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Is counting calories/macros destroying our enjoyment of food?

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  • mom23mangos
    mom23mangos Posts: 3,069 Member
    Interested in hearing your thoughts on this.

    I spend a lot of time riding a bike. Cycling outdoors has become like a video game in some ways - stay with me here because there are parallels to food. We all use GPS computers to track where we rode, how fast we were, how many miles we did. There are sections of road and trail that have been designated as races, for the most part you don't know where they are until you ride one, which is like unlocking a secret, then you know exactly where to focus your efforts. In the bike world, there's a lot of similar hand-wringing about whether the GPSs are ruining our enjoyment of cycling.

    It's funny you mention this because I'm in the group that found logging to be a little obsessive for me. It was necessary for a while to give me insight into the calorie and macros for many of my common foods, but I did have a lot of anxiety around going out to eat, or a social function where I was eating food I didn't prepare myself.

    I'm also a cyclist. Nothing hard core, more of a commuter. Anyway, along with calorie tracking, I was also tracking calorie burn and speed, distance, etc. I found myself obsessive over this as well. I had to push myself each day to reach a new PR, to the point that I lost track of the reason I started biking to begin with...to just enjoy being outside when I'm cooped up in an office all day. I was so busy watching my meter that I wouldn't look up and enjoy my surroundings.

    Then my phone holder broke and instead of replacing it, I just started throwing my phone in my bag (still tracking). Then my Premium Cyclemeter membership ran out for the year and I decided, screw it and stopped tracking at all. It's been freeing...but I admit I do still get the itch on a good day to see just how fast I was going. Just like I will occasionally log now and then to make sure I'm staying on track with my intuitive eating.
  • ritzvin
    ritzvin Posts: 2,860 Member
    AnvilHead wrote: »
    lemurcat12 wrote: »
    mom22dogs wrote: »
    Looks like I am in the minority. Any time I start tracking what I eat and how much, I find it to be a chore, and I don't like it. Just tonight, I pre-logged food for tomorrow, and spent almost a 1/2 an hour figuring out how much of what I could have, and messing with # of servings, etc. That to me is tedious and I don't like it. I don't like numbers, so that might be part of it. It makes me just want to eat the same thing all the time so I don' t have to put so much time and effort into it. It does seem to make eating less enjoyable because I often change what I want to eat, just so I can stay at my calories. To me, eating is much more enjoyable if I'm not worried about the calories. But then I'm someone who doesn't get a lot of calories, being 5'0" tall and fairly sedentary.

    I'm kind of weird maybe, because even though I love numbers and tracking, I dislike pre-logging and never do it. Being that precise in preplanning what I am going to eat immediately makes me feel like I don't want it, and I find it tedious. I've tried planning out weekly meals and cannot do it, it ruins cooking for me.

    I never pre-log. In fact, most of the time I don't even have an idea of what I'm going to eat at the next meal until I walk into the kitchen and see what strikes me. I have a lot of "go to" foods and a pretty good idea of the calories/macros for each of them, so I can throw things together on the fly according to my needs. If my wife is cooking dinner, I just let her cook whatever she has in mind (she generally leans toward pretty well-balanced meals anyway, usually a meat/protein and a vegetable) and it almost always works for my calories/macros. If we're planning on going out to dinner at night, I go a little easier the rest of the day to make room in my calories so I don't have to sweat it at dinner. To be honest, I'm pretty laissez-faire about the whole thing, but it works for me.

    Pre-logging is mostly helpful if you only have a smaller number of calories to work with...for instance Thursday, for me, means weight training rather than cardio and tango rather than swing or salsa - so much fewer calories burned and I want to have calories left over for a snack or meal after dancing and a glass of wine at tango- so I might have to juggle stuff around for lunch (250 calories versus 350) and time lunch to not need quick carbs before lifting. (But I'm also a 4'10" female)
  • ritzvin
    ritzvin Posts: 2,860 Member
    seska422 wrote: »
    seska422 wrote: »
    My constant obsession with calorie counting, hitting protein grams, and avoiding things I feel are not part of a "healthy" diet, are *borderline* unhealthy, and borderline ruin eating for me.

    Only borderline. It's a little obsessive but it's nothing that's not controllable and definitely not damaging to me. But it definitely removes a lot if not all of the enjoyment of eating.

    But in the same breath I HAD to remove the enjoyment of eating. Enjoying eating is what got me fat. It was comfort, it was reprieve from emotional and sometimes physical distress. It's how I celebrated and how I grieved. It was emotion. I correlated enjoying food with happiness like a heroin junky associates heroin with being happy. I was literally killing myself thinking I was enjoying what I was eating. When I stepped back, and looked at how all that food made me "feel", I didn't actually ever enjoy it. It did nothing but hurt me in the most horrible ways.

    I still splurge. I still fall off track. But if we apply the pareto rule, I've removed enjoyment from probably 80% of what I eat now. Some of that is intentional.

    That's exactly what this post is getting at -- the obsessive nature of calorie counting.

    Getting obsessive about a calorie deficit is a requirement to escape from morbid obesity. Staying obsessive about overall calorie intake/output is a requirement to avoid weight regain plus some extra. The 95% who regain lost weight aren't staying obsessive.

    The simplest, most reliable way to maintain calorie control for many people is calorie counting. Obsession is what got me where I am (near my goal weight) and I don't want to lose that obsession. I want to nurture that obsession. I want to be buried in a normal-sized coffin when the time comes.

    @seska422 somewhere back in the 70's I lost my intuitive eating skills. Counting is a good crutch until we learn the physical/mental reasons that we eat more calories of food than we need. I finally found the macro that works for me that lets me stay stuffed and maintain. Now I eat all I want and just push back when I feel full unlike the prior 40 years. Calories are never the core cause of obesity for many people. The question that requires to be addressed is WHY we overeat to start with. Typically there is a physical and or mental health issue that triggers eating that can lead to obesity. Finding those underlying triggers and fixing them I found in my case to whip and fix the obesity in my case going forward.

    Thinking about food all the time is not the freedom to enjoy life in my view. I know some that always will need crutches to walk and that is just fine but if we can heal to the point that intuitive eating kicks in and does our thinking for us it is awesome freedom in my personal experience.

    I refuse to feel inferior for using a handy and convenient tool to lose and maintain weight. Intuitive eating is not superior to calorie counting, just a different way to manage things. If you can eat intuitively, that's great. If I can't, that's not a negative in my life, it's just a difference from people who eat intuitively. There is no one right way for everyone.

    I don't belittle people when I see them pulling out a calculator to do math. I don't tell them that, as long as they put in the introspection and practice, they'll eventually get the hang of doing math in their head. We are both getting valid answers even though we use different ways to get there.

    I had to track miles I had driving when my fuel gauge was broken on a car to make sure I did not run out of gas. When my internal fuel gauge healed and started to manage my weight without math it was a plus.

    Any way one can lower the risks of a premature death is just fine. Successful intuitive eating is superior because it means our health is better in most cases because our internal fuel gauge is working again. I am sure some people are born with their sense of getting full gauge broken. Recently I saw a picture of a 8 month old baby that was at the weight of a normal year old child.

    metro.co.uk/2017/04/14/morbidly-obese-baby-weighs-same-as-a-four-year-old-6574102/
    We don't have an internal fuel gauge. We have hunger signals and they are easily thrown off by things like hormones or fatigue.

    "Successful intuitive eating" is not superior to any other method that yields good results. Because the result is the measure of success.

    And of minimal help if you are eating something on the order of 100 calories/biteful (rare in the very olden days, but very easily done now).
  • angmar56
    angmar56 Posts: 18 Member
    It isn't an issue for me. It was at first, when I finally got serious about changing my WOE for good. It was more of a hassle than having anything to do with enjoying my food, though. For the past 3 years, I have eaten better than ever in my life, and I enjoy making new dishes or de-carbing old favorites. Some things can't be made acceptable (like genuine Louisiana pralines or Middle Eastern style baklava, for instance. (A Frankenstein version of either, made with ingredients from the local health food store, low carb gluten free sugar free odd-tasting, yada yada... no thanks. I'm fine without em.) When I think about it, I rather like juggling macros. As others have said, it's like solving a puzzle or playing Tetris--without the frustration when I lose the game! :D
  • scarlett_k
    scarlett_k Posts: 812 Member
    edited June 2017
    I find the opposite to be true; I had reached a point of binge eating where I wasn't even really enjoying the food I was cramming into my face. It had become routine, habit as well as compulsion.

    Now I am taking notice of what I'm eating I am enjoying my food more. I don't feel ashamed when I go shopping any more, and I actually take the time to enjoy whatever I choose to use my calories for. I haven't excluded anything from my diet. It is difficult to fight the urge to binge but that's not really to do with counting. It's no bother for me.

    Also I suppose it actually helps me to mend my relationship with food. Before I would feel guilty about everything I ate being "bad" (I mean, it often was due to the quantity!) but now that is taken away from me since I am eating within the amount of calories set for me. One less thing to worry about really.
  • spdaphne
    spdaphne Posts: 262 Member
    edited June 2017
    Interested in hearing your thoughts on this.

    I'm learning to not focus on calories and focus more on what my plate looks like. I'm learning to go off these questions my nutritionist suggested to me

    (1) is this the best choice I can make
    (2) does it fit through the filter - WFs / sugars? / protein(s), fats & carbs
    (3) how am I programming myself to feel and function - what's the biggest/loudest message on your plate

    I'm not gonna count calories for the rest of my life because it's not realistic and calories doesn't tell you a lot about the nutrients of the food which is what I'm focused more on. But I enjoy food and make some super tasty dishes in the process and therefore look forward to eating.

  • lauracups
    lauracups Posts: 533 Member
    It has changed how I eat and most days I view food as fuel but sometimes I work in indulgences. I find its better to do that than totally denying myself, struggling with binge eating. Example, I enjoyed a piece of REALLY good cake yesterday, and for dinner I had a grilled piece of chicken with a measured amount of spicy mayo. Had I not had the cake I may have had something like a cheeseburger. I've been at this for a while, I have lost weight, I'm still finding balance as I get the last bit off it off, but life doesn't stop just because I'm over weight.
  • gymprincess1234
    gymprincess1234 Posts: 493 Member
    I don't count macros, I just try to keep them in balance, and I don't count kcal, the app does it for me. If I want a cake, I will eat it, and work on burning more kcal or eat some lower kcal meals after. My aim is to lose extra fat, not to make life miserable.
  • LucasLean
    LucasLean Posts: 100 Member
    Yes, but there comes a point, after counting calories for a long time, where you can eyeball things and just use common sense to gain and lose weight. Some people want to be exact and know exactly everything, but I'll only track if I'm not getting where I want to be.

    But once at that point, I eat what I want, but everything in moderation... just a common sense approach.
  • J72FIT
    J72FIT Posts: 6,002 Member
    seska422 wrote: »
    I refuse to feel inferior for using a handy and convenient tool to lose and maintain weight.

    I like you!

    Bravo!!!
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    it has and it helped start and make a eating disorder worst, a lot of things are very high in calories and if i had the higher calorie things i may still be hungry but used up all my calories or have very few left for later. i try to eat lower calorie foods so i can eat more for the same amount which means i don`t eat a lot of different cereals because they go over 110 and i know thats silly but its what i go through with and i really don`t like to drink things with calories because i feel that i will not be full and that could of been used on food and there are a lot of other foods i can`t or will not eat because of the calorie count, just to sum it all up its not fun but i can`t stop and life just is not the same.

    Your choices don't sound disordered to me - they sound smart :)

    I too have given up or reduced foods like cereal and beverages that don't provide much satiety for the calories. "One serving" of cereal is a joke - I want at least two and possibly three, and that's just too many calories.
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    SezxyStef wrote: »
    my question would be how could it ruin our enjoyment of food.

    Calories and macros are numbers that is it...enjoyment of food comes from tactile senses like taste and smell...

    If you find you are not eating the food you love due to calorie restrictions you are doing it wrong....just eat a smaller portion or exercise to allow for it.

    For me it lessened (not destroyed or ruined) my enjoyment of food because I my enjoyment of food comes from cooking as much as from eating. But I don't cook from recipes and don't measure ingredients. There isn't much point in logging if you don't measure and having to measure made cooking a lot less enjoyable for me.

    Along these lines, I don't mind the measuring and recording, but struggling with the new and old recipe builder does suck a lot of the enjoyment out of cooking for me.
  • Matiara
    Matiara Posts: 377 Member
    Not at all for me. Calorie tracking is a tool that works for me. I haven't changed the foods that I eat, I just control the portions and I've hit my weight loss goal every week since I restarted. I enjoy my bedtime ice cream more knowing that I have the calories for it.

    As for eating out, I have no anxiety about eating at restaurants that don't have calories on the menu or going to events with food trucks/concession stands. I order what I want and enjoy it without stress or guilt. Calorie tracking is extremely helpful with keeping me on track, but it doesn't rule my life.
  • RebeccaNaegle
    RebeccaNaegle Posts: 236 Member
    I love food! I love to count calories and fit things into my diet too! Its all in how you view things I guess~
  • xmichaelyx
    xmichaelyx Posts: 883 Member
    Limiting something you enjoy should increase, rather than decrease, your enjoyment of that thing, because you look forward to it and savor it more.
  • Kimblesnbits13
    Kimblesnbits13 Posts: 369 Member
    My constant obsession with calorie counting, hitting protein grams, and avoiding things I feel are not part of a "healthy" diet, are *borderline* unhealthy, and borderline ruin eating for me.

    Only borderline. It's a little obsessive but it's nothing that's not controllable and definitely not damaging to me. But it definitely removes a lot if not all of the enjoyment of eating.

    But in the same breath I HAD to remove the enjoyment of eating. Enjoying eating is what got me fat. It was comfort, it was reprieve from emotional and sometimes physical distress. It's how I celebrated and how I grieved. It was emotion. I correlated enjoying food with happiness like a heroin junky associates heroin with being happy. I was literally killing myself thinking I was enjoying what I was eating. When I stepped back, and looked at how all that food made me "feel", I didn't actually ever enjoy it. It did nothing but hurt me in the most horrible ways.

    I still splurge. I still fall off track. But if we apply the pareto rule, I've removed enjoyment from probably 80% of what I eat now. Some of that is intentional.

    That's exactly what this post is getting at -- the obsessive nature of calorie counting.

    I got overly obsessive and in my personal case, it turned into a binge/restrict, all or nothing mentality for me unfortunately (which resulted in a ton of yo yo dieting) I wish I can go back to intuitive eating and how I ate before I found mfp 8 years ago. I was never "overweight" but I got to an uncomfortable weight for me when I was 25. From then on I've been yo yo dieting, tracking obsessively or never tracking at all. I'm happy to say i'm now at a comfortable weight but still trying to go back to basics before I found mfp. It's tough. I find that I don't wanna bother cooking meals in bulk because I don't want to measure everything so I just get pre packaged meals which are easier to track. I hope one day I get to the point where I don't need to track anything but maintain my weight.
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