscle through... But just for friends, there are enough people in the world, that I'd rather have my "personal relationships" be with people who don't "disagree" with how I was born. Just a personal preference though... I'm picky about who I'm close with.
Did I use the wrong words? Thanks for highlighting words you felt I said that offended you apparently. I didn't say anyone CHOSE to be gay, I would never say that nor do I believe that. I'm saying, people can be different and be friends. It's really as simple as that. If people choose to segregate themselves with people that only believe how they do then that's on them. I choose not to do that.
My philosophy: You do you, I'll do me.
I love all people except a#%holes. I don't like them.2
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