"Your a fat b****!".....

BIGGGMOMMMA

I need to vent please...

In 8 years of marriage he never told me that...We would fight but never said really hurtful things to each other. Why now? I've lost a lot of weight and inches. He's been acting shady for the past few months, talking on his cell, hiding his cell, acting distant, starting dumb fights. He's not cheating because were never apart but I suspect he's been talking to someone for sure. So today out of the blue he just left. We didn't even have a fight. He didn't take anything. I called him and he says he's never coming back. When I was trying to find out what the f was going on he says you're a fat b****!. F u and leave me alone. I have to say I'm still in shock. We have kids together and he left me with all the bills and I'm just like WHY? When I said what about the kids, the bills? He said that's your problem now. WTF I can't believe this is the same man I've loved for so long....

Stump_Likker

Wow... I am so sorry. I don't know what else to even say.

That blows my mind.

Amalthea_Rose

wow.. I'm so sorry ..

RonnieLodge

Holy *kitten*! That's terrible.

:frown:

RobTheGourmet

Wow..

TropicalFlowerz

I am so very sorry,....If I were you I would have a good cry,then get mad!! Damn Mad!,...and take this as a gift to your life! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL,& don't need that toxic retard in your life.. Focus on your kids,and take out the hurt and anger on WORKOUTS! The best revenge is to move forward..move on and look Fab while you do it!!! Best Wishes! Keep yo Head Mama!

BIGGGMOMMMA

I've never been through anything like this. I don't know whether to be pissed off, sad, or just I don't know....

whierd

Holy ****.

zyxst

Random guess: he thinks you got hot to get some action on the side? He's still a *kitten*, but try counseling if you want to sort this out.

auroranflash

Going through a bad breakup myself. Be glad he showed his true colors before he wasted any more years of your life. Let yourself grieve for a bit, CHANGE THE LOCKS and don't let that jerk back in. Your life will be more peaceful now. I'm hoping both of ours will.

If you want to message me we can trade evil ex stories

BeThatMiracle

This guy sounds like a grade A douche. You're gorgeous! He must be suffering from andropause or something.

edelique

wow i'm so sorry. you can pm me if you ever need someone to talk to.

CapnGordo

Do your children a favor and get your legal situation in order ASAP, in the hope that the dirt bag cannot escape his financial obligations to them. Good luck.

nmuwildcat

I am terribly sorry. I can't imagine how you feel.

I am not what the right thing to do is at this time. Can you possibly hire a lawyer or something? Or if you're feeling absolutely defeated, even seeing a therapist of some sort might help you out. Do you have any family or friends that you're close with? Have you told them yet? They may be able to offer you some comfort at this time.

PlayerHatinDogooder

Sounds like he did you a favor.

You and your kids don't need that kind of energy in your life.

lisaisso

good thoughts to you.
sounds like you're better off.
it's a shame your children have to be involved.
keep working on you, you did nothing wrong.

mestacy010

Because there are some men who are just pigs, my ex-hubby kind of did the same thing, but it was an actual affair... Then he calls me fat after I have lost weight... Hahaha he's just mad now, because Im attractive again and I don't need/want him

SoViLicious

I am very sorry.

First thing first...

Get your cash flow right.

Think with your head and not your heart.

Make sure you and your kids... Are ok.

Oh2BeMaintaining

I'm sorry that you going through this and I don't know your situation but if my DH told me that I would be at the bank first thing in the morning to empty any and all accounts and second on my list would be to change the locks so he couldn't come back and remove things from the house.

You are in a no win situation, protect yourself and your children from as much damage as you can.

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

oh honey... I was called every name under the sun. It hurts and isn't right. Do what's best for you and your kids. Move on. Be happy.

K_Serz

I've never been through anything like this. I don't know whether to be pissed off, sad, or just I don't know....

I am sorry as well, but sounds like the dude just snapped and lost it. Hopefully something else happened that was the straw that broke the camels back that caused him to just bolt like that. I hope its one of those things where it was done in haste and out of anger and realizes that running away isnt an answer.

If it is this way he is a coward and listen to SoViLicious

parys1

I'm so sorry. You must be reeling. Get your legal affairs in order, as was suggested, call someone in your circle of support, see to your children and don't forget to breathe.

sbetts2229

What an *kitten*....... dont know what else to say...that blows me away... Hoping for the best for you and your kids.... you deserve better!!

nomeejerome

oh my

cindylu1962

I've heard of lots of guys taking a hike after their wives lose weight. They don't know how to handle it so they handle it badly.
You will find a way. Remember you need to take care of yourself before you can take care of the kids. So keep moving and pretend you're stomping on him with every step!

VorJoshigan

I suspect he has a brain tumor.

megabyt23

Sounds like someone has become super insecure now that you've been losing weight and feeling more confident. He probably sees you feeling better and more independent/confident, and he feels like he doesn't have control anymore...Don't know the whole context of your relationship, but I would definitely not go after him...Easier said than done...but I'd leave him. Find someone better. You deserve it.

Nina1007

Geez, I'm so sorry this happened to you. But I hope it's as obvious to you as it is to everyone else, that HE is the problem, not you. I know it's scary to think that the last 8 years seems like a waste, but you have your kids and I suspect you wouldn't change that for the world, right. Stay strong girl, this too shall pass.

melb_alex

I need to vent please...

In 8 years of marriage he never told me that...We would fight but never said really hurtful things to each other. Why now? I've lost a lot of weight and inches. He's been acting shady for the past few months, talking on his cell, hiding his cell, acting distant, starting dumb fights. He's not cheating because were never apart but I suspect he's been talking to someone for sure. So today out of the blue he just left. We didn't even have a fight. He didn't take anything. I called him and he says he's never coming back. When I was trying to find out what the f was going on he says you're a fat b****!. F u and leave me alone. I have to say I'm still in shock. We have kids together and he left me with all the bills and I'm just like WHY? When I said what about the kids, the bills? He said that's your problem now. WTF I can't believe this is the same man I've loved for so long....

wow not worth your time babe I am so very sorry to hear that.

A wise girl once told me boys are not worth tears when someone broke my heart

I hope you get through this and always know you have your MFP family to rely on xc

megabyt23

I'm sorry that you going through this and I don't know your situation but if my DH told me that I would be at the bank first thing in the morning to empty any and all accounts and second on my list would be to change the locks so he couldn't come back and remove things from the house.

You are in a no win situation, protect yourself and your children from as much damage as you can.

This ^^ Do it before he does....

UsedToBeHusky

I am so sorry to hear this. Take this opportunity to make a fresh start and rebuild your life the way you want it to be. And don't let him shirk his responsibilities for your children!

Best of luck! :flowerforyou: