Complaints and Crabs

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  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    slimgirljo15 wrote: »
    RunHardBeStrong wrote: »
    My complaint for tonight is there is no one here to fill my wine glass and let me lay on their chest.

    On my way.. I have some spectacular pillows for ya :laugh:

    :D bring more wine!
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    RunHardBeStrong wrote: »
    slimgirljo15 wrote: »
    RunHardBeStrong wrote: »
    My complaint for tonight is there is no one here to fill my wine glass and let me lay on their chest.

    On my way.. I have some spectacular pillows for ya :laugh:

    :D bring more wine!

    *running,Im coming* :D
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    TeinyWinehausen wrote: »
    I hate how every conversation on this site ends up being about sex..I'm going outside to have a cigarette and blow smoke into my neighbours yard.

    Make sure you find a kid to home school while you're out there.
  • Ainadan
    Ainadan Posts: 158 Member
    I am an abused grad student. I had to give a test today which took up most of my Saturday, and my students didn't do well, because no one does well on these exams, and the coordinator for the course won't even let me see the test before the exam. How am I supposed to teach the course?!

    Also, my department wants to use me to teach, and then cut funding when I'm not teaching, even though I am supposed to get 1 semester every year to research. I am one of 2 non-Chinese in my program, and they all want to speak in Chinese together and ignore me, except for one girl from Taiwan. Also, because I am American, they want me to teach more than anyone else. So far, I've taught 10 classes and am teaching two in the Spring. Everyone else in my cohort has taught 5-7, and the max someone in the cohort above me has taught is 8. We were told when we entered the program that we would teach 3 courses, and most people in our field teach 2-3 while in grad school.

    Because I do have this outrageous teaching schedule, I am behind on my research and not the best student, so I am ignored by the faculty except for one guy who is stuck with me because I was his RA my first year, and he is only on his 3rd year out of the Ph.D program. I know this is partially my fault for not presenting them with ideas, but all of last year I was taking 4 classes and teaching 2- when do I have time to come up with ideas or get them polished enough to present to faculty?

    And I have to live in a city with expensive rent and I have to be an hour away from my horse. My school is downtown and I have to pay for crappy parking 4 blocks from my office, and am accosted by homeless people so much that I've developed a pretty intense resting *kitten* face, even though that is not me at all and I hate it. I'm at the point where I want to be done so bad, and still have 2-3 years left (I WILL make it 2!!)

    I know I'll get through, and compared to any other struggle that anyone else is facing, this is nothing. I live in a rather nice (but small) flat downtown of a big city, with a steady-ish job and a rescue dog, so I'm living someone else's dream. I guess I hate it when I can't be the best, and I don't feel like the environment I'm in right now is conducive for me to shine. However, I don't even need to be the best, I just need to get through. But it's hard.
  • meganpettigrew86
    meganpettigrew86 Posts: 349 Member
    Just been told more of my baby trees I planted 6months ago have been all mowed. I share land with my folks, which is great but sadly dad is old and loves his tractor and line trimmer. Half the things I plant get lost. So guttered right now
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    edited September 2017
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    I want to complain about myself.

    I'm so indecisive I cause myself a lot of anxiety making decisions and when I do make a decision it is usually a random spur of the moment choice. I'm fine with my random choices because I see the pros and cons of my options and at some point need to choose something, but I wish I could just move forward from there and not second guess myself and feel like I maybe made the wrong choice. And the anxiety it causes me sucks.

    I like the idea of moving forward and not looking back but I can't do it.
    _har_T_Swallow wrote: »
    you can do anything. the anxiety of wondering what if sucks yeah, but that's life and you don't ever want to remain stagnant. it takes practice to get better at something, same as everything else.

    I used to be so good at not being stagnant, I prided myself on it and my ability to make quick decisions and not look back. I have to remind myself of that, and that I can do it. I really don't have anything holding me back.
    _har_T_Swallow wrote: »
    like you might strike out occasionally, sure everyone does that; but you're never gonna hit a home run unless you take a swing either. and some people go their whole lives without hitting a home run.

    I love this analogy, very true, and the bolded part...I'm ok if I'm one of those people, as long as I keep trying.

  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    _har_T_Swallow wrote: »
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    I want to complain about myself.

    I'm so indecisive I cause myself a lot of anxiety making decisions and when I do make a decision it is usually a random spur of the moment choice. I'm fine with my random choices because I see the pros and cons of my options and at some point need to choose something, but I wish I could just move forward from there and not second guess myself and feel like I maybe made the wrong choice. And the anxiety it causes me sucks.

    I like the idea of moving forward and not looking back but I can't do it.
    you can do anything. the anxiety of wondering what if sucks yeah, but that's life and you don't ever want to remain stagnant. it takes practice to get better at something, same as everything else.

    I used to be so good at not being stagnant, I prided myself on it and my ability to make quick decisions and not look back. I have to remind myself of that, and that I can do it. I really don't have anything holding me back.
    like you might strike out occasionally, sure everyone does that; but you're never gonna hit a home run unless you take a swing either. and some people go their whole lives without hitting a home run.

    I love this analogy, very true, and the bolded part...I'm ok if I'm one of those people, as long as I keep trying.

    Buy and read the book titled: the paradox of choice

    I did.... and it helps in this regard
  • blackcomaro
    blackcomaro Posts: 796 Member
    beingmore1 wrote: »
    TeinyWinehausen wrote: »
    I hate how every conversation on this site ends up being about sex..I'm going outside to have a cigarette and blow smoke into my neighbours yard.

    it doesn't always end up being about sex. Sometimes its creampuffs.

    Or perhaps a new fence which looks old.
  • 123liveoak
    123liveoak Posts: 2,239 Member
    last night no one bought me a bday shot...that's some bullsh**
  • 123liveoak
    123liveoak Posts: 2,239 Member
    _har_T_Swallow wrote: »
    jkou77 wrote: »
    last night no one bought me a bday shot...that's some bullsh**

    going to send you a "happy bday" DM next week instead too k?

    ha! jokes on you...my bday is next week...so thanks for making it special ...well when you message me (on tue.) :smiley:
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    edited September 2017
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    _har_T_Swallow wrote: »
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    I want to complain about myself.

    I'm so indecisive I cause myself a lot of anxiety making decisions and when I do make a decision it is usually a random spur of the moment choice. I'm fine with my random choices because I see the pros and cons of my options and at some point need to choose something, but I wish I could just move forward from there and not second guess myself and feel like I maybe made the wrong choice. And the anxiety it causes me sucks.

    I like the idea of moving forward and not looking back but I can't do it.
    you can do anything. the anxiety of wondering what if sucks yeah, but that's life and you don't ever want to remain stagnant. it takes practice to get better at something, same as everything else.

    I used to be so good at not being stagnant, I prided myself on it and my ability to make quick decisions and not look back. I have to remind myself of that, and that I can do it. I really don't have anything holding me back.
    like you might strike out occasionally, sure everyone does that; but you're never gonna hit a home run unless you take a swing either. and some people go their whole lives without hitting a home run.

    I love this analogy, very true, and the bolded part...I'm ok if I'm one of those people, as long as I keep trying.


    Buy and read the book titled: the paradox of choice

    I did.... and it helps in this regard

    Thank-you!
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    rickiimarieee wrote: »
    The guy down the street, I saved his dog from a ditch it was laying there dying and I nursed it back to health and I brought the dog back and he didn't say thank you or anything. Now every time he sees me outside my house he just drives pst real slow giving me a real nasty look.

    I'd have kept the dog.

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