The rudest people!
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Years ago with my ex his mom calls me into her bedroom and says to close the door. She puts her hand on my stomach and asks, " Is there a bun in the oven?" O_O I don't remember what I said but just no and got the eff out of there. Time passes. I'm wearing a winter coat and even though I'm sweating I don't take it off bc I feel fat and one of her friends is helping me and my ex move. I guess he noticed and told my ex's mom about it. The next day we're at his mother's and she goes to hug me but puts her hand on my stomach again and asks me again about being pregnant. Brought up the coat story like I was trying to hide it. I hated her for that alone bc otherwise she was a nice enough lady. It was insulting not only bc she made me feel fat but bc she thought I was going to hide a pregnancy.2
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I was 7 months pregnant in a wedding and the photographer told me to move my bouquet so people could tell I was pregnant and not just fat. This was a female photographer.0
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At different points in life I've heard and been offended by:
"Look at little you", made me feel singled out and self conscious.
"Don't you think this weight loss has gone too far", it was unintentional weight loss, I started wearing 2 pairs of pants and 3 baggy shirts to try to hide it.
"Are you pregnant" um really? I gained 10 lbs. I said no and it was hilarious, she started saying stuff like "omg, you're so skinny, of course you aren't pregnant"1 -
toned_thugs_n_harmony wrote: »rickiimarieee wrote: »My 6 year old stepson looked at me serious as can be and said "I know how much you weigh 200 pounds" not saying 200 pounds is an insult to some people but I'm naturally small so I was highly offended even though he's only 6. I'm 5'4 130 pounds and I've been dieting for 3 months now so I did feel discouraged that it hasn't looked like I lost that much. Also when I was like 12 weeks pregnant I wore a dress and my stepson straight out told me "you look fat in that dress." Mind you I didn't start showing until 6 months along.
if I took offense to every comment a child made about me, i'd be on a psych hold. he's a child and has no clue what 200 lbs even means.abetterme9366 wrote: »toned_thugs_n_harmony wrote: »rickiimarieee wrote: »My 6 year old stepson looked at me serious as can be and said "I know how much you weigh 200 pounds" not saying 200 pounds is an insult to some people but I'm naturally small so I was highly offended even though he's only 6. I'm 5'4 130 pounds and I've been dieting for 3 months now so I did feel discouraged that it hasn't looked like I lost that much. Also when I was like 12 weeks pregnant I wore a dress and my stepson straight out told me "you look fat in that dress." Mind you I didn't start showing until 6 months along.
if I took offense to every comment a child made about me, i'd be on a psych hold. he's a child and has no clue what 200 lbs even means.
Right? I’ll put stock into what a 6 year old days NEVER. Why anyone would is far beyond me. Even the most brilliant and gifted 6 year old practically needs a helmet.
Lmao but my son does know what things weigh. He knows that his pappy weighs 200 pounds (so he's saying I'm as big as my dad or my fiancés dad) and he can pretty much guess the weight of things around him. I said I know that he is only 6 but even when a child tells you that you are still taken back. Lol
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GlassAngyl wrote: »rickiimarieee wrote: »I ignored the one where he said I look 200 pounds even though I was secretly devastated and when I was pregnant I was emotional so I bawled
At 6, 200 was complementing you. They don't understand age and measurements like weight yet. 200 means "that's the biggest number I can think of and so you are that number cause you are bigger than anyone else in my eyes!" (This is a good thing).. It's the Same as kids in kindergarten arguing over whose mommy is the oldest and biggest. The older and bigger, the better. If he called you fat, that be a whole nother matter, but again, isn't necessarily bad in their eyes.. Your kid saying you looked fat in a certain dress was his way of helping you out so you look your best. Just needs to learn how to say it better.
I guess I could look at it this way. His real mom is a bad influence on him so he was probably told to say that. He has been told to say bad things from his mom so that's why his mom isn't in the picture much. But at first we had problems bonding so he might of said this to get me fired up, but I didn't yell at him or anything. He knows that calling someone fat is a bad thing. He isn't a big child but he would cry if someone said something like that but I was pregnant and emotional so I cried lmao.
Other than that it hasn't bothered me much. I mean the 200 pound comment bothered me a little just because I've been working so hard on my weight loss and he just said it randomly so I was taken back. Lol
But he's 6 and I understand he's doesn't quite understand weight.0 -
To those who have had problems gaining or losing weight:
We all know people can be rude. The world is full of cruel people always making fun of someones weight. The good thing is always having family and friends to be there with you through it all. Also having apps and trainers to help you reach your goal is great.
My question is. What are some hateful things people have said to you about your weight and how did you respond to it??
In high school when I hit my growth spurt I was rail thin and had a hard time putting on weight...people used to make fun of me for being really skinny. I was very self conscious about it...especially my neck because I felt like a giraffe. I wasn't very outgoing or confident.
I gained a little good weight in my 20s and that made me feel a lot less self conscious and I became more confident in my own skin.
I put the bulk of my weight on in my 30s and nobody really ever said anything about my weight. I always carried it pretty well and even at my highest of 220, most people thought I was in the 190s...maybe 200. My maintenance is 182ish and most people think I'm high 160s...I carry weight pretty proportionately...0 -
When I was overweight I had people look at me and call me a fatty at a big box store. Then years later, when I lost weight and looked thin, I was called a "crackhead" while jogging in the park.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't.8 -
Either I live in an area with very polite people or I just don't look like the kind of guy you want to piss off. Of course I don't know what they might say behind my back lol. I've had just two situations in supermarkets where a very young child has said "Mommy look at the fat man" or "That man is very fat" lol. Both times the parent has been mortified and quickly shushed the child saying thats not nice.. And Both times I've smiled and said something along the lines of Yeah, but they have a good point. lol. 3 year old kids are like mirrors, brutally honest.2
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^^Either I live in an area with very polite people or I just don't look like the kind of guy you want to piss off. Of course I don't know what they might say behind my back lol. I've had just two situations in supermarkets where a very young child has said "Mommy look at the fat man" or "That man is very fat" lol. Both times the parent has been mortified and quickly shushed the child saying thats not nice.. And Both times I've smiled and said something along the lines of Yeah, but they have a good point. lol. 3 year old kids are like mirrors, brutally honest.
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I actually had a stranger rub my belly and ask me when i was due. The thing i hate about people asking me if i am pregnant is they feel really bad when i tell them that i am just fat. I feel bad for them. Honestly, it has to stop. That's why i'm here at mfp. This happens to me on a daily basis. When i look in the mirror, i do look pregnant. If i was a stranger, i would ask my due date too. I had one women feel so bad that she she apolgized to me the whole day. She couldn't stop thinking about it. I felt so bad. Oh well. I'm here at mfp now. Good luck everyone at mfp!1
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What sort of person rubs a strangers belly tho? lol. That's an awkwardly forward and familiar thing to do. But that aside, yeah that's why I'm here too. Done being fat. Good luck on your journey.9
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »
That sucks. I would imagine such things go viral these days. My wife’s weight has fluctuated over the years. And she is 5 10 and has big hip structure.... we always fly first class and the hostesses are generally respectful.browneyedgirl749 wrote: »Cutaway_Collar wrote: »
It’s their job to oblige these requests. Shame them on twitter. That creates a PR mess.browneyedgirl749 wrote: »I used to get eye rolls from flight attendants when I would ask for a seatbelt extender. I have big hips, whether I'm overweight or not. I can't help it!
I had a particularly horrible experience with a flight attendant on a United flight from Tokyo to San Francisco a few years ago. I went to Twitter and blasted that guy, even tagged United and put the flight number, and that I was sitting in Economy Plus so they would know who it was. United did nothing. That was the only bad experience I've had with United. I still prefer to fly them over any other airline. Probably because I fly coast to coast or overseas and they have more direct flights from Washington DC than any other airline.
When I used to fly alone, non-business... I took economy coz first class is always outrageous, and I have seen rotten flight staff. Esp. to bigger folks. In international flights, the seats are bigger. American planes are designed strangely smaller with a big baggage space.
I find this strange since it has been reported that the national American size average is like 12-14 for women. Some of the seats on flights if you're bigger than a 4 you're not going to be comfortable. Unfortunately, I will never be a 4. My hips will never allow it.
If I could afford to fly first class I would. My job sure as hell won't pay for it when I travel for work. They wouldn't upgrade me to business class when I had a 14 hour flight direct into Tokyo. Flying first class is on my bucket list.0 -
I actually had a stranger rub my belly and ask me when i was due. The thing i hate about people asking me if i am pregnant is they feel really bad when i tell them that i am just fat. I feel bad for them. Honestly, it has to stop. That's why i'm here at mfp. This happens to me on a daily basis. When i look in the mirror, i do look pregnant. If i was a stranger, i would ask my due date too. I had one women feel so bad that she she apolgized to me the whole day. She couldn't stop thinking about it. I felt so bad. Oh well. I'm here at mfp now. Good luck everyone at mfp!
lol I agree that is very awkward. I have never had a person just come up and touch my belly even when I was noticeably pregnant. I had people ask me if they could touch it, very few, but I would probably lose my cool if a stranger came up to me and touched me or my belly without permission. I just feel like it's a very rude and inconsiderate thing to do whether you are or aren't pregnant.0 -
I actually had a stranger rub my belly and ask me when i was due. The thing i hate about people asking me if i am pregnant is they feel really bad when i tell them that i am just fat. I feel bad for them. Honestly, it has to stop. That's why i'm here at mfp. This happens to me on a daily basis. When i look in the mirror, i do look pregnant. If i was a stranger, i would ask my due date too. I had one women feel so bad that she she apolgized to me the whole day. She couldn't stop thinking about it. I felt so bad. Oh well. I'm here at mfp now. Good luck everyone at mfp!
As someone who hates being touched by people I don't know, I would never ever touch a pregnant woman's belly if I didn't know her. And I would never make a comment unless I knew for sure she was pregnant. I've seen heavier women not look pregnant, and some look pregnant. It's such a touchy subject.0 -
browneyedgirl749 wrote: »I actually had a stranger rub my belly and ask me when i was due. The thing i hate about people asking me if i am pregnant is they feel really bad when i tell them that i am just fat. I feel bad for them. Honestly, it has to stop. That's why i'm here at mfp. This happens to me on a daily basis. When i look in the mirror, i do look pregnant. If i was a stranger, i would ask my due date too. I had one women feel so bad that she she apolgized to me the whole day. She couldn't stop thinking about it. I felt so bad. Oh well. I'm here at mfp now. Good luck everyone at mfp!
As someone who hates being touched by people I don't know, I would never ever touch a pregnant woman's belly if I didn't know her. And I would never make a comment unless I knew for sure she was pregnant. I've seen heavier women not look pregnant, and some look pregnant. It's such a touchy subject.
Agree, I won't say congratulations to women in my office that are pregnant unless they say something to me or I hear it from someone I trust. And there's no way I would be rubbing the belly of someone that isn't family or a good friend. I don't comment on people's bodies in general because it's touchy. Others might like getting comments on their weight loss, but I don't like getting them so I don't say anything.1 -
abetterme9366 wrote: »toned_thugs_n_harmony wrote: »rickiimarieee wrote: »My 6 year old stepson looked at me serious as can be and said "I know how much you weigh 200 pounds" not saying 200 pounds is an insult to some people but I'm naturally small so I was highly offended even though he's only 6. I'm 5'4 130 pounds and I've been dieting for 3 months now so I did feel discouraged that it hasn't looked like I lost that much. Also when I was like 12 weeks pregnant I wore a dress and my stepson straight out told me "you look fat in that dress." Mind you I didn't start showing until 6 months along.
if I took offense to every comment a child made about me, i'd be on a psych hold. he's a child and has no clue what 200 lbs even means.
Right? I’ll put stock into what a 6 year old days NEVER. Why anyone would is far beyond me. Even the most brilliant and gifted 6 year old practically needs a helmet.
My 6yo asked me this weekend if I am having a baby.
Yay for beer belly1 -
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@ the gym and a guy told me to hurry the f up and stop playing on the elliptical and hit the yoga room. Rude as hell. I was on that thing sweating bullets for 40mins and on fat burn mode. There's no way that was playing around. So I flipped him the bird and continued with my work out while dying inside from how hard it was7
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I've had people tell me to stop losing weight because I'm already so thin. lol okay tell that to my 30 lb overweight *kitten*.1
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I only remember one time, at a pub I think, this guy looked at me and said something along the lines of "you're too fat" or whatnot, I laughed and said "you should have seen me last year!" and moved on with my life. At least he had the guts to say it to my face, I do appreciate that.2
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CoffeeAndContour wrote: »I’ve never had anyone say anything mean to me on purpose regarding my weight. I was once congratulated on my pregnancy when I wasn’t pregnant. Perhaps it was because I was carrying too much weight or it could have been because I had just had my gallbladder out and they blow your tummy up like a balloon. Either way it wasn’t a nice feeling.
I have however witnessed some very hurtful things with a good friend of mine. Someone told her she was too fat to ride the roller coaster. And she wasn’t. Another time she was told they don’t sell clothes for “people like her”. She wasn’t even in the store for herself. She was called a whale once and told to stop eating when we were in a restaurant. It hurts my heart how mean people can be to other people. We all have feelings and we don’t know another’s situation so who are we to judge.
Some people just love to be mean. IMO it says more about the people who said those things, than it does your friend0 -
Patsycervantes wrote: »@ the gym and a guy told me to hurry the f up and stop playing on the elliptical and hit the yoga room. Rude as hell. I was on that thing sweating bullets for 40mins and on fat burn mode. There's no way that was playing around. So I flipped him the bird and continued with my work out while dying inside from how hard it was
he was hitting on you
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Well people in my family start calling the person who has gained a bit of holiday weight cow like hey cow pass me that etc until that person loses the extra pounds. I know that’s always motivated me to lose weight if I ever gained a little heavy. It has always worked for us. No fatties in my family or cousins. We keep each other in check3
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Adults don't say anything but kids do my brothers kids always say your belly is big your squishy, like kid I know lol1
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The other day my 5-year old told me not to say that someone has a beard. I asked why not and he responded "Because people don't like when you make them feel different." He's got the right idea, but I couldn't help but laugh.8
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When I was younger I was super skinny I've had people tell me to "*kitten* eat a burger"
As I developed I grew muscle and filled out to a normal weight and my father said I was getting fat because I wasn't as "skinny" as before.3 -
I nominate @abetterme93662
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