Online Dating.

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  • fjmartini
    fjmartini Posts: 1,149 Member
    I don't know if it's considered bad but I was meeting a date out and I saw she looked nothing like her picture so I drove away. It may sound mean but if the person doesn't remotely resemble their picture then technically I didn't agree to a date with them, I agreeded to a date with the picture.
  • CaloricCountess
    CaloricCountess Posts: 202 Member
    fjmartini wrote: »
    I don't know if it's considered bad but I was meeting a date out and I saw she looked nothing like her picture so I drove away. It may sound mean but if the person doesn't remotely resemble their picture then technically I didn't agree to a date with them, I agreeded to a date with the picture.

    This' exactly why, you Skype; with them 1st!
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  • fjmartini
    fjmartini Posts: 1,149 Member
    I'm about to turn 39. This was nearly 20 years ago. No Skype.
  • CaloricCountess
    CaloricCountess Posts: 202 Member
    fjmartini wrote: »
    I'm about to turn 39. This was nearly 20 years ago. No Skype.

    Ah okay!
  • fjmartini
    fjmartini Posts: 1,149 Member
    edited September 2017
    I've never had a bad date. If I spending my time out with a person it'll likely be somewhat fun if she's willing. If not, I'm just honest and say it's not going well and I'm ending the night early.
  • JadeQuetzal
    JadeQuetzal Posts: 95 Member
    I met my husband online, but not a dating site. We met in a chat on a site for learning Japanese. We've been married for 12 years now, so I can't really say I have bad stories of my own.

    However, my mom did do the dating sites. First long term relationship from a dating site, cheated on her after 5 or 6 years together. I thought he was cool in a lot of ways, but omg if you tried to debate anything with him, he adopted this very heated and condescending "you're an ignorant moron" tone. He was always right and he got mad if he disagreed. Also, his daughter was an all around awful person that I couldn't stand (stole stuff, smoked, drank, partied, and slept around in young teens and tried to get knocked up to trap guys, lied about terrible things, etc). He had 1000% double standards with his horribly behaved daughter than with my decently behaved brother when they stayed with them.

    Before that guy, though, there was one guy she was talking to a lot that would have skype video calls with her. But he kept asking to see me in the video (I was 17 or 18 at the time). Once or twice and mom was like, ok, well everyone is going to be curious what someone's kids are like. But he kept being like "oh tell your kid to go over with you" and it got creepy so that ended there.

    Another guy (I don't remember if it was before the cheater or after) seemed like a great guy but he ended things because mom didn't make enough money for him to feel like she wasn't using him for his income. Mom has a decent income at a job she's been at for more than half of my life. The guy doesn't make an awesome income either. But because he's in "triple digits" (even though he almost isn't), he said for as much as he liked her, he feels like everyone is after his money because he's been taken advantage of before. Mom is wise with her money and I don't doubt has more to show for it even if she does make a little less. The guy just had trust issues and maybe no self confidence that someone would like him for him.

    A winner finally did come along and they got married a year and a half ago.
  • leasy1
    leasy1 Posts: 172 Member
    edited September 2017
    I met my partner on a dating site, nearly 3 years later and a toddler we are still going strong.
    I had a few dodgy dates with guys I met on there before I met him. One took me roller skating, it was ok until I was going like 20mph and rolled right over to him fell on my bum with my legs wide open wrapped around him, staring up at him from the ground, my bum hurt for weeks!! awful just awful!! Another I met in a country pub and found out when I left my car had been scratched, but that wasn't the awful bit he had 3 friends and they all written each other's profile and picked the dates for each other so the twit I met didn't even know he was meeting me just that he was meeting someone.
    Dating has gotten so hard, back in the day before I got married (met ex husband at 18) you'd just go out pub, club, football match whatever meet someone chatted and took it from there but now since leaving him (then 35) and meeting my partner now it's a dying art it's all about dating sites and practically every couple I know has met on one.
  • Venus_88
    Venus_88 Posts: 112 Member
    samataz wrote: »
    cwolfman13 wrote: »
    sdolan91 wrote: »
    has anyone had any dates from dating websites that were just horrible?
    I'm at a loss at where to find a normal person to date.
    all the dates i've been on were super awkward or it was obvious they were interested in one thing. :expressionless:

    My dating days were behind me by the time dating websites really rolled around...but I had bad and awkward dates pre-internet. It's probably just more evident now because with on-line dating you have the ability to date in volume...in my dating days you had to go somewhere and meet someone or get set up by a friend, etc...still, more bad/awkward dates than not...just not the volume.

    Given the capacity for volume with on-line dating it is likely to have more bad/awkward dates than not...but to find a good one sooner rather than later...

    Lol well it's not as much volume as you think since they can pre judge you from pictures and texting equals talking now....So if those are considered dates now a days yup thats th he volume, but it's all the fake profiles and then they can't speak English or you say hi and then your sent a body part ha ha yeah are those counted as dates too?? I get confused LOL.

    What kind of sites did you use to get that?
    I figured out that if I use a dating app that isn't free of charge that would at least filter some people who has no serious intentions. I had about 18 dates in 2 months. Freaks, pervs (not all of them) but everyone could speak English and the profiles where not fake.
  • Break__You
    Break__You Posts: 111 Member
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  • longhardride
    longhardride Posts: 48 Member
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    I met the love of my life on MFP....... twenty-seven times

    Ooh 28 is my lucky number
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  • timtam163
    timtam163 Posts: 500 Member
    Well on dating apps women report being most afraid of getting raped/kidnapped/murdered, men report being most afraid of his date being secretly fat, so my tip is trying to guess who's most afraid of a fat date, swiping right, and then messing with him by telling him he should know up front that you've gained 40-80 pounds since your photo, you're not sure because you don't weigh yourself, anyways when would he like to meet up?
  • PAFC84
    PAFC84 Posts: 1,871 Member
    sdolan91 wrote: »
    has anyone had any dates from dating websites that were just horrible?
    I'm at a loss at where to find a normal person to date.
    all the dates i've been on were super awkward or it was obvious they were interested in one thing. :expressionless:

    Tbf, I think what you describe could apply equally to people that you haven't "met" on a dating website.
  • TomFit18
    TomFit18 Posts: 2,585 Member
    I got my popcorn ready....I have a feeling this might turn into a good one!
  • PAFC84
    PAFC84 Posts: 1,871 Member
    TomFit18 wrote: »
    I got my popcorn ready....I have a feeling this might turn into a good one!

    I reckon the mods will suck all the fun out of this thread by shutting it down.
  • amorfati601070
    amorfati601070 Posts: 2,890 Member
    edited June 2019
    Tinder is actually pretty good. I met some really cool peeps on their...it’s not just OnS stand chit either. That’s the only one i tried.
  • PAFC84
    PAFC84 Posts: 1,871 Member
    Smithyy1 wrote: »
    Dude, maybe you have a problem with the live communication? I understand you because I'm the same. Really, I can't just walk up to a girl and start a conversation with her. That's why I decided to use a dating site to find a girl. You know what? I did it and succeeded. Personally, I used a website,about which you can read Romancetale review. There I found girls probably from anywhere in the world, because being from America, I started a relationship with a girl from China, who migrated to America ) That site has a convenient interface and a lot of proved accounts, so you won't be deceived, because for the period of time I used that site I didn't meet fake accounts...

    RIP Smithyy1, RIP.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    No such thing as the internet when I was single. Don't think I would like it.
  • LyndaBSS
    LyndaBSS Posts: 6,964 Member
    I met my husband on kiss.com. <3

    Not even sure if it exists anymore.
  • PAFC84
    PAFC84 Posts: 1,871 Member
    LyndaBSS wrote: »
    I met my husband on kiss.com. <3

    Not even sure if it exists anymore.

    But more importantly, does he still exist??
  • AriesFL
    AriesFL Posts: 810 Member
    I have used several and have gotten some good dates and some bad ones. I have gotten into several relationships to that lasted for awhile. It’s a good way to meet people.
  • nooshi713
    nooshi713 Posts: 4,877 Member
    Pupnuzz wrote: »
    I try to stay away from most dating apps now.
    Met a guy off Grindr and he raped me, so I've been spending the last year recovering and begun working out and getting into make-up as an outlet.

    Omg that’s horrible! I’m so sorry you went through that.

  • Pupnuzz
    Pupnuzz Posts: 203 Member
    nooshi713 wrote: »
    Pupnuzz wrote: »
    I try to stay away from most dating apps now.
    Met a guy off Grindr and he raped me, so I've been spending the last year recovering and begun working out and getting into make-up as an outlet.

    Omg that’s horrible! I’m so sorry you went through that.

    Thanks, it's been a long year
  • 777Gemma888
    777Gemma888 Posts: 9,578 Member
    COGypsy wrote: »
    One thing I’ve learned with online dating is to always carry cash! I had a date with a guy that “forgot” to mention that he was a widower with SIX children. I said that was quite a bit of information that I was not expecting, threw a $20 on the table for the drink and walked out. I don’t date men with children to start with, I DEFINITELY don’t date men that have 6!

    I 'insightful' voted your post, as the number of children or pets wouldn't sway me. Suppose knowing that the average man in SD has 6 children plus 2 pets at 26 years old, the likelihood of dating a divorcè with those numbers is probable, be it an off chance meeting irl or online.

    I can see how his number of children threw you a loop ... It would be like meeting a divorcè with zero baggage here.
  • DarrenGreens10
    DarrenGreens10 Posts: 30 Member
    Nope seems bigger is not better now women want average size
  • busyPK
    busyPK Posts: 3,788 Member
    Nope seems bigger is not better now women want average size

    Every individual has traits they prefer, but the majority just want someone they click with, have time for each other and make one another feel special.