Have you ever been insulted about your weight loss?

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  • bdtyson77302
    bdtyson77302 Posts: 86 Member
    I've gotten the "you look a little sick" or "your face is starting to look old"..
    this is usually from a friend or family member..BUT on the positive side, strangers or acquaintances will usually compliment me. I don't really let it bother me. Being called too skinny is a compliment to me! lol
  • BigDnSW
    BigDnSW Posts: 641 Member
    Yeah, it's really rough for me to hear at my 55 year old bald head hippie self when playing music or doing a seminar on stress reduction (I do have 3 college degrees).... "Hey Big Sexy, you are lookin' goooooooooood!" Yeah, it really sucks. As I tell some of my clients, "Chill out...this is supposed to be fun."

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  • Boogage
    Boogage Posts: 739 Member
    I get the usual 'don't lose any more weight' from my mum. It made me upset and concerned at first but I've just chosen to ignore it. I'm shooting for a healthy weight and BMI for my height so whats the problem?

    She also keeps inviting me over for BBQ's and cooking me 4 sausages and 2 burgers and then handing me a bowl of ice cream and cake. I find it kinda insulting that she seems to feel the need to fatten me up again when I've been working really hard!
  • paulperryman
    paulperryman Posts: 839 Member
    Yup, someone else i was on the same journey with and he was doing a low carb diet and training like a made man but then having intentional binge fests which is the opposite to my approach, and he would criticize my way of doing it despite the facet i've lost more weight then him and haven't gained any during that time, also when i try to share what i've learned with some people, or if it seems i'm being overly restraint, i get the No you are doing it wrong . Really!!! i've lost 22Kg in 5 months and have toned up aswell and reduced my health risks considerably in just 5 months yet i'm doing it all wrong? Really!!! Really!!!

    I do obsess at times but towards my own actions not what other people do with themselves
    Still, I chalk it down to jealousy or lazyness to accept that what they are doing is not the only way.
  • NotThePest
    NotThePest Posts: 164
    What did people say to you?
    I've been told to not lose anymore weight, but I'm still considered overweight at 194lbs and I'm 5'8".



    Giiiiirrrrrrl, yep, yep, yep, I can fee you. Although I didn't begin my healty/fit journey on MFP, I got talked about, lied on and "insulted." I had aids, cancer, etc. when I began my journey Feb of 2006. Although I wasn't shooting for weight loss and was trying to get my type ii diabetes under control, aw well as the things that going along with having diabetes, six months into my journey, the claws came out. I was also cussed out by a former co-worker who I had a chance encounter:

    Her: OMG, Ramona how are you doing? You look wonderful.

    Me: I'm doing great, and thank you? What are you up to?

    Her: I work in the area and ...

    Me: Funny we haven't run into each other before.

    Her: So what are you doing to look so fabulous?

    Me: Began working out and then changed my eating habits ...(couldn't finish the sentence)

    Her: What the h@ll do you ..., witch with a "B" , ##$@$!, #$$%#*"&$, stuff.

    Me: (Shocked)


    But this stuff happened when I,

    1) When back to school,

    2) Got a zoning variance for my son to go to another school not in our neighborhood .

    3) Graduated College

    4) Began flying to the west coast to visit my son every two/three months. (New York City/Seattle Washington)

    The issue is with self-improvement and not really the weight loss or improved fitness. Folks have a relationship with the old you and now are angry that they have to find out who they are again based on the changed you.

    All change is confrontational, especially the change that is happening to someone other than them.
  • adorable_aly
    adorable_aly Posts: 398 Member
    I love that a lot of these comments pertain to people's mom's. mines exactly the same. No matter if I'm slim or fat, she always has something to say...
  • greypilgrimess
    greypilgrimess Posts: 353 Member
    I've not lost enough to have any negative comments about my appearance. But the rare times I mention my healthy eating plan my friends and family all say that I should be careful, don't starve myself, don't get ill, etc. I don't find it particularly helpful, but I appreciate they just care about me.
  • pkw58
    pkw58 Posts: 2,038 Member
    I think people say the darndest thing. I get the "are you going to keep eating goofy" from one of my favorite clients. I was staring down a huge salad with cold boiled shrimp, peppers, tomatoes, lettuce and radicshes. With a made from scratch vinegarette.

    Just becasue I don't eat bread or cheese with my salad doesn't make me a "goofy" eater.
  • M8R5on8ym
    M8R5on8ym Posts: 23 Member
    I got ... "Aw, are you sick? ... you look sick!". Hate that ... *kitten* off I lost 16 pounds working my *kitten* off, I didn't magically contract an illness that made me thinner. :explode:

    ROFLMAO
  • drojen
    drojen Posts: 203 Member
    I had a friend/coworker tell someone else when they asked her, that I only lost 20 pounds when in fact I'd lost 50. Not exactly an insult but still kind of pissed me off. Why can't you give me credit for all the weight i lost?
  • donnysoule
    donnysoule Posts: 1,185 Member
    I had a very good (female) friend that refused to acknowledge that I was losing weight.... When EVERYONE was shocked (I lost it fast, 40+ lbs in 5 months. Until I had dropped 4 pants sizes and gone from an XL shirt to a medium. At which time, the first time she ever acknowledged it was to say "you're too skinny".... Sometime ya just can't win.... And, I'm still pretty far from anything I'd call skinny
  • gigglybeth
    gigglybeth Posts: 365 Member
    About 7 years ago I did Weight Watchers and I lost about 50 pounds. Also, I have a butterfly lower back tattoo (don't judge). One of the other members said to me, "It's a good thing you lost weight. That butterfly was getting REALLY stretched out!!" I said, "Excuse me?" She said it again and this time added hand gestures for emphasis. "Your tattoo. The butterfly. It was getting HUGE!!" She genuinely thought she was complimenting me.

    The one I seem to get a lot that kills me is, "Well, you're tall, you can carry more weight." Gee thanks :-|
  • Pinkranger626
    Pinkranger626 Posts: 460 Member
    My favorites are
    "You don't know what it's like to be fat, you just don't understand" - ummm don't make that assumption since I was 50 lbs overweight and hated my body and myself in the past, I've just made the change and kept it.

    "You can eat whatever you want and not worry about it, you don't get it"- NO I CAN'T! As soon as I revert back to my old eating habits ( and yes it has happened even 8 years later) I start to put the weight back on just like you.

    "Oh, I thought you had an eating disorder you got so skinny"- This came from a coworker, I had worked there when I was in high school and moved away, then when I moved back home I got a job there again and was about 40 lbs. lighter then when I last saw her. Nope, no eating disorder, I just stopped eating Wendy's everyday and started weight training.

    My biggest find from my journey is that you can't assume that all thin people have been thin forever, you can't assume that all "fit" people didn't have to work very hard to get where they are, and you can't assume that all "fat" people are slobs or don't care. I know plenty of people that are overweight that are soooo much healthier than my thin friends. If I could wish anything on anyone I would wish understanding and health on them.
  • RunnerElizabeth
    RunnerElizabeth Posts: 1,091 Member
    I've noticed men are usually very positive about my weight loss. They tell me how great I look and that my husband better watch out. I let it be known that I don't have a husband.

    Women aren't so nice about it. They tell me I'm losing too much and I'm going to disappear. Some of them say I shouldn't have started diet and excercise to begin with. I was only 2 lbs away from over weight for my height and I had been gaining about 5 lbs a year since my daughter was born (she is 3 1/2). I just didn't see why I should wait until I was legitimately over weight before making healthy lifestyle changes. Crazy!
  • davemunger
    davemunger Posts: 1,139 Member
    As a guy I usually just get the "you don't need to lose more weight" comments, despite the fact that I'm just barely below "overweight" BMI. Even my target BMI is above the midpoint in the "healthy" BMI range. It's amazing how standards have changed in America, where what used to be average weight is now considered "too skinny."

    I remember the "can you pinch an inch" commercials for Special K cereal in the 1980s. When I started losing weight, I could pinch several inches, and now I can still pinch an inch. No question there is still weight to be lost.
  • bijouchocolat
    bijouchocolat Posts: 164 Member
    I was told that you didn't want to look as if you are experimenting with drugs. Another coworker expressed that "some people just were not built to be skinny" LOL
  • Escape_Artist
    Escape_Artist Posts: 1,155 Member
    Not insulted but just annoyed by people's comments.

    I mean they ask me my workout schedule to then b**ch about me lifting weight and how bulky I will get and how I should eat bread and pasta and not so much protein.. o_o


    *shrugs*
  • Matiara
    Matiara Posts: 377 Member
    I've heard "you must be starving yourself" and your too skinny !! A bunch of times. I'm 5'10 180...I mean really. I
    think it's because overweight has become the norm in our society.

    This is very true. I am 5'11, 184, 7lbs away from a healthy BMI and 30ish lbs from goal and I've been getting comments like this. Ridiculous. I've even been told to go see my doctor because I must be sick, "because eating healthy and exercise doesn't work..." :noway:

    Do we know the same people? Your stats and goals and goals are identical to mine. I'm currently a loose size 12 working my way back to a size 6, which is hardly wasting away.

    Whenever someone tells me that I don't need to exercise or eat right because, "you're so skinny already", I'm tempted to pull up my shirt to show them my 31" waist, pot belly, and back fat rolls. If they meant it in a complimentary way, I wouldn't mind, but it's usually in the tone of a passive aggressive dig. Like when I turn down treats at work and one of my coworkers says, "Oh, she doesn't eat cake (or cookies). Like they follow me around 24/7. I just roll my eyes and think of the ice cream that I have for dessert three nights a week.

    The best part is that I had a coworker who got lipo and a tummy tuck when she was on vacation and when she got back, the same people who criticize me for trying to get in shape the healthy way were oohing and ahhing and gushing over the changes in her. Sugery good. Exercise bad. Unbelievable.

    Thankfully, my mother is very supportive.
  • zrjp9
    zrjp9 Posts: 86 Member
    I started at 246, I am now 221, and trying for 205. A buddy that I seen for the first time in a few months asked if I had gotten sick. At first I was like oh my. But I thought it was funny anf took it as a compliment.
  • singingflutelady
    singingflutelady Posts: 8,736 Member
    People make comments implying I must be anorexic which isn't true. I am not underweight (My BMI is 19.0 so definitely above 18.5) and I didn't even lose that much (15lbs).
  • honey_bee_keysha
    honey_bee_keysha Posts: 773 Member
    I hear comments such as "You're too thin or you need to eat all the time." At 5'5 and 147 pounds I doubt I am too thin.
  • rushikareddy
    rushikareddy Posts: 604 Member
    People make comments implying I must be anorexic which isn't true. I am not underweight (My BMI is 19.0 so definitely above 18.5) and I didn't even lose that much (15lbs).
    I am getting the same kind of response from some people these days! And I am a 125 lbs! Lol can't see how that is anorexic! But then none of them ever told me that I needed to lose weight when I was fat and eating everything that's unhealthy, so I just ignore them now :-)
  • Naywifey07
    Naywifey07 Posts: 74 Member
    I wouldnt say insulted but a guy told me not to loose anymore weight.... Really I didnt think I was loosing any!! lol:smile:
  • sarrah_n
    sarrah_n Posts: 192 Member
    "You're going to have pancake boobs if you keep losing weight." Insulted... Yes!
  • LennyLifts
    LennyLifts Posts: 21
    You look sick, but i went from 250 to 180 and was skinny and saggy....

    At 177 and muscular its a lot different :)
  • mrshoneydew
    mrshoneydew Posts: 253
    I get similar comments like that from my family. My mom was upset because the other day I casually mentioned that I had lost some more weight, and she was like "You're still losing weight?? Don't lose any more! You are too small!". She is happy that I took charge and am trying to be more healthy, but she keeps saying I'm skinny and I don't need to lose any more weight.
    My husband gets freaked out about it too sometimes.
    I'm 5' 5" and 148 lbs. I'm doing ok!

    However, I do have some insight into why I think friends and family members might say things like that and show concern. They have been around us for a long time and are used to us being at a higher weight, So when that changes drastically, while a stranger who doesn't know us would consider us average or healthy looking, those people who are around us more aren't used to us looking that way so it scares them.
  • het100
    het100 Posts: 20 Member
    I was recently told by an old friend that "you looked more handsome when your face was fuller." People tell me all the time not to lose more weight. I don't take it as mean spirited. I think it comes more from their shock at my appearance at a healthy weight after being used to seeing me very overweight for so many years. I'm very often asked if I've lost the weight for the right reason, as if to ask in a polite way "are you dying?" I take that as a compliment!
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    When my mom told me not to get rid of my "fat pants" in case I needed them again. I know she didn't mean it in a bad way....but still :ohwell:
  • _Resolve_
    _Resolve_ Posts: 735 Member
    Some random guy at the gym asked me "How my recovery was going from weight loss surgery"

    Thanks for the concern, I didn't have surgery. I've been busting my *** here for 6 days a week for the past 7 months.
  • spfldpam
    spfldpam Posts: 738 Member
    Maybe not insulted but I have had friends ask me to not loose anymore weight which they know I am not trying to do now. One friend said I now look old! Ah...thanks! :( She has always seen me at 270 pounds as most people that know me have and I guess it is a big change to see me at under 130 pounds now. I have had people walk right past me and do not even recoginize me also.
    My Mom has also said I look to skinny but I am at a health BMI for my 5'4" height.

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