Age = less attractiveness?
QUEENxo1992
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This is a question that is running through my mind lately. It's probably my own insecurities eating me alive so I wanted to know your opinions. I know losing weight will not only help me look better but also feel better about myself too. But does age play any part in this?
As I get older, I worry I won't be attractive enough to meet new friends or find love from the opposite sex. Does anyone else feel this way?
I know confidence is sexy, of course but as I get older, I worry that my weightloss won't be the same as when I was 20 trying to lose weight(and successfully lost 137lbs in a year!). After regaining that weight though and way more than I bargained for, I am really scared.
I know beauty isn't important and it's society that makes us feel that it is, but will my age, affect my level of attractiveness to others or is this all just in my head?
As I get older, I worry I won't be attractive enough to meet new friends or find love from the opposite sex. Does anyone else feel this way?
I know confidence is sexy, of course but as I get older, I worry that my weightloss won't be the same as when I was 20 trying to lose weight(and successfully lost 137lbs in a year!). After regaining that weight though and way more than I bargained for, I am really scared.
I know beauty isn't important and it's society that makes us feel that it is, but will my age, affect my level of attractiveness to others or is this all just in my head?
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"Older the berry, the sweeter the juice" that's what I always say. Well, maybe I don't always say that. Naomi Watts and Nicole Kidman are two of my all-time fav hottest actresses and they're both like...80.
It's all in your head.17 -
Yes, age will affect your attractiveness. Depending on what shape you were in when you were younger you could be more attractive as you age if you improve that shape. I was fit when I was younger and I'm fit now at age 54. I don't look as good as I did then from a general perspective, but that doesn't mean I'm not attractive.
Losing a lot of weigh at an older age could mean more wrinkles and saggy skin than when you were younger. But that won't necessarily mean you aren't attractive.
I think it's important to separate beauty from attractiveness. A person does not have to be beautiful for someone to find them attractive. What you do, how you act, how you feel about yourself play a large part in attraction.21 -
Society in general values youth and considers the attributes of youth to be the standard for beauty. That said, there's no reason to think you aren't likeable or loveable because you aren't 19 any more. Most of us aren't!
Aging is inevitable (or beats the alternative, at least). Treat your body with respect, and nurture your body and soul. I intend to grow old as gracefully as possible. Not to say I'll never cover those pesky grey hairs or splash out for a fancy moisturizer that makes unfulfillable promises, but hey, I'm human too
ETA, if the 1992 in your username is your birth year, oh honey, don't worry! You're far from old
And the next 15 or 20 years will layer in some perspective on aging that you might now have just yet. 9 -
Do me a favor think of the guys you liked as a teen. Now who did you have a crush on in your 20s?30s? 40? I bet the men have aged from boys to men that you find attractive. Men's taste mature as well.12
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WorkerDrone83 wrote: »"Older the berry, the sweeter the juice" that's what I always say. Well, maybe I don't always say that. Naomi Watts and Nicole Kidman are two of my all-time fav hottest actresses and they're both like...80.
It's all in your head.
80? Are you adding their ages together? But Raquel Welch is still pretty smoking hot at 76.
But again, one does not need to be beautiful to be attractive.8 -
I know she's the exception and not the rule, but Dame Helen Mirren is my aging idol.20
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Need2Exerc1se wrote: »WorkerDrone83 wrote: »"Older the berry, the sweeter the juice" that's what I always say. Well, maybe I don't always say that. Naomi Watts and Nicole Kidman are two of my all-time fav hottest actresses and they're both like...80.
It's all in your head.
80? Are you adding their ages together? But Raquel Welch is still pretty smoking hot at 76.
But again, one does not need to be beautiful to be attractive.
No, I was just playing around. I think they're both about 50.
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Depends...I'm physically more attractive now than I was when I was younger or at least I feel that way. Most people also don't think I look 43 either and think I'm in my mid 30s. A female colleague of mine was just commenting the other day after looking at a picture of me from 2009 that I look so much younger now a whole 8 years later...this is somewhat attributable to my losing my excess weight, but I think more than that is my fitness...8 years ago I just looked like a fun loving fat guy...now I look fit and athletic (that doesn't come from just losing weight...that comes from training my body) which makes me look younger than I am.
Regular exercise is the fountain of youth...12 -
I think I'm much more attractive in my 40s than I was in my 20s. Age is just a number. There are enough things in life to stress us and bring on insecurity - age is something you can't change (and really, you WANT to age as it means you're still alive
) so try to let go of the number and just focus on the things that you want to change that you also have some control over. 6 -
That depends on what you find 'attractive'. Yes, when you get older, you will get wrinkles. Your body will change. I'm 51 - and my body and face look different than when I was 25 years old. But I'm also wiser, more independent, and (I think) a much more interesting person. 'Beauty' and 'attractiveness' is in the eye of the beholder. I find a good sense of humor and intelligence attractive. Personally, I'm also physically in better shape now than when I was 25 years old.7
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I find that the older I get the less I give a rats behind what anyone else thinks about me or anything else in the universe...particularly when it comes to people who are just negative and boring and don't have anything nice to say about the world.
So, don't fret about the future...because odds are good that by the time it arrives you won't even be the same you anyway.26 -
I still find Betty White hot! So nope!8
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This speaks more to the maturity of the eye of the beholder. A shallow mind desires aesthetic perfection. A mature mind desires more - with that more comes wrinkles, scars, blemishes, gray, etc.
I grew up admiring ladies such as Lauren Bacall and Helen Mirren, not for their looks, but their attitudes, intellect and confidence.
Society gets pretty much everything wrong. Don't follow the masses.15 -
Need2Exerc1se wrote: »But Raquel Welch is still pretty smoking hot at 76.
I guess I'll disagree, in that while she is hot for 76, she was hotter in Barbarella.
Yeah, it sucks, but people get less attractive as they age and, in general, it is worse for women (in the eyes of most men). Looking around the gym, I see older ladies who are fit and in better shape than I am (not difficult to be) but they are not as attractive as the younger women. Somehow (and it may just be the straight guy in me talking here) I don't see as much of a difference between younger and older guys if they are in shape.
It's not right, it's not fair and it is no reason to not improve your health.
Hope I man'splained that well.
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As I have aged I have become so much more confident in the essence of who I am and frankly, somewhere along the line in my maturity my mindset is: here I am world....you can suck it if you don't like it. Really, there is such freedom in maturing. As for my beauty or attractiveness, I am boldly more attractive now than I have been in many many years. Start from the inside out and love yourself first and the world will be attracted to that. And I would agree with what tcunbeliever said dont fret about the future my dear....embrace the right now. Lastly, you are beautiful! Enjoy the journey ....it goes tooo fast.9
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Tacklewasher wrote: »Need2Exerc1se wrote: »But Raquel Welch is still pretty smoking hot at 76.
I guess I'll disagree, in that while she is hot for 76, she was hotter in Barbarella.
Yeah, it sucks, but people get less attractive as they age and, in general, it is worse for women (in the eyes of most men). Looking around the gym, I see older ladies who are fit and in better shape than I am (not difficult to be) but they are not as attractive as the younger women. Somehow (and it may just be the straight guy in me talking here) I don't see as much of a difference between younger and older guys if they are in shape.
It's not right, it's not fair and it is no reason to not improve your health.
Hope I man'splained that well.
You're thinking of Jane Fonda or Anita Pallenberg. Raquel Welch is stunning, but she wasn't in Barbarella,5 -
Tacklewasher wrote: »Need2Exerc1se wrote: »But Raquel Welch is still pretty smoking hot at 76.
I guess I'll disagree, in that while she is hot for 76, she was hotter in Barbarella.
That sounds like agreement, not disagreement. I did not say she was hotter than ever.0 -
janejellyroll wrote: »Tacklewasher wrote: »Need2Exerc1se wrote: »But Raquel Welch is still pretty smoking hot at 76.
I guess I'll disagree, in that while she is hot for 76, she was hotter in Barbarella.
Yeah, it sucks, but people get less attractive as they age and, in general, it is worse for women (in the eyes of most men). Looking around the gym, I see older ladies who are fit and in better shape than I am (not difficult to be) but they are not as attractive as the younger women. Somehow (and it may just be the straight guy in me talking here) I don't see as much of a difference between younger and older guys if they are in shape.
It's not right, it's not fair and it is no reason to not improve your health.
Hope I man'splained that well.
You're thinking of Jane Fonda or Anita Pallenberg. Raquel Welch is stunning, but she wasn't in Barbarella,
And this^^
But yes, she's not as hot as in say Mother, Jugs and Speed. But she is hot at 76.1 -
janejellyroll wrote: »Tacklewasher wrote: »Need2Exerc1se wrote: »But Raquel Welch is still pretty smoking hot at 76.
I guess I'll disagree, in that while she is hot for 76, she was hotter in Barbarella.
Yeah, it sucks, but people get less attractive as they age and, in general, it is worse for women (in the eyes of most men). Looking around the gym, I see older ladies who are fit and in better shape than I am (not difficult to be) but they are not as attractive as the younger women. Somehow (and it may just be the straight guy in me talking here) I don't see as much of a difference between younger and older guys if they are in shape.
It's not right, it's not fair and it is no reason to not improve your health.
Hope I man'splained that well.
You're thinking of Jane Fonda or Anita Pallenberg. Raquel Welch is stunning, but she wasn't in Barbarella,
Ahhhh. Brain fart. Jane Fonda.1 -
Tacklewasher wrote: »Need2Exerc1se wrote: »But Raquel Welch is still pretty smoking hot at 76.
I guess I'll disagree, in that while she is hot for 76, she was hotter in Barbarella.
Yeah, it sucks, but people get less attractive as they age and, in general, it is worse for women (in the eyes of most men). Looking around the gym, I see older ladies who are fit and in better shape than I am (not difficult to be) but they are not as attractive as the younger women. Somehow (and it may just be the straight guy in me talking here) I don't see as much of a difference between younger and older guys if they are in shape.
It's not right, it's not fair and it is no reason to not improve your health.
Hope I man'splained that well.
Don't worry. And guess what, we find the 25 year old guy working out at the gym a lot more attractive than the 45 yr old guy. But then I am sexually attracted to men, and I'm assuming you're not - so I can better see the difference. Also, there is a difference between finding someone incredibly attractive and being willing to be with them in a relationship. Sure the 20yr old is smoking hot, wouldn't actually date him though.15 -
Physical attractiveness on the photographic level (no human emotion involved) does change with age but the direction is not the same for everyone. Some look their best in childhood. Others don't reach their optimal looks until their heads are grey and their faces have smile lines and wrinkles. I think the same is true of weight. Some folks become more physically attractive with weight loss, others don't. I don't expect to. I have more wrinkles, my jowls are more pronounced, my cellulite shows more as I lose weight. I will start to "look my age" as my face loses the fat that kept it fully filled out and shaved a few years off.
Arguably, neither hubby nor I are physically attractive but we found each other when we were 54 and knew after a couple of hours that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. I think he's more beautiful every time I look at him. I suspect he feels the same about me.
Yes, there were people who didn't want to date me in the 42 years I chased boys (age 12 through 54) and some of them didn't want to because I was fat. The hell with them. I finally found the right person and he didn't choose me nor I him because of our physiques. We chose each other because we belong together -- as simple as that.
Meanwhile, have fun kissing as many toads as you can. I did. And it gave me plenty of stories for my old age.31 -
Take the best possible care of your body while you are young. That will make it easier to be healthy and happy when you're older.
Healthy and happy are attractive.
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Tacklewasher wrote: »janejellyroll wrote: »Tacklewasher wrote: »Need2Exerc1se wrote: »But Raquel Welch is still pretty smoking hot at 76.
I guess I'll disagree, in that while she is hot for 76, she was hotter in Barbarella.
Yeah, it sucks, but people get less attractive as they age and, in general, it is worse for women (in the eyes of most men). Looking around the gym, I see older ladies who are fit and in better shape than I am (not difficult to be) but they are not as attractive as the younger women. Somehow (and it may just be the straight guy in me talking here) I don't see as much of a difference between younger and older guys if they are in shape.
It's not right, it's not fair and it is no reason to not improve your health.
Hope I man'splained that well.
You're thinking of Jane Fonda or Anita Pallenberg. Raquel Welch is stunning, but she wasn't in Barbarella,
Ahhhh. Brain fart. Jane Fonda.
Most women like a man with a sharp mind 20 -
I like your mindset, I hope I get this one with my maturity as well.Thehardmakesitworthit wrote: »As I have aged I have become so much more confident in the essence of who I am and frankly, somewhere along the line in my maturity my mindset is: here I am world....you can suck it if you don't like it. Really, there is such freedom in maturing. As for my beauty or attractiveness, I am boldly more attractive now than I have been in many many years. Start from the inside out and love yourself first and the world will be attracted to that. And I would agree with what tcunbeliever said dont fret about the future my dear....embrace the right now. Lastly, you are beautiful! Enjoy the journey ....it goes tooo fast.This speaks more to the maturity of the eye of the beholder. A shallow mind desires aesthetic perfection. A mature mind desires more - with that more comes wrinkles, scars, blemishes, gray, etc.
I grew up admiring ladies such as Lauren Bacall and Helen Mirren, not for their looks, but their attitudes, intellect and confidence.
Society gets pretty much everything wrong. Don't follow the masses.
I try not to "follow the masses" but it's hard to do as you say when every girl on every poster is not flawed at all.tcunbeliever wrote: »I find that the older I get the less I give a rats behind what anyone else thinks about me or anything else in the universe...particularly when it comes to people who are just negative and boring and don't have anything nice to say about the world.
So, don't fret about the future...because odds are good that by the time it arrives you won't even be the same you anyway.
Great advice! Thank you. I appreciate this so much. I will try not to worry about my future. I already love so much about myself ; but sometimes my thoughts just take over and I worry about dumb things.TenaciousGymKitten wrote: »I'm 44; I feel like I am more attractive now than I probably have ever been. Do I notice the fine lines and wrinkles more? yes! But I have earned every one of them. I'm finding that as I am aging I am attracting more quality people versus quantity. I'm ok with that.
I highly encourage good skin care to start at the earliest of ages.
Good skin care, check! I will try that. Thank you
Interesting. I like this reply. Thank you.That depends on what you find 'attractive'. Yes, when you get older, you will get wrinkles. Your body will change. I'm 51 - and my body and face look different than when I was 25 years old. But I'm also wiser, more independent, and (I think) a much more interesting person. 'Beauty' and 'attractiveness' is in the eye of the beholder. I find a good sense of humor and intelligence attractive. Personally, I'm also physically in better shape now than when I was 25 years old._BlahBlah_BlackSheep_ wrote: »I think I'm much more attractive in my 40s than I was in my 20s. Age is just a number. There are enough things in life to stress us and bring on insecurity - age is something you can't change (and really, you WANT to age as it means you're still alive ) so try to let go of the number and just focus on the things that you want to change that you also have some control over.
I guess I get super attached to any number: age, weight, etc. It's hard not to. But I will try not to like you say
Thank you everyone for your honest replies. I love this community !
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On the positive side, as you get older your eyesight diminishes. Harder to see the flaws.42
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It's so sad . . . that I totally get where you are coming from - LOL!!!
I just turned 49 and up until 48 I really believed age is just a number - but not so much anymore. Things change, even after losing weight and working out and being at a place I was happy with, hormones happened, gravity changed the terms of our agreement, and a few other things started happening. I also noticed changes in my personality and how I see things so it is not just physical it also physiological. The person I am closest to is 8 years younger than me and concerns me to some degree. I'm single and hating it but I also know that for me at this point in my life I wouldn't even go near anything from my past. So I am sort of waiting and hoping with some excitement what might come.
Don't let age or weight control your goals, do what is best for you because regardless of age or weight, happy is what it is all about.6 -
VeronicaA76 wrote: »Tacklewasher wrote: »Need2Exerc1se wrote: »But Raquel Welch is still pretty smoking hot at 76.
I guess I'll disagree, in that while she is hot for 76, she was hotter in Barbarella.
Yeah, it sucks, but people get less attractive as they age and, in general, it is worse for women (in the eyes of most men). Looking around the gym, I see older ladies who are fit and in better shape than I am (not difficult to be) but they are not as attractive as the younger women. Somehow (and it may just be the straight guy in me talking here) I don't see as much of a difference between younger and older guys if they are in shape.
It's not right, it's not fair and it is no reason to not improve your health.
Hope I man'splained that well.
Don't worry. And guess what, we find the 25 year old guy working out at the gym a lot more attractive than the 45 yr old guy. But then I am sexually attracted to men, and I'm assuming you're not - so I can better see the difference. Also, there is a difference between finding someone incredibly attractive and being willing to be with them in a relationship. Sure the 20yr old is smoking hot, wouldn't actually date him though.
For the record, been married to the same person for 26 years. She has always been better looking than me. But, yeah. She did look better then. But I was also skinny when we got married and she still is, not like me.
I couldn't deal with a 20 yr old. I've sat behind them in movie theaters. Nope. Don't care what they look like.
Great. Now I've offended the 20 yrs olds here. I'm doing well today.24 -
Tacklewasher wrote: »janejellyroll wrote: »Tacklewasher wrote: »Need2Exerc1se wrote: »But Raquel Welch is still pretty smoking hot at 76.
I guess I'll disagree, in that while she is hot for 76, she was hotter in Barbarella.
Yeah, it sucks, but people get less attractive as they age and, in general, it is worse for women (in the eyes of most men). Looking around the gym, I see older ladies who are fit and in better shape than I am (not difficult to be) but they are not as attractive as the younger women. Somehow (and it may just be the straight guy in me talking here) I don't see as much of a difference between younger and older guys if they are in shape.
It's not right, it's not fair and it is no reason to not improve your health.
Hope I man'splained that well.
You're thinking of Jane Fonda or Anita Pallenberg. Raquel Welch is stunning, but she wasn't in Barbarella,
Ahhhh. Brain fart. Jane Fonda.
Most women like a man with a sharp mind
Oh. Go make me a sammich. Or at least on of your frozen lunches 7 -
Google septuagenarian.
Baby boomers are slowly losing their edge, but when they say "trending", marketers say, "how high"? It has never been a better time to fashionably age.
P.S. This is Beatrix Ox. Gorgeous isn't she?15 -
More evidence that boomers rule,
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