Hitting on Women at the gym?
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Kamikaze_into_your_soul wrote: »MichelleLaree13 wrote: »So this guy at the gym asked me if I wanted to go for a hike one day. We had been briefly introduced from my friend/his coworker previously. I told him I had a boyfriend and he said I could bring my boyfriend too. The boyfriend didnt want to go and never wanted to do anything fun with me. Guess who I am dating now? Now the peeps at the gym lovingly call us "Swole Mates" lol.
On a side note, I live in a small town and know/talk to practically everyone that frequents the gym so it isnt unusual for someone to have casual/friendly conversation. People often comment on gains or difficult exercises.
I think hitting on someone can be done tastefully and I don't have a problem with that.
Your poor boyfriend had no idea you were messing with Sasquatch.
It wasn't quite like that. The ex and I were having problems before I even met the gym guy. I eventually ended the one relationship and eventually started the new relationship.
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serenityfrye wrote: »deputy_randolph wrote: »Honestly, I would rather have a man flat out ask me if I'm single...than to observe for months on end to figure out of I'm single. I'm married, so the rejection isn't a big deal.
Here's a reasonable example:
Guy at gym (stops to talk to me while I'm btwn sets): "Hey, what kind of lifting program are you doing?"
Me & Him: ....couple minutes of lifting talk
Guy: "So your lifting partner I used to see you with...does he still work out here?"
Me: "Oh...my husband! We've been on different schedules lately."
See how smoothly that guy was able to get the answer to his question...
Love this. Lots of married ladies lift without our rings on so someone who seems unfriendly might really just be unavailable. I also lift without my glasses which means I occasionally make "eye contact" without even realising it
fortunately that's not too much of an issue as a 30something lifting in a gym full of college guys.
That's what blows my mind. People leave me alone in the gym as it's PF and they don't really permit the whole meat market thing, but in other locations? I am 48 years old. I'm not busted looking by any means but anyone should be able to tell I am not in my thirties any more, just by the signs of decreased skin collagen and increased freckling from incidental sun. The guys who hit on me are almost always ridiculously too young. It's like some "cougar chasing" fad or something. I wear the ring everywhere, too.
Hmm that's interesting. Then again I've been hit on like twice ever - I apparently have bad rbf. So that probably doesn't help 0 -
You have to just risk it.
Me personally I've been hit on and talked to.
Guess what those people are now on my poop list
Some people only have limited time to work out.
I got 1 hour that's it no more then I'd have to get my kids.
So guess what when you talk to me and take up 20 minutes of my workout you ruined my day and I'll avoid you the next time I see you.
You want to talk to me ask for my number or email or something and say so you don't ruin my workout. Then if I say no walk away if I say yes yay for you then leave me alone.2 -
Some (not all) guys use gyms like bars as a way of finding women and that is one major reason why I won't purchase a gym pass.0
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Meh, like someone above mentioned. Don't *kitten* where you eat. Most relationships don't work out and the belief that a gym membership is enough commonality to sustain a long-term relationship is laughable. I like the gym I'm at and wouldn't want a relationship that went sour to cause me discomfort or issues there...
Besides, I'm married and work out with my wife. She'd likely castrate me if I tried hitting on women.
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erica_today wrote: »You have to just risk it.
Me personally I've been hit on and talked to.
Guess what those people are now on my poop list
Some people only have limited time to work out.
I got 1 hour that's it no more then I'd have to get my kids.
So guess what when you talk to me and take up 20 minutes of my workout you ruined my day and I'll avoid you the next time I see you.
You want to talk to me ask for my number or email or something and say so you don't ruin my workout. Then if I say no walk away if I say yes yay for you then leave me alone.
What's your email? Care to trade recipes?0 -
Id love it! Literally think about it while i jog endlessly. Thinking please come up to me and simply ask what type of music inspires my workout. Ask if you can use the treadmill next me. Hell your real cute, ask if you could spot me ;-).1
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erin19892011 wrote: »Id love it! Literally think about it while i jog endlessly. Thinking please come up to me and simply ask what type of music inspires my workout. Ask if you can use the treadmill next me. Hell your real cute, ask if you could spot me ;-).
I'm picking up a tiny bit of sarcasm.
What if I'm your special someone and we don't know it and everyone else in your life isn't as supportive as I would be of your fitness interests?0 -
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Please just don't even talk to me. It took a lot for me to get to the gym and stay motivated. I am not nice. I am not approachable. Let me listen to my really crappy itunes playlist and pretend you never saw me. Lol! But really, no one ever talks to me so I don't have this problem. 0
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Does this really happen? I am told I have a b!tch look when I work out so maybe thats why. I probably would get flustered and drop something if anyone actually talked to me.0
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Does this really happen? I am told I have a b!tch look when I work out so maybe thats why. I probably would get flustered and drop something if anyone actually talked to me.
The only time I see it happening at my gym is old guys with a full head of gray hair cornering some very young girl and trying to start a conversation or offering a spot. For some reason, the really good looking folks - both men and women tend to keep mostly to themselves. 0 -
Well I have a b!tch look too apparently when I go out socially lol so I guess I am just screwed.1
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jseams1234 wrote: »Does this really happen? I am told I have a b!tch look when I work out so maybe thats why. I probably would get flustered and drop something if anyone actually talked to me.
The only time I see it happening at my gym is old guys with a full head of gray hair cornering some very young girl and trying to start a conversation or offering a spot. For some reason, the really good looking folks - both men and women tend to keep mostly to themselves.
I would comment on this, but I prefer to keep to myself.5 -
I hate being talked to at the gym. Leave me the *kitten* alone.
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Head down and don't make eye contact ..... my MO0
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Motorsheen wrote: »jseams1234 wrote: »Does this really happen? I am told I have a b!tch look when I work out so maybe thats why. I probably would get flustered and drop something if anyone actually talked to me.
The only time I see it happening at my gym is old guys with a full head of gray hair cornering some very young girl and trying to start a conversation or offering a spot. For some reason, the really good looking folks - both men and women tend to keep mostly to themselves.
I would comment on this, but I prefer to keep to myself.
Since when?
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holy_like_harambe wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »jseams1234 wrote: »Does this really happen? I am told I have a b!tch look when I work out so maybe thats why. I probably would get flustered and drop something if anyone actually talked to me.
The only time I see it happening at my gym is old guys with a full head of gray hair cornering some very young girl and trying to start a conversation or offering a spot. For some reason, the really good looking folks - both men and women tend to keep mostly to themselves.
I would comment on this, but I prefer to keep to myself.
Since when?
Since it was determined that the "the really good looking folks - both men and women tend to keep mostly to themselves."
Damn I was gone too long
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Ironandwine69 wrote: »I hate being talked to at the gym. Leave me the *kitten* alone.
What about at Subway?0 -
holy_like_harambe wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »holy_like_harambe wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »jseams1234 wrote: »Does this really happen? I am told I have a b!tch look when I work out so maybe thats why. I probably would get flustered and drop something if anyone actually talked to me.
The only time I see it happening at my gym is old guys with a full head of gray hair cornering some very young girl and trying to start a conversation or offering a spot. For some reason, the really good looking folks - both men and women tend to keep mostly to themselves.
I would comment on this, but I prefer to keep to myself.
Since when?
Since it was determined that the "the really good looking folks - both men and women tend to keep mostly to themselves."
Damn I was gone too long
it was literally 6 posts up
You say that like that's not too long0 -
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holy_like_harambe wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »holy_like_harambe wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »holy_like_harambe wrote: »Ironandwine69 wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »jseams1234 wrote: »Does this really happen? I am told I have a b!tch look when I work out so maybe thats why. I probably would get flustered and drop something if anyone actually talked to me.
The only time I see it happening at my gym is old guys with a full head of gray hair cornering some very young girl and trying to start a conversation or offering a spot. For some reason, the really good looking folks - both men and women tend to keep mostly to themselves.
I would comment on this, but I prefer to keep to myself.
Since when?
Since it was determined that the "the really good looking folks - both men and women tend to keep mostly to themselves."
Damn I was gone too long
it was literally 6 posts up
You say that like that's not too long
it was less than an hour ago
So how come you are not following that rule?0 -
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briansolomon7863 wrote: »The trick guys, is to get the girl to talk to you. I have a fool proof method that always works. First I find a good cardio machine; you know, one that is free but not directly by someone.
Then I get on and do cardio like a bandit till I pass out.
When I wake up, there are usually all sorts of people trying to talk to me and at least half of them are women.
Those women trying to talk to you are EMT's. lol
But it still works!0 -
If I'm between sets, earbud outs then sure say hi and ask how my workout is going/how my day is going/etc.. If I'm running on the treadmill/have my earphones in then don't bother. A nice smile and nod is good to start and if I do the same back and take my earbuds out then come on over and say hi. Again I know many women don't like being talked to by men at the gym, but I may be a rare breed.
That may work for some people, but I think my "nice smile and nod" looks more like a dear in headlights.
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erin19892011 wrote: »Id love it! Literally think about it while i jog endlessly. Thinking please come up to me and simply ask what type of music inspires my workout. Ask if you can use the treadmill next me. Hell your real cute, ask if you could spot me ;-).
Soooo, what kind of music inspires your workout...0
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