WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2018

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cityjaneLondon

OK folks , I think I AT LAST have a title. We were chanting our Sanskrit in yoga and the repeating line meant ME I AM. Light dawned! I think that's it! Subtitle as before. A lot of the book is the child's struggle to be here in the moment.

The group went for coffee in the pub and then DH and I went food shopping.

I will curry my sprouted beans in a moment to have with sea bass and broccoli and then I hope to get on the recumbent bike for a bit to earn a few more calories. There is a new series on daytime tv at the moment called "Holding back the years" which I rarely see, so I can catch up with that.

Still got to find a good home for all my loft books. I reckon there are 80 books about relationships. :noway:

Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

ryenday

Budgeting one thing I do is ‘virtual shop’ I go to a site and add everything I want to my shopping cart. But I don’t check out. If I go back in a couple of days I usually don’t want to really spend my money on much if any of the stuff I put in my cart the other day.

I still have the satisfaction of ‘shopping’ but I get less junk and save my money. lol

janetr7476

Happy dance this morning, down another 2.5 pounds, only seven to go to get to my lowest post op weight. I'm not planning on stopping there though.

Heather, I love your final title. In my opinion "You've come a long way, baby". You are truly an inspiration.

Janetr OKC

ydailey

Happy World Theater Day!

"The theater has been one of the most popular forms of entertainment since the Greeks, and the acting industry today is a hard but potentially prosperous career. If you have ever been in theater or seen a live show, you know how fun theater can be."

Wendy - What an interesting challenge, to make learning to ride safe for someone who processes information differently! Hope the lesson goes well!

Allie - Congratulations on having that behind you!

Betty - Glad you are still hanging on. You're in my thoughts.

Michele - Loved your plan for the flooring! Be sure you service something nice and stain-inducing! My Irish Wolfhound had the same effect on people as your Sheepdog. He was obviously very friendly, but nobody in their right mind would try something with 150 pounds of dog standing right by my side. I love Luna, but I do miss having a giant dog.

Rye - I've had dogs and cats together for nearly 40 years, including a regular parade of foster greyhounds fresh off the track. In my experience, only a small percentage of dogs can't learn to be cat-safe (at least with indoor cats). I know some cats never learn to be dog-safe either although all of mine have been good. I don't take Luna with me when I stay at my sister's house because one of her cats is a total butthead and terrorizes the dog the entire time she's there. Anyhow, I do it by making sure the cats have the advantage and not encouraging them to be "friends." It's cute if they cuddle up on their own, but I'd rather have safe cats than dog-and-cat best buddies. I make it clear from the beginning that dogs are not allowed to mess with cats in any way, and if there's a scuffle the dog is the one that's going to get in trouble. (The cats know this and take advantage of it sometimes by deliberately antagonizing the dog.) I give a sharp verbal correction if a dog shows undue interest in a cat. Sadly, neither the dogs nor the cats can be trusted with the birds unattended, so the parrots only get supervised free time.

Trisha - Gorgeous dogs! You've got your hands full there (in a good way) with such a high energy breed!

Lanette - Sometimes my teeth get that way, where I have sort of a non-specific pain but I can't pinpoint it to a single place. Sometimes a bite adjustment helps. I wear a bite guard at night to which reduce night-time tooth grinding, and remembering to consciously relax and massage the jaw muscles now and then also helps.

Lisa - Oh, I'll have to check out the Door Buddy! There are times when it would be useful to be able to keep the dog out of a room while allowing the cats to come and go.


It's a grey day here. Nice day to sleep in or spend the day reading (neither or which is in the cards). Tomorrow morning I leave for the probate hearing so today will be spent getting as much done as possible before my time off.

-Yvonne in TX

kevrit

SophieRosieMom

Barbie - Allie, what helps me the most with budgeting and living on a very modest income, is writing down everything I spend. It helps me see where my money is going and helps me decide which expenses I could have done without. It helps also, to wait a day to buy something so you have time to think about it. I frequently ask myself "How could my life be better with less?" Good luck on this new chapter in your life.

Good point, Barbie! We were living on a very modest income several years ago and recording EVERY expense was an eye-opener. After a few months, I was able to forecast recurring monthly expenditures and gave myself and DH good discretionary allowance which was used for gifts, books, clothing, etc. But it set a limit.

It made it easier for me to tell people who wanted me to purchase items from their Pampered Chef and similar parties, "Oh shucks, I already blew my budget on things like that for a couple months." I will admit I still go overboard at Christmas but again, I budget for that or at least try to.

And, budgeting protected savings. Big expenses like car tires, car repairs, etc. are paid from what we have in savings and I no longer have to dip into it to buy groceries!

Allie - good luck, I know now you have all kinds of expenses that you really cannot control right now but once it gets smoothed out you'll be good to go I know. I also believe the universe provides!

Rye - love your idea about putting items in the cart on Amazon and but giving it a few days. I was going to buy a couple 8 gig thumb drives a couple days ago and did just that. Then I rummaged through drawers and guess what - I found 2 of them right off. Felt good to delete them from the shopping cart.

Cats and dogs.... we've had some that get along very well and some that didn't. Most recently, we moved here with a couple little older mixed breed doggies, then got a kitten who was murder on them! Would attack and scratch them and I swear sent them to an early grave. THEN I brought home Sophie the schnoodle when that kitten was nearly full grown, and the tables were turned. Sophie terrorized that cat big time! Didn't mind the claws and would jump on her, sit on her, pull on her tail. Finally, they would relax together on the sofa - not exactly cuddle, but really liked each other. We'd take Sophie on a walk and the cat would follow along!

Turn clock forward ten years. Enter Rosie the mini schnauzer pup. Kitty and Sophie are now "elderly". Rosie lives to torment that cat -she's more "terrier" than Sophie and is pushy, yappy, and snappy. I think the cat loves it but doesn't tolerate it for long and certainly doesn't sleep next to Rosie on the sofa, tho she might at some point.

Here's a photo of Sophie as a pup and Kitty taken about ten years ago:


OK ladies, time to suit up and get a walk in!

Lanette
Drizzly SW WA State

Peach1948

Here's my son's cat and dog. Dog weigh over 100 lbs and cat is 15 yrs old.

lisasalvatore6583

coastalgosgal wrote: »

Thanks Barbie! You're amazing! And.... I love ya!

March Goals
-log my food daily
-drink 64 oz of liquid a day. (Wine doesn't count... Jk!!)
-exercise nightly
-read daily

Get beads every week! Each bead is a lb lost. When I lose it, I put it on a bracelet!

Tonight I'm kind of hungry! I got this!
Becca
Oregon coastie with the mostie!

Just starting my plan and was trying think of some good goals to start with. Using yours! And I love your bead and bracelet idea. That is awesome! Thank you!

cityjaneLondon

Wow!
After a discussion with my yoga pals I went online and found an Oxfam shop that specialises in books and music and they also put specialist books online. I rang them and told them what I had. They do have someone who can collect them, so he will phone me to organise that. We sorted out two large boxes of self development, one box of theatre and four big boxes of hardback biography.
I found I didn't mind letting go of them if they are going to a good home. :bigsmile: They are now waiting in the garage for collection.

Thanks Janetr- I like it.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

coastalgosgal

barbiecat wrote: »

Caregiving is not for sissies. Today I took Jake to the doctor get his stitches out. She said the incision looks like it's healing well. He is restless and wants to be stronger right away, but the short trip was really tiring for him. He took a 3 hour nap after lunch. I am happy that he's doing well. I have huge admiration for those of you who are caring for someone on a much more ongoing basis.

Barbie

You are doing great!! I think because we are emotionally vested into our caregiver jobs, that's what makes it so draining, so chaotic feeling. It wasn't just Jake that went through surgery, you did as well. I learned that from a nice lady mental doctor up the way in Astoria. We were the ones that pick up the pieces and carry on. So, don't be hard on yourself...caregivers are like rock stars!!!
My Chief gets his staples, and one stitch out the 6th of next month!
Becca
Oregon

coastalgosgal

In pre-approval status now! They still have to do credit checks but will get back to us on Wednesday!! Woohoo!
Becca

beckyobryan153

Hi Ladies,
I'm back. I was offline for a while. We've had snow off and on for the last 4 weeks. It's still cold, but no snow on the ground. still can't seem to lose any weight. I seem to stay within a 3-pound radius. It's not where I want to be. If I could lose these last 13 pounds, I'd be happy. Guess I'll just have to keep plugging away at it until they drop. I haven't exercised like I should, either. Well, I will lose this weight. I'm committed to it. I need to do it for my health.

cityjaneLondon

Just after I posted last on here I went onto my memo pad and drafted out a letter to my two boys. I showed it to DH who had a little tear in his eye.
I'm going to email it as an attachment to a shorter preparatory email. One to my elder son and one to my DDIL, as she is the one who is worried about the younger's reaction. I really don't want to upset her as the mother of my gorgeous grandchildren.

I thought it would be hard to write, but it took only minutes, using your suggestions.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

coastalgosgal

beckyobryan153 wrote: »

Hi Ladies,
I'm back. I was offline for a while. We've had snow off and on for the last 4 weeks. It's still cold, but no snow on the ground. still can't seem to lose any weight. I seem to stay within a 3-pound radius. It's not where I want to be. If I could lose these last 13 pounds, I'd be happy. Guess I'll just have to keep plugging away at it until they drop. I haven't exercised like I should, either. Well, I will lose this weight. I'm committed to it. I need to do it for my health.

I will quote a favorite quote.
"Losing weight isn't the key to happiness, happiness is the key to losing weight".

So then, you're thinking how can I get happy and lose this weight already...

Here are some phrases that help me:

" The most important ingredient in food preparation is my mood!"

This next phrase will make you ponder:
"Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything.
Maybe it's unbecoming everything that isn't you,
So you can be who you were meant to be in the first place."

You can do this! You are more than just the sum of your parts!
Becca
Oregon

suebdew

Becca - well said, I was thinking the same thing. If you only had one day to live, would it make you happy if you weighed less. After a recent choking incident, I try to live every day, hour, moment to the fullest. Be Happy, love life. Love yourself.
SueBDew in rainy Texas.

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coastalgosgal

suebdew wrote: »

Becca - well said, I was thinking the same thing. If you only had one day to live, would it make you happy if you weighed less. After a recent choking incident, I try to live every day, hour, moment to the fullest. Be Happy, love life. Love yourself.
SueBDew in rainy Texas.

Yes, indeed. When you've gone over your caloric intake, call a sick friend. That kind of puts the proper perspective, and resets your priorities, you know? Hugs to you Sue!!!
Becca

coastalgosgal

Sometimes I think my goals are too small. I mean, the fact that I stretch when I wake up, put feet on the carpet and rise, (without pain or aching), makes me happy. That I converse with husband naturally, and still haven't tired of each other is a blessing. We still have forward movement with are life, with this move and all. Unpredictability, and change is a welcomed friend to us, we have learned to adapt and adjust to it. My goal of losing weight will come. My goals of happiness are more than mere pounds or ounces. It's the weight of conformity, of measuring up, of negative self worth, that I have let go.
Becca
( Helen Redding is singing " I am woman" in my head now) in
Oregon

exermom

Did 30 minutes of HIIT and then 15 minutes on the rowing machine. The plan for tomorrow is to do a Shed 5 Fast DVD (a new one for me). Then we have the Newcomer board meeting at our house.

As you can start to guess, I'm running out of room for DVD's

Went out to lunch today with some friends. There was a $5 salad at Ruby Tuesdays so we went. I just had greens, cukes, carrots, onion, apples, peas, edamame on mine – no dressing and just water to drink, oh, a VERY LITTLE feta cheese (maybe 4 small pieces)

Janetr – woohoo on that loss

Yvonne – I remember we had the Sheepdog when I was pg with Jessica. He used to pull me when I’d take him for a walk. I was taking him to obedience class and suddenly he stopped pulling me. I thought “oh, he’s finally getting it”. Then I found out I was pg, he went right back to pulling me. Our neighbor at our first house had a dog and cat. They were the best of friends.

After exercising stopped at the Salvation Army. I don’t know what it is with this one, but they seem to have really downsized how much they have. Then stopped at Big Lots to get Vince soda only they didn’t have any. The delivery men were there and told me that the manager didn’t order any diet soda at all, and that’s about all Vince will drink

Lanette – Sophie is so adorable. Really reminds me of a dog I had when I was younger

The “For Sale” sign on the house next door to us just went up today. It’s a 4bdrm, 2-1/2 bath selling for $390K Bet it won’t be on the market very long. We’re at the end of a dead end street

That lemon cake I had I kept looking at and telling myself “it’s not worth the calories”. But I did have a small piece, only so that I can get it under the domed cover without making a mess. I’m trying out my cake decorating.

I’m going to dominoes tonight. Vince doesn’t think he wants to go with me. I’m hoping that people will get on his case “we missed you, you don’t have to eat”. He really needs to get out more. He wouldn’t have gone to the lunch only I said to him “it would be nice”. If I left it to him totally, he wouldn’t have gone.

I’ll take water with me to drink tonight. That’s what I usually did.

Michele in NC