That's poor form

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  • rdevol
    rdevol Posts: 278 Member
    Why in the world would it be wrong to find joy in helping others? I love the feeling I get when I help someone out. I can understand that you shouldn't brag about and tell people how awesome you are because you did it, but feeling good for helping someone? That's what life is all about, or at least should be! If you read what the OP did and you do something nice because of it, and maybe it keeps getting paid forward, that's fabulous! Yes, it's good to be humble, but the OP is saying it made him feel good, not that he's an awesome dude because of it.

    I say good job, OP. We need way more of this in the world! :)
  • Sara2652
    Sara2652 Posts: 158 Member
    I don't remember the last good deed I did.
    Today, I came across a gorgeous garden and introduced my self to the lady gardening. She welcomed me into take a look and then gave me a ton of plants!! She made my day, week, spring! Oh and she gave me hummus too. She was pretty amazing person and I hope I can pass down those plants to another interested party one day.
  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    i stopped giving money to homeless people

    When asked by panhandlers for spare change, I always reply :

    "Ya got change for a twenty? "

    I'm using that!
  • WayTooHonest
    WayTooHonest Posts: 144 Member
    edited June 2017
    captbklee wrote: »
    Actually I kind of agree with the other person. I've always thought that in order to be truly altruistic that you should get no joy out of your sacrifice. That includes a pat on the back and even the warm fuzzy feeling.

    Oh please. If we hated doing nice things for other people, we wouldn't do them. And why the heck shouldn't a person enjoy doing something for someone? Giving of ourselves to others is very rewarding, and there is no shame in that at all. For example, my job is to help people with disabilities get back to work. Am I a bad person because I get super excited when they get a job offer? No. I am a compassionate human being that not only enjoys helping others, but also gets joy from their success.

    And let's be honest...we ALL need a few more nice people in our lives.
  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
    Did y'all know it was National Chocolate Ice Cream Day?

  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    i stopped giving money to homeless people

    When asked by panhandlers for spare change, I always reply :

    "Ya got change for a twenty? "

    I'm using that!

    I actually stole it from a friend.

    The first time I heard it and saw the look on the panhandler's face I almost fell down laughing.

    It also helped that my friend was a former Michigan tight end and was twice as big as the panhandler.
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Did y'all know it was National Chocolate Ice Cream Day?

    Also National Running Day

    Coincidence? I think not. Run then ice cream. Equals out.
  • jilleebee77
    jilleebee77 Posts: 329 Member
    edited June 2017
    I paid for a police officer's coffees in the drive thru line behind me.
  • sw33tp3a1
    sw33tp3a1 Posts: 5,065 Member
    I found out last week that my neighbors daughter barely eats at home because her mom doesn't feed her. This broke my heart on so many levels. Since finding this out, I've made sure I always offer her food when she comes over. I always make sure she goes home full.
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    sw33tp3a1 wrote: »
    I found out last week that my neighbors daughter barely eats at home because her mom doesn't feed her. This broke my heart on so many levels. Since finding this out, I've made sure I always offer her food when she comes over. I always make sure she goes home full.

    That is heartbreaking. One of my son's friends is in a similar situation and their living conditions aren't the best. I offer to let him stay with us often and he does.. like 3-4 nights per week. Every night he tells me how good dinner is. I am sure because he isn't use to having "real" food or much of it.
  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
    sw33tp3a1 wrote: »
    I found out last week that my neighbors daughter barely eats at home because her mom doesn't feed her. This broke my heart on so many levels. Since finding this out, I've made sure I always offer her food when she comes over. I always make sure she goes home full.

    That is heartbreaking. One of my son's friends is in a similar situation and their living conditions aren't the best. I offer to let him stay with us often and he does.. like 3-4 nights per week. Every night he tells me how good dinner is. I am sure because he isn't use to having "real" food or much of it.

    Both of you are doing a good thing.

    @OutOfUserName could learn from you. He's only willing to buy me a few beers.
  • captainfantastic94
    captainfantastic94 Posts: 1,745 Member
    I once paid for a lady's cheese at the dollar store. She was two people ahead of me in line and was trying to buy a pack of cheese slices. Apparently she didn't have enough money. She left the cheese on the counter and went back to her car to look for more change. When it way my turn to check out, I bought her cheese for her.

    Did you keep the cheese?
  • inertiastrength
    inertiastrength Posts: 2,343 Member
    The McDonald's line in the morning was long and slow that an older gentleman complained and went to join his party of (obviously retired dudes having a morning get together) I was just as frustrated so I walked to the Tim Horton's (this is in a Walmart so the walk was literally 30 seconds) and I grabbed 2 coffees; mine and one for him. I went over to give him a coffee and while it wasn't a heroic gesture or anything I'm sure his day was a lot better than it was when he was frustrated about the line lol
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  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    @Vikka_V wrote: »
    I drove an old lady who doesn't understand or speak English (I am not a stranger to her) and her cat home so she didn't have to walk in the rain with a cat.

    Should have left the cat behind

    Boo...cats rule!
  • FireTurtle75
    FireTurtle75 Posts: 2,014 Member
    sw33tp3a1 wrote: »
    I found out last week that my neighbors daughter barely eats at home because her mom doesn't feed her. This broke my heart on so many levels. Since finding this out, I've made sure I always offer her food when she comes over. I always make sure she goes home full.
    That is heartbreaking. One of my son's friends is in a similar situation and their living conditions aren't the best. I offer to let him stay with us often and he does.. like 3-4 nights per week. Every night he tells me how good dinner is. I am sure because he isn't use to having "real" food or much of it.

    Both of you. You're Amazing.
  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    I once gave my husband sexy time without him asking!!!!!! And no, it wasn't his birthday.
  • Ironandwine69
    Ironandwine69 Posts: 2,432 Member
    I once gave my husband sexy time without him asking!!!!!! And no, it wasn't his birthday.

    jokes on him you needed to get off

    So doing for selfish reasons don't count?
    Okay then. I got nothing else
  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
    i saw a video way back on a lion protecting a wounded fox from the other lions

    Did he eat the fox after the others left?
  • kschwab0203
    kschwab0203 Posts: 610 Member
    I once paid for a lady's cheese at the dollar store. She was two people ahead of me in line and was trying to buy a pack of cheese slices. Apparently she didn't have enough money. She left the cheese on the counter and went back to her car to look for more change. When it way my turn to check out, I bought her cheese for her.

    Did you keep the cheese?

    No, I gave it to the lady.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    i saw a video way back on a lion protecting a wounded fox from the other lions

    Did he eat the fox after the others left?

    of course, I read it as: Lion protecting his dinner from other lions.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    I didn't let myself think this person I was helping was a complete idiot, but instead gently let them know they are close in what they are doing but just needed a bit of guidance.
  • sw33tp3a1
    sw33tp3a1 Posts: 5,065 Member
    jtegirl1 wrote: »
    sw33tp3a1 wrote: »
    I found out last week that my neighbors daughter barely eats at home because her mom doesn't feed her. This broke my heart on so many levels. Since finding this out, I've made sure I always offer her food when she comes over. I always make sure she goes home full.

    I had a similar situation years ago when my son was 8 or so. There was a neighbor boy who had the same birthday, same age. When I made chocolate chip cookie bars from scratch for my sons birthday, we invited him over as well to celebrate. I will never forget the look on his face when he bit into that bar and how big his eyes got when he asked if I made them and I said yes. After he told me he was hungry because his mom didn't cook, I always made sure to offer him snacks and invite him over for dinner often.

    I can't even fathom the thought of how many kids go hungry during summer break. Most of these kids rely on food from school when they're in situations like these. No kid should go to bed hungry, Ever!
  • Locolady98
    Locolady98 Posts: 92 Member
    MrStabbems wrote: »
    I was talking to someone today who told me that sharing the fact that you've done a good deed is poor form. That essentially you shouldn't do it, it's bragging, it's narcissistic.

    Well *kitten* that. I mowed my neighbours lawn today because they're busy with 3 kids and I was doing mine so hell why not? Does it feel good? Yes. Am I showing off my good deed? Sure.

    Some people are inspired by good deeds, some get ideas from other peeps good deeds, some folks just think hey should do that as well. Ultimately more good *kitten* gets done and if you're one of those folks that can see the negative in a good deed, well *kitten* you *kitten*!

    So what good deeds have you done? past and present. Let's hear em, brag all you want!

    I'm a bit confused. I'm new to using the forums here. When someone writes a bad word, does the engine just replace it with *kitten*? I've been noticing *kitten* in a few posts here and there, and it's... confusing. Unless it's some new kind of internet term I don't know yet, because I'm basically middle aged and very un-hip.
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  • MrStabbems
    MrStabbems Posts: 3,110 Member
    edited June 2017
    Locolady98 wrote: »
    MrStabbems wrote: »
    I was talking to someone today who told me that sharing the fact that you've done a good deed is poor form. That essentially you shouldn't do it, it's bragging, it's narcissistic.

    Well *kitten* that. I mowed my neighbours lawn today because they're busy with 3 kids and I was doing mine so hell why not? Does it feel good? Yes. Am I showing off my good deed? Sure.

    Some people are inspired by good deeds, some get ideas from other peeps good deeds, some folks just think hey should do that as well. Ultimately more good *kitten* gets done and if you're one of those folks that can see the negative in a good deed, well *kitten* you *kitten*!

    So what good deeds have you done? past and present. Let's hear em, brag all you want!

    I'm a bit confused. I'm new to using the forums here. When someone writes a bad word, does the engine just replace it with *kitten*? I've been noticing *kitten* in a few posts here and there, and it's... confusing. Unless it's some new kind of internet term I don't know yet, because I'm basically middle aged and very un-hip.

    its a filter to automatically change offensive words.

    Basically replace it with any word you want....that way if its rude its your fault.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Locolady98 wrote: »
    MrStabbems wrote: »
    I was talking to someone today who told me that sharing the fact that you've done a good deed is poor form. That essentially you shouldn't do it, it's bragging, it's narcissistic.

    Well *kitten* that. I mowed my neighbours lawn today because they're busy with 3 kids and I was doing mine so hell why not? Does it feel good? Yes. Am I showing off my good deed? Sure.

    Some people are inspired by good deeds, some get ideas from other peeps good deeds, some folks just think hey should do that as well. Ultimately more good *kitten* gets done and if you're one of those folks that can see the negative in a good deed, well *kitten* you *kitten*!

    So what good deeds have you done? past and present. Let's hear em, brag all you want!

    I'm a bit confused. I'm new to using the forums here. When someone writes a bad word, does the engine just replace it with *kitten*? I've been noticing *kitten* in a few posts here and there, and it's... confusing. Unless it's some new kind of internet term I don't know yet, because I'm basically middle aged and very un-hip.

    yeah, it's just a filter.

    you can't say: *kitten* or *kitten* or *kitten* or *kitten*
  • Locolady98
    Locolady98 Posts: 92 Member
    edited June 2017
    MrStabbems wrote: »

    its a filter to automatically change offensive words.

    Basically replace it with any word you want....that way if its rude its your fault.

    Sweet! Kinda like "if the shoe fits..."

    And of course now I have to test it out. Damn.
  • Locolady98
    Locolady98 Posts: 92 Member
    edited June 2017
    Apparently, damn is not a back word.

    There we go. Now we're talkin'!

    Thanks!! :smiley:

    Whoa, whoa... I just found a work-around. Type the bad word, post it, then go back and edit post, and the bad word will revert to the bad word in the saved post! Hahaha!!! I love it! Sorry. I'm hijacking the thread. Locolady out.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Locolady98 wrote: »
    Apparently, damn is not a back word. *kitten*.

    well.... it sorta worked
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