Unsupportive partners/spouses?

Presleykay22

I am dealing with this as we speak!

ninerbuff

The TRUTH of it is that many SO/partners don't really care about your journey. They don't want to join you nor change their own lives in order to accommodate change. To expect them to would be expecting too much. Sure you'd like them to be on board, but like many hobbies, it has to be something that person wants to do too. If not, then don't burden them with your needs. JUST GET IT DONE ON YOUR OWN. Whether you have support or not, it can't be an excuse. Everything begins and ends with you.

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fasterpssycat

My husband has always been naturally thin. He actually talks about wanting to put on weight. He doesn't make fun of me but he's also not really supportive or cheering me on. He thinks I'm fine the way I am and maybe a little incredulous that I'll stick to it. He does react positively when I tell him about a new milestone, but he really doesn't care and seems mostly put out that my healthy eating affects his dinner options since I'm not making two meals for each of us.

Truvanessa

Thanks for sharing your stories.

ajcrr0585

I could also use some support if anyone would like to talk!!!!!! Add me!!!

Annie831

My husband can be supportive most days but others not so much he's very sarcastic and at times does not think about the things he says or does, in his head he's just joking not a big deal, but to me it can be hurtful. I have learned to call him out on those things that I find hurtful right when he says or does something and point it out to him and he's getting better he truly did not mean to hurt my feelings and the only way he would know is when I told him. Communication is key here people if your​ so/ spouse continues after you tell them to stop than that's kind of a problem no one who is your partner should intentionally put you down but they won't stop until you tell them to. And they might not realize that what they are doing is hurting you. Good luck

vblair77

My husband is really great at pretending to be supportive. Like he'll talk the talk but he wont walk the walk. Sometimes its hard because I want to cook healthy meals and he wants pizza or burgers or some buffet place. We actually got into an argument over the weekend because he wanted a burger and I didnt...i told him to go get a burger and he refused to if I didnt go too. That is NOT supporting me. I went and got a chicken salad at the another place that doesnt sell burgers and he ordered something else there but I think it was mostly because he wanted me to pay for lunch, not becuase he decided the burger was a bad idea. It was just dumfounding to me that he would actually be mad at me because i wouldnt order a burger.

Truvanessa

Have a good weekend everyone.

eoakley92

angiejim0415 wrote: »

My husband is so sweet, but ever since we met, I've been telling him I was trying to eat healthy and lose weight. To this day he brings me home candy and sodas because he thinks he's doing something nice for me. I love that he's thinking about me, but I wish he'd bring me home an edible arrangement or a v8 or something instead. To top it off, the man LOVES junk food. So its a constant battle when were trying to compromise on what to eat.

This! My significant other has a crazy fast metabolism and eats whatever he wants without a second though. He always wants to take me out to eat or tries to order delivery food for the two of us. It's so sweet and thoughtful​ but it is frustrating when he picks places to eat where there aren't a lot of healthy options.

spiffychick85

Thank God my husband is supportive of my efforts....not only does he eat what I cook for dinner...he'll remind me of my goal if I reach for something off target. He is not naturally skinny but he respects my journey and will jump aboard when he feels ready.

Truvanessa

spiffychick85 wrote: »

Thank God my husband is supportive of my efforts....not only does he eat what I cook for dinner...he'll remind me of my goal if I reach for something off target. He is not naturally skinny but he respects my journey and will jump aboard when he feels ready.

That's awesome that your hubby is supportive.

Truvanessa

Happy Sunday everyone.

Truvanessa

Have a great day everyone!

ericad2012

I loved reading each of your comments!
Im a yoyo dieter, i have lost and gained a lot in the last couple of years in 2013 i lost 80lbs with the help of MFP. 2014 i had with my first child, then in 2016 i had my second child. Now im back to where I started and my husband is so unspportive. If I even mention loosing weight he is quick to tell me whatever im doing is totally wrong. Ita frustrating I dont have support, but I think im motivated to proove him wrong!
Goodluck to everyone!

BedsideTableKangaroo

ericad2012 wrote: »

I loved reading each of your comments!
Im a yoyo dieter, i have lost and gained a lot in the last couple of years in 2013 i lost 80lbs with the help of MFP. 2014 i had with my first child, then in 2016 i had my second child. Now im back to where I started and my husband is so unspportive. If I even mention loosing weight he is quick to tell me whatever im doing is totally wrong. Ita frustrating I dont have support, but I think im motivated to proove him wrong!
Goodluck to everyone!

i'm sorry. but keep at it and use whatever you can for motivation.

kclaar11

My hope is that things get better for those that do not get the support. I posted earlier in this thread about the lack of support my fiancee was giving me including projecting her unhappiness on to me. I have since talked to her about things and how I felt, and it has been a complete turnaround. She may not enjoy some of the foods I eat and worries about overdoing it, but she has since been super supportive including doing some workouts with me last night. Sometimes, it can get much better in a short amount of time. Keep up the hope!

Truvanessa

I know it can be discouraging when you don't have support from your spouse. I believe that sometimes you need to be selfish. Your health comes first. Go on this journey for you first! Hopefully in time, the support will come and maybe inspiration too.

Truvanessa

Happy Thursday everyone!

Truvanessa

Happy Friday!

grapaj

I'm switching up from 4 days a week to 5 and my spouse is looking at me like I've become obsessed.