Online Dating.

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  • COGypsy
    COGypsy Posts: 1,365 Member
    777Gemma888 wrote: »
    COGypsy wrote: »
    One thing I’ve learned with online dating is to always carry cash! I had a date with a guy that “forgot” to mention that he was a widower with SIX children. I said that was quite a bit of information that I was not expecting, threw a $20 on the table for the drink and walked out. I don’t date men with children to start with, I DEFINITELY don’t date men that have 6!

    I 'insightful' voted your post, as the number of children or pets wouldn't sway me. Suppose knowing that the average man in SD has 6 children plus 2 pets at 26 years old, the likelihood of dating a divorcè with those numbers is probable, be it an off chance meeting irl or online.

    I can see how his number of children threw you a loop ... It would be like meeting a divorcè with zero baggage here.

    I definitely remember how different it is up north. I lived in WY for several years after my undergrad. I clearly recall a man asking me what was wrong with me that I didn’t have kids or an ex-husband. At 22-23. At that very moment I knew that was a place I had to leave.

    Now, I have no preference about whether someone has been married before, but I absolutely will not ever, under any circumstances date anyone who has, or wants to have children. I’d rather die alone and buy a cat to eat my face off than deal with children of any age. Much less SIX children with no baby mama to dump them off on. I just could not believe that someone wouldn’t mention that ever in a dating profile or during a week of emails/texting.

    Cash and a Lyft account. Critical tools in modern dating!
  • TarryTaffy
    TarryTaffy Posts: 883 Member
    edited December 2019
    XxFunctionalStrengthxX wrote: »
    I definitely remember how different it is up north. I lived in WY for several years after my undergrad. I clearly recall a man asking me what was wrong with me that I didn’t have kids or an ex-husband. At 22-23. At that very moment I knew that was a place I had to leave.

    I've encountered this mostly in the southeast. I worked in Atlanta with young girls who had several divorces, kids by each husband & were 20-21. I was 30 at the time... no divorces, no kids. Everyday they'd ask why, am I gay, is it some weird Yankee thing that infected me, haha.
    wrote:
    Now, I have no preference about whether someone has been married before, but I absolutely will not ever, under any circumstances date anyone who has, or wants to have children. I’d rather die alone and buy a cat to eat my face off than deal with children of any age. Much less SIX children with no baby mama to dump them off on. I just could not believe that someone wouldn’t mention that ever in a dating profile or during a week of emails/texting.

    I once went on a 1st date with a guy who I'd spoken to on the phone a number of times. At lunch, he suddenly dropped that he had 2 kids, 2-yrs & 4-mos... & a crazy ex-gf. Oh, great! He said the crazy gf "got pregnant" (as if he was't in the room at the time), they decided to buy a house so they could be a family (cuz if someone's crazy, it's a great idea to not use protection, then enter into a real estate contract with them), then they had a 2nd baby (cuz it's even better to continually procreate with a crazy, now-ex) & told me umpteen accounts on how he had to repeatedly call police as she refused to drop off the kids with him for visitation. This PhD college professor then left his profession & took a job as a waiter, so he didn't have to pay much in child support & apparently, she left a lucrative career & went on welfare so he'd have to pay for everything.

    What a prize of a man... let me at 'em! More importantly, those poor kids.

    I was insulted that he thought I, or any woman, would want to step into this nightmare of a situation. All his stories told me were what incredibly awful decisions he makes... repeatedly. I left smoke running away from the restaurant.

    And, although I described him as a "waste of makeup" to my friends, honestly... I'm just glad I found out before we dated for 1-mo or 6. I'm thankful he at least revealed himself on the 1st date... it should have been sooner, but it still saved me any heartache.

    I hope your next date is far better! Mine, too! Have a wonderful 2020!
  • qweck3
    qweck3 Posts: 346 Member
    I've found it to be a total mess. Last one I went out with had no kids, never married and my age. I'm like cool, I have no kids and never married myself so maybe this has a chance. She then proceeds to explain to me on a first date how she would stab me out of nowhere. *Check please. Don't need crazy!*
  • isalsayourface123
    isalsayourface123 Posts: 2,153 Member
    qweck3 wrote: »
    I've found it to be a total mess. Last one I went out with had no kids, never married and my age. I'm like cool, I have no kids and never married myself so maybe this has a chance. She then proceeds to explain to me on a first date how she would stab me out of nowhere. *Check please. Don't need crazy!*

    Hypotheticals :)
  • Tinydancer106
    Tinydancer106 Posts: 3,678 Member
    Pupnuzz wrote: »
    I try to stay away from most dating apps now.
    Met a guy off Grindr and he raped me, so I've been spending the last year recovering and begun working out and getting into make-up as an outlet.

    I'm so sorry my friend and hope you know I think you are tremendously strong and brave and you may have helped someone by letting them know the uncertainty out there....i would love to see your makeup I'm sure you rock at it!🤗😎🤘....and exercise is great for the mind body and spirit so I'm so impressed and happy for you....be proud because you are a survivor and badass! And well pretty dang cool too! Big hugs 🤗🙏💗
  • Tinydancer106
    Tinydancer106 Posts: 3,678 Member
    TarryTaffy wrote: »
    XxFunctionalStrengthxX wrote: »
    I definitely remember how different it is up north. I lived in WY for several years after my undergrad. I clearly recall a man asking me what was wrong with me that I didn’t have kids or an ex-husband. At 22-23. At that very moment I knew that was a place I had to leave.

    I've encountered this mostly in the southeast. I worked in Atlanta with young girls who had several divorces, kids by each husband & were 20-21. I was 30 at the time... no divorces, no kids. Everyday they'd ask why, am I gay, is it some weird Yankee thing that infected me, haha.
    wrote:
    Now, I have no preference about whether someone has been married before, but I absolutely will not ever, under any circumstances date anyone who has, or wants to have children. I’d rather die alone and buy a cat to eat my face off than deal with children of any age. Much less SIX children with no baby mama to dump them off on. I just could not believe that someone wouldn’t mention that ever in a dating profile or during a week of emails/texting.

    I once went on a 1st date with a guy who I'd spoken to on the phone a number of times. At lunch, he suddenly dropped that he had 2 kids, 2-yrs & 4-mos... & a crazy ex-gf. Oh, great! He said the crazy gf "got pregnant" (as if he was't in the room at the time), they decided to buy a house so they could be a family (cuz if someone's crazy, it's a great idea to not use protection, then enter into a real estate contract with them), then they had a 2nd baby (cuz it's even better to continually procreate with a crazy, now-ex) & told me umpteen accounts on how he had to repeatedly call police as she refused to drop off the kids with him for visitation. This PhD college professor then left his profession & took a job as a waiter, so he didn't have to pay much in child support & apparently, she left a lucrative career & went on welfare so he'd have to pay for everything.

    What a prize of a man... let me at 'em! More importantly, those poor kids.

    I was insulted that he thought I, or any woman, would want to step into this nightmare of a situation. All his stories told me were what incredibly awful decisions he makes... repeatedly. I left smoke running away from the restaurant.

    And, although I described him as a "waste of makeup" to my friends, honestly... I'm just glad I found out before we dated for 1-mo or 6. I'm thankful he at least revealed himself on the 1st date... it should have been sooner, but it still saved me any heartache.

    I hope your next date is far better! Mine, too! Have a wonderful 2020!

    Guuurl!!! 🤗💗.....i laughed at the whats wrong with you comment ya weird yankee!😂🙌

    From a fellow weird Yankee I can honestly say you're probably just too damn amazing😍🔥💃🙌🤷
  • ThomasRauch1
    ThomasRauch1 Posts: 3 Member
    I am new here and I really want a serious woman who is above 30 to message me or add me up! If you want to be friends you can add me up to but mainly interested in something romantic.
  • XxFunctionalStrengthxX
    XxFunctionalStrengthxX Posts: 2,466 Member
    TarryTaffy wrote: »
    XxFunctionalStrengthxX wrote: »
    I definitely remember how different it is up north. I lived in WY for several years after my undergrad. I clearly recall a man asking me what was wrong with me that I didn’t have kids or an ex-husband. At 22-23. At that very moment I knew that was a place I had to leave.

    I've encountered this mostly in the southeast. I worked in Atlanta with young girls who had several divorces, kids by each husband & were 20-21. I was 30 at the time... no divorces, no kids. Everyday they'd ask why, am I gay, is it some weird Yankee thing that infected me, haha.
    wrote:
    Now, I have no preference about whether someone has been married before, but I absolutely will not ever, under any circumstances date anyone who has, or wants to have children. I’d rather die alone and buy a cat to eat my face off than deal with children of any age. Much less SIX children with no baby mama to dump them off on. I just could not believe that someone wouldn’t mention that ever in a dating profile or during a week of emails/texting.

    I once went on a 1st date with a guy who I'd spoken to on the phone a number of times. At lunch, he suddenly dropped that he had 2 kids, 2-yrs & 4-mos... & a crazy ex-gf. Oh, great! He said the crazy gf "got pregnant" (as if he was't in the room at the time), they decided to buy a house so they could be a family (cuz if someone's crazy, it's a great idea to not use protection, then enter into a real estate contract with them), then they had a 2nd baby (cuz it's even better to continually procreate with a crazy, now-ex) & told me umpteen accounts on how he had to repeatedly call police as she refused to drop off the kids with him for visitation. This PhD college professor then left his profession & took a job as a waiter, so he didn't have to pay much in child support & apparently, she left a lucrative career & went on welfare so he'd have to pay for everything.

    What a prize of a man... let me at 'em! More importantly, those poor kids.

    I was insulted that he thought I, or any woman, would want to step into this nightmare of a situation. All his stories told me were what incredibly awful decisions he makes... repeatedly. I left smoke running away from the restaurant.

    And, although I described him as a "waste of makeup" to my friends, honestly... I'm just glad I found out before we dated for 1-mo or 6. I'm thankful he at least revealed himself on the 1st date... it should have been sooner, but it still saved me any heartache.

    I hope your next date is far better! Mine, too! Have a wonderful 2020!

    Funny that you quoted it as from me. But, it's not. ;)

    As a man, I have similar views as you when it comes to women. I've been through hell in regards to women with children. So, am very apprehensive on dating women with children. While it's my preference for no children, especially those still at home, if I met the right woman I'd have to seriously reconsider. Especially since I do have an adult son who lives on his own.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    isalsayourface123 wrote: »
    seltzermint555 wrote: »
    I've been married twice & met both of my husbands online. Both are awesome men, but of course Husband #2 is the one for me and much more awesome.

    I dated several other guys in between who were generally pretty good. A couple of them weren't for me (for various reasons) and one was clearly much more interested in finding a partner to share the load financially which was a bit disturbing, but I stopped seeing him right away. I'm still friends with a couple of these guys - the good ones - years down the road.

    I feel like in my daily life I spend an inordinate amount of time warning & advising friends & colleagues to MEET QUICKLY face to face when they start an online flirtation. A lot of them do not follow this advice and wind up scammed, hurt or just very disappointed. I learned back in 1999 with a month-long "online relationship" that it's silly to put way too much effort into a person that may be far from what they say. Luckily mine was just a dorky guy across the country who was still technically with his "ex" girlfriend. But some of my acquaintances have been into these "relationships" much deeper and gotten hurt. Or maybe worse, met up and were rejected or had to reject someone after feelings were intense on one or both sides.

    So anyway...I think it's so important to meet up QUICKLY and figure out if there's anything there. Saves a lot of time & heartache. MUCH easier to reject or be rejected after a week of casual chat than after months of deep "bonding" and planning...

    On the flip side. Taking a couple weeks to get to know someone is important. There have been several instances where some anger, drinking, or side relationships were revealed. Some potentially dangerous personalities I was able to avoid by taking some time. So a fine line between meet up quick and make sure you know enough about the person first.

    True, I suppose. I feel like a lot of people are really great though at showing only their best side online and via text and such. Masters at hiding other relationships and even marriage.
    But that is a very good point, not meeting too fast before you get a sense of what the person may be like. I didn't disagree with you btw!

    I think I was always so gun shy with any tiny, minor red flags...the guys I met were almost always pretty compatible with me, tons of shared interests, etc. Sometimes even shared backgrounds or mutual friends. So I didn't consider the above quite so much.
  • kaizaku
    kaizaku Posts: 1,039 Member
    Dating online is not that great. So many misleading pics, when you see them in real life. You will be disgusted.
  • XxFunctionalStrengthxX
    XxFunctionalStrengthxX Posts: 2,466 Member
    seltzermint555 wrote: »
    isalsayourface123 wrote: »
    seltzermint555 wrote: »
    I've been married twice & met both of my husbands online. Both are awesome men, but of course Husband #2 is the one for me and much more awesome.

    I dated several other guys in between who were generally pretty good. A couple of them weren't for me (for various reasons) and one was clearly much more interested in finding a partner to share the load financially which was a bit disturbing, but I stopped seeing him right away. I'm still friends with a couple of these guys - the good ones - years down the road.

    I feel like in my daily life I spend an inordinate amount of time warning & advising friends & colleagues to MEET QUICKLY face to face when they start an online flirtation. A lot of them do not follow this advice and wind up scammed, hurt or just very disappointed. I learned back in 1999 with a month-long "online relationship" that it's silly to put way too much effort into a person that may be far from what they say. Luckily mine was just a dorky guy across the country who was still technically with his "ex" girlfriend. But some of my acquaintances have been into these "relationships" much deeper and gotten hurt. Or maybe worse, met up and were rejected or had to reject someone after feelings were intense on one or both sides.

    So anyway...I think it's so important to meet up QUICKLY and figure out if there's anything there. Saves a lot of time & heartache. MUCH easier to reject or be rejected after a week of casual chat than after months of deep "bonding" and planning...

    On the flip side. Taking a couple weeks to get to know someone is important. There have been several instances where some anger, drinking, or side relationships were revealed. Some potentially dangerous personalities I was able to avoid by taking some time. So a fine line between meet up quick and make sure you know enough about the person first.

    True, I suppose. I feel like a lot of people are really great though at showing only their best side online and via text and such. Masters at hiding other relationships and even marriage.
    But that is a very good point, not meeting too fast before you get a sense of what the person may be like. I didn't disagree with you btw!

    I think I was always so gun shy with any tiny, minor red flags...the guys I met were almost always pretty compatible with me, tons of shared interests, etc. Sometimes even shared backgrounds or mutual friends. So I didn't consider the above quite so much.

    Even in real life, people can be great at only showing what they want others to see. Online just allows it to be that much more so.

    I think there's a right time to meet someone in person, and it depends on things such as distance/location, schedules, etc. While I prefer to meet someone as soon as possible, if there's barriers such as long distance or schedules then the alternative of video chat (Skype, etc) is a good middle ground until things work out and can meet.

  • JTTX99
    JTTX99 Posts: 13 Member
    I am guilty of trying on-line dating, a couple of different sites actually. What I have found is women on those sites use filters and old pictures to lure men, don't get me wrong I am sure men use old photos as well. I met 5 in real life and only 1 resembled their on-line photos. I also met one person from MFP, that went well for about a year, until it no longer went well. All of them were anxious to meet right away. Generally I found that I had a lot in common with them or they claimed to enjoy the same things I enjoyed. But once we met, I found that necessarily wasn't the case. 3 out of 5 had many drinks and started talking about past relationships. Huge turn off. As a previous poster stated and I couldn't agree more " Taking a couple weeks to get to know someone is important. There have been several instances where anger, drinking, or side relationships were revealed. Some potentially dangerous personalities I was able to avoid by taking some time. So a fine line between meet up quick and make sure you know enough about the person first".
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    Pupnuzz wrote: »
    Tinydancer106 wrote: »
    Pupnuzz wrote: »
    I try to stay away from most dating apps now.
    Met a guy off Grindr and he raped me, so I've been spending the last year recovering and begun working out and getting into make-up as an outlet.

    I'm so sorry my friend and hope you know I think you are tremendously strong and brave and you may have helped someone by letting them know the uncertainty out there....i would love to see your makeup I'm sure you rock at it!🤗😎🤘....and exercise is great for the mind body and spirit so I'm so impressed and happy for you....be proud because you are a survivor and badass! And well pretty dang cool too! Big hugs 🤗🙏💗

    @Tinydancer106

    Thanks 🙂
    That means a lot!
    I do hope that my story may help others stay safe or take some extra caution out there


    I've been trying to post a pic of my makeup in one of the selfie thread but I can't seem to get it to upload from my phone for some reason and I wasn't sure how accepted a guy in makeup would be on here haha, didn't wanna be in everyone's faces lol. If anyone knows a fix please tell me 🤗

    I can speak only for myself of course but I really see no difference whether men or women use cosmetics, or filters, or whatever appearance alteration they like.... I've never believed that any particular behaviour was "appropriate" for one gender but not another.

    I don't personally know many people who have used online dating in my age cohort (50s) but the ones that have will most often mention misleading photos or physique descriptions. Apparently the philosophy is, "well I'm overweight but the average person is overweight so I'll put 'average' as my build".

    No real horror stories but my friend's male neighbour was having great success with online dating and I was pretty shocked to hear the number of women who would happily go to his home for their first face to face meeting. :o
  • kam26001
    kam26001 Posts: 2,794 Member
    I've been scrambling to find a date for New Year's on these dating apps but no one seems interested in a sober night of traditional polka dancing to the 90's.
  • TarryTaffy
    TarryTaffy Posts: 883 Member
    XxFunctionalStrengthxX wrote: »
    TarryTaffy wrote: »
    XxFunctionalStrengthxX wrote: »
    I definitely remember how different it is up north. I lived in WY for several years after my undergrad. I clearly recall a man asking me what was wrong with me that I didn’t have kids or an ex-husband. At 22-23. At that very moment I knew that was a place I had to leave.

    I've encountered this mostly in the southeast. I worked in Atlanta with young girls who had several divorces, kids by each husband & were 20-21. I was 30 at the time... no divorces, no kids. Everyday they'd ask why, am I gay, is it some weird Yankee thing that infected me, haha.
    wrote:
    Now, I have no preference about whether someone has been married before, but I absolutely will not ever, under any circumstances date anyone who has, or wants to have children. I’d rather die alone and buy a cat to eat my face off than deal with children of any age. Much less SIX children with no baby mama to dump them off on. I just could not believe that someone wouldn’t mention that ever in a dating profile or during a week of emails/texting.

    I once went on a 1st date with a guy who I'd spoken to on the phone a number of times. At lunch, he suddenly dropped that he had 2 kids, 2-yrs & 4-mos... & a crazy ex-gf. Oh, great! He said the crazy gf "got pregnant" (as if he was't in the room at the time), they decided to buy a house so they could be a family (cuz if someone's crazy, it's a great idea to not use protection, then enter into a real estate contract with them), then they had a 2nd baby (cuz it's even better to continually procreate with a crazy, now-ex) & told me umpteen accounts on how he had to repeatedly call police as she refused to drop off the kids with him for visitation. This PhD college professor then left his profession & took a job as a waiter, so he didn't have to pay much in child support & apparently, she left a lucrative career & went on welfare so he'd have to pay for everything.

    What a prize of a man... let me at 'em! More importantly, those poor kids.

    I was insulted that he thought I, or any woman, would want to step into this nightmare of a situation. All his stories told me were what incredibly awful decisions he makes... repeatedly. I left smoke running away from the restaurant.

    And, although I described him as a "waste of makeup" to my friends, honestly... I'm just glad I found out before we dated for 1-mo or 6. I'm thankful he at least revealed himself on the 1st date... it should have been sooner, but it still saved me any heartache.

    I hope your next date is far better! Mine, too! Have a wonderful 2020!

    Funny that you quoted it as from me. But, it's not. ;)

    As a man, I have similar views as you when it comes to women. I've been through hell in regards to women with children. So, am very apprehensive on dating women with children. While it's my preference for no children, especially those still at home, if I met the right woman I'd have to seriously reconsider. Especially since I do have an adult son who lives on his own.

    Oh, oops, accident. I deleted too much of the previous posts... I'll leave them from now on. Sorry... it's too late to edit, but thanks for the clarification.


    To your current post, I didn't state my views on dating men with children (& never will, cuz my views would most likely offend others)... I only recounted 1 date. :wink:

    The problem was the h*ll of a life he'd created for himself & wanting to drag another woman into it.
  • XxFunctionalStrengthxX
    XxFunctionalStrengthxX Posts: 2,466 Member
    TarryTaffy wrote: »
    XxFunctionalStrengthxX wrote: »
    TarryTaffy wrote: »
    XxFunctionalStrengthxX wrote: »
    I definitely remember how different it is up north. I lived in WY for several years after my undergrad. I clearly recall a man asking me what was wrong with me that I didn’t have kids or an ex-husband. At 22-23. At that very moment I knew that was a place I had to leave.

    I've encountered this mostly in the southeast. I worked in Atlanta with young girls who had several divorces, kids by each husband & were 20-21. I was 30 at the time... no divorces, no kids. Everyday they'd ask why, am I gay, is it some weird Yankee thing that infected me, haha.
    wrote:
    Now, I have no preference about whether someone has been married before, but I absolutely will not ever, under any circumstances date anyone who has, or wants to have children. I’d rather die alone and buy a cat to eat my face off than deal with children of any age. Much less SIX children with no baby mama to dump them off on. I just could not believe that someone wouldn’t mention that ever in a dating profile or during a week of emails/texting.

    I once went on a 1st date with a guy who I'd spoken to on the phone a number of times. At lunch, he suddenly dropped that he had 2 kids, 2-yrs & 4-mos... & a crazy ex-gf. Oh, great! He said the crazy gf "got pregnant" (as if he was't in the room at the time), they decided to buy a house so they could be a family (cuz if someone's crazy, it's a great idea to not use protection, then enter into a real estate contract with them), then they had a 2nd baby (cuz it's even better to continually procreate with a crazy, now-ex) & told me umpteen accounts on how he had to repeatedly call police as she refused to drop off the kids with him for visitation. This PhD college professor then left his profession & took a job as a waiter, so he didn't have to pay much in child support & apparently, she left a lucrative career & went on welfare so he'd have to pay for everything.

    What a prize of a man... let me at 'em! More importantly, those poor kids.

    I was insulted that he thought I, or any woman, would want to step into this nightmare of a situation. All his stories told me were what incredibly awful decisions he makes... repeatedly. I left smoke running away from the restaurant.

    And, although I described him as a "waste of makeup" to my friends, honestly... I'm just glad I found out before we dated for 1-mo or 6. I'm thankful he at least revealed himself on the 1st date... it should have been sooner, but it still saved me any heartache.

    I hope your next date is far better! Mine, too! Have a wonderful 2020!

    Funny that you quoted it as from me. But, it's not. ;)

    As a man, I have similar views as you when it comes to women. I've been through hell in regards to women with children. So, am very apprehensive on dating women with children. While it's my preference for no children, especially those still at home, if I met the right woman I'd have to seriously reconsider. Especially since I do have an adult son who lives on his own.

    Oh, oops, accident. I deleted too much of the previous posts... I'll leave them from now on. Sorry... it's too late to edit, but thanks for the clarification.


    To your current post, I didn't state my views on dating men with children (& never will, cuz my views would most likely offend others)... I only recounted 1 date. :wink:

    The problem was the h*ll of a life he'd created for himself & wanting to drag another woman into it.

    Not a problem on the quote, was just kind of a head scratcher for a second. :lol:

    Apologies, I was thinking you were saying that you wouldn't date a man with children and was getting posts crossed. But, you do have me interested in your views as you feel they might offend others.

  • Tinydancer106
    Tinydancer106 Posts: 3,678 Member
    edited December 2019
    Pupnuzz wrote: »
    Tinydancer106 wrote: »
    Pupnuzz wrote: »
    I try to stay away from most dating apps now.
    Met a guy off Grindr and he raped me, so I've been spending the last year recovering and begun working out and getting into make-up as an outlet.

    I'm so sorry my friend and hope you know I think you are tremendously strong and brave and you may have helped someone by letting them know the uncertainty out there....i would love to see your makeup I'm sure you rock at it!🤗😎🤘....and exercise is great for the mind body and spirit so I'm so impressed and happy for you....be proud because you are a survivor and badass! And well pretty dang cool too! Big hugs 🤗🙏💗

    @Tinydancer106

    Thanks 🙂
    That means a lot!
    I do hope that my story may help others stay safe or take some extra caution out there


    I've been trying to post a pic of my makeup in one of the selfie thread but I can't seem to get it to upload from my phone for some reason and I wasn't sure how accepted a guy in makeup would be on here haha, didn't wanna be in everyone's faces lol. If anyone knows a fix please tell me 🤗

    @Pupnuzz
    I think you are awesome and I have a good pal of mine who is a makeup artist and will send me his latest creations on himself and I get so jelly because I wish I had his talent cuz then I'd be voguing up the selfie threads like a diva lol💃💥
    ...you are awesome and as a fellow artist ( not of make up unfortunately😒😁)....i say do what makes YOU happy and proud boy!

    Big hugs! Your newest fan! (And pal) Ali🤗🙌😍

    Ps if you don't feel up to post on the threads post on your profile but add me so I can totally fangirl you too chico!🤗🙌🙏
  • Tinydancer106
    Tinydancer106 Posts: 3,678 Member
    isalsayourface123 wrote: »
    seltzermint555 wrote: »
    I've been married twice & met both of my husbands online. Both are awesome men, but of course Husband #2 is the one for me and much more awesome.

    I dated several other guys in between who were generally pretty good. A couple of them weren't for me (for various reasons) and one was clearly much more interested in finding a partner to share the load financially which was a bit disturbing, but I stopped seeing him right away. I'm still friends with a couple of these guys - the good ones - years down the road.

    I feel like in my daily life I spend an inordinate amount of time warning & advising friends & colleagues to MEET QUICKLY face to face when they start an online flirtation. A lot of them do not follow this advice and wind up scammed, hurt or just very disappointed. I learned back in 1999 with a month-long "online relationship" that it's silly to put way too much effort into a person that may be far from what they say. Luckily mine was just a dorky guy across the country who was still technically with his "ex" girlfriend. But some of my acquaintances have been into these "relationships" much deeper and gotten hurt. Or maybe worse, met up and were rejected or had to reject someone after feelings were intense on one or both sides.

    So anyway...I think it's so important to meet up QUICKLY and figure out if there's anything there. Saves a lot of time & heartache. MUCH easier to reject or be rejected after a week of casual chat than after months of deep "bonding" and planning...

    On the flip side. Taking a couple weeks to get to know someone is important. been several instances where some anger, drinking, or side relationships were revealed. Some potentially dangerous personalities I was able to avoid by taking some time. So a fine line between meet up quick and make sure you know enough about the person first.

    both sides have great points 🙌🤗
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  • Tinydancer106
    Tinydancer106 Posts: 3,678 Member
    1sphere wrote: »
    I tried that "OkCupid" one, I have one match that's it. She won't even reply. I don't know what to think about dating apps lol

    lmao! That's funny!😂🤗🙌....you are gonna be someone's someone special and they will be one lucky gal! 😉
  • Pupnuzz
    Pupnuzz Posts: 203 Member
    @tinydancer106 I added you! But I don't know if it worked
  • AriesFL
    AriesFL Posts: 810 Member
    I get my best results from Bumble and Coffee Meets Bagel and sonetines Tinder through out the years. Obviously not the best because I haven’t gotten married from it, but I have had some good relationships and dates. I have had some bad dates, but you brush it off and keep trying.
  • AriesFL
    AriesFL Posts: 810 Member
    LyndaBSS wrote: »
    Well, I’ve signed up on a couple of dating sites again.

    For those who don’t know me, I had met my incredible husband this way 15 years ago. I lost him in March 2018 to ALS.

    So, I’m hoping to meet a nice guy and see what happens. Hopefully, something amazing.

    I am sorry for your loss. Good luck on the dating sites. I hope you find what you are looking for!
  • Tinydancer106
    Tinydancer106 Posts: 3,678 Member
    LyndaBSS wrote: »
    Well, I’ve signed up on a couple of dating sites again.

    For those who don’t know me, I had met my incredible husband this way 15 years ago. I lost him in March 2018 to ALS.

    So, I’m hoping to meet a nice guy and see what happens. Hopefully, something amazing.

    Aw Lynda I know you had a great fella and I hope you find another special someone to enjoy your life....you are the bomb lady! They'll be lucky to have you for sure sweet lovely lady!😍💗🙌🤗
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