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CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »Thinking about small talk and how people say they lack the skill of small talk. I wonder if it's that perhaps sometimes they just don't care to engage with others that much?
Small talk might seem unnecessary but it's a building block of forming rapport with someone. So if you don't care to form that rapport then you'd be annoyed by small talking with them. I get that.
I guess since I am a social person, this seems foreign to me, not knowing how to small talk, or not wanting to.
I always feel in a better mood when I've had a lovely exchange with someone on the elevator or at the store, etc.
Don't misread me, some have been absolutely awkward, but at least I tried. Not everyone welcomes it.
It also just occurred to me that maybe I don't mind small talk because it changes people's assumptions about me. If they were to not talk to me, they might assume I'm *insert adjective here* when I'm not. This has happened a lot as evidenced by people who have told me their initial thoughts about me once we got to know each other.
Sometimes I think too much.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/brettnelson/2012/03/30/six-reasons-small-talk-is-very-important-and-how-to-get-better-at-it/#b784c6464760
What a helpful article. For those of us who struggle this is some sage advice.
"Now that you’re convinced small talk is worth the effort, here’s how to get better at it. Ready? Practice. Try stuff out, see what works. That’s it. As for technique, remember the basics: make eye contact, drop a compliment (if you mean it), share a common experience (while keeping the focus on the other person), and don’t be too self-conscious."
Thanks a lot for nothing. If I knew what to practice I would already be practicing.
In other news if you want to get stronger and don't have experience just stroll into the gym and start picking stuff up.
Well, alrighty then.
Maybe this is more sage-y?
https://www.businessinsider.com/get-better-at-small-talk-2016-100 -
CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »Thinking about small talk and how people say they lack the skill of small talk. I wonder if it's that perhaps sometimes they just don't care to engage with others that much?
Small talk might seem unnecessary but it's a building block of forming rapport with someone. So if you don't care to form that rapport then you'd be annoyed by small talking with them. I get that.
I guess since I am a social person, this seems foreign to me, not knowing how to small talk, or not wanting to.
I always feel in a better mood when I've had a lovely exchange with someone on the elevator or at the store, etc.
Don't misread me, some have been absolutely awkward, but at least I tried. Not everyone welcomes it.
It also just occurred to me that maybe I don't mind small talk because it changes people's assumptions about me. If they were to not talk to me, they might assume I'm *insert adjective here* when I'm not. This has happened a lot as evidenced by people who have told me their initial thoughts about me once we got to know each other.
Sometimes I think too much.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/brettnelson/2012/03/30/six-reasons-small-talk-is-very-important-and-how-to-get-better-at-it/#b784c6464760
What a helpful article. For those of us who struggle this is some sage advice.
"Now that you’re convinced small talk is worth the effort, here’s how to get better at it. Ready? Practice. Try stuff out, see what works. That’s it. As for technique, remember the basics: make eye contact, drop a compliment (if you mean it), share a common experience (while keeping the focus on the other person), and don’t be too self-conscious."
Thanks a lot for nothing. If I knew what to practice I would already be practicing.
In other news if you want to get stronger and don't have experience just stroll into the gym and start picking stuff up.
Well, alrighty then.
Maybe this is more sage-y?
https://www.businessinsider.com/get-better-at-small-talk-2016-10
That one is better. Reading it though just makes me realize how much I enjoy being an introvert. On top of that, I feel like there are so many topics that are off limits to strangers. For example, the article suggests "do you have kids?" yet I have a group of friends on facebook who are constantly posting how inconsiderate to people who may have gone through a miscarriage that question can be. Small talk with strangers is just a mine field waiting to go bad.
Also it involves people which is scary.1 -
CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »Thinking about small talk and how people say they lack the skill of small talk. I wonder if it's that perhaps sometimes they just don't care to engage with others that much?
Small talk might seem unnecessary but it's a building block of forming rapport with someone. So if you don't care to form that rapport then you'd be annoyed by small talking with them. I get that.
I guess since I am a social person, this seems foreign to me, not knowing how to small talk, or not wanting to.
I always feel in a better mood when I've had a lovely exchange with someone on the elevator or at the store, etc.
Don't misread me, some have been absolutely awkward, but at least I tried. Not everyone welcomes it.
It also just occurred to me that maybe I don't mind small talk because it changes people's assumptions about me. If they were to not talk to me, they might assume I'm *insert adjective here* when I'm not. This has happened a lot as evidenced by people who have told me their initial thoughts about me once we got to know each other.
Sometimes I think too much.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/brettnelson/2012/03/30/six-reasons-small-talk-is-very-important-and-how-to-get-better-at-it/#b784c6464760
What a helpful article. For those of us who struggle this is some sage advice.
"Now that you’re convinced small talk is worth the effort, here’s how to get better at it. Ready? Practice. Try stuff out, see what works. That’s it. As for technique, remember the basics: make eye contact, drop a compliment (if you mean it), share a common experience (while keeping the focus on the other person), and don’t be too self-conscious."
Thanks a lot for nothing. If I knew what to practice I would already be practicing.
In other news if you want to get stronger and don't have experience just stroll into the gym and start picking stuff up.
Well, alrighty then.
Maybe this is more sage-y?
https://www.businessinsider.com/get-better-at-small-talk-2016-10
That one is better. Reading it though just makes me realize how much I enjoy being an introvert. On top of that, I feel like there are so many topics that are off limits to strangers. For example, the article suggests "do you have kids?" yet I have a group of friends on facebook who are constantly posting how inconsiderate to people who may have gone through a miscarriage that question can be. Small talk with strangers is just a mine field waiting to go bad.
Well I guess you can't please (unoffend) all people all the time.
If you see me in an elevator and I happen to try to strike up a short conversation about the weather, or compliment you on your cool tshirt, and you look at me like I have five heads, I'll know it's you not me.1 -
Me making small talk:
Are you outside? What's the weather like? Are you at a party? What kind of food is being served?0 -
JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »Thinking about small talk and how people say they lack the skill of small talk. I wonder if it's that perhaps sometimes they just don't care to engage with others that much?
Small talk might seem unnecessary but it's a building block of forming rapport with someone. So if you don't care to form that rapport then you'd be annoyed by small talking with them. I get that.
I guess since I am a social person, this seems foreign to me, not knowing how to small talk, or not wanting to.
I always feel in a better mood when I've had a lovely exchange with someone on the elevator or at the store, etc.
Don't misread me, some have been absolutely awkward, but at least I tried. Not everyone welcomes it.
It also just occurred to me that maybe I don't mind small talk because it changes people's assumptions about me. If they were to not talk to me, they might assume I'm *insert adjective here* when I'm not. This has happened a lot as evidenced by people who have told me their initial thoughts about me once we got to know each other.
Sometimes I think too much.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/brettnelson/2012/03/30/six-reasons-small-talk-is-very-important-and-how-to-get-better-at-it/#b784c6464760
What a helpful article. For those of us who struggle this is some sage advice.
"Now that you’re convinced small talk is worth the effort, here’s how to get better at it. Ready? Practice. Try stuff out, see what works. That’s it. As for technique, remember the basics: make eye contact, drop a compliment (if you mean it), share a common experience (while keeping the focus on the other person), and don’t be too self-conscious."
Thanks a lot for nothing. If I knew what to practice I would already be practicing.
In other news if you want to get stronger and don't have experience just stroll into the gym and start picking stuff up.
Well, alrighty then.
Maybe this is more sage-y?
https://www.businessinsider.com/get-better-at-small-talk-2016-10
That one is better. Reading it though just makes me realize how much I enjoy being an introvert. On top of that, I feel like there are so many topics that are off limits to strangers. For example, the article suggests "do you have kids?" yet I have a group of friends on facebook who are constantly posting how inconsiderate to people who may have gone through a miscarriage that question can be. Small talk with strangers is just a mine field waiting to go bad.
Well I guess you can't please (unoffend) all people all the time.
If you see me in an elevator and I happen to try to strike up a short conversation about the weather, or compliment you on your cool tshirt, and you look at me like I have five heads, I'll know it's you not me.
I will say, I hate small talk and I'm not only not good at it - I don't want to be better at it, BUT if you were to bring up my cool t-shirt I could chat your ear off. A lot of times I'm disappointed when no one brings up my shirt
The weather on the other hand might get a half-hearted smirk.
cool shirt0 -
JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »Thinking about small talk and how people say they lack the skill of small talk. I wonder if it's that perhaps sometimes they just don't care to engage with others that much?
Small talk might seem unnecessary but it's a building block of forming rapport with someone. So if you don't care to form that rapport then you'd be annoyed by small talking with them. I get that.
I guess since I am a social person, this seems foreign to me, not knowing how to small talk, or not wanting to.
I always feel in a better mood when I've had a lovely exchange with someone on the elevator or at the store, etc.
Don't misread me, some have been absolutely awkward, but at least I tried. Not everyone welcomes it.
It also just occurred to me that maybe I don't mind small talk because it changes people's assumptions about me. If they were to not talk to me, they might assume I'm *insert adjective here* when I'm not. This has happened a lot as evidenced by people who have told me their initial thoughts about me once we got to know each other.
Sometimes I think too much.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/brettnelson/2012/03/30/six-reasons-small-talk-is-very-important-and-how-to-get-better-at-it/#b784c6464760
What a helpful article. For those of us who struggle this is some sage advice.
"Now that you’re convinced small talk is worth the effort, here’s how to get better at it. Ready? Practice. Try stuff out, see what works. That’s it. As for technique, remember the basics: make eye contact, drop a compliment (if you mean it), share a common experience (while keeping the focus on the other person), and don’t be too self-conscious."
Thanks a lot for nothing. If I knew what to practice I would already be practicing.
In other news if you want to get stronger and don't have experience just stroll into the gym and start picking stuff up.
Well, alrighty then.
Maybe this is more sage-y?
https://www.businessinsider.com/get-better-at-small-talk-2016-10
That one is better. Reading it though just makes me realize how much I enjoy being an introvert. On top of that, I feel like there are so many topics that are off limits to strangers. For example, the article suggests "do you have kids?" yet I have a group of friends on facebook who are constantly posting how inconsiderate to people who may have gone through a miscarriage that question can be. Small talk with strangers is just a mine field waiting to go bad.
Well I guess you can't please (unoffend) all people all the time.
If you see me in an elevator and I happen to try to strike up a short conversation about the weather, or compliment you on your cool tshirt, and you look at me like I have five heads, I'll know it's you not me.
I will say, I hate small talk and I'm not only not good at it - I don't want to be better at it, BUT if you were to bring up my cool t-shirt I could chat your ear off. A lot of times I'm disappointed when no one brings up my shirt
The weather on the other hand might get a half-hearted smirk.
That shirt looks to cool for this weather we are having right now. Why didn't you wear something warmer?1 -
CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »Thinking about small talk and how people say they lack the skill of small talk. I wonder if it's that perhaps sometimes they just don't care to engage with others that much?
Small talk might seem unnecessary but it's a building block of forming rapport with someone. So if you don't care to form that rapport then you'd be annoyed by small talking with them. I get that.
I guess since I am a social person, this seems foreign to me, not knowing how to small talk, or not wanting to.
I always feel in a better mood when I've had a lovely exchange with someone on the elevator or at the store, etc.
Don't misread me, some have been absolutely awkward, but at least I tried. Not everyone welcomes it.
It also just occurred to me that maybe I don't mind small talk because it changes people's assumptions about me. If they were to not talk to me, they might assume I'm *insert adjective here* when I'm not. This has happened a lot as evidenced by people who have told me their initial thoughts about me once we got to know each other.
Sometimes I think too much.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/brettnelson/2012/03/30/six-reasons-small-talk-is-very-important-and-how-to-get-better-at-it/#b784c6464760
What a helpful article. For those of us who struggle this is some sage advice.
"Now that you’re convinced small talk is worth the effort, here’s how to get better at it. Ready? Practice. Try stuff out, see what works. That’s it. As for technique, remember the basics: make eye contact, drop a compliment (if you mean it), share a common experience (while keeping the focus on the other person), and don’t be too self-conscious."
Thanks a lot for nothing. If I knew what to practice I would already be practicing.
In other news if you want to get stronger and don't have experience just stroll into the gym and start picking stuff up.
Well, alrighty then.
Maybe this is more sage-y?
https://www.businessinsider.com/get-better-at-small-talk-2016-10
That one is better. Reading it though just makes me realize how much I enjoy being an introvert. On top of that, I feel like there are so many topics that are off limits to strangers. For example, the article suggests "do you have kids?" yet I have a group of friends on facebook who are constantly posting how inconsiderate to people who may have gone through a miscarriage that question can be. Small talk with strangers is just a mine field waiting to go bad.
Well I guess you can't please (unoffend) all people all the time.
If you see me in an elevator and I happen to try to strike up a short conversation about the weather, or compliment you on your cool tshirt, and you look at me like I have five heads, I'll know it's you not me.
I have a very unapproachable look
Now I may purposefully talk to those with an unapproachable look just to annoy them
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Am I really a good friend? If I was wouldn't I have them around when I'm in need? Idk0
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CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »Thinking about small talk and how people say they lack the skill of small talk. I wonder if it's that perhaps sometimes they just don't care to engage with others that much?
Small talk might seem unnecessary but it's a building block of forming rapport with someone. So if you don't care to form that rapport then you'd be annoyed by small talking with them. I get that.
I guess since I am a social person, this seems foreign to me, not knowing how to small talk, or not wanting to.
I always feel in a better mood when I've had a lovely exchange with someone on the elevator or at the store, etc.
Don't misread me, some have been absolutely awkward, but at least I tried. Not everyone welcomes it.
It also just occurred to me that maybe I don't mind small talk because it changes people's assumptions about me. If they were to not talk to me, they might assume I'm *insert adjective here* when I'm not. This has happened a lot as evidenced by people who have told me their initial thoughts about me once we got to know each other.
Sometimes I think too much.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/brettnelson/2012/03/30/six-reasons-small-talk-is-very-important-and-how-to-get-better-at-it/#b784c6464760
What a helpful article. For those of us who struggle this is some sage advice.
"Now that you’re convinced small talk is worth the effort, here’s how to get better at it. Ready? Practice. Try stuff out, see what works. That’s it. As for technique, remember the basics: make eye contact, drop a compliment (if you mean it), share a common experience (while keeping the focus on the other person), and don’t be too self-conscious."
Thanks a lot for nothing. If I knew what to practice I would already be practicing.
In other news if you want to get stronger and don't have experience just stroll into the gym and start picking stuff up.
Well, alrighty then.
Maybe this is more sage-y?
https://www.businessinsider.com/get-better-at-small-talk-2016-10
That one is better. Reading it though just makes me realize how much I enjoy being an introvert. On top of that, I feel like there are so many topics that are off limits to strangers. For example, the article suggests "do you have kids?" yet I have a group of friends on facebook who are constantly posting how inconsiderate to people who may have gone through a miscarriage that question can be. Small talk with strangers is just a mine field waiting to go bad.
Well I guess you can't please (unoffend) all people all the time.
If you see me in an elevator and I happen to try to strike up a short conversation about the weather, or compliment you on your cool tshirt, and you look at me like I have five heads, I'll know it's you not me.
I have a very unapproachable look
Now I may purposefully talk to those with an unapproachable look just to annoy them
I'll be waiting in the elevator
Wear your cool shirt, kthx.0 -
JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »Thinking about small talk and how people say they lack the skill of small talk. I wonder if it's that perhaps sometimes they just don't care to engage with others that much?
Small talk might seem unnecessary but it's a building block of forming rapport with someone. So if you don't care to form that rapport then you'd be annoyed by small talking with them. I get that.
I guess since I am a social person, this seems foreign to me, not knowing how to small talk, or not wanting to.
I always feel in a better mood when I've had a lovely exchange with someone on the elevator or at the store, etc.
Don't misread me, some have been absolutely awkward, but at least I tried. Not everyone welcomes it.
It also just occurred to me that maybe I don't mind small talk because it changes people's assumptions about me. If they were to not talk to me, they might assume I'm *insert adjective here* when I'm not. This has happened a lot as evidenced by people who have told me their initial thoughts about me once we got to know each other.
Sometimes I think too much.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/brettnelson/2012/03/30/six-reasons-small-talk-is-very-important-and-how-to-get-better-at-it/#b784c6464760
What a helpful article. For those of us who struggle this is some sage advice.
"Now that you’re convinced small talk is worth the effort, here’s how to get better at it. Ready? Practice. Try stuff out, see what works. That’s it. As for technique, remember the basics: make eye contact, drop a compliment (if you mean it), share a common experience (while keeping the focus on the other person), and don’t be too self-conscious."
Thanks a lot for nothing. If I knew what to practice I would already be practicing.
In other news if you want to get stronger and don't have experience just stroll into the gym and start picking stuff up.
Well, alrighty then.
Maybe this is more sage-y?
https://www.businessinsider.com/get-better-at-small-talk-2016-10
That one is better. Reading it though just makes me realize how much I enjoy being an introvert. On top of that, I feel like there are so many topics that are off limits to strangers. For example, the article suggests "do you have kids?" yet I have a group of friends on facebook who are constantly posting how inconsiderate to people who may have gone through a miscarriage that question can be. Small talk with strangers is just a mine field waiting to go bad.
Well I guess you can't please (unoffend) all people all the time.
If you see me in an elevator and I happen to try to strike up a short conversation about the weather, or compliment you on your cool tshirt, and you look at me like I have five heads, I'll know it's you not me.
I will say, I hate small talk and I'm not only not good at it - I don't want to be better at it, BUT if you were to bring up my cool t-shirt I could chat your ear off. A lot of times I'm disappointed when no one brings up my shirt
The weather on the other hand might get a half-hearted smirk.
cool shirt
THANK you! It says "I'd rather be swimming at Kraken Mare - Lunar Park" because that's the biggest sea on Saturn's largest moon, Titan. 400,000 square km! That's bigger than the Caspian sea. But it's mostly made of methane so that makes it pretty funny. That'd smell terrible. Plus the cool picture of Saturn on it.JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »Thinking about small talk and how people say they lack the skill of small talk. I wonder if it's that perhaps sometimes they just don't care to engage with others that much?
Small talk might seem unnecessary but it's a building block of forming rapport with someone. So if you don't care to form that rapport then you'd be annoyed by small talking with them. I get that.
I guess since I am a social person, this seems foreign to me, not knowing how to small talk, or not wanting to.
I always feel in a better mood when I've had a lovely exchange with someone on the elevator or at the store, etc.
Don't misread me, some have been absolutely awkward, but at least I tried. Not everyone welcomes it.
It also just occurred to me that maybe I don't mind small talk because it changes people's assumptions about me. If they were to not talk to me, they might assume I'm *insert adjective here* when I'm not. This has happened a lot as evidenced by people who have told me their initial thoughts about me once we got to know each other.
Sometimes I think too much.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/brettnelson/2012/03/30/six-reasons-small-talk-is-very-important-and-how-to-get-better-at-it/#b784c6464760
What a helpful article. For those of us who struggle this is some sage advice.
"Now that you’re convinced small talk is worth the effort, here’s how to get better at it. Ready? Practice. Try stuff out, see what works. That’s it. As for technique, remember the basics: make eye contact, drop a compliment (if you mean it), share a common experience (while keeping the focus on the other person), and don’t be too self-conscious."
Thanks a lot for nothing. If I knew what to practice I would already be practicing.
In other news if you want to get stronger and don't have experience just stroll into the gym and start picking stuff up.
Well, alrighty then.
Maybe this is more sage-y?
https://www.businessinsider.com/get-better-at-small-talk-2016-10
That one is better. Reading it though just makes me realize how much I enjoy being an introvert. On top of that, I feel like there are so many topics that are off limits to strangers. For example, the article suggests "do you have kids?" yet I have a group of friends on facebook who are constantly posting how inconsiderate to people who may have gone through a miscarriage that question can be. Small talk with strangers is just a mine field waiting to go bad.
Well I guess you can't please (unoffend) all people all the time.
If you see me in an elevator and I happen to try to strike up a short conversation about the weather, or compliment you on your cool tshirt, and you look at me like I have five heads, I'll know it's you not me.
I will say, I hate small talk and I'm not only not good at it - I don't want to be better at it, BUT if you were to bring up my cool t-shirt I could chat your ear off. A lot of times I'm disappointed when no one brings up my shirt
The weather on the other hand might get a half-hearted smirk.
That shirt looks to cool for this weather we are having right now. Why didn't you wear something warmer?
Not as cold as Titan though amirite? Ha! Like -180C
is Titan or Europa colder?0 -
JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »Thinking about small talk and how people say they lack the skill of small talk. I wonder if it's that perhaps sometimes they just don't care to engage with others that much?
Small talk might seem unnecessary but it's a building block of forming rapport with someone. So if you don't care to form that rapport then you'd be annoyed by small talking with them. I get that.
I guess since I am a social person, this seems foreign to me, not knowing how to small talk, or not wanting to.
I always feel in a better mood when I've had a lovely exchange with someone on the elevator or at the store, etc.
Don't misread me, some have been absolutely awkward, but at least I tried. Not everyone welcomes it.
It also just occurred to me that maybe I don't mind small talk because it changes people's assumptions about me. If they were to not talk to me, they might assume I'm *insert adjective here* when I'm not. This has happened a lot as evidenced by people who have told me their initial thoughts about me once we got to know each other.
Sometimes I think too much.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/brettnelson/2012/03/30/six-reasons-small-talk-is-very-important-and-how-to-get-better-at-it/#b784c6464760
What a helpful article. For those of us who struggle this is some sage advice.
"Now that you’re convinced small talk is worth the effort, here’s how to get better at it. Ready? Practice. Try stuff out, see what works. That’s it. As for technique, remember the basics: make eye contact, drop a compliment (if you mean it), share a common experience (while keeping the focus on the other person), and don’t be too self-conscious."
Thanks a lot for nothing. If I knew what to practice I would already be practicing.
In other news if you want to get stronger and don't have experience just stroll into the gym and start picking stuff up.
Well, alrighty then.
Maybe this is more sage-y?
https://www.businessinsider.com/get-better-at-small-talk-2016-10
That one is better. Reading it though just makes me realize how much I enjoy being an introvert. On top of that, I feel like there are so many topics that are off limits to strangers. For example, the article suggests "do you have kids?" yet I have a group of friends on facebook who are constantly posting how inconsiderate to people who may have gone through a miscarriage that question can be. Small talk with strangers is just a mine field waiting to go bad.
Well I guess you can't please (unoffend) all people all the time.
If you see me in an elevator and I happen to try to strike up a short conversation about the weather, or compliment you on your cool tshirt, and you look at me like I have five heads, I'll know it's you not me.
I will say, I hate small talk and I'm not only not good at it - I don't want to be better at it, BUT if you were to bring up my cool t-shirt I could chat your ear off. A lot of times I'm disappointed when no one brings up my shirt
The weather on the other hand might get a half-hearted smirk.
cool shirt
THANK you! It says "I'd rather be swimming at Kraken Mare - Lunar Park" because that's the biggest sea on Saturn's largest moon, Titan. 400,000 square km! That's bigger than the Caspian sea. But it's mostly made of methane so that makes it pretty funny. That'd smell terrible. Plus the cool picture of Saturn on it.JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »CharDee_MacDennis wrote: »RomaineCalm wrote: »Thinking about small talk and how people say they lack the skill of small talk. I wonder if it's that perhaps sometimes they just don't care to engage with others that much?
Small talk might seem unnecessary but it's a building block of forming rapport with someone. So if you don't care to form that rapport then you'd be annoyed by small talking with them. I get that.
I guess since I am a social person, this seems foreign to me, not knowing how to small talk, or not wanting to.
I always feel in a better mood when I've had a lovely exchange with someone on the elevator or at the store, etc.
Don't misread me, some have been absolutely awkward, but at least I tried. Not everyone welcomes it.
It also just occurred to me that maybe I don't mind small talk because it changes people's assumptions about me. If they were to not talk to me, they might assume I'm *insert adjective here* when I'm not. This has happened a lot as evidenced by people who have told me their initial thoughts about me once we got to know each other.
Sometimes I think too much.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/brettnelson/2012/03/30/six-reasons-small-talk-is-very-important-and-how-to-get-better-at-it/#b784c6464760
What a helpful article. For those of us who struggle this is some sage advice.
"Now that you’re convinced small talk is worth the effort, here’s how to get better at it. Ready? Practice. Try stuff out, see what works. That’s it. As for technique, remember the basics: make eye contact, drop a compliment (if you mean it), share a common experience (while keeping the focus on the other person), and don’t be too self-conscious."
Thanks a lot for nothing. If I knew what to practice I would already be practicing.
In other news if you want to get stronger and don't have experience just stroll into the gym and start picking stuff up.
Well, alrighty then.
Maybe this is more sage-y?
https://www.businessinsider.com/get-better-at-small-talk-2016-10
That one is better. Reading it though just makes me realize how much I enjoy being an introvert. On top of that, I feel like there are so many topics that are off limits to strangers. For example, the article suggests "do you have kids?" yet I have a group of friends on facebook who are constantly posting how inconsiderate to people who may have gone through a miscarriage that question can be. Small talk with strangers is just a mine field waiting to go bad.
Well I guess you can't please (unoffend) all people all the time.
If you see me in an elevator and I happen to try to strike up a short conversation about the weather, or compliment you on your cool tshirt, and you look at me like I have five heads, I'll know it's you not me.
I will say, I hate small talk and I'm not only not good at it - I don't want to be better at it, BUT if you were to bring up my cool t-shirt I could chat your ear off. A lot of times I'm disappointed when no one brings up my shirt
The weather on the other hand might get a half-hearted smirk.
That shirt looks to cool for this weather we are having right now. Why didn't you wear something warmer?
Not as cold as Titan though amirite? Ha! Like -180C
Not as cold as Uranus*
*Uranus takes the prize for being our solar system's coldest planet. The lowest temperature ever recorded on Uranus was -371 degrees Fahrenheit (-223.889 degrees Celsius)1
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