Is it appropriate for my boyfriend to ask me to pay him to live with him?
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@silkmouse have you ever considered a house boat? I think that would fix everything.1
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Whybelesswhenyoucanbmore wrote: »OP, he's priming you to undermine your own womanly instincts, your need for security through traditional matrimony and to casually dismiss your natural maternal role as full time caretaker of biological offspring in lieu of some fly-by-night "partnership".
What are you going to do when he knocks you up in this equal opportunity loveshack? Work at your little job until you're 9 months pregnant and ready to pop? Then stay home for 6 weeks while he huffs and puffs because you're not earning your keep? Then when baby is 6 weeks old, pump some milk, pack it in dry ice, drop the poor thing off at the nearest day care and go back to work answering phone calls and emails in an office so you can pay your half of the rent?
No sweetie. No.
Where do you live? I want to hire you to write my newsletters.
According to these kids, I live in a different time. Sigh.
I agree with Meadows. I work a full time, cook, clean, pay the bills, and have a side job and raise my 5 yr old daughter full time by myself. If you can find that person so all you have to do is be a caretaker, do that.0 -
eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.1 -
eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Cap presses me, so guess we’re even.0 -
Have relationships these days become so complex that you don't know whether this is about 'money' or a mutual contribution to living expenses so that you both can live in a nicer place if both are paying into it?
Do people really not talk any more in their relationships. I've been married way toooo long.6 -
eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing3 -
One time I dated a guy for 3 months before I told him where I lived. Trust no one, bebe.7
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CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
She’s not the OP, she’s the one who was flirting with you and I didn’t like it1 -
CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
I think you might have me mistaken for someone else. It's okay I forgive you.1 -
CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
I think you might have me mistaken me for someone else. It's okay I forgive you.
If it makes you feel any better he usually calls out a different name in bed than mine.
Who the flip is Ben?!4 -
eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
She’s not the OP, she’s the one who was flirting with you and I didn’t like itCaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
I think you might have me mistaken me for someone else. It's okay I forgive you.
Oops ma baaad2 -
CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
She’s not the OP, she’s the one who was flirting with you and I didn’t like itCaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
I think you might have me mistaken me for someone else. It's okay I forgive you.
Oops ma baaad
To be fair I think we’re still asking ourselves,
Who is she?3 -
First. Lol this whole *kitten thread*
Second. I have many questions, too many questions.3 -
I'm fascinated by this thread. I can't figure out the o p. I suspect a troll but I'm not sure. I feel like by commenting I'm falling into her trap. But yet I know people who live like this who make crazy *kitten* decisions and then wonder how they got in the situation they're in.
Nah, I think it's legit. The same things in your brain that tell you it's a good idea to move in with someone after 3 weeks also tell you it's a good idea to solicit advice re this arrangement from strangers on a health and fit board.
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eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
She’s not the OP, she’s the one who was flirting with you and I didn’t like itCaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
I think you might have me mistaken me for someone else. It's okay I forgive you.
Oops ma baaad
To be fair I think we’re still asking ourselves,
Who is she?
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I'd rate this troll attempt.... 4/10.6
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CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
She’s not the OP, she’s the one who was flirting with you and I didn’t like itCaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
I think you might have me mistaken me for someone else. It's okay I forgive you.
Oops ma baaad
To be fair I think we’re still asking ourselves,
Who is she?
Is this true @whosshe ? Friend request incoming if so1 -
eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
She’s not the OP, she’s the one who was flirting with you and I didn’t like itCaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
I think you might have me mistaken me for someone else. It's okay I forgive you.
Oops ma baaad
To be fair I think we’re still asking ourselves,
Who is she?
That is the question.0 -
CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
She’s not the OP, she’s the one who was flirting with you and I didn’t like itCaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
I think you might have me mistaken me for someone else. It's okay I forgive you.
Oops ma baaad
To be fair I think we’re still asking ourselves,
Who is she?
Why did this make me laugh so hard?!
I'd rate this troll attempt.... 4/10.
Comments are pretty entertaining though, I give it 5/102 -
eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
She’s not the OP, she’s the one who was flirting with you and I didn’t like itCaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
I think you might have me mistaken me for someone else. It's okay I forgive you.
Oops ma baaad
To be fair I think we’re still asking ourselves,
Who is she?
Is this true @whosshe ? Friend request incoming if so
10/10 me0 -
2/10 here. I liked the poo thread better.3
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eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
She’s not the OP, she’s the one who was flirting with you and I didn’t like itCaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
I think you might have me mistaken me for someone else. It's okay I forgive you.
Oops ma baaad
To be fair I think we’re still asking ourselves,
Who is she?
Is this true @whosshe ? Friend request incoming if so
10/10 me
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dinadyna21 wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
She’s not the OP, she’s the one who was flirting with you and I didn’t like itCaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
I think you might have me mistaken me for someone else. It's okay I forgive you.
Oops ma baaad
To be fair I think we’re still asking ourselves,
Who is she?
Why did this make me laugh so hard?!I'd rate this troll attempt.... 4/10.
Comments are pretty entertaining though, I give it 5/10
I give this comment 1/30 -
I really wish we could do 'Troll of the year' awards, I'd nominate the dehydration to meet goal weight thread.1
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liftorgohome wrote: »2/10 here. I liked the poo thread better.
Link? Or did it get removed?0 -
eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
She’s not the OP, she’s the one who was flirting with you and I didn’t like itCaptainFantastic00 wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »eccomi_qui wrote: »CaptainFantastic00 wrote: »Why do i keep coming in here
Your profile picture matches your reply perfectly.
Stop flirting with my man or start paying me for the privilege
I can't afford it. I have rent to pay.
Wow, patriarchy much?
Rent is oppressing me.
Literally everyone pays rent. Get over it. It isn't about rent. Your bf asked you to help pay rent and you came to the internet freaking out about how your bf is asking you to pay to be in a relationship. Pay your dang bills like everyone else, stop making a deal about nothing
I think you might have me mistaken me for someone else. It's okay I forgive you.
Oops ma baaad
To be fair I think we’re still asking ourselves,
Who is she?
Is this true @whosshe ? Friend request incoming if so
10/10 me
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Before you are married you should be doing your finances like roommates, because legally that is what you are. Split the bills 50/50 or if there is a large difference in your incomes a fair percentage. I especially recommend this if you are moving in together after only knowing each other for three weeks. Since you own your home it would make more sense for him to move in with you and help pay the mortgage if there is one. If not just split up bills and household expenses.
After you are married you can continue this arrangement or combine your finances. Talk to your SO now about how you want to arrange finances after you are married. If you can't come to an agreement, you need to know this sooner than later.
My husband works while I stay home and take care of everything there. No kids. It may be old fashioned, I've never met another child-free homemaker my age, but some of us do live this way and have successful marriages. Finding a man that wants this kind of arrangement these days would not be easy. We really only stumbled into this situation after I lost my job during the recession and discovered we could live on one income and have much more free time. We miss the disposable income sometimes, but I am much more fun to live with without all the work stress.7 -
Have relationships these days become so complex that you don't know whether this is about 'money' or a mutual contribution to living expenses so that you both can live in a nicer place if both are paying into it?
Do people really not talk any more in their relationships. I've been married way toooo long.
I think part of the problem is that they've only known each other and been dating for 3 weeks...I don't think I've ever dated someone for a few weeks and even considered it to be "relationship" status, let alone a move in status...lol3 -
You have only known him 3 weeks do not make any major decisions regarding moving anywhere with him for any reason.
If you are still together in a year then you are in a position to know exactly what you BOTH want.
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dinadyna21 wrote: »liftorgohome wrote: »2/10 here. I liked the poo thread better.
Link? Or did it get removed?
Page 10 someone posted questions about how frequent they should be going poo. lol0
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