WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2017
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Sue in WA - Hugs and prayers for a good out come and making the best decision for your health.
Janetr OKC0 -
Lanette: Your new pup is a cutie. I hope you get a good night's rest.
Michelle: I'm glad Jess won't lose her uterus. That is great news. She is lucky she has you to help her.
Sue in WA: Time to decide which MD to give your trust to, and follow their advice. I hope everything turns out well. It looks like you have a bit to do to get a good diagnosis and plan of action. I'll be sending good thoughts your way.
I went to the stable, worked with Arrow and ended up with a black and blue middle finger. I've been icing it and the color is now reddish purple rather than plain black, which is an improvement. I wonder what it will look like in the morning. Ice has been helping. I'm planning to take aspirin and head to bed.
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
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Emotionally drained today... Fixed French dip sandwiches, then promptly burnt the outdoor buns under the broiler! Couldn't even salvage them, so I quickly drove to the grocer's for another bag... I was doing a puzzle on my tablet, and didn't pay attention. I was doing something mindless, and well it felt nice, soon I just spaced out what was going on in the oven! Silly me!
Checked on Prudence, walked Annabelle before I had burnt part of the dinner. I think she has soiled the bathroom, and Annabelle tracked it all over her apartment. Prudence can't see stuff on the floor, or if she's missed some pills on her counter. My brain is telling me just flee, she isn't your responsibility. Of course I won't, but I can't be with her 24/7. My husband has already said that I am doing too much for her. I'm in a situation that I suppose many neighbors find themselves in.
Becca
Oregon
Thinking this would be a great place to read a great novel at! This is not my home, but a dream picture!
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Louise in Vegas – Don’t beat yourself up about gaining, personally I don’t weigh myself except at weigh-in every 2 weeks. I know my weight is going to vary. A lot depending on how much or little I exercise, eat, and/or drink. A Bloody Mary or Margarita the weekend before I weight isn’t a good idea and I know it, so I do it the weekend after weigh-in. I also go to be weighed at the same time and I wear as little as I can get by with and take off all jewelry except for my Medic Alert bracelet (which someone else has to take off me). I usually get in 12 – 14 cups of liquid during the day. Some days I just cannot force that much into my body; other days it seems like it isn’t enough.
Join in, because you never know when just one sentence will hit you between the eyes; like ‘oh, I never thought of that before … I know that I have read a lot of great encouragement, watched babies and fur babies grow. Seen flowers and landscapes that are very different from where I live. Using “I’s” doesn’t matter, we have all used them, some a lot more than others; but, that is ‘ok’ as well. We’re not here to judge you, listening and encouraging is what we try to do here.
For Allie – Vengeance isn’t yours to get; let God (and maybe even Karma) handle that. Make sure that you are somewhere ‘safe’ when T get served. I know when Trey got custody of Taylor, there was a notation on the ‘service copy’ for the Sheriff NOT to serve Taylor’s mother until Trey called and said they had her in their physical custody. She went ‘ballistic’. Basically, because she knew there was nothing she could do to stop it. They had temporary custody of her once she got served. They had even 'held' their breath while they went to TN for Spring Break during the prior week. If she had known what was about to occur, she might not have come back to GA.
Taylor was 14 and old enough to choose where she wanted to live. Jenn was an ‘excellent’ step-mother to her and Taylor loves her as if she is her mother. But, she hasn’t completely ‘locked’ the door on her mother; and, can get very touchy if Jenn says something about her mother. Egg Donor or incubator as she calls her. She’s lost all 3 of her children to their respective Daddies and hasn’t even attempted to do what she had been ordered to do when she lost the youngest one. Get your ‘fair’ share and move on and say that you ‘know you have done the right thing’. You are not alone, you have a huge group of women here that will talk it out with you. You go, girl!
Kerry – I also have epilepsy. I used to be told that I have a ‘seizure disorder’ but the new Neurologist I have had to go to is very blunt and when I asked him about it, he said, ‘yes, you have epilepsy'. For the most part Dilantin and Lamictal keeps my seizures at bay.
Joyce – Sorry to hear about your sister’s son’s wife. She’s too young to have that sort of health issues; but, some people don’t take care of themselves when they get the diagnosis of diabetes.
DJ – Sorry to hear of your friend’s passing. I think it just sometimes makes us think of our own mortality. But, from the day we are born, we are dying. Unfortunately, some at a much earlier age than others. I’m still reeling from the news of the suicide of a much loved friend from home. From the scuttlebutt; I heard that he called 911 before shooting himself. I think he wanted them to come find him before his wife could get to him.
They called her and she called his sister. But, also heard that he might have maybe gotten some information about his health, too.
Becca - I’m happy to hear that someone other than myself gets involved in something else while cooking. I cooked a ‘big’ pot of 15-bean soup; it was doing great; then, I got involved doing something and then when I went to stir it, realized it was burning and sticking to the bottom of the pot. When I tasted it, after stirring it, it tasted burnt. OMGoodness, I was so upset; because 15 minutes earlier it was tasting good.
I’m getting my porch finished … I hope. I just hope that Louis didn’t get Tyler’s Dad to come over to see what needed to be done, just to placate me. I won’t be happy about that.
I gather from what you’ve said (or not) that Prudence (a fitting name for an independent woman) doesn’t have family in the area. She really needs to try to get into an Assisted Living Facility or into a one floor condo where she won’t fall (or fall down the stairs) and have someone who can ‘check’ on her daily. I know that you are a big hearted woman; but, you also need to realize that she isn’t your responsibility; but, I do understand how, as a concerned neighbor, you probably feel. That is a difficult strand of thread to hang on to. I know that I would not want to have to make that decision and glad that my oldest sister was the one who took control over our mother’s situation because she lived the closest to her. My grandmother (Mimi) was about that age when she packed up and moved from Marietta down to where my parents lived. She made this decision when a friend of hers was mugged in her drive-way and all she could do was watch it, she had already gone inside and was watching for her to get in her car. She left her friends, her church, the home she had lived in for nearly 70 years and made a ‘new start’. Very independent. She walked everywhere. She’d walk even when people would stop and offer a ride, she was in good shape when she died in her early 90’s.
Lanette – Your ‘new’ baby is so cute!
Michele – I hope everything works out for Jess. Yeah, Mom to the rescue – she will need you, for sure.
Jenn and Trey buy meat there (when they aren’t eating venison). They say it is wonderful and what I have eaten, I would agree. I’ve gone with her and it looks good. Nice cuts and good prices if you are willing to buy that much at a time and cut it up for the freezer.
I’ve bought some ‘meals’ to eat during the middle of the day; because that is when Louis eats his big meal. Tonight I ate ½ of a sub sandwich I got at the grocery store.
Pip – I think you must be ‘hyper-active’ … you are ALWAYS on the move.
We’ve had a 3-month old baby die in Albany and the news surrounding it makes me think it might be a case of SIDS. My youngest son, might have been one; but, before I turned around to change his diaper to put him to bed, he had what the Pediatrician said was an akinetic seizure. He would usually scamper across the bed and down on the floor to get away from me; but, when I turned around he was in the same position I had laid him down in and his lips were turning blue. EMTs came; could not find anything wrong, we took him to ER; but, our Pediatrician was not ‘on call’ and they would not call the one who was unless they had admitted him. I was told to take him ‘home and watch him’. I sat in a chair by his bed with my hand on his back and fell asleep with my head on the rails. Louis came in and took over and as soon as I thought someone would be at the office I called and went to his office dressed in my gown and robe, he wanted to see him “NOW!” He’s given us a few scares as a baby; and, finally outgrew his seizures by the time he was 7. I had febrile seizures as a child as well. They determined that he had had a reaction to the 1st MMR vaccine he got; so he couldn’t get the 2nd one before going off to college. He had to write a letter for him to be able to go to college without getting it. So, I hope there isn’t an outbreak since so many people don’t get their kids vaccinated much because they think it causes Autism. I just pray that neither of my sons have the same sort of issues that I’ve had as an adult.
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I posted yesterday but can't find it now. Disappeared into thin air.
Allie - So proud of you! You can do this!
Lanette - Rosie is very cute. Congratulations on your new fur baby.
Michele - Jess is going to need her Mama.
DJ - I am so sorry for your loss.
I posted last night but I don't know what wrong because it has disappeared.
Goals
Eat less, move more.
Log faithfully
Get back on track with learning Italiano
Do something that make ME happy every day.
Declutter my desk/office.
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dj so sad to hear of your friends passing (((( )))))
Today there is a goodbye concert for my friend of 18! Years. Bittersweet event for me, i will get through it, I am happy for her, but sad (jealous perhaps) that I won't have her as a day to day colleague.
Food choices going well, going to have meal plan and exercise this weekend.
TGIF!!!! A chance to catch my breath.
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Good morning ladies
Rang my Travel Insurance Co yesterday prior to trip next week and they said until I hear from hospital re operation and am not on any medication then I'm ok. Wooh I expected to pay extra for cover.
LANETTE Rosie is gorgeous how could you resist
BECCA You are a wonderful neighbour but you are not responsible for her and need to look after yourself too
DJ sorry to hear about your friend so sad
ALLIE You are strong you can do this
This morning we have election results Hung Parliament so chaos reigns (sorry politics slap my wrist)
Going to do 45 min Leslie Sansone vid and some squats and KB workout
Kate UK
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Good Morning,
was emotionally exsausted yesterday afternoon.. and he comes in and starts in that he was blind sided and why couldnt we talk about this and instead of lawyers talk this out its only going to cost both of us alot of money..
he doesnt want to get served at work Sharon(his first wife and my dear friend) guess did that to him to , said it would be to embarrassing. I am having him served at work, but at his car when he gets out.. now I spoke with lawyers assistant and some companies dont allow that so he might be served here. they did a drive by yesterday so they know which car etc.. they are looking for..
He came in this morning and asked what I was going to do.. meaning one have him served and 2 if I will postpone the lawyer thing and go to mediation... and Nope to both said he will need to go to Florida in the next few months to get the title to the Camaro and sell it, I told him your the one who bought it, he says he has no money .. cant afford it... ohhhh well..
I will be taking my laptop, Ipad and lockbox with me, and stash the lockbox up at my brother and sister in laws.. and will just keep the laptop with me..
Now I did tell him yesterday this whole thing with the woman at work ,he said ohhh there is nothing going on, i just told him im tired and i am done.. took all my might to not say anything about the flowers, and concert and stuff.. so that is it today.. I am sure he will be more ticked off today as he will get served..
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Stay strong Allie we are with you in spirit every step you take. Stay strong, you can do this.
Dropped a little more weight due to being so busy this week! I didn't even think about it, but adding water (--64 oz) to my day is making a difference --or it could be the added steps I take back and forth to the bathroom!!
I would like to do something rewarding and meaningful to mark the end of this school year and my reaching maintenance. Something that doesn't cost money--and I think it will take me a little while to figure out what that will be.
One thing I know about maintenance is, I can't let my guard down about accountability to logging CICO, that is what makes the difference (Heather and Barbie know this and have written about it clearly. So that is the model and I inspiration I will follow.
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OK one political mention - hung parliament. Total chaos. Everything up in the air. I am hopeful.
Allie - You have done so well, but don't talk to him.
Sue - So sorry to hear about the health choices you have to make. :flowerforyou:
Today I watched one of the foals get up in the morning. It's legs wobbled and it decided it was much too early and went back to sleep. The mothers were patiently standing over them.
I woke up really early because I was keen to hear the election results. Then DH and I had a silly disagreement over politics. We do actually vote the same way. Then we exercised and a man came to give another quote about the garden work. I quite liked him and he is a bigger company. Seemed to know what he is doing. He's going to email a quote.
Last night I tried to book the apartment I liked in Hove for the first week in October. Unfortunately it was through airb&b and the registration process involves photographing photo I D. I wasn't really happy with that, nor sending a photo and linking to Facebook, so after I had registered I had second thoughts and cancelled my registration. DH was very suspicious of the process and of the cancellation policy. He didn't like it at all, so I felt better cancelling it. I found another, bigger apartment through TripAdvisor which is more expensive, but has two bedrooms and a comfortable sofa. For a week's stay I think that is better. So I've booked it. If we cancel we will lose the deposit, but the apartments seem to get very booked up well in advance. The owner gives a permit for free street parking. Should be fun and will stand in for our birthday holiday that we take every year.
Must get back to my memoir. :sad: Too much excitement!
Love Heather in the confused UK XXXXXXX3 -
Good morning everyone! Happy FRIDAY!!! Whoot! I am doing the dance this morning! I am on Challenge day 8 and up to 100 squats! It seems daunting; but once you begin them, you realize it is do-able. We got a light rain this morning (very light) so I am sprinkling as I write this, but at 10 minute intervals instead of 15. So...not walking in between sprinkler intervals.
Allie- So proud of you! Stick to your guns! Remember: A leopard can't change his spots! Tom seems to be a habitual cheater and liar. Nothing you do, will change that. Take care of yourself!
DJ So sorry to hear of your friend! Thinking of you and sending prayers and thoughts of peace and comfort!
Becca- You are a wonderful neighbor, but it sounds as if Prudence needs more help than you can/should provide. Does she have family that should be contacted? IF not, social services should be able to help her get the help she needs.
Heather- Politics all around the world seems to be very interesting lately. I would rather read about it than watch the news, though. DH and I have never voted the same. Reading online about things is much safer in my house than watching together on tv. (I have a hard time holding in my snorts of derision).
Welcome to all the newbies
Beth- Hang in there, girlie! Take it one day at a time. Try to take time to prep your healthier food options. An hour or two of that, will make your choices easier throughout the week. Keep your Egyptian Licorice tea on hand to stave off cravings for sweets!
Gotta fly and get ready for my kiddos! I will leave you with this pic of Senor Joaquin:
His daddy is a teacher, so is off for the summer and home with Joaquin. I guess this is what daddies do to have fun while baby is asleep!
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Becca - Is there a charity you could contact to get some advice? We have several big charities concerned with the elderly and they might be able to discuss options with you. Over here Social Services would be involved and carers coming in regularly. You should not be taking on that responsibility. At least ring a charity for advice. You might have to harden your heart and do what is best for her, even if she doesn't like it. Your husband is right in this instance.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
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Hi, all,
Allie, dear heart--I am SO proud of you for taking the steps necessary to finish things with Tom! Your strength was always there, you've just used it to care for others. I agree with Heather--stop talking to him. I think it was Lenora who said your anger has carried you this far--but it won't last forever. Tap into your strength. You have a very deep well of strength to draw from.
I'm sorry to get on my soapbox, but while revenge may be sweet, it's also acidic to your caring soul. It is not something you will be proud of later. Here's the key, honey--love and hate, revenge and caring are just different sides of the same coin. Any strong emotions mean you're emotionally involved with him, still, at very high levels. He's proved he doesn't care about you through infidelity, through profligate spending while keeping you on very short rations, through everything. What he was MOST worried about was his ego (don't serve me at work), his middle-aged crazy Camaro, his money, and anything and everything but losing you. I knew when you said he bought a Camaro that he was still fooling around, and lying about it. No man his age buys a muscle car without someone to show it off to... Especially one who says he's broke.
Of course, if he thought about you other than as some kind of speed bump, you would have never gone so far as to start proceedings. Please protect yourself and your future and just shut yourself away from him. Once he's served, his verbal brutality may well ramp up. Stay safe, keep checking in with us...
Sue in WA - hope there's good news when the scan is done. Thinking about you.
Lanette- Rosie's a cutie!
Becca - Heather gives good advice. It is not selfish of you to engage our social system to care for your neighbor. We all pay taxes so those safety nets will be in place.
KJ - love that picture! What a cutie!
Been reading all week, but busy-busy. Have gone to the gym and exercised every day so far this week, and will be headed to the gym this morning after the DH is up and gone. Just stopped listening to all my own excuses, I think. I am strongest when I focus on one thing at a time. Almost locked down into a routine for exercise, and just observing my food habits, when I eat, what I eat, when I crave sugar and salt the most. The exercise is keeping my weight stable, but I won't be able to outrun bad food choices for long.
To all the ones who recommended "Younger Next Year" and "Younger Next Year for Women," thank you! I picked up the "for women" version, and I have honestly never read anything that made more sense. It is what propelled me to being more faithful with the exercise. They provide a compelling case, and I'm probably going to pick up "Younger Next Year: The Exercise Program" next.
Welcome to all the new ones. You have found an amazing place to be listened to, supported, and if needed, get a boot in the rear to get back moving--although you may have to ask for the last!
Love y'all,
Lisa in West Texas
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Thanks .yes I will not really cancel those reservations as much as I would like to..I will take the high road..and he will get served this afternoon at work..so this weekend should be interesting... If he even starts in on me and starts yelling.i will call 911 I promise9
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DamitJanit wrote: »Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .
Good Evening My Dear Friends,
I just sat down to read posts but checked my email first. I had some sad news that a dear friend of 47 years passed away this morning. She was my next door neighbor in Milwaukee when we lived there years ago and we have kept in touch over the years. She has had a 9 year battle with cancer. It makes me very sad and I can’t even read posts right now but wanted to share with you as my dear friends. I’ll try to catch up tomorrow.
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
So sorry about your friend. (((Janet))
Becca sounds like social services need to be involved. They could help get her into the right place for her right now. Takes the burden off of you to make suggestions to her. It sounds like her needs are too great. It is great that you want to help. You will nave to set your limit on what you are willing to do.
Allie do you have a place you can go for a couple of days where Tom cannot find you. Be careful at work too he might try to confront you there. Tell coworkers and security at work he is not allowed to talk to you.
He will be mad and therefore unpredictable. You best action is to be proactive and out think him. You have all of us to help you with that. Stay safe and let the lawyers do the work. That is what they are paid for. Margaret 2 -
Katla I have many wonderful memories of trips to Mount Rushmore - I hope you get to go! And I hope your finger gets better, sounds like you might have broken a blood vessel? Concerning yoga, we have been doing yoga once a week as a new Jazzercise offering. I realize I need to do some yoga, probably daily. It is really hard. I admire your enthusiasm and persistence. I will take a page from your book and find some poses I can do when the going gets too tough. Thanks for that.
Margaret It's Friday! You're almost free!
Carey Northern Alberta Love the C.S. Lewis quote! Thanks for that!
Janetr Oh my gosh, Mia is ADORABLE! Chubby little thighs. So cute!
Mia in MI Hope you are recuperating well after the hematoma procedure.
Michelle Can't wait to see the dragonfly! One of my favorite creatures.
Becca Pretty fuschia! Glad your neighbor is OK. Was it a TIA?
Rimmy Chicagoland You are an inspiration! Concerning hunger with increased exercise, Premier Protein Shake is my go-to. It has 30g protein and quells hunger for a mere 160 calories.
Alexx These shakes also help with cravings. Especially if I follow it up with a cup of hot peppermint tea. Also sugarless gum helps. If I get past 20 minutes the craving often goes away. If cravings or 'food thinking' are really intense and undermining, Naltrexone (prescribed by your doctor if he/she is willing) helps some people. Originally used for narcotic addiction, it affects the portion of the brain that causes cravings.
Feliica Willamette Valley Oregon I hope you get to go to Disneyland. I went when I was a child and it was so big! Then 25 years later I took my son and it was so small! Perspective.
Dana I don't think you need a prescription for Sudafed in Arkansas unless you are from out-of-state. Just a photo ID and sign for it. You are limited to a certain amount per transaction. Maybe your doctor gave you a prescription because he thought it would make it easier (or cheaper) for you to get it. It's a schedule V drug in Arkansas. Your lunch looks fabulous! Yum!
Lanette LOL! I knew you wouldn't be able to resist! Rosie is the sweetest little soul. What a charmer! Congratulations on your new fur baby!
DJ My heart goes out to you on the loss of your friend. It's heartbreaking. I have friends from childhood who are close, some I have known over 50 years. I know it will be crushing to lose any of them. (((Hugs)))
Becca (later) Does Prudence have family you have notified about her decline? If not, you should call Adult Protective Services. Prudence sounds like an accident waiting to happen. Something is wrong. Your instincts are right. You can't be responsible for her - call in the reinforcements! You are a good friend and neighbor.
Heather Yay for the UK!
KJ Joaquin is stinkin' cute en moustache. Funny Daddy!
I am not retired. I have a couple more years to go. I want to qualify for a good Medicare supplemental insurance policy when I retire. This will help motivate me to be as healthy as I possibly can be so I can qualify for a preferred rate when the time comes. I can do this!
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Good Morning Ladies!
I am not working today. I have plenty to do around the house and will do it all at a relaxed pace. DH, with the dislocated shoulder, is running around with various errands. I happily just saw him out of the door. He should be gone for a couple of hours and I’ll be putting together a honey do list for his return. When we met he was the relaxed one but that has reversed now I am the relaxed one and he is hyper.
Going into the office was hard for me this week even though it was just two days.
I am sick of office gossip and politics especially from my co-workers in their 40s. So much drama for no gain. The women are so vicious especially to those that are contented with their lives. We all have issues that we are working through and I don’t understand why they have so much time to spend on other people’s issues when they could be working through their own. How can you give so much advise and counseling on someone else’s relationship when you’ve never had a stable relationship? What do you gain by putting someone else down when you are so miserable? It really tires me out listening to the garbage. I would work from home every day if I could. Such is office life….life is just too short and not promised. I want to spend my remaining days, however many there are, to enjoying it. 
Allie: You remain in my thoughts and prayers. Proceed with strength, grace, and dignity. Do what feels right for you. My first husband and I divorced after 16 years together. I was devastated and left with no income and two young children. It was difficult but I was so blessed shortly thereafter with a new career far exceeding his income and although I was never with an excess of money I was ok. He died leaving three ex-wives, very sick, and unhappy with what he had done with his life. I am now married to a wonderful man and am happy. We all know that being a girlfriend of a married man is very different from being a wife – lots of benefits with no commitment. Bless his heart, I imagine that the girlfriend will disappear when he goes looking for your “replacement”. I’m with Barbie, the goal is to divorce Tom, get your fair share, and move on to the happy life you are meant to have. The time for talking to him is over. Let the attorney handle it. Do let your co-workers and security at work know what is going on so that you are safe.
Becca: Sending hugs........do try to get Social Services involved for your neighbor.
Tere in RVA
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Allie- why are you still living with him? You two should not be living together at this point! It is him who should be kicked out of your house for being the cheater. You should ask your lawyer to draw up papers for this. While he is at work today I would get a suitcase full of his stuff and stick it out on the porch or by the front driveway and have the locks changed on the doors. I would get a restraining order against him for the verbal and mental abuse. It may not be evident to you but as an outsider Tom is going to definitely lie to you, try to get you to change your mind, and still Cheat on you!! Because, that is exactly what he has been doing since the last time you did this.
Oh, and he is also going to make you feel sorry for him because you are such a good person! You know that he has always been able to manipulate you. You have gotten a lot stronger but he is a weasel! I believe that communication all communication between the two of you needs to stop in only go between your attorneys. From what you said he's already tried to manipulate you and make you feel sorry for him when in reality everyone here can see that he feels he's making all the money and he should be the only one spending all the money in his mind2 -
Love the pictures of babies, pastoral setting with the horses, Rosie, food, flowers, etc. Please keep them coming!
Alison ~ I agree with Barbie that perhaps you should try to be gone over the weekend and not listen to T's sudden interest in mediation.
DJ ~ So sorry for the loss of you friend of so many years.
Becca ~ My heart goes out to you as you try to be there for your next door neighbor. It is a bad position for you to be in. I hope there are relatives somewhere who can help you figure out how to best help her. If she is like most elderly independent folks, she cannot be convinced that she is not able to care solely for herself. When we had to put my mom in the nursing home, she was never convinced that she couldn't go back home and take care of herself.
Good thoughts and prayers for all who are having life problems.
Carol in GA
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grandmallie wrote: »Thanks .yes I will not really cancel those reservations as much as I would like to..I will take the high road..and he will get served this afternoon at work..so this weekend should be interesting... If he even starts in on me and starts yelling.i will call 911 I promise
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DJ - Sending big (((HUGS))) I know how much I love my old friends. Woman friends are so mega important to some of us.
Election chaos is calming down now the first shock is over. We will see how it all turns out, especially with regard to Brexit negotiations. Interesting times.
We had the other estate agent knocking on the door again. His clients have sold and are desperate to buy ours, but they didn't get a high enough price for theirs to pay our price. Was there any room for negotiation? NO, NOT A CHANCE! It gets to be something when they have to come knocking! :laugh: It must be hard times for estate agents! He will lose the other sale if they can't buy ours. They only want our house - for the views!
Going to have some Prosecco tonight with my Monkfish Tandoori Kebabs. Yum! It is Friday night and we have something to celebrate. Oooops no politics!
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Allie- abusers pick people that they can abuse. Staying in the house with him and allowing him to yell and try to manipulate you is abuse. Don't let yourself be a victim. You need to get out of that cycle. One of you needs to leave that house. If you know in your heart that he won't then you need to pack up your bags and go over to your friends house. Before he gets served and before he gets home.2
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Karen in NY – Once your body gets used to the ‘extra’ water; you won’t be trotting to the bathroom all the times. I know when I have a UTI, besides drinking more water; I am supposed to go sit on the toilet every 10 minutes, whether I ‘think I need to pee, or not’. I thought my GYN had gone crazy; but, it was surprising how quickly I was flushing through the infection.
KJ – Cute picture of Joaquin with his mustache. I can remember taking pictures of my granddaughters with huge red wax lips, and Louis as well when they were taking naps.
Allie – I’d serve him wherever, why worry about HIS embarrassment; might do him some good. LOL! He’s not broke; he is shifting assets to keep you from getting any of them. Make sure you tell your attorney he has bought a ‘crisis car’. If he was talking about going to FL to 'pick up the title', then, that shows you that he probably 'owns' the car outright. If that is the case, that is hiding assets. What would really be funny is if the Judge is aware of his buying the 'crisis car', that you the car and made sure that it was, indeed, paid for or has to continue paying for it or be held 'in contempt' if he doesn't. His going to FL might be to actually attempt to transfer the deed to the house to someone else. Personally, as much as he seems to 'love' that place, in FL, I'd be going after 'that' piece of property rather than the house you live in, which can turn into a 'money pit' for you. You've also got friends down there, too, so use what he does against him; don’t fall for his lies. If the Judge finds out he has hidden assets; that won’t go over well with him/her. He might really find himself ‘broke’/’broken’ and wonder why, too.
He thinks he can do as he has always done; I would make sure that I had a safe place to be before he gets served with papers. IF he has any guns in the house; I’d move them away from the house. Having the Sheriff serve him, at work, is probably better than having him served at home, then ‘trying’ to call 911. Police 'hate' when they get called on a 'domestic altercation' because it is probably one of the most 'unpredictable' call they ever got called on for. I would not worry if he is embarrassed either. He would probably jerk the phone out of your hands. You don’t want him to ‘hold you against your will’. Gee, I probably would have named the ‘other woman’ as co-defendant and have her served at work, too. Then everybody at the office would know what he is up to; but, it might be too late to do that. She might drop him like a hot potato, if she thinks she is going to be dragged into the fray. Would serve him right. Just don’t be there when he gets home; leave early for your concert and don’t be home when he storms in. Leave his belonging in a box at the end of the driveway, so that he would 'have' to get 'out of his car to move it'. I hope you got a temporary restraining order and that it ordered him 'out of the house'. For your protection, find and set up a 'safe' place to go to.
While you might feel like you are being lambasted by the information we are giving you, this has been going on more than a year, it is 'time' to get out and move on with your life. It is not necessary for a woman to 'have a man' to be a 'fulfilled woman'. You are strong enough to handle this no matter how difficult T makes it on you. You've got the 'law' on your side and you are now the one 'in control' ... don't let him even get a finger inside, he is GONE, GONE, GONE! LOL!!!!!
Heather – My DOGD sent a picture on FB of a place in the UK that serves this ‘off the charts soft ice cream’. Looks like it would be loaded with calories; but, I also asked if she remembered the hamburger on a Krispy Kreme doughnut as a bun that she ordered. She ate the entire thing, I was sitting by her about to ‘toss my cookies’. YUCK!
I think just about everything even remotely political is going to be ‘interesting’ to say the least. We've never had to the 'protests' and 'looting', 'burning', or anything like we're having here in the USA after the election of a 'new' POTUS. Didn't have it when Obama was elected.
Lenora
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Stronglift Workout B
Squats-1X5X 55/65, 5X5X 75
OHP- 1X5X 45, 5X5X 50
DL- 15X 115
Kettlebell Swing
GobletSquats- 3X5X35
Russian Kettlebell Swing- 10X7X35
June move your @$$ Challenge
I am going to take a couple of 2 mile walks today.
Mary from Minnesota3 -
Good morning all. Golf cancelled due to rain. : (. Think i I will clean my guest bedroom.
DJ - so sorry you lost your dear friend.
Allie-(((((HUGS)))))).
Better get busy.
SueBDew in TX3 -
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Tracy: Welcome to the group! It is a great place to find support and motivation!
Alexx: Thanks for the book recommendation. I shall try to find it.
Allie: Glad things are finally in motion; stay strong and safe!
Dana: Glad you are feeling better.
Kerry: Welcome to the group! It is a super supportive group of amazing women!
Michele: Glad your daughter will get to keep her uterus. That is really important for a woman her age.
DJ: Sorry about your friend!
Sue in WA: I think I would see the cardiologist, otherwise you might worry about it.
Becca: Love the reading nook; I could spend hours there.
NYKaren: Congratulations on the weight loss!
Heather: Many airbnb owners also advertise their rentals via booking.com. Next time if you see an airbnb place you like, you might check there.
KJ: Joaquin's photo is cute, cute, cute!
My youngest son turned 29 today; how time flies. It seems only yesterday when the boys were small.
Wishing everyone a lovely weekend!
Leigh in France2 -
Thanks ladies,it is my home and I will not leave..that could backfire on me later on.he tries anything I call 911.3
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Hi ladies,
Made it to Prescott without any binge eating on the road!
So far, I have walked .6 mile - I waited too long to go and worry it's too hot for my dog's feet. Will work on getting in more later. It's amazing how I can work in extra steps here and there when being mindful.
Lenora - thanks for the tips!
Allie - hang in there! I'm thinking of you - you are taking care of yourself!
Have a great day! I'll be reading posts for inspiration later.
Louise in Vegas0 -
Hi Everyone.. I am new here..I turn 50 in November. I have Neuropathy in my legs and am a cancer survivor.I find tracking my calories and trying to keep active each day has helped me alot.I hope everyone is having a nice day. 6
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