WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2017
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well my DD just posted that she and Taliah's father are engaged... Uggggh I love my daughter and grandaughter .. but he is a thug.. he did propose to her in central park... they all went down for the day yesterday..
I cant say I am Happy for her, but will help with what I need to..3 -
Can I join your group? I have 15lbs to go and I have been struggling for quite some time. I need help and support.
I am 63 years old, love to line dance (3-4 times a week), walk a bit (but not enough) and I am not very good at tracking.
Reading the posts here is giving me motivation to change my ways!
Goals for the rest of this month:
Track every day (even if it's not good)
Increase exercise by walking extra blocks home after my daily coffee with my gal pals.
Jenn from beautiful BC, Canada4 -
Allie – Yes, I am going to be VERY vocal here, only because I have seen a LOT of things dealing with domestic cases. I agree with Beth, that a silent TomCat is not a safe TomCat. Sounds like he is getting desperate; and, desperate men do desperate things. Sometimes they get more abusive or start being physically abusive. We even had a client who, rather than lose things to his wife, did the most desperate thing you could ever imagine. Murder and Suicide - we never saw that coming because he was so calm otherwise; he just snapped!. Just be safe and if you have to ‘call 9-1-1’. If he talked to an attorney; he might have found out that what you are asking or demanding to get is what the court would probably award you under the circumstances. Be very strong in what you want, and, especially about the things you want to take from him. Believe in your attorney and her abilities to see through any ‘con’ that TomCat has tried to pull over your eyes. Especially, if TomCat has been overly ‘vocal’ in the past. I’d hide any guns in the house; or better yet, give them to your attorney for ‘safe keeping’. Then tell him, he’ll get them back when the Settlement Agreement and Decree have been agreed to and taken. Let the attorneys do the work, that’s what they are getting paid to do. Do NOT under any set of circumstances agree to use the same attorney – you cannot have the attorney be fair to you if you are not paying her, he will have the advance and if it gets really messy you might lose out on having the ‘best’ of attorneys. Tell him that he ‘must’ have his own. So what if it costs him. You can always ‘ask’ that your attorney’s fees be ‘paid’ or ‘reimbursed’ to you. BULL$#*T with him staying there – go for the FL home because that is what he wants most. Don’t keep the house up there, it will turn out to be a “Money Pit” with all the stuff that has to be done to keep a house up with the weather up there. Why in Heaven’s name would you allow him to ‘stay there once you are divorced’? Having him coming and going and knowing ‘where and why’ will only ‘eat at you’ and you will be miserable. Why give him the FL home without a good fight over it. Sounds like he will have a year of making you totally miserable as he is already doing. Get his sorry @$$ out of the house ASAP. Then make it so that he cannot keep the house in FL (which I think I remember you saying it was paid for). IF necessary demand that all assets be sold and all assets divided. Just IMHO. But, you are, I’m sure, going to do as you please, regardless of what any of us say.
I want to ‘kick him’ a little further up than the shins. He is going to press you into doing something that will NOT be in YOUR BEST interest. Do NOT sign anything that you have not taken to your attorney first; and, then make copies of it. He will wear you down in a lot more ways than one. He has already proven that. You can get ‘temporary things that would be set out in the complaint you have had him served with' … you can amend it to have him have to leave the house and make the payments on it. He'd be a 'fool' to NOT pay the mortgage, he would only cut his own throat and the payments on it thus far would be lost. In other words, he isn't going to let it go into 'foreclosure'. He has a girlfriend that he can go ‘stay with’. So it isn’t like he has to make a mortgage payment AND pay rent on an apartment. IF he asks you ‘why’ tell him it is because he has a ‘girlfriend he can go stay with, you are NOT going to continue to being ‘maid and cook’ or have to constantly have to listen to his verbal abuse. I’d say that I was ‘fearful’ of him, and you should be. I
Michele, DamitJanit, and DJ – I had resistant bands, and over-the-door pully; but, sent them to my DBnL after he got home from having his stroke in Miami to help with some exercises and told him to ask his PT and OT if he could use them.
Leigh – Our insurance on house is on an installment plan with our insurance company; but, we have to come up with the property taxes which run about $1700 on the house and 90+ acres.
We go to Bonefish Grill every time we get together in Daytona. Service and food has always been good; but, being a chain restaurant, I am sure that not all of them are always good. This last year we went to a ‘really’ fancy restaurant … two waiters, linen napkins, linen table cloth, and meals brought out one by one. We all ordered something different and passed our plates around for everybody else to have a bite or two; then, they came back to us. Coffee and dessert to ‘kill for’. Louis got sick before we left and by the time we got home he was somewhat better; but, refused to let the men take him to the ER. He now has a DVD that his Urologist has given him to watch. So far, he hasn’t. I’m going to watch it with him. I told him that his MD would NOT have given it to him if he thought that it might be something that would have to be done in case of an emergency. That might entail having them admit him into the hospital (mainly because of his age).
Pip and Becca – I also type very fast. Don’t have to ‘hunt and peck’. Can type without looking at my hands.
Carol – Glad your brother is out of the hospital. Are they going to have to do a surgical implant of a pacemaker?
Dana – When we are planning on eating out or grilling out (like today to celebrate DOS’ birthday … I only eat breakfast and my nightly ‘snack’. That way I don’t go over my daily intake of calories, at least not by much.
Joyce – I did sing in the choir in HS; not so much opportunity anywhere else. Sing it in Mass when we go. I don’t worry about it there. I just wish I could sing and hit the ‘high’ notes and hold them for a long time. I guess that is why we watch “The Voice” … so many great singers on it, so much talent … it has to be a close call on any of them.
Heather – What a beautiful gift she gave y’all. I agree, such a nice way to remember her for years. I have a funny story about kids screaming all around, maybe if I haven’t deleted it I will post a copy of it; if not I will try to recreate the gist of it.
It just started raining again, and Louis hasn't stopped mowing yet. Surely, he will soon.
Lenora3 -
Temperature is supposed to be 11 degrees today. Blast furnaces are more comfortable... But the art show is at 4 pm. The owner of the coffee shop has already today me she wants one of mine ... Flattering. Have six paintings in the show. Fingers crossed!
Love y'all,
Lisa in West Texas2 -
Lenora~ Dont you worry Ol Allie ,will not back down.. I will get what I want and I trust my attorney will get it for me.. I have put up with enough you know what that. after 20 yrs and taking all sorts of stuff.. I WILL get what I want...and go on to enjoy the rest of my life... believe me .. if he starts anything my phone will have 911 on speed dial..2
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Oh my! Just had the most lovely and delicious Spanish stew outdoors in our beautiful garden, with red wine. Watched the horse mothers and their foals whickering to each other and the birds that are nesting in our nest boxes collecting seeds from our feeders. A perfect evening with the perfect company - my DH.
It is so rare that it is warm enough to eat outside in the evening. We often did in London, where the temperature is 5° higher, but in the countryside it's usually too cold once the sun has gone down. Not today. Perfect.
Living here gives us the perfect opportunity to observe animal life. I have amazed at and humbled by the wonderful mothering that the mares are giving their foals, right outside my windows. And I can watch the birds all day long. Plus a squirrel, a rabbit, a badger and a fox.
Blessed.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx4 -
Louis is going to 'grill out' sausage that he and DOS bought yesterday; cooking red beans and rice, and have some red potato salad. That should be enough and good, too. On weekends and sometimes during the week I only eat 2 meals and make them count. Usually eat my big meal of the day about 2:00pm. It rained early and will probably rain some later on.
I guess Trey and Jenn and the girls went over to some friends' house to celebrate Trey's birthday which was yesterday. I called him about 10 minutes before 5 and told him I was wishing him a Happy Birthday a little early; he did not come until 5:31pm ... he was happy to remain 40 for that bit of time. LOL!
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Kim in N Cal, we had the nicest neighbors to the side of us. The rental house butted up to a bike trail, so we had no people looking down on us. So I would be out sunning, and dear Nadine would yell over the fence, "are ya nude"! I would answer as quietly as I could, " why yes Nadine I am". She grew great tomatoes so I did a lot of bargaining with her!
Becca4 -
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My profile picture is from 5 years ago when I had lost 80 lbs and felt better than I had in forever.
Here I sit now a few months after my 50th birthday and after a year filled with trauma, stress, and an emotional roller coaster having gained every bit of that 80 lbs back. I am disappointed with myself. 1 year ago my then boyfriend, now husband, was ran over by a cement mixer and drug 38 feet, breaking 21 bones. Thank God he survived although he has lifelong limitations now. But we spent 3 1/2 weeks in the hospital, 5 1/2 weeks at a rehab hospital, 2 additional hospital stays, 5 surgeries, weeks of PT, living here and there due to his limitations. It has taken a toll and it was easier and faster to eat on the run or to eat whatever was available, quick and easy. Not to mention there was no exercise going on. These are not excuses because I should have tried harder, but I didn't and now I am paying for it. I feel like crap most of the time. I have no energy. My blood pressure a few weeks ago was 189/113 so the doctor has put me back on BP meds (haven't taken for 15 years). I have to get back on track. My issue is that I need accountability to stay on track. Myfitnesspal helped me with that last time, and I am hoping it will again.6 -
Hello, Groovy Gals!
Thank you all for your kind words. I have been in a "Meh" kind of place. Not really depressed - but not really enthusiastic about the whole weight loss process, either. I just couldn't understand why - the moment I got back from my Mom's house - I puffed up - and have not un-puffed in like a month.
Well - I puffed up a little just on general principle - too much sodium, not enough sleep. But I had that Forehead Smack moment the other day when I realized why I have not yet UN-puffed.
My knee Doc got me approved for the gel shots in my knee - and I have had a shot each week for the last two. Well, DUH - the gel is what is different - and why my legs are visibly swollen up. I am HOPING that once I get the final shot and everything "settles" that the puff will go away.
The Gel does seem to be helping, by the way... I have a lot less incidents of pain and crunchiness in the knee that is getting the shots - so that is good news. Even with PT, I was still having a lot of pain whenever I stood for a long time, or did a lot of unusual activity - but, I am having a lot less of that with the gel. I guess I am one of the 62% for whom the shots work.
So, that is great. And it also occurred to me that part of my lack of enthusiasm in the whole process is because I have not been on the forums - reading all the success stories and keeping up with my peeps. I mean it's hard to be down when you see people doing positive things and taking control of their lives on a daily basis.
So, I have been trying to carve out an hour here and there to check in, at MFP. We will see if I can get my Mojo back.
Thankfully, the exercise and logging are habits - and I have made a conscious effort NOT to break them - so, I haven't fallen off the wagon.
So, again, thank you, Ladies - for being your wonderful selves - and for coming to get me when I didn't show up for a while.
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Michele - what kind of workout do you do on the Bosu? I do some squats on one at my PT - but, an hour? I would be interested to hear. I am thinking of getting one for the house - because just balancing on it is awesome - and a few minutes of squats on it are great. If you have an hour workout that you can do on one, well that would be good, too.
*for your Sisters - a kettlebell is pretty portable. Just a thought.
Sue - that picture with the goats is ADORABLE!
Beth - GREAT JOB! Going to the gym is awesome!
SueBDew - Thank you! I am trying to keep up with y'all - I need you guys as a lifeline.
Becca - Happy Belated Birthday! Hope you had a fantastic day!
Cheri - Love the t-shirt in your gym collage. And it is SO true... working out IS cheaper than therapy.
Janet - I am sorry about your Sister. I am thinking good thoughts!
Allie - I HOPE your attorneys are going to point out the years you have spent as Tom's maid and housekeeper... he has certainly not been treating you as anything more than a servant - so, you should be compensated... not to mention the care-giving to his father. Hugs! Stay strong.
Lisa - OMG, I just want to scoop Egg up and keep her! She is so cute....
Lisafred - Take heart! You did it before - you know you can do it, again. Come here, often. These ladies are a wonder and a delight - and they will give you good advice and the occasional kick in the backside, if needed.
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Well, I must go. It's time to head out if we want to make it to the pool, today!
Hugs for Everybody!
Re in TX7 -
Can I join your group? I have 15lbs to go and I have been struggling for quite some time. I need help and support.
I am 63 years old, love to line dance (3-4 times a week), walk a bit (but not enough) and I am not very good at tracking.
Reading the posts here is giving me motivation to change my ways!
Goals for the rest of this month:
Track every day (even if it's not good)
Increase exercise by walking extra blocks home after my daily coffee with my gal pals.
Jenn from beautiful BC, Canada
Welcome , Jenn. Yes we have room. Keep coming back and join in the conversation. I line dance three mornings a week and walk every day. I live on the north Olympic Peninsula in Washington. I lost weight with the help of MFP and have kept it off
Barbie from beautiful NW Washington3 -
Nothing much to say today except to say I agree with what everyone is saying. Allie, I don't even know why you are allowing Tom to stay now. Why wouldn't he even want to stay? He has been served for divorce, and he still wants to live there? Kind of wrong. Does your lawyer know he is trying with you?
Joyce, Indiana2 -
Hello ladies: Things are going pretty well here,horses are out in the pasture. DD has gone to the horse racing with her DB and his fiance, so things are quiet here at home. I am doing well on my eating. I love this time of year when we can get fresh local fruit and vegetables.
Janetr - Glad your sister is improving and hope that it continues.
Becca - Happy belated birthday!!!
Ginger- Sorry you lost your streak. Now just make the next one longer.
Beth - Keep hitting that gym.
Heather - Lovely pictures. You look like a happy group.
Lisa - Kitties are so cute when they are sleeping.
Everyone take care, Sue in WA
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A lazy afternoon in the front pasture. This is my horse Jule. My DD's two are in the backround, Suni on the left and Ruby on the right.3
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Good evening Ladies!
Attended Sail Boston today, what a spectacular event! I must commend the organizers and the city of Boston for doing a stellar job, security was tight, but unfortunately necessary, and conducted in an efficient and friendly manner. Public transportation was readily available, as well as seemingly thousands of porta-potties which were everywhere. The estimates were that they expected 2 million attendees. There was not even 1 minor incident that I encountered. Mother Nature finally cooperated and the fog lifted allowing the ships to sail after an hour delay. We got there a little after 8am and secured a wonder plot of grass on a hill overlooking the harbor. I got up about once an hour to walk around to check things out and loosen my hips. I bought food and water and was never tempted by the food vendors.
Here is the Boston Fire boats giving the traditional welcome to visiting vessels by spraying their hoses.
The Parade of Sails was led by the USS Eagle.
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A showstopper was the ship from Ecuador, they played lively music and check out the crewmen standing on the masts!
Here are few smaller ships.
My vantage point was outstanding!
Love and hugs to everyone,
Chris in MA
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lisafred24 wrote: »My profile picture is from 5 years ago when I had lost 80 lbs and felt better than I had in forever.
Here I sit now a few months after my 50th birthday and after a year filled with trauma, stress, and an emotional roller coaster having gained every bit of that 80 lbs back. I am disappointed with myself. 1 year ago my then boyfriend, now husband, was ran over by a cement mixer and drug 38 feet, breaking 21 bones. Thank God he survived although he has lifelong limitations now. But we spent 3 1/2 weeks in the hospital, 5 1/2 weeks at a rehab hospital, 2 additional hospital stays, 5 surgeries, weeks of PT, living here and there due to his limitations. It has taken a toll and it was easier and faster to eat on the run or to eat whatever was available, quick and easy. Not to mention there was no exercise going on. These are not excuses because I should have tried harder, but I didn't and now I am paying for it. I feel like crap most of the time. I have no energy. My blood pressure a few weeks ago was 189/113 so the doctor has put me back on BP meds (haven't taken for 15 years). I have to get back on track. My issue is that I need accountability to stay on track. Myfitnesspal helped me with that last time, and I am hoping it will again.
What a stressful year. Healing thoughts for your husband and for you.
I do believe stress effects our weight and not just because we sometimes emotionally eat. I had a very stressful year and even though I did not emotionally overeat I regained 30 pounds. Now that the stress is off I have lost 10 pounds. A couple of the books I have been reading talk about the effect insulin has on weight gain, too. I am trying hard to cut our refined carbs and processed foods because so many of them add sugar. I am trying this because those kind of foods spike insulin. I am at a 100% no, but I am making progress. I am also adding fiber slowly because it helps to reduce the effects of too much insulin.
With blood pressure like that and regaining the weight has your doctor checked you for metabolic syndrome. I know I have suffered from this and it makes it even more important to keep insulin from causing problems and weight gain. The worst diet for this is a low-fat high carbohydrate diet. I find it interesting that this was the diet pushed on us in the '80's and 90's. Margaret
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Chris from MA. Wonderful event!!! I showed my Navy husband!
Becca1
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