Is it ok to ask for credit score/report before first date
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MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »All jokes aside...whats equivalent in the dating world to the extremely personal questions guys ask ...
What extremely personal questions do guys ask?
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mrwineismybf wrote: »All jokes aside...whats equivalent in the dating world to the extremely personal questions guys ask ...
Personal questions such as? I'm curious what other people consider personal.
I hate being asked personal questions...it just shuts me down right away...I'll tell you about me when I feel comfortable! I hate being asked "tell me about yourself" my mind goes blank and I feel 'put on the spot'.
Questions I'd like to know (maybe not first date questions) is if there are any 'deal breakers', things I won't compromise on. From there I'd decide what type (if any) of a relationship was possible.1 -
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mrwineismybf wrote: »MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »All jokes aside...whats equivalent in the dating world to the extremely personal questions guys ask ...
What extremely personal questions do guys ask?
Pretty sure i cant say it on here
You can, just choose your words carefullyMeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »All jokes aside...whats equivalent in the dating world to the extremely personal questions guys ask ...
What extremely personal questions do guys ask?
Pretty sure i cant say it on here
Well I can't draw a comparison for an equivalent question if I don't know what we're talking about
I'm so curious now
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mrwineismybf wrote: »All jokes aside...whats equivalent in the dating world to the extremely personal questions guys ask ...
Personal questions such as? I'm curious what other people consider personal.
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How dare you ask that ! Hmmmmph!
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MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »All jokes aside...whats equivalent in the dating world to the extremely personal questions guys ask ...
What extremely personal questions do guys ask?
Pretty sure i cant say it on here
Well I can't draw a comparison for an equivalent question if I don't know what we're talking about
does one of the questions rhyme with: Firetruck?1 -
TeacupsAndToning wrote: »My first guess is what's your bra size
I have no problem with this one, but ask me what my hobbies or interests are and I shut down!0 -
Rhymes with luck, bits, and torn knee0
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TeacupsAndToning wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »My first guess is what's your bra size
I have no problem with this one, but ask me what my hobbies or interests are and I shut down!
Same here. Whenever someone says, "what's your favourite movie?" I literally remember zero movies that I've ever seen.
Same! I'm glad I'm not the only one.
Or sometimes the only thing that comes to mind is some random movie I watched a long time ago that I have no particular attachment to, but it's the only thing that comes to mind.0 -
mrwineismybf wrote: »Rhymes with luck, bits, and torn knee
I can't come up with anything that makes sense!
Now just write the first letter of those rhyming words, in order and maybe I'll get it?0 -
No! There is no way this is appropriate until you are deciding to be serious with each other! That is insanely creepy! How would I know you're not asking because you are some weird stalker or trying to steal my info?1
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Well researchers have found couples with similar credit scores are more likely to stay together than people with good compatibility measured by dating website standards. So it wouldent be a stupid consept, but it would probably be a bit of a turn off2
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mrwineismybf wrote: »FireTurtle75 wrote: »It's an interesting concept, but I don't think it will weed out the kind of people you are concerned about. It might weed out the ones that are fiscally foolish or had some financial bad luck. But not all of those people are messed up, they are just bad with money or they could have hit a really *kitten* row of circumstances.
A Rorschach test might be a better option. I mean if every answer to every ink blot they see is vagina, boobies or a naked picture of their mom, then you know you have one to weed out.
Ugh true...better option...makes sense...but where can i get those
You can actually print some cards/pics off the internet.0 -
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I don't think there's anything wrong with asking deeply personal things considering that you're potentially measuring them up for a relationship. Not everyone is open to answering stuff like that on or before the first date though. You might just have to be patient or figure our conversation topics that would lead to them being more receptive to answering you intensely curious questions.0
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If you want to seem shallow and superficial then go for it.3
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I'm perfectly ok with personal questions. Some ppl are just direct and I don't see it as a bad thing just as long as they back off if it's clearly making the other person uncomfortable.
in fact I don't think I've ever not answered a personal question (as long as it was about me, I don't share others info)
credit score question I would see as a tad pointless. queries about bra size would be a bit odd if out of context. if I wanted to ask a woman about her bra size I would simply steer the conversation towards weird quirks/party tricks, make a few joke ones and then say I can guess bra size, proceed go guess, most would reply with the actual size. If not we can start any game with the condition that if I win you end my ocd not knowing nightmare and tell me. Or i could just wait until later and check.
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Why would you ask someone for a credit report before a FIRST date?! You wouldn't ask them for their salary and bonus information before a first date, would you?!?
Genuinely shocked.1 -
mrwineismybf wrote: »Is there not some way women can weed out the men without being critized
Isn't the date the weeding out process?5 -
laurenebargar wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »mrwineismybf wrote: »Friend and i discussed this and although im not into money it may help weed out some weirdos...thoughts?
so there are no weirdos with good credit?
I could be wrong because i cant find the article but I swear I read at one point that something like 70% of serial killers had an above average-excellent credit score
That's because they like to save money in the bank and their victims' teeth in a tiny, tin box.
ahhhh it all makes sense now0 -
I don't even share my credit score with my wife.4
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I assume this is online dating and not people you are meeting in person before dating.
If a guy is asking you personal questions about your body or sex life before the first date happens then you can pass on him.
I would probably ask about interests and values, let them know you are not looking for casual sex if you are not.
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Someone asked why it's ok to ask for pictures. I think it's fine to ask for a full body shot (not noodz!) because we all know that a picture of a face tells you nothing. I don't care if people think it's shallow, I want to know if the guy I'm going to meet is fit and I see nothing wrong with them wanting to see that I am what I say I am. The only time I can see someone being offended by this is if you're trying to hide something.
For sure. The women that I have seen that only post pictures from the boobs up, likely have a 140 lb top end and a 600 lb bottom end. I get why they do it, but would they rather be honest and send you a full body picture or get embarrassed when being met in person? They just might find the right person that wants them for the way they truly are on the front end, which will shorten their whole search for a mate.2 -
leut_underpants wrote: »812 ladies. Hit me up.
I see your still working on improving the meager score :-). You will probably have at least one hit for each point.0 -
I think you can ask whatever you want, but you have to recognize what the question says about you and your priorities. Asking a potential date for his credit score is going to send a message that you may not want to send.1
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I am not on the dating scene (been married for 45 years).
If I was though, that question before or during the first date WOULD be a deal breaker.
I was taught that discussing finances on the first couple of dates was rude or bragging.
Wouldn't it be a bear to lose the date with someone fantastic and found out later that individual was independently solvent?2 -
Feel free to ask, but don't be shocked when you get stood up...1
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If someone asked me about that on or before a fist date, that would be a huge red flag. I would avoid them like the plague.1
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