Weight Sabotage's or Bridezilla?

MFPRat

It is not unusual to order the dresses 13 months out. They are ordered at the same time because the fabric for all of the dresses is dyed at the same time so they are all the same hue.

Go ahead and order and continue on your weight loss plan. Any skilled seamstress can take the dress in for you.

Don't worry about her and her temper tantrums between now and the wedding - there will be more. Brush them off as her nerves. There are so many little details she is thinking about.

If you want to, offer to help her out and make a binder of everything. Quotes for services, names addresses, phone numbers, etc. of vendors. Somewhere to keep all of the paperwork and information handy. Or maybe list the bridal shows that will be coming up and ask her if she is planning on attending, then make arrangements to go with her.

Margaux102819

Wow! she sounds like a real tyrant....I'd hate to grow up with her for a sister. Maybe there's some sort of under laden issues going on with her. I can't give any suggestions on how to talk it out.

Jtorres326

Simple....tell her to go f**k herself. As the wedding gets closer, her behavior is probably going to worsen. Seriously, what makes some women feel entitled to act this way because some poor schmuck lacked the good sense to run the hell away?

kr1stadee

Step 1: Purchase burlap potato sack
Step 2: Dye it blue to match
Step 3: Wear it with a rope belt
Step 4: Try it on for her the day before the wedding (whether you actually have the ugly dress or not)
Step 5: Watch bridezilla's head explode!

Tell her to kiss your ever-shrinking *kitten*. Seriously. I know it's "her day" but she's abusing it. I get it - everyone's dresses should be ordered at the same time to be sure they're all cut from the same color (one of my bridesmaids dresses was a hint darker than the rest but I was the only one who noticed, no biggie!), but jeez, a year before the wedding.. that's foolish!

Continue to lose weight (congrats by the way!!), and explain to her that your health is a priority to you, and if she is uncomfortable, she is more than welcome to have you replaced (I wouldn't stand in that wedding.. ick!)

If all else fails, pull the mom card and have her save you!

carakit

Sounds like she doesnt want you to look better than her, or steal her show. I say buy the dress in the size you are now it can always be altered. And continue to lose weight. Just because your sister is insecure doesnt mean you should stop trying to lose weight and live a healthier lifestyle. You go for it girl!!! Lose that weight and look fabulous!!!

Grace215lbs

Step 1: Purchase burlap potato sack
Step 2: Dye it blue to match
Step 3: Wear it with a rope belt
Step 4: Try it on for her the day before the wedding (whether you actually have the ugly dress or not)
Step 5: Watch bridezilla's head explode!

Tell her to kiss your ever-shrinking *kitten*. Seriously. I know it's "her day" but she's abusing it. I get it - everyone's dresses should be ordered at the same time to be sure they're all cut from the same color (one of my bridesmaids dresses was a hint darker than the rest but I was the only one who noticed, no biggie!), but jeez, a year before the wedding.. that's foolish!

Continue to lose weight (congrats by the way!!), and explain to her that your health is a priority to you, and if she is uncomfortable, she is more than welcome to have you replaced (I wouldn't stand in that wedding.. ick!)

If all else fails, pull the mom card and have her save you!

Haha loved this. It may make the dress look even nicer. My mums in her bad books for telling her to at least pick a dress that suits the bridesmaids bodies. (Mother use to design clothing) And that's when she replied with the well they're going to have to wear jackets, I don't want their boobs all out and about for the world to see.

Not that this dress shows any boob.. or many bridesmaid dresses for that matter. I may not need to even worry about any of this soon...we've already had 3 little "Wedding planning" meetings... first meeting 1 brides maid left during the meeting as she felt my sister was trying to make us look like c**p, 2nd meeting another didn't show up then pulled out. And the last one her last remaining friend didn't turn up (The maid of honor) and said don't care what you pick, do what ever.... after seeing the hair style my sister wants us to learn to do for our hair... So the bridesmaids seem to be leaving 1 by 1. I doubt she'll just post me up for it if i'm the last one.... I hope she doesn't o.o

alimarie53

Don't let someone else's wedding manage your life! If you want to get healthy then do it! You can always have the dress tailored to fit you later. Yes, it will be extra money... But it will at least stop your sister from complaining for the moment.

verdancyhime

Do what you said..... get the dress in your current size since you wont know exactly what size you will be when the wedding actually gets here. In any event, you would probably have to get the dress altered.

DONT let her bully you into staying the same weight. YOU are paying for the dress. Lose the weight, get the dress altered and look awesome. If she doesn't like it, tell her to find another bridesmaid.

THIS........^^^^^

This, but in my opinion anyone who asks someone to buy a $200 or more dress for the privilege of sharing their special emotional moment with them is a bridezilla. It's not my wedding, and I refuse to pay half a month's rent for a dress I will never wear again because you don't trust me to dress myself.

EasilyLed

Step 1: Purchase burlap potato sack
Step 2: Dye it blue to match
Step 3: Wear it with a rope belt
Step 4: Try it on for her the day before the wedding (whether you actually have the ugly dress or not)
Step 5: Watch bridezilla's head explode!

Brilliant! :laugh:

smantha32

And she went off the handles asking me why i cant wait until after her wedding to lose weight, telling me i'm stupid and it's a waste of time and money and i should just be happy that i get to be her bridesmaid.

bwahahahaha!

Is she always like this?I mean does she have a manipulative, egoistic personality or is she just off the deep end because of the wedding?
I see several options

1) give her the alternatives and stick to it
2) drop it.
3) say "yes" to everything, keep loosing weight and have the dress alterered before the wedding. Don't even tell her about it.

Depending on your family situation, I would probably opt for the third.
I was a bridesmaid once and I have to say never again. Too much drama and BS, not worth my time.

ETA: this:

DON'T let her bully you into staying the same weight. YOU are paying for the dress. Lose the weight, get the dress altered and look awesome. If she doesn't like it, tell her to find another bridesmaid.

She's always been like this. She'd tell my parents i'm not allowed to have certain clothing, shoes or go out ect. She would seriously argue with them. When I was 12 and I already had C cups and she grow up not even reaching a B in her mid 20's (Being 12 years older then me) She was still living at home and my mother mentioned needing to go bra shopping as the training bra tank tops weren't going to hold for much longer and my sister went into a total psycho tantrum about how she didn't get her first bra until she was 15 and it was unfair and that I should have to wait.

Accept I was a C cup and my breasts were being an uncomfortable problem. It's not like I was going to victoria's secrets to get a push up, padded lace bra...I just need some support so I could play netball without my boobs hurting. Good thing too as by 15, I was a 12DD. I guess that would be the issue with not showing cleavage. I'm sitting at a 32E now with a 76cm waist. It's noticeable in a bad way, though you'd think, she'd think that i'd surely lose some breast as I've got 55-60lbs to go.

But I really don't understand the concern or why there'd be any jealousy. She's an ex model, she's a typical 5'7 super thin, blonde, with a pretty face and i'm a 5'3 overweight dolly parton with a forehead the size of texas. There's really no competition. She's going to look amazing no matter what and she knows it. The bride always looks beautiful and they really have nothing to worry about. I'm down 30lbs and she's seen me at my healthiest which was 115lbs. So idk. Basically i'm going to drop another 6-8 sizes in the next 6 months. My weight loss will be completed a good half a year away from the wedding. So I really don't know what her problem is.

Well it's obvious that for whatever reason, she's seriously jealous of you.

Lalasharni

I would tell her that she should find another bridesmaid.
What a Brat.

TLCorsini

OMG!!! WTF I'm sorry but your sister sounds like a B! The only thing you need to say to her is this "I know this is important to you and I'm here to support you, now I need you to support me". I would tell her either I get the dress and size it close to the date, or I cant do it. That's realllllllllllly selfish of her!!! I can totally understand her wanting to get the dress' now even tho its 13 months out because it takes a long time to order the size you need and often times a style she might like now will usually be discontinued 13 months later, but there is absolutly no reason in hell to have it be the same size for the next 13 months. Bridezilla to the max! And honestly it kinda sounds like she might be a little jealous! She's getting married......in 13 months, which is way far off, but your doing something exciting NOW and she might want all the attention on herself for the next 13 months and not share the spotlight.

verdancyhime

And she went off the handles asking me why i cant wait until after her wedding to lose weight, telling me i'm stupid and it's a waste of time and money and i should just be happy that i get to be her bridesmaid.

bwahahahaha!

Is she always like this?I mean does she have a manipulative, egoistic personality or is she just off the deep end because of the wedding?
I see several options

1) give her the alternatives and stick to it
2) drop it.
3) say "yes" to everything, keep loosing weight and have the dress alterered before the wedding. Don't even tell her about it.

Depending on your family situation, I would probably opt for the third.
I was a bridesmaid once and I have to say never again. Too much drama and BS, not worth my time.

ETA: this:

DON'T let her bully you into staying the same weight. YOU are paying for the dress. Lose the weight, get the dress altered and look awesome. If she doesn't like it, tell her to find another bridesmaid.

She's always been like this. She'd tell my parents i'm not allowed to have certain clothing, shoes or go out ect. She would seriously argue with them. When I was 12 and I already had C cups and she grow up not even reaching a B in her mid 20's (Being 12 years older then me) She was still living at home and my mother mentioned needing to go bra shopping as the training bra tank tops weren't going to hold for much longer and my sister went into a total psycho tantrum about how she didn't get her first bra until she was 15 and it was unfair and that I should have to wait.

Accept I was a C cup and my breasts were being an uncomfortable problem. It's not like I was going to victoria's secrets to get a push up, padded lace bra...I just need some support so I could play netball without my boobs hurting. Good thing too as by 15, I was a 12DD. I guess that would be the issue with not showing cleavage. I'm sitting at a 32E now with a 76cm waist. It's noticeable in a bad way, though you'd think, she'd think that i'd surely lose some breast as I've got 55-60lbs to go.

But I really don't understand the concern or why there'd be any jealousy. She's an ex model, she's a typical 5'7 super thin, blonde, with a pretty face and i'm a 5'3 overweight dolly parton with a forehead the size of texas. There's really no competition. She's going to look amazing no matter what and she knows it. The bride always looks beautiful and they really have nothing to worry about. I'm down 30lbs and she's seen me at my healthiest which was 115lbs. So idk. Basically i'm going to drop another 6-8 sizes in the next 6 months. My weight loss will be completed a good half a year away from the wedding. So I really don't know what her problem is.

Yeah... As someone who is told I'm cute but will never believe it because even when I had a 38 waist I was still only a C cup, This is what you're not understanding. Our entire culture pushes large breasts in proportion to the rest of you as like, the most sexy thing EVER. Having small breasts really really gets to some women and even if I was supermodel gorgeous I'd still pretty much be worried everyone liked an otherwise average looking girl with DDs better.

But your sister is still being out of line crazy and you should do what you want. Just realize that as much whining as large breasted women do about back pain, difficulty finding bras, etc. Most flat chested women are just sitting there thinking the same things overweight or average sized american women think when a woman is in a store complaining that the store doesn't have something in a size extra small.

MyJourney1960

Bridezilla

( sorry but I didn't read all the replies)

I wouldn't buy the dress now . talk to the salon and explain your problem. Ask them what is the best thing to do because sometimes , deoending om how much weight you lise, your body changes radically and an alteration wouldn't work

Honestly? You are going to have to go thru 13 months of this. I would bow out