My story is different than most...

tootoop224

You came into the forum and said something that came across as elitist and "i'm a special snowflake, not like the rest of you."

You made a mistake. Own up to it. Calling everyone who took the statement that way a troll and telling them to run along just makes you look like more of an elitist special snowflake.

No, that's how you interpreted it possibly through the lens of your own experiences wIth people you percieve as elitist. As a mental health professional I saw it as a statement of otherness and alienation from someone who isn't sure she fits in anywhere. Nice job, people, extending a welcome to her.

And her telling those engaged in trollish behavior to take a hike didn't come across as elitist, it comes across as someone standing up for herself ... But for someone who has already decided she's elitist it adds weight to their preconception. It's called confirmation bias:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confirmation_bias

To those who "stood up" to this terrible newcomer in your midst, what did you gain from it?

:drinker:

tootoop224

There are just better ways to communicate. That's all. The snowflake gifs, for example, are NOT that way.

I like you!!!:drinker:

What316

What is wrong with some people why in the world would what that girl say make you so angry that you would have a go at her like that .jesus some small petty d@:ks on here sometimes which is a shame as there are lots and lots of good helpful people as well ,any who good luck with you're goals.

Ramberta

i think whenever someone comes in to a forum and says "ok so i'm actually different from the rest of you" it DOES sound somewhat elitist and the natural reaction from people is either "so what are you doing here" or "actually no, you aren't that special" Now add to that the very personal and difficult nature of weight and body image, and sorry but yes, a message like the one the OP posted is going to result in people "putting her in her place" so to speak.

MFP is a place where people come to get support. When someone of a healthy weight comes in and says "I'm different and I bet no one here understands me", well... lol yeah a girl like me who maxed out at 300 pounds isn't going to have as much sympathy as I would for someone of a healthy weight who says "I know I'm a healthy weight, but I'm just not happy, and I want to get fit"

Is it right? I can't say that. It is expected and pretty much basic human nature? yeah.

It's not 'basic human nature' to be rude to someone, period. I 'maxed out' at 300 pounds too and I would not consider OP's post elitist, so you and the rest of the snarks need to dial down the attitude.

twinsmom03

Wow.. what a bunch of nasty people!

This

bannedword

Gah. Not to beat a dead horse or anything.... BUT...

I asked how her story was different than anyone else's. And then I pointed out that she was just like everyone else, and frankly, average.

For that I got called "mean".

I don't know. I don't think there's anything mean about asking a question and then pointing out how much someone is JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE.

But what do I know? I'm clearly just a troll.

Ramberta

Gah. Not to beat a dead horse or anything.... BUT...

I asked how her story was different than anyone else's. And then I pointed out that she was just like everyone else, and frankly, average.

For that I got called "mean".

I don't know. I don't think there's anything mean about asking a question and then pointing out how much someone is JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE.

But what do I know? I'm clearly just a troll.

Wow, still defending yourself? You could have saved yourself all this drama and retaliation against you (which is no better than the snarky comments, I'm not going to place anyone on a pedestal here) by simply adding a "...but welcome to MFP!" to your initial post.

Deebautista

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