Age = less attractiveness?

tomteboda

QUEENxo1992 wrote: »

As I get older, I worry I won't be attractive enough to meet new friends or find love from the opposite sex. Does anyone else feel this way?

Your peers of the opposite sex are getting older too, so there is that. And friends who are friends aren't assessing your sexual attractiveness as a criterion for friendship.

Christine_72

canadianlbs

^^^ wait, is that george burns? ^^^

Enjcg5

deputy_randolph wrote: »

I'm 37 and could easily pass for 25 (ppl incorrectly guess my age by 10+ years all of the time). Funny thing is...I definitely look better (objectively) at 37 than I did at 25.

Take care of your skin now! Wear sunblock and moisturize!

Me too! I'm 38. I usually get carded. People's mouth drop when they hear I have 2 kids in high school

lessismoreohio

QUEENxo1992 wrote: »

This is a question that is running through my mind lately. It's probably my own insecurities eating me alive so I wanted to know your opinions. I know losing weight will not only help me look better but also feel better about myself too. But does age play any part in this?

As I get older, I worry I won't be attractive enough to meet new friends or find love from the opposite sex. Does anyone else feel this way?

I know confidence is sexy, of course but as I get older, I worry that my weightloss won't be the same as when I was 20 trying to lose weight(and successfully lost 137lbs in a year!). After regaining that weight though and way more than I bargained for, I am really scared.

I know beauty isn't important and it's society that makes us feel that it is, but will my age, affect my level of attractiveness to others or is this all just in my head?

My thoughts on this:

1) True friends will be more interested in what's on the inside and not what's on the outside.

2) Do the weight loss for your health. Let this be your focus. The confidence will come naturally as a result. As your confidence grows, your anxiety about this will decrease.

2) These days, society is getting older, people are living longer, people are working longer, etc. Age is less relevant perhaps than it was in the past. To a certain extent, it's true that age is just a number.

3) I know both men and women who (it appears to me) have become more attractive as they age. For them, I believe, it's a combination of their 1) taking better care of themselves and 2) how they relate to others as they get older; having a more engaging, relaxed and compassionate attitude as they age.

kathygodleyclark

I think most people find youthfulness attractive. However, most folks I feel ultimately try to connect with a person on a higher level than just attractiveness. Being attractive may pull someone in, but being interesting will cement the relationship. My goal is to be happy and the best that I can be no matter what my relationship status (I am widowed since 2004 and single parenting/caregiving for a sick mother ... haven't had much time for dating.) The way you feel about you is way more important that what anyone else thinks. Reach your goals, girl!

naomi8888

Tacklewasher wrote: »

VeronicaA76 wrote: »

Tacklewasher wrote: »

Need2Exerc1se wrote: »

But Raquel Welch is still pretty smoking hot at 76.

I guess I'll disagree, in that while she is hot for 76, she was hotter in Barbarella.

Yeah, it sucks, but people get less attractive as they age and, in general, it is worse for women (in the eyes of most men). Looking around the gym, I see older ladies who are fit and in better shape than I am (not difficult to be) but they are not as attractive as the younger women. Somehow (and it may just be the straight guy in me talking here) I don't see as much of a difference between younger and older guys if they are in shape.

It's not right, it's not fair and it is no reason to not improve your health.

Hope I man'splained that well.

Don't worry. And guess what, we find the 25 year old guy working out at the gym a lot more attractive than the 45 yr old guy. But then I am sexually attracted to men, and I'm assuming you're not - so I can better see the difference. Also, there is a difference between finding someone incredibly attractive and being willing to be with them in a relationship. Sure the 20yr old is smoking hot, wouldn't actually date him though.

For the record, been married to the same person for 26 years. She has always been better looking than me. But, yeah. She did look better then. But I was also skinny when we got married and she still is, not like me.

I couldn't deal with a 20 yr old. I've sat behind them in movie theaters. Nope. Don't care what they look like.


Great. Now I've offended the 20 yrs olds here. I'm doing well today.

I love the honesty! I think (in general) women seem to worry more about their looks than men do.