Do you think it's body shaming...

wunderkindking

Revolu7 wrote: »

I think people get offended too easily. If someone calls you skinny, many times its just an uninformed compliment from someone that doesnt know any better. And if they are trying to be an *kitten*, well so what, the world is full of them. What bothers me are people who fake how much it bothers them that they get called skinny....they just love to find a way to say they think they look good without "actually bragging" i like to mess with these types. If they say something like that i like to say, really? I dont see it.....or..... really? You were thin at one time? How long ago?

Accusing people of faking being bothered by things is kind of being an *kitten*. You know, the world's full of them but you don't need to be one of them.

And saying 'other people are too sensitive' is almost always another way of saying 'I don't care how I make other people feel' - so you know advertising that you're an *kitten*.

I've been 115lbs, I've been 190. I've had remarks on my big boobs. I've had remarks on my knobby knees and skinny legs. I've been told to eat a cheeseburger and I've been told to lay off the donuts. I've had remarks about just every aspect of my body and eating habits and frankly none of them felt good.

I mean I'm middle aged, have seen some crap and no longer give a crap about much of what people have to say. But the world being full of jerks doesn't mean we need to join them.

PaperDoll_

I wish someone would tell me to eat a cheeseburger and maybe a side of fries. 😋

ReenieHJ

GymGoddessGoals wrote: »

ReenieHJ wrote: »

GymGoddessGoals wrote: »

Calling and/or referencing someone as skinny is just as derogatory as calling someone fat.

I can see where it would be but from my viewpoint I always wanted to be called skinny instead of chubby, fatso, etc., etc. I guess it depends on our own individual perspective based on our experiences.

So by that logic, a "skinny" person doesnt get to be offended by judgemental/labeling comments because ....why?

Im of a petite athletic build. I havent always been. Ive been on the underweight and overweight sides both. I cringe when someone calls me skinny. Skinny has never been a polite thing to say. However it seems to be more acceptable than to call someone fat. WTF has the right to judge my body this way?

I never said a "skinny" person didn't have a right to be offended. It's just from my own point of view, growing up as an overweight child/teen/adult, all I received were comments and names centered around fat and chubby, thunder thighs, lard@$$, well....you know. So the thing I wanted most was to hear how skinny I was. Warped maybe, still unacceptable as far as labeling standards but I dreamed of being the opposite of what I was. That's all.
I don't know why people think they have a right to make remarks about others' physical appearances, other to say 'you look great' or something usually benign like that. But let's face it, people do.

ReenieHJ

glassyo wrote: »

I'm getting flashbacks to the should the person compliment an acquaintance at the gym thread.

Yep, me too.

tmanfive

Full disclosure…. I didn’t read every post.

It’s all media driven *kitten*, IMHO.

it’s whatever is being crammed down our throats at the moment. Same as anything else in life nowadays.

It should be about what’s healthy for an individual and, from a relationship perspective, what will foster a healthy relationship between him and her.

It used to be skin and bones was the measurement. Now, I’ll just say watch that Flamingo products commercial.

I’ll step down off this soapbox before I go into how people are douches and other thoughts that are along those lines.

Revolu7

wunderkindking wrote: »

Revolu7 wrote: »

I think people get offended too easily. If someone calls you skinny, many times its just an uninformed compliment from someone that doesnt know any better. And if they are trying to be an *kitten*, well so what, the world is full of them. What bothers me are people who fake how much it bothers them that they get called skinny....they just love to find a way to say they think they look good without "actually bragging" i like to mess with these types. If they say something like that i like to say, really? I dont see it.....or..... really? You were thin at one time? How long ago?

Accusing people of faking being bothered by things is kind of being an *kitten*. You know, the world's full of them but you don't need to be one of them.

And saying 'other people are too sensitive' is almost always another way of saying 'I don't care how I make other people feel' - so you know advertising that you're an *kitten*.

I've been 115lbs, I've been 190. I've had remarks on my big boobs. I've had remarks on my knobby knees and skinny legs. I've been told to eat a cheeseburger and I've been told to lay off the donuts. I've had remarks about just every aspect of my body and eating habits and frankly none of them felt good.

I mean I'm middle aged, have seen some crap and no longer give a crap about much of what people have to say. But the world being full of jerks doesn't mean we need to join them.

Its been my job for a very long time to help people with health and fitness. I know all about the struggles, and i i know all about the triumphs that really change lives. I am empathetic to all who fight the fight. But i personally deal with people that do it dishonestly. Most times not on purpose, but my success rate with breaking through to people did not come from allowing them to not be held accountable. I will not enable someone, i will do my best to do just the opposite. And sometimes its nort all sunshi e and rainbows, at least not to start. But reality has a way of making things better once you get used to it.

So to be clear, i spoke of nobody that i dont know. I speak of the vast anecdotal evidence of human behavior i have experienced helping people overcome....themselves, basically. Call me an *kitten*, they tend to call me friend.

Motorsheen

PaperDoll_ wrote: »

I wish someone would tell me to eat a cheeseburger and maybe a side of fries. 😋

You wouldn’t have to ask me twice.

Heck, I’d slap on some extra bacon just to ensure that everyone is happy....

Motorsheen

Y’all can call me anything you like.


..... just don’t call me late to dinner.

Motorsheen

glassyo

Motorsheen wrote: »

Stealing...

beagletracks

I have a really thin friend with an overactive thyroid and I kick myself every time I make an insensitive comment about how she doesn’t have to worry about being overweight.

I don’t know if a self-deprecating comment meant to convey my envy (and ostensibly praise her thinness) is body-shaming, but it’s kind of selfish and insensitive.

(Just a related thought; haven’t read entire thread)

JessD9031

beagletracks wrote: »

I don’t know if a self-deprecating comment meant to convey my envy (and ostensibly praise her thinness) is body-shaming, but it’s kind of selfish and insensitive.

Its not. And its not. Carry on.

jjpptt2

beagletracks wrote: »

I have a really thin friend with an overactive thyroid and I kick myself every time I make an insensitive comment about how she doesn’t have to worry about being overweight.

I don’t know if a self-deprecating comment meant to convey my envy (and ostensibly praise her thinness) is body-shaming, but it’s kind of selfish and insensitive.

(Just a related thought; haven’t read entire thread)

IMO, semantics matter.

It's body shaming if you intend for it to be condescending, insulting, judgmental, etc. If you're intent is good, then it might just be insensitive or narrow-minded.

IMO, you're aware of what you're saying and now it might be taken -- you're better off than most people are who give very little thought to what they are saying or how it's being taken.