WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2018

knjiuv

Well with this 4 pills a day, I am just drunk.

So I kind of browsed through 4 pages and am not sure what was said.

I remember after I retired, I would say numerous times Joyce Kimmel unit 2600 so whoever felt embarrassed, just don't.

Meg, stay with us. We will wrap our arms around you and help you.

Have you all seen the wanted posters for the groundhog that siId said we would have spring? So funny but we sure haven't seen any signs of springs yet. It's 42 degrees now.

I guess I need to decrease my dose of Lyrica tom3 times a day. Maybe I should talk to my doctor first.

Goodnight, I love you all and I think I missed Lemoras birthday. Loopy Joyce, Indiana

fanncy0626

Lenora- Happy Birthday! I hope you have a wonderful year!

dreamwriter

Terry - The Unicorn and the Elephant are the subjects for the Arty Party x2 tomorrow. I think they have 12 signed up for the afternoon and 6 adults for the Elephant in the Evening. I said I was surprised that they were doing it while our Home and Garden Show was on but they said it didn't really affect their event.

Rye - I love my CAT Trike. Now worries about tipping. No Balance Necessary. Plus it gets a lot of attention as it is very cool looking. You will see me write about Sparkle Orange as the days get nicer.

Yvonne - the poem you posted speaks to me. Thank you!

Heather - Such a difficult situation to reveal to your children. We know you are brave and will handle it well.

Michele - My Mom made my wedding dress. She also made my daughter's. I will have to find a photo that shows the whole dress and especially the back.

Laura - I know the feeling. Nice Spring days and now more white stuff. Ugh! I know it won't stay because the weekend is supposed to be warmer again. Just so sick of it.

Meg - I hope things get better for you. Lean on us. We are here.

Margaret - I will be using your meditation. Thank You!

Lenora - Happy Birthday.

Becca - You sure can make me smile.

Today would have been my parent's wedding anniversary. Mom was 21 when they wed and weighed 98 lbs. I just found some notes about their wedding day. Interesting read. Here they are.

I got a lot accomplished today. Larry and I took in the home and garden show. It was interesting and we spent more time than we thought we would. Also spent more money than planned.

Tomorrow we are going to the Multi Cultural Centre for a traditional Nicaraguan supper. I have no idea what that might be.

My heart is filled with sadness as I know this is all a sham. I am once again headed to a lawyer's. Taking me places, out for anniversary, making plans for summer and beyond. I am a silly girl and believed that we were actually working on our marriage. Well, I was! I discovered some very recent texts from the last week. Things like " I am sitting here with my glass of wine thinking of you. Do you think of me"
And this obviously texted while we were out for dinner for our Anniversary " Will you marry me?"
And her responses that it would be wrong to answer him as long as we were still married. " I deserve a medal for being married to her for 36 long years" "Don't leave me again, it would be like losing you 3 times"
This is all to his ex wife. I feel like I am his back up plan so that if she doesn't agree to be with him he won't be alone. I feel like I have been a back up plan the whole time. We live in different provinces. They worked together in Vancouver on my step son's condo. I have not told Larry that I have found evidence of his emotional affair. I feel like I want to confront her because of what she has always maintained were her strong beliefs on the sanctity of marriage. I feel betrayed, stabbed in the back, confused, etc. I will not be talking about this to either of them until I have seen a lawyer. Just when I thought we had turned a corner. How can I be this naive. Jheri knows there is something bugging me but I can't really tell her as she has asked me to keep her out of any problems between us.

Thank goodness for my kids, grandkids, family and friends. Pasting a smile on my face, getting what I need in order. Thank you ladies for being here. Sorry for the rant. My heart hurts as I look through our photos. Did he ever love me? Are all these memories false?

-Sharon in Lethbridge with an aching heart and a hurting head.

spikeyhair

SHARON my heart bleeds for you lots of hugs

LENORA happy birthday

BECCA love your posts, you make me think and you make me smile

Kate UK

texcaltn

Good Morning!
Today is Day 6, and I am fairly certain I will make it through ONE MORE DAY of non-obsessive eating. I had planned to go to a nearby town in Mississippi for a 3rd OA meeting yesterday, but I just came home and crashed (not getting enough sleep for sure) and had zero energy, so I will go with my friend Sat. morning. Likewise, making entries into the food diary here has been helpful -- you know, a good self-control habit of accountability. I CANNOT figure out how to get more potassium. Thank you for all of the encouragement and ideas.

Caroline in TN and TGIF!

Lagopus

Sharon - I can't imagine the pain you're going through. (((Hugs)))

Belated happy birthday Lenora :flowerforyou: Glad you're recovering from whatever you ate. Last time I had food poisoning was in Japan. We'd been invited to dinner at the home of the head of the department my husband was visiting, and his wife had prepared a huge buffet-style spread. I suspect the toxin was in some of the mussels, because only two of us got sick. But we got really sick. It was terrible for the professor's wife, too. She'd lost face, poor woman, and I felt so sorry for her.

Our hotel room had a weird toilet with a spout that arched up over a little basin built into the back. When you flushed, cold water poured out the spout, into the basin and down a hole to refill the tank. I became very well acquainted the toilet that night. The rest of the hotel was equally bizarre. It's the only hotel I've ever stayed at where the elevator had a little bedside table with pots of scraggly wild violets. The proprietress had half a dozen long-haired cats, two of which were lounging on the reception desk when we checked in. Or maybe I hallucinated the whole thing.

I've just been a very good girl and turned down a translation job. It was a big long book, aimed mainly at sports trainers, about how to "create" talent in people. It might have been fun, but it definitely would have occupied all my waking hours from now to the end of May, and paid at about a quarter of my standard rate for translation. So NO GO!

The past couple months have wreaked havoc on my health project. Too little time and too many excuses! Must head out for a long walk today - or a run.
/Penny at the

LisaInAR

Belated happy birthday from me, as well, Lenora.

Sharon - if you didn't still love him, it wouldn't hurt so much... that's why you kept trying. That's why Allie kept trying. That's why all of us kept trying in our first marriages. I'm so sorry I don't have any answers for you. I'm glad you're going to a lawyer--his unpredictability has always unnerved me, but that's my filter, not yours. All the hugs there are.

Lisa in NC

okiewoman510

Good morning Ladies -

Sharon - I am so sorry you are going through this. I can't even imagine what you are feeling to be going through so much physically and emotionally too. Big hugs!!

Becca - so funny! Whoever listens to that message is going to have a great day!

Caroline - if you are depending on the food diary to tell you your potassium, it may be off. Not all foods have the potassium listed as the food labels are not required to list it. Some do, but many don't. Potatoes, sweet potatoes, spinach, bananas, lentils, prunes, milk (and many others) give you a good dose of potassium.

I've had a good week. Work is challenging, which is great. I think I have my head wrapped around 1/2 of a solution for a problem, now to figure out the other half. I like puzzles and enjoy finding errors and figuring out how to fix them. I need to get out in the shop and label boxes today. My super sticky labels came in that I am hoping stay on in the TX summer heat.

Weight was down 3.2 lbs today, which means I have hit 80 lbs now!! FINALLY moving again. I know part of that was a loss masked from the "unusual" for me food that I ate over the weekend that made me retain water. I looked back at my log and hadn't lost much for 4 weeks, just traded a couple of pounds so to be moving again is great. I love it when I stick with it and finally get a whoosh! I'm still dealing with the burn on the roof of my mouth (from mashed cauliflower of all things). I am eating soft foods, rinsing my mouth with salt water and trying to not eat anything hot. If I make a hot dish, I let it cool before I eat it. It gives me time to clean up the pans in the kitchen before I eat, so not a total loss. I clean as I go along anyway, but this way, the pans are done too. My hub isn't real sure about eating without me, but I tell him not to let his get cool and he has gone ahead the last couple of days. Last night we had tuna salad so we ate together . He may get a little frustrated this weekend because eating out for lunch could be challenging, soft food is easy, I could go with soup, but it's hot, so I need to skip that. If the weather is nice, we can go for a drive with the top down and then come home to eat. He'll be happy if he gets the car out for a long drive. Poor guy, he's such a good sport. He eats anything I put in front of him without complaint. When my TMJ flared and I couldn't eat much, he rolled with it. When I want to eat a salad at home instead of going out because we are going to a neighbors for dinner where I don't know what we'll be having (so I want plenty of cals left) he rolls with it.

Have a great Friday ladies! Thanks for listening to me vent!

Okie in the TX Hill Country

okiewoman510

Penny - Good for you turning down the work! Doesn't it feel great to say no?

Okie

kymarai

Felicia in Oregon- OMG!!!! I have been thinking lately that my life is MESSY! Our renter of 12 years moved out. New carpet, new flooring, paint, wall repair, toilet replacement, washer hook up replacement, new lights. All I have to do is arrange contractors as I have NO time to work on it. The last 2 nights haven't gotten home until almost 10 pm. Last night I didn't even get dinner or steppage or water. Just feel stretched a little thin so this morning I managed to get checks deposited in account from 2 weeks ago, update some record keeping, straightened up my work bag, and the best one is cleaned out my purse! I am amazed that just cleaning out and organizing my suitcase oops I mean purse can give me a brief moment of sanity!

Ladies- I am catching up but am really only on page 73. You keep posting things that make me stop and comment right away

Rye- I am so glad Kidd is feeling better. You have great spirit and attitude. You know where to come for support and suggestions. You are AMAZING!

Necessity is the master of great inventions! Karen- love the tarp idea!

Terry, You look beautiful!

My fur baby Sara woke me up at 4 this morning. I was wide awake after that, hence to organizing trend. Probably should (I really dislike that word) have been walking or stretching, but needed some organization at the moment. So best decision at the time.

Got my new phone yesterday. Forgot it is charging at work, so now have to transfer everything today to get old one back in mail. Still no case, so old case will have to go on until new one available. Just frustrating as I can't use fingerprint log on with old case, but phones are expensive, so will just have to remove case if need into financial stuffs. Thankful for insurance.

Positivity is my word for March so to make all this positive:
We get to make the rental beautiful again and will get a renter that actually pays on time and more rent (hadn't raised previous rent in 12 years.)
Replacement phone is actually brand new! Usually a refurbished one
I am able to breathe a little easier with a little organization today!

The weather is funky again today. Suppose to be upper 40's, yet looking at another 3-6" of snow tomorrow. If it happens we will have had more snow since Spring started than we had all winter! Going to enjoy the sunshine through my windows at work today.

I am still kicking and smiling in Ohio,
Kylia

KJLaMore

Good morning all! Happy Birthday, Lenora! Sharon-I am so sorry! Be strong, I think you are taking the right steps in going to see a lawyer. Larry is not on the level with you and has never been, it seems. Time to protect yourself and make your own life better (without him). Sending much love! Okie- Congrats on the weight loss! Doing the happy dance with you!
Have to vent: DD called me yesterday afternoon and spent a good deal of time, trying to give me lessons in how to deal with my DH's (her father's) job loss, health issues, other relationship things. I love my daughter; but she is tenacious (like a bulldog) when she gets her teeth into something or an idea in her head. I pretty much told her that things were being handled and that NONE of what is going on has anything remotely to do with her, and to butt out. SO...that ended out mid afternoon conversation. I had that on my mind all afternoon yesterday, and how much it bothers me that she calls while I am working with the kids (just to chat), and gets a little pissy that I am not able to talk to her right then. She has always been a needy kid (and I say that with love- some kids "need" constant attention, approval and others could care less if you were in the room or not). I love her, but she wears me out. Still. ANyway, I got a text from her last night at about 7:30. She sent it to both DH and I. She wanted to us all to have a Viber chat and talk about all of our (hubby's and mine) problems and figure out solutions and how to get started! I quickly responded back with a "No. I love you, but this is none of your business." DH did not reply. She then replied only to me: "If you don't talk with me about this, I will no longer viber chat with Joaquin, post pictures of him, send pictures of him. You will be cut off from your grandson until you get this fixed." I think if some one had taken my blood pressure at that moment it would have been off the charts. This was my reply: "What you are suggesting is called emotional blackmail and is a sign of an abusive relationship. I think, you better take a few minutes/hours/days to think about what you just said and think about whether the fact that we won't let you play "psychiatrist" in our life merits this response. If you still decide to go through with holding Joaquin over our heads; have at it. You are messing with the wrong person today." I then showered and got ready for bed. There was an apology text on my phone when I got into bed. I called her and she apologized profusely, stating that she is worried. She thought the threat of taking Joaquin time away from us/me would move me to push her dad to make decisions about things. I let her know that she better not try that again with me. I do NOT respond well to blackmail, and it will never get the response she wants out of me. I love this kid, but she can get under my skin in a split second. She is her father in feminine form.

Okay...I am breathing again. It never ceases to amaze me that our children are still children even when they are pushing 30! I guess it shouldn't, I know how childish my DH can act (and myself at times). Well, it is Friday! whoot! This weekend I will be building a sandbox in my kitchen for the Kitchen Beach Party on Monday (Make Your Own Holiday Day). I will have about 300 pounds of sand in my kitchen. I am going out tonight to buy the sand. Hopefully I can find it dry. This time of year alot of it is wet, because the stores usually store it outside in the weather. If it is wet, I will have to open it right away and spread it one bag at a time, to allow it all to dry by Monday. A lot more work than I want. But it really makes for a fun party! Wendy and Machka, I will be sure to post a picture of "my beach"! (although your beaches look far more calm and relaxing)

Time to pour my second cup of coffee and open my blinds and curtains for the kid's arrival. I will have one little girl until 6pm tonight (hopefully not longer) as her parents are going to a basketball playoff game. She is a good girl; but she is usually the first one picked up and I foresee panic as she realizes everyone is going home except her! Love to you all! ttfn xoxoxo KJ

kymarai

Janetr- I love the wreathe. So fresh and clean!
You ladies are a talented bunch
Joyce- try to remember that the pain is healing. I have had 4 hand surgeries and have experienced some of the worst pain ever as the nerves were waking up. I can't imagine months of it! Hugs to you! Yet am hopeful you have a full recovery!

Time to get ready for work. Am up to page 74.

Hugs to all!
Kylia in Ohio

klanders30

sharon thinking of you and sending and strength. And the old Churchill quote..."When you're going through h#ll, keep going". You will come through to the other side of this with your beautiful soul intact.

Well ladies the scale and I had a get together today after 3 months of not getting together...Surprise! Let's just say today is a new day, I will log every bite and make better choices

Happy Friday, NYKAREN

KetoneKaren

Kelly You handled that situation with your daughter like a pro. I doubt that she would have stepped over the line with you if she didn't feel completely (maybe a little too) safe in her relationship with you. You obviously have a wonderful, close, maddening relationship with her, and she has a little boundary problem. Is her clone (her dad) talking to her a lot & pushing her buttons? Or is this just her? ((Hugs))

Sharon Dear girl, sending all the strength and love I can. You deserve a prince. Larry is no prince. ((Hugs))

Becca Snort!!! you are a funny lady.

Karen in Virginia

Lagopus

okiewoman510 wrote: »

Penny - Good for you turning down the work! Doesn't it feel great to say no?

Okie

Thanks for congratulating me, Okie. It DOES feel great, but — Heaven help me! — the author's trying to bargain, extending the deadline and asking how much I want. I've got to focus on my health more than I have been doing recently and taking on a 340-page book isn't the way to do it. Oooooh give me strength.

Kelly, your dedication to making the day fun for your kids is amazing. Please don't tell me you'll be spreading out 300 pounds of sand on your kitchen floor! No, I see you'll be building a sandbox for it. Still, I suspect a lot of sand will escape during the Beach Party. You're a better man that I am, Gunga Din.
/Penny at the

LisaInAR

KJ - you're an amazing human being, and well done for calling your daughter out. That was dirty pool.

Beeps - I am the one on Dukan. Not sure what Dukan2 is about, but I'm in the Cruise phase of the Dukan Diet. Took the Attack phase to the 8th day, and lost 8 pounds, and decided I needed SOMETHING besides just lean protein or I was going to start hurting people. As of tomorrow, I'll have been on it overall for two months, since January 24. Of course, as soon as I added in veggies, I bounced up a little bit... but settled into an overall pattern of about .2 to .3 pounds lost a day. That's not every day of course, that's an average.

And, to use the same terms you use, I cheat. I hate that term, by the way. It's part of almost every person who struggles with their weight's all-or-nothing, black-and-white, I'm either doing it or I'm not, attitude--and one that is part of why 90-something percent of diets don't work. Note - there's some science behind this, and I've done some reading and incorporated it into my mindset, and it's working. For me. I don't know if it will work for you.

When I eat something that is not on the diet, which I do once or twice a week, I go back to the regimen immediately afterward. I haven't "broken" anything. I'm not "cheating." I'm not bad. It's a neutral action, not a negative one. So, I can happily go back to what I'm doing with my eating, without beating the crap out of myself mentally and eating everything in the house in order to punish myself. I wobbled, I didn't fall.

One thing I've noticed is that, in the patterns I'm keeping an eye on, the days when I'm at my most weight lost over the course of any given week is when I crave something sweet--which is usually my go-to for my wobble moment. But, it's a moment, not a day, not even a meal. I simply go right back to the path--and in 60 days, I've lost 16.4 pounds. The wild swings seem to be leveling somewhat, and I'm going to stay with it--I've felt fewer cravings, seldom if ever actually get hungry, and when I do, I can scramble myself an egg or two, three or four, without having to feel guilty. I've only had one low-blood-sugar episode (shaky, fizzy, weak feeling), and that was easily remedied with a couple tablespoons of honey. Which I did NOT feel guilty for in the slightest.

And, as of this morning, I'm 1.8 pounds from Onederland, and about to go a-traveling on Sunday. Dukan's quite a bit more portable than most while staying in hotels - luckily, they all seem to have microwaves now, and I'll be taking the oat bran (I eat it every morning with almond milk and Splenda, as I love it as a cereal) with me, and picking up what I need when I get there.

Sorry - not sure you were up for a lecture! But if there's any takeaway I hope you (or anyone) gets from it, it's that sense of despair that pulls us off the path. When we're beating ourselves up for being weak, or breaking our diet, or cheating on our diet, or eating "bad" foods, it's neither useful nor accomplishing anything but giving ourselves permission to eat everything "bad" we can get our hands on. You can pull yourself out of that if you choose to--it's self-inflicted, and can be self-cured.

Lisa... getting down from her hobbyhorse... in NC for only three more weeks!

okiewoman510

Penny - Stay strong!! Put yourself first without guilt. You matter.

KJ - Hugs! I think you handled your DD beautifully. 300 lbs of sand, in your house?? I’m getting stressed just thinking about that and it’s your house it will be in! I’m sure the kids will love it!

Lisa - Onederland is soooo close! Good luck during your travels!

Okie in the TX Hill Country

grandmallie

Sharon
I know what your going through,I was verbally and emotionally abused ,but still wanted to make it work.
Final straw came when I found out he was having an affair,it's been a rough road but much happier now...my advice get the best lawyer you can.we are a no fault divorce state so even though I had eveidnce ,didn't bring it to court..good luck honey I'm pulling for you XOXO

bwcetc

Lenora .... Belated Happy Birthday!

Sharon ... I'm so very sorry for your disillusionment and hurt ... hugs

Okie ... 80 pounds!!! Way to go!!

Becca ... that you said "love you" to a medical billing department is hysterical!! I'm constantly on the phone with insurance companies and medical billing departments and can definitely tell you I've NEVER "loved" any of them! LOL!

Kelly ... you are an awesome mother! Your response to your daughter was spot on!

Have a great day ladies!

Beth near Buffalo who is finally getting her s**t together ...

barbiecat

Sharon, I grew up believing that marriage was forever. As the result of that, I stayed in a marriage that was a disaster for much longer than I should have. Add me to the list of friends who support your path of getting a good lawyer and getting out of your marriage. Your future self will thank you for it.

Barbie