A married man lied to me?

SimmisJessica
SimmisJessica Posts: 9 Member
edited November 25 in Chit-Chat
Well he isn't technically married but he lives with the mother of his children and 2 kids.When we met he told me that he is the process of separating but is just trying to figure out what's best of their children.I believed him .

We've been seeing each other for year and he still lives with her.He only see me during his work hours,he hasn't spend a night with me.He ignored valentine's day and he has never bought me any presents.He claims that he would want to spend more time with me it's hard because his kids are very young and require all his attention

Lately I've been feeling bad about the situation I'm in.I wonder if they are still intimate and it's constantly in back of mind...wondering if they are still together.Did he lie to me?Why do I feel so bad
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  • 12774
    12774 Posts: 1,416 Member
    Wake up girlfriend!
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  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    81Katz wrote: »
    Technically not married? Well he's still technically an *kitten* and you'd be dumb to stick around, technically.

    What I meant was they are not married.They live together and their 2 kids
    That makes it less wrong and gross how? :lol:
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    81Katz wrote: »
    Technically not married? Well he's still technically an *kitten* and you'd be dumb to stick around, technically.

    What I meant was they are not married.They live together and their 2 kids

    But common law married no doubt. I might feel bad for 1 more minute and send this dude on his way.
  • marissafit06
    marissafit06 Posts: 1,996 Member
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    We've been seeing each other for year and he still lives with her.He only see me during his work hours,he hasn't spend a night with me.He ignored valentine's day and he has never bought me any presents.He claims that he would want to spend more time with me it's hard because his kids are very young and require all his attention


    Even if he wasn't still sleeping with the mother of his children and sneaking around behind her back, is above what you want from a relationship?
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    You can't start a 'relationship' on dishonesty and then act shocked when there's no trust.
    Come on now. Tell him to go take a hike.
  • projectsix
    projectsix Posts: 5,088 Member
    XxQueenMxX wrote: »
    Is this real? Are u bored and just playing a jokes on us???
    Ok, if not. Then yes girl... you're the side chick *insert eye roll here*. If he really wanted a real relationship with u he would do all those things you mentioned he doesn't do, but most importantly HE WOULDN'T BE LIVING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN.

    That he shares children with.
  • pudgy1977
    pudgy1977 Posts: 13,499 Member
    Let the games begin
  • marissafit06
    marissafit06 Posts: 1,996 Member
    happilybrad wrote: »
    XxQueenMxX wrote: »
    Is this real? Are u bored and just playing a jokes on us???
    Ok, if not. Then yes girl... you're the side chick *insert eye roll here*. If he really wanted a real relationship with u he would do all those things you mentioned he doesn't do, but most importantly HE WOULDN'T BE LIVING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN.

    That he shares children with.

    maybe he's broke AF and can't afford his own place.
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    marissafit06 wrote: »
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    We've been seeing each other for year and he still lives with her.He only see me during his work hours,he hasn't spend a night with me.He ignored valentine's day and he has never bought me any presents.He claims that he would want to spend more time with me it's hard because his kids are very young and require all his attention


    Even if he wasn't still sleeping with the mother of his children and sneaking around behind her back, is above what you want from a relationship?

    Pretty much the important bit. Why be in a relationship with someone who treats you like this and/or makes you feel this way? Just.. yuck. Get the *kitten* out and go find someone who actually treats you like you're worth a damn instead of a sexual doormat. Yuck, yuck, yuck.
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  • Deadman_Diggingup
    Deadman_Diggingup Posts: 3,082 Member
    Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    81Katz wrote: »
    Technically not married? Well he's still technically an *kitten* and you'd be dumb to stick around, technically.

    What I meant was they are not married.They live together and their 2 kids

    Just stop.

    The only advice necessary here.
  • amfmmama
    amfmmama Posts: 1,420 Member
    Yeah, he's a lying jerk. It sounds like you know in your gut what is going on, so now you have to make a decision.
  • TomFit18
    TomFit18 Posts: 2,585 Member
    WTH.... what is this?
  • marissafit06
    marissafit06 Posts: 1,996 Member
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    XxQueenMxX wrote: »
    Is this real? Are u bored and just playing a jokes on us???
    Ok, if not. Then yes girl... you're the side chick *insert eye roll here*. If he really wanted a real relationship with u he would do all those things you mentioned he doesn't do, but most importantly HE WOULDN'T BE LIVING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN.

    Sadly it is real...I want to end it but idk.I have fallen for him which makes it hard to walk away.If I could take it back I wouldn't have gotten involved in the first place.I hate what I've done to myself

    So you hang around long term and end up pregnant and he does the same thing to you, but now there are two sets of kids so you get even less of his time.
  • XxQueenMxX
    XxQueenMxX Posts: 683 Member
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    XxQueenMxX wrote: »
    Is this real? Are u bored and just playing a jokes on us???
    Ok, if not. Then yes girl... you're the side chick *insert eye roll here*. If he really wanted a real relationship with u he would do all those things you mentioned he doesn't do, but most importantly HE WOULDN'T BE LIVING WITH ANOTHER WOMAN.

    Sadly it is real...I want to end it but idk.I have fallen for him which makes it hard to walk away.If I could take it back I wouldn't have gotten involved in the first place.I hate what I've done to myself

    Cut him off stat!
  • Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings
    Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings Posts: 5,545 Member
    _Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »
    Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »
    SimmisJessica wrote: »
    81Katz wrote: »
    Technically not married? Well he's still technically an *kitten* and you'd be dumb to stick around, technically.

    What I meant was they are not married.They live together and their 2 kids

    Just stop.

    The only advice necessary here.

    K.I.S.S
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