Ladies, be honest......why no replies?

I joined a few months ago and wrote a letter of intro and I received NO replies at all to it (beyond the default letter from the admin).....Also, I received no replies from the ladies (my age) that i wrote too either. My letter was simple and not too personal...just that i was looking for a pen-pal to go on this weight loss journey with.

I am a big, big guy, yes (360# 6.1) but this is a diet site site and that should be expected.

Is my picture too scary or ugly?

Did I not add enough info on my profile?

Please be honest and give me some advice on why I am being wall-flowered.

Thank`s

Neil
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  • RobTheGourmet
    RobTheGourmet Posts: 189 Member
    Hello!
  • collingmommy
    collingmommy Posts: 456 Member
    Not a lot of ppl do that. We add as friends, and that's the soppurt.
  • DancingMoosie
    DancingMoosie Posts: 8,619 Member
    Sorry you got no replies. My only answer would be that there are so many people joining and posting everyday that yours got lost in the shuffle.

    Welcome!
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,256 Member
    Sorry. You can keep trying but I know a lot of the ladies here are only looking for other ladies to for support.....me included.

    But what's wrong with MEN? There are a lot of guys on here too.
  • JennaBlu
    JennaBlu Posts: 24 Member
    I agree that it was lost in the shuffle. A catchy topic is sure to catch more views such as the one you just posted.
  • splitendswoman
    splitendswoman Posts: 41 Member
    Sorry to hear that you have no friends :( It's much more fun on here with friends, they are a great support for you on the tough days, and they keep you honest!. Feel free to add me as a friend. One thing I would say is though, you should really fill in your profile page, as there isn't really enough info on there, people like to know a bit about your goals and motivation for losing the weight - see if that helps.
  • JTutz
    JTutz Posts: 69 Member
    Have you considered joining any of the groups? There are so many & they're always welcoming new members.
  • Raclex
    Raclex Posts: 238
    I think that may be it... There isn't much information about you as a person. Some people have common interests which then makes it easier to befriend them. Boating, fishing, jogging, martial arts, cooking, vegetarianism, where you're from, etc... May help people find a common point with you.

    What your goals are, etc... You can also look at different people's profiles and see if there`s something you like about them. Perhaps they started where you started and you`d like to know how they got there? Or maybe someone is at the goal that you`d like to get too. Don`t give up! It`s nice to find friends that are of different backgrounds too.

    Give us more info about you as a person :wink:
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
    Sorry you're not having any luck. Check out the groups and see if there's a group that you'd be interested, that'd be the best way to get to know people.

    Welcome and good luck on your journey to a healthier you.
  • mckellipgirl
    mckellipgirl Posts: 63 Member
    I can only speak for myself in this. I only add women to my friends list. It keeps my comfort level up on the topics that I discuss. Sorry about that.
    There are plenty out there that will have both, and men that would add you as well.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    If people don't come to you, you got to go to the people.

    Instead of waiting for people to send you an FR, have you sent any FRs?
  • PlayerHatinDogooder
    PlayerHatinDogooder Posts: 1,018 Member
    Make more posts on the forums. Find like minded friends that share similar points of view and personalities.

    A lot of people (myself included) aren't into being collected.
  • KarenisPaleo
    KarenisPaleo Posts: 169 Member
    Fill out your About Me info, and start sending Friend Requests!!!!
  • Razzle_Red
    Razzle_Red Posts: 13
    I think it is the fact that most women want to partner with another woman.

    We lose weight differently.

    You should ask some guys.

    And, to be straight forward, this isn't a dating website and most women don't think of it that way.
  • cbirchett58
    cbirchett58 Posts: 20 Member
    I might get one or two replies when I post in the forums, but other people get tons. I've been wondering about that myself lately.
  • hep26000
    hep26000 Posts: 156 Member
    Friend Request Sent!!!
  • ziggyc
    ziggyc Posts: 191 Member
    Fill out your About Me info, and start sending Friend Requests!!!!

    yep, fill out your profile and then go join a few active groups.
  • sorry that happened to u hun...feel free to add me. id be happy to help with some support....my very first intro post also had not one reply lol......dont take it personal....;) i just joined again today so i could use some friends...have a great day!!!
  • mfpseven
    mfpseven Posts: 421 Member
    You might come off as too flirty with women, many of us are here to just get in shape or don't want men on our lists. Personally, I add people with like goals and body type/ages. I feel I can relate to the better and we have more in common.
  • Ang108
    Ang108 Posts: 1,711 Member
    You wonder if you did not add enough info to your profile .....but there is absolutely nothing in there......

    Apart from that I am sorry that you had a less than smooth beginning. I am also a relatively new member( April2013) and since I am older, I figured that that was the reason why people did not answer to my friend requests. I now have nine very supportive friends and I am ok with that.
    I hope your situation changes soon and you develop a supportive circle of friends. Good Luck !
  • wendyhas4angels
    wendyhas4angels Posts: 7 Member
    i have a cousin that would love to have a "pen pal" if you have facebook you can add me and i will get yall together!!! my name is wendy broerman harris!! good luck to you
  • ash8184
    ash8184 Posts: 701 Member
    You just got lost in the shuffle :)
  • Kittyvicious1
    Kittyvicious1 Posts: 190 Member
    I am an inverted person, I joined this website for myself, not really looking for any friends. I have a few "friends" but not like the ones I have outside the site.
    If you are looking for motivation, read the postings people post; they help but, the best encouragement and motivation comes from within yourself. Not having friends should not keep you from reaching your personal goals and living a healthy life.
  • nvpixie
    nvpixie Posts: 483 Member
    Sorry you got no replies. My only answer would be that there are so many people joining and posting everyday that yours got lost in the shuffle.

    Welcome!

    I agree with the above. I've started several threads and have gotten very few replies, then I'll see a similar post on the same topic later. There's a lot of posting going on here and some posts go overlooked.

    You're not scary at all, by the way. :happy:
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    get outta the intro forum and get into the main forums.
    there is lots of fun to be had in the chit chat fun and games section.

    post something up about doing a cleanse and draw people in...then drop the hammer that cleanses dont work and that you were just in it for the lulz.

    the friend requests will pour in. trust.
  • HealthyGinny
    HealthyGinny Posts: 821 Member
    Sorry you got no replies. My only answer would be that there are so many people joining and posting everyday that yours got lost in the shuffle.

    Welcome!

    Agreed. Although, I know some women prefer to have only female friends on here because they feel they're "in the same boat'. I don't care, personnally, but I can understand that. Anyway, welcome :)
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    You wonder if you did not add enough info to your profile .....but there is absolutely nothing in there......

    Apart from that I am sorry that you had a less than smooth beginning. I am also a relatively new member( April2013) and since I am older, I figured that that was the reason why people did not answer to my friend requests. I now have nine very supportive friends and I am ok with that.
    I hope your situation changes soon and you develop a supportive circle of friends. Good Luck !

    This. And why just ladies? It's not a dating site, although sometimes it may appear that way. Put some information about yourself in there so you don't look like you're just out to collect friends, and post in the forums to let people get to know you. And don't be creepy. :drinker:
  • gracielynn1011
    gracielynn1011 Posts: 726 Member
    I generally only add women as friends, unless the man is a group moderator of a group I've joined. I also don't try to collect a lot of friends. If I comment on someone's post here because we have similar goals, then we add as friends. If I don't add someone, it's not personal.
  • Lutah7
    Lutah7 Posts: 45
    If people don't come to you, you got to go to the people.

    Instead of waiting for people to send you an FR, have you sent any FRs?

    While I agree with this, this is also not easy. But I think you're right, and it's a good first place to start. Be pro-active. But again, that can be hard/scary. My acceptance of ANY friend on here or geographically "at home" has never been on looks, though it has indeed been on attitude. Happy to add you
  • chelseascounter
    chelseascounter Posts: 1,283 Member
    This isn't a dating site...... why only women?