Have you ever been "fit shamed"?
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why cant the term "fit shame" be used? If people make you feel bad about what you look like it is not shaming you?
How, if you are happy with yourself, or your efforts, can ANYONE ELSE, much less a stranger, make you feel bad about yourself? Are we really that dependent on what others think over what/how we feel about ourselves? WTF has happened to our self esteem?
Yes. I'm old, bald and "slightly" overweight. What else you got 'cause I really don't care. I'm doing good (and getting better) and like me. If you don't (like me) just go away, 'cause I really don't care.
I fully agree with you. However, how does me having good self-esteem make it ok for someone else to try and put me down?
It doesn't, why it bothers you (or some/most posting here) is the question.trigden1991 wrote: »why cant the term "fit shame" be used? If people make you feel bad about what you look like it is not shaming you?
How, if you are happy with yourself, or your efforts, can ANYONE ELSE, much less a stranger, make you feel bad about yourself? Are we really that dependent on what others think over what/how we feel about ourselves? WTF has happened to our self esteem?
Yes. I'm old, bald and "slightly" overweight. What else you got 'cause I really don't care. I'm doing good (and getting better) and like me. If you don't (like me) just go away, 'cause I really don't care.
Fat shaming is a thing.
The only person who can "shame" you is you. If you're happy with yourself, or your efforts at getting better, there can be no shame. If you are not happy with yourself or your efforts, you know what to do.
Because I'm human and being criticized for trying to look better be more healthy by people who are not, does eventually get to me. Also the absolute hypocrisy \of overweight people shouting about fat shaming while at the same time seeing nothing wrong with criticizing "fit" people bugs the hell out of me. Again, I'm human.
I get that it bothers you. Just how are you "shamed"?
How is anyone shamed? All I am saying is that if fat shaming is a thing then you cant say fit shaming cannot be a thing.1 -
I have, but I also somewhat deserve it because fitness (running) is such an important part of who I am, I wear it on my proverbial sleeve. Everything is subservient to the run.
Believe it or not, those of us who are radically adhered to this lifestyle are very much in the minority. Some people just don't know how to address that. Some think they're engaging in good natured ribbing, some might think they're being encouraging, and others just can't come to terms with something they can't understand. I just smile and say thanks.2 -
I have, but I also somewhat deserve it because fitness (running) is such an important part of who I am, I wear it on my proverbial sleeve. Everything is subservient to the run.
Believe it or not, those of us who are radically adhered to this lifestyle are very much in the minority. Some people just don't know how to address that. Some think they're engaging in good natured ribbing, some might think they're being encouraging, and others just can't come to terms with something they can't understand. I just smile and say thanks.
No-one deserves to be shamed. Your decision to put the run first is as much your lifestyle choice, and your right, as the next person's choice to sit one their couch.
Oh and an example of fit shaming would be telling a female weight lifter that she looks like a man. How on God's green Earth is that acceptable and why the hell should she just let it not bother her? Happened to a a friend of mine with a guy telling her this. Her reply was "well if you lifted weights you could look like a man too" lol
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I used to get a lot of comments about my weight loss that irritated me. Last March was when I reached my goal maintenance weight. However, I still ate healthy, ran, and worked out. When people saw me eating healthy food such as salads or fruit, they would tell me I'm going to waste away. When I'd talk about a race or workout I did, some would tell me I need to watch out or I'll get too skinny. I politely explained that I stopped losing weight a while ago and am simply maintaining my weight loss and healthy habits.
It did irritate me because I felt like they were putting me down, essentially questioining my intellect to know what I was doing, in order to feel better about their own bodies, bad food choices and lack of exercise. On the other hand, they may have been trying to compliment me but didn't realize how it was perceived by me.
There were just 3 or 4 people who said these things to me, but all said it multiple times.
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I can't remember ever getting actual criticism for my fitness-related behavior. At my old job, my boss would occasionally make sarcastic jokes, like, "Oh, JeepHair probably won't come to lunch with us, she always RUNS at lunch." But he wasn't being mean. He was generally supportive of me and would ask friendly questions about what I was training for, so that kind of occasional comment really wouldn't bother me. It was the same way we'd razz each other for all sorts of things.2
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People are work are mostly supportive because in our department, a little under half of us are into physical fitness. It's my family that doesn't quite get it. My little sisters and brother in particular are the worst. I have always been the largest one in the family..and teased all the time then too. My defense mechanism to them was to make fun of myself first so their words/opinions didn't bother me as much but in reality it would make me cry on the way home. I haven't seen them much since I started crossfit this past September so my weight loss will probably be surprising. My older sister had a much different reaction. At first she would tease me, even taunt me with unhealthy food right she knew I couldn't/wouldn't eat. She'd side eye me or roll her eyes when she'd hear someone compliment my progress. She didn't understand why I would wake up at 4am in the morning to get to the gym at 5am, why I would pass up beer/alcohol at parties or on nights out, or even go to bed at 9pm. Then it seemed a light switched and she jumped on board. Now, I try my best to support her as she starts out and be a positive motivator for her because I know sometimes that's all you need...an understanding of 'why' before the shamers quiet down, and even maybe sometimes follow suit!3
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Lazy, insecure people like to surround themselves with other lazy, insecure people. If they can't find any, they'll pick the closest person to try and drag down with them. I know it sucks, but try and pay no mind to the concern trolls.4
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I have, but I also somewhat deserve it because fitness (running) is such an important part of who I am, I wear it on my proverbial sleeve. Everything is subservient to the run.
Believe it or not, those of us who are radically adhered to this lifestyle are very much in the minority. Some people just don't know how to address that. Some think they're engaging in good natured ribbing, some might think they're being encouraging, and others just can't come to terms with something they can't understand. I just smile and say thanks.
No-one deserves to be shamed. Your decision to put the run first is as much your lifestyle choice, and your right, as the next person's choice to sit one their couch.
Oh and an example of fit shaming would be telling a female weight lifter that she looks like a man. How on God's green Earth is that acceptable and why the hell should she just let it not bother her? Happened to a a friend of mine with a guy telling her this. Her reply was "well if you lifted weights you could look like a man too" lol
Is that actual fit shaming or just plain bad manners?
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Therealobi1 wrote: »I have, but I also somewhat deserve it because fitness (running) is such an important part of who I am, I wear it on my proverbial sleeve. Everything is subservient to the run.
Believe it or not, those of us who are radically adhered to this lifestyle are very much in the minority. Some people just don't know how to address that. Some think they're engaging in good natured ribbing, some might think they're being encouraging, and others just can't come to terms with something they can't understand. I just smile and say thanks.
No-one deserves to be shamed. Your decision to put the run first is as much your lifestyle choice, and your right, as the next person's choice to sit one their couch.
Oh and an example of fit shaming would be telling a female weight lifter that she looks like a man. How on God's green Earth is that acceptable and why the hell should she just let it not bother her? Happened to a a friend of mine with a guy telling her this. Her reply was "well if you lifted weights you could look like a man too" lol
Is that actual fit shaming or just plain bad manners?
Both.2 -
Lol they mad as hell and feel intimidated and their inferiority complex kick in1
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