Hitting on Women at the gym?
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DasItMan91 wrote: »DasItMan91 wrote: »DasItMan91 wrote: »wintermadness1 wrote: »I wouldn't hit on women at the gym for a number of reasons, first of which is I have a girlfriend.
But I'm in my own world when I work out and I think most other people are too. I know I wouldn't want to be interrupted so I don't interrupt anyone else.
The real deciding factor of whether a guy is "creepy" or not comes down to whether he's attractive or not.
Hot guy hits on you at the gym? No problem!
Average guy even talks to you at the gym? Ugh, what a creep!
I'm not much to look at, so even if I was single I wouldn't bother trying to start a conversation.
Exactly.
If you're hot to a woman, almost everything you say won't come off as creepy
If you're not, one fuk up and you're screwed.
I disagree. You don't have to be hot for me to not think you're creepy. Even hot guys can be creepy. But, like most people, I'd be more apt to flirt back with someone that is attractive to me. Attractive to me can be all different definitions. Not just some big buff meathead.
.........that's why I said "almost everything".... If some dude who was attractive started groping some random woman on street, it doesn't matter if he's attractive or not, it's creepy and he will go to jail or if he said he was a rapist or serial killer or pedophile. But let's not lie to ourselves, if a guy is attractive to a woman, he gets more leeway with what he says compared to someone who ain't. A guy can have a slight stutter or not speak perfect English but as long as a woman is attracted to him, it doesn't matter.
I do agree with that if they're attractive to that person they'll get a little more leeway. I can say this, I don't care how attractive a guy is, I can't do stupid. They get no leeway. I'm far from a rocket scientist but I can't deal with stupid guys. lol
It also goes both ways. If a guy finds a woman attractive they're going to get more leeway.
I can't deal with stupid either. Maybe when it comes to just sex yeah but if I wanted something serious, I need a good personality and at least of average intelligence. Me and other guys have said this before....I rather have a 6 or 7 as a gf with a epic personality and smarts than the 8 or 9 who is vapid and is dumb as rocks.
I can't even do stupid just for a roll in the hay. There are several guys who come to mind that are just "unf!" so hot, but they just couldn't interest me with their personality, or lack of one maybe I should say? Plus, the text speak when texting. Ugh! It's one thing to throw some u's in there, but all text speak I can't stand.
I say if you text or email like a 13 yr old girl that is an automatic NOPE!!!
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Just go for it! Try a little small talk, tell her that you've noticed her around a time or two and compliment her on her form or muscles, just feel out the situation, I'm sure you'll get the vibe of whether she's into you too or just wants to be left alone. All you can do is try!1
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Two bery fit ladies walked into the gym once...one a regular... totally smokin' good looking... matching tanks that said quite simply "*kitten* off I am here to workout... I laughed my *kitten* off1
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no thx, I'm married.0
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deputy_randolph wrote: »Honestly, I would rather have a man flat out ask me if I'm single...than to observe for months on end to figure out of I'm single. I'm married, so the rejection isn't a big deal.
Here's a reasonable example:
Guy at gym (stops to talk to me while I'm btwn sets): "Hey, what kind of lifting program are you doing?"
Me & Him: ....couple minutes of lifting talk
Guy: "So your lifting partner I used to see you with...does he still work out here?"
Me: "Oh...my husband! We've been on different schedules lately."
See how smoothly that guy was able to get the answer to his question...
Love this. Lots of married ladies lift without our rings on so someone who seems unfriendly might really just be unavailable. I also lift without my glasses which means I occasionally make "eye contact" without even realising it
fortunately that's not too much of an issue as a 30something lifting in a gym full of college guys.0 -
Please, please don't give tips or "advice," it's super annoying. I agree, no comments about her body or appearance at all. It's just creepy. Truthfully, if a guy said anything about how much I was lifting or complimented my form or anything, it would be just a tad creepy because then I would feel like he was watching me workout instead of focusing on his own workout. But that's just me.
I'm thinking some general comments about the gym itself or something would be safe. Just getting the conversation started is the hard part, then you can talk about whatever.
I'd love for a guy to strike up a conversation, but at the gym is tricky.
Why is it creepy for a guy to compliment your form or something? There is down time while you're resting between sets. I'm not staring at anyone, but sometimes I look around and notice things.
I've just had some bad experiences with creepy stalker-types so I guess I'm sensitive about it. I know some women are the same way.
Ahhhh.... gotcha. I've never had issues at the gym with creepy stalker types.
What gym do you go to? I'll give you some issues
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Be subtle, work your way in, then go in for the kill! This might take some time (over the course of days or even weeks) but it will save you some face. Start out with a simple, not over the top, not creepy compliment, then ask for a name, say hello from there, slowly increase your frequency of talking to her while paying attention to her vibe. Also, keep the talk short, simple and make sure you're not interrupting in the middle of her set/workout. After some time, you should know if she's just being friendly or not interested at all. If she's up for it and you're up for it then go for it!1
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Not all women like when guys approach them at the gym. Asking about what music she's listening to is much better than commenting on her form or workouts.3
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serenityfrye wrote: »deputy_randolph wrote: »Honestly, I would rather have a man flat out ask me if I'm single...than to observe for months on end to figure out of I'm single. I'm married, so the rejection isn't a big deal.
Here's a reasonable example:
Guy at gym (stops to talk to me while I'm btwn sets): "Hey, what kind of lifting program are you doing?"
Me & Him: ....couple minutes of lifting talk
Guy: "So your lifting partner I used to see you with...does he still work out here?"
Me: "Oh...my husband! We've been on different schedules lately."
See how smoothly that guy was able to get the answer to his question...
fortunately that's not too much of an issue as a 30something lifting in a gym full of college guys.
dem college boys don't know what they're missin' ....1 -
Me?
lol
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I think I'd start by not approaching it as "hitting on" and more start a conversation like she is a person and not a hot chick in yoga pants. You're both at the gym, so you have shared interests. Talk to her like a person and see how that goes.10
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If you want to hit on people at the gym, go to Planet Fitness where you can flirt over pizza. If you want to have a normal conversation at the gym, then it's all good.2
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If you want to hit on people at the gym, go to Planet Fitness where you can flirt over pizza. If you want to have a normal conversation at the gym, then it's all good.
I'm not saying I want to do that at the gym necessarily, I go to the gym to lift weights, that's my main purpose but when you see a hot sexy girl working out, as a guy you feel compelled to want to get to know that individual, it's just human nature I think, that's all I'm saying.0 -
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Me? lol
I can't see your face!
oh so not me lol.0 -
If you want to hit on people at the gym, go to Planet Fitness where you can flirt over pizza. If you want to have a normal conversation at the gym, then it's all good.
I'm not saying I want to do that at the gym necessarily, I go to the gym to lift weights, that's my main purpose but when you see a hot sexy girl working out, as a guy you feel compelled to want to get to know that individual, it's just human nature I think, that's all I'm saying.
Oh, I totally know what you are saying! I'm just saying "hitting on" a woman at the gym might not get you as far as just striking up a conversation.1 -
If I'm between sets, earbud outs then sure say hi and ask how my workout is going/how my day is going/etc.. If I'm running on the treadmill/have my earphones in then don't bother. A nice smile and nod is good to start and if I do the same back and take my earbuds out then come on over and say hi. Again I know many women don't like being talked to by men at the gym, but I may be a rare breed.1
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I don't pay attention to other people at the gym because I don't go there to fk.6
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The trick guys, is to get the girl to talk to you. I have a fool proof method that always works. First I find a good cardio machine; you know, one that is free but not directly by someone.
Then I get on and do cardio like a bandit till I pass out.
When I wake up, there are usually all sorts of people trying to talk to me and at least half of them are women.17 -
briansolomon7863 wrote: »The trick guys, is to get the girl to talk to you. I have a fool proof method that always works. First I find a good cardio machine; you know, one that is free but not directly by someone.
Then I get on and do cardio like a bandit till I pass out.
When I wake up, there are usually all sorts of people trying to talk to me and at least half of them are women.
Those women trying to talk to you are EMT's. lol1 -
I usually hit on women the same way I hit on guys at the gym. Lead with the jab and follow up with a right hook.
"Curl in the squat rack again Barbara, I fuk'n dare you!"14 -
Make eye contact - if she smiles back - that's your opening..
Small talk works best....don't lead with a compliment. It sounds suspicious ( from a person who loves compliments)
If the ear buds are in and she's heavy into her rotation....wait for another time....4 -
TeacupsAndToning wrote: »The last time I went to a gym this one trainer would always come over and talk to me and tease me about how little weight I was able to lift or he'd try to talk to me about my work and my homelife. It was a little bit annoying until he started regularly offering me free passes so I always allowed him to speak to me so I could get freebies for my friends.
Not bad, just a small price to pay to get free stuff. Way to take one for the team for you and your pals.0 -
So this guy at the gym asked me if I wanted to go for a hike one day. We had been briefly introduced from my friend/his coworker previously. I told him I had a boyfriend and he said I could bring my boyfriend too. The boyfriend didnt want to go and never wanted to do anything fun with me. Guess who I am dating now? Now the peeps at the gym lovingly call us "Swole Mates" lol.
On a side note, I live in a small town and know/talk to practically everyone that frequents the gym so it isnt unusual for someone to have casual/friendly conversation. People often comment on gains or difficult exercises.
I think hitting on someone can be done tastefully and I don't have a problem with that.4 -
I already have a swole mate1
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I got asked out by a guy at the gym once... And then a few weeks later he approached me again and halfway thru the conversation he asked if I was the one with the husband. I have to wonder how often he does ask girls out at the gym if he can't keep track. Anyway moral of the story, don't be that guy. Keep track of who you ask out.. haha!
I've been hit on a few times at the gym and usually I just feel awkward, but I'm extremely self conscious so I don't really like when people talk to me.5 -
serenityfrye wrote: »deputy_randolph wrote: »Honestly, I would rather have a man flat out ask me if I'm single...than to observe for months on end to figure out of I'm single. I'm married, so the rejection isn't a big deal.
Here's a reasonable example:
Guy at gym (stops to talk to me while I'm btwn sets): "Hey, what kind of lifting program are you doing?"
Me & Him: ....couple minutes of lifting talk
Guy: "So your lifting partner I used to see you with...does he still work out here?"
Me: "Oh...my husband! We've been on different schedules lately."
See how smoothly that guy was able to get the answer to his question...
Love this. Lots of married ladies lift without our rings on so someone who seems unfriendly might really just be unavailable. I also lift without my glasses which means I occasionally make "eye contact" without even realising it
fortunately that's not too much of an issue as a 30something lifting in a gym full of college guys.
That's what blows my mind. People leave me alone in the gym as it's PF and they don't really permit the whole meat market thing, but in other locations? I am 48 years old. I'm not busted looking by any means but anyone should be able to tell I am not in my thirties any more, just by the signs of decreased skin collagen and increased freckling from incidental sun. The guys who hit on me are almost always ridiculously too young. It's like some "cougar chasing" fad or something. I wear the ring everywhere, too.1 -
I have been asked out at the gym a few times, although I'm taken. I think if a guy is not creepy and is good looking and also has the confidence to walk up to a girl and try to talk to them is worth going out with.1
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If I were in the market, I would think the gym is a good place to meet someone. But don't "hit on" women. I don't think anyone actually likes that kind of obvious and fake attention. Just be friendly.1
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MichelleLaree13 wrote: »So this guy at the gym asked me if I wanted to go for a hike one day. We had been briefly introduced from my friend/his coworker previously. I told him I had a boyfriend and he said I could bring my boyfriend too. The boyfriend didnt want to go and never wanted to do anything fun with me. Guess who I am dating now? Now the peeps at the gym lovingly call us "Swole Mates" lol.
On a side note, I live in a small town and know/talk to practically everyone that frequents the gym so it isnt unusual for someone to have casual/friendly conversation. People often comment on gains or difficult exercises.
I think hitting on someone can be done tastefully and I don't have a problem with that.
Your poor boyfriend had no idea you were messing with Sasquatch.2
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