Less Alcohol- April 2018- One Day at a Time
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Sigh. Never mind. Not today, not the right thread.5
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OMG, @JenT304, you and I are having the same problem. Today I'm trying to increase protein bc I'm feeling hungry - a lot. Just had some Fage, which has a ton of protein, and some cashews. Hope that does the job for awhile. I put my little sweets (couple of chocolate kisses, few gummies and my beloved TJ mini peanut butter cup) in a little dish and said to myself, THAT IS IT. No mas. When those are gone, you're done. Fingers Xd.
I have no willpower when it comes to peanut butter cups. If that dish were in my home I would have devoured them like the sesame street cookie monster and probably licked the dish to make sure no molecule of deliciousness escaped my gaping maw.4 -
no alcohol beer since saturday8
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I've had one drink this month. Controlling sugar cravings is the hardest .6
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Excerpt from a very good article:
"You could have two women, same age, same weight, and give them the exact same amount of alcohol every day for a year,” says Wallace. “One might develop a problematic relationship to alcohol, and the other might not. Why? Because of genetics and emotional factors. It’s much more complex than just the amount that you’re drinking.”"
https://www.self.com/story/alcoholic-or-just-really-like-to-drink3 -
SanDiegofitmom wrote: »
What is WFPB?
Whole Food Plant Based. It is a good way to detox your system because in addition to meat you stay away from processed foods. For me it is not sustainable but in my six week diet rotation I do have a week that is WFPB + some fish. The first time through gave me days of near euphoria.
Oh! Cool! I love love eating a more plant based diet, I could totally be a vegetarian except for my Meat loving husband. I try to sneak in more meat free days and I do all organic and grass fed meats now. It’s more expensive but I would rather pay more and not worry about antibiotics, chemicals and hormones in the meat.3 -
@SanDiegofitmom - we tried Narcos, we really did. Just couldn't do it, for the same reasons you cite.
My husband loved it! I’m like give me Outlander
also, speaking of your earlier posts do you ever get the dark chocolate peanut butter cups at TJs? Soooo good 0 -
JulieAL1969 wrote: »Excerpt from a very good article:
"You could have two women, same age, same weight, and give them the exact same amount of alcohol every day for a year,” says Wallace. “One might develop a problematic relationship to alcohol, and the other might not. Why? Because of genetics and emotional factors. It’s much more complex than just the amount that you’re drinking.”"
https://www.self.com/story/alcoholic-or-just-really-like-to-drink
So true! I have some friends who just don’t care for alcohol - I’m like how is that possible?2 -
@JulieAL1969 I just read the article. Thank you for sharing it. I love how everyone contributes what they find on line. It really helps me to have such a wide range of perspectives to learn from.2
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »Excerpt from a very good article:
"You could have two women, same age, same weight, and give them the exact same amount of alcohol every day for a year,” says Wallace. “One might develop a problematic relationship to alcohol, and the other might not. Why? Because of genetics and emotional factors. It’s much more complex than just the amount that you’re drinking.”"
https://www.self.com/story/alcoholic-or-just-really-like-to-drink
I think I own the farm on stupid reasons to drink. I am a creature of habit. I like doing the same things at the same time. I used to be a once a week drinker and something happened (details not important) and I started drinking more daily. Once the ritual formed even though I didn't love it my OCD kicked in and I just kept doing it. So drinking became no different than my need to wash dishes at a specific time each day. The sad thing is I am generally considered a very smart person but as I always say smart people are completely capable of doing really stupid things too. So do I have an alcohol problem or a ritual problem... probably a little of both.
Last Sunday night I really did not want to drink but it was my scheduled drinking day. See? Stupid. Just saying no more though frightens me. I think I might be heading in that direction but for now I will stick to the plan even if it results in some stupid behavior
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »Excerpt from a very good article:
"You could have two women, same age, same weight, and give them the exact same amount of alcohol every day for a year,” says Wallace. “One might develop a problematic relationship to alcohol, and the other might not. Why? Because of genetics and emotional factors. It’s much more complex than just the amount that you’re drinking.”"
https://www.self.com/story/alcoholic-or-just-really-like-to-drink
I think I own the farm on stupid reasons to drink. I am a creature of habit. I like doing the same things at the same time. I used to be a once a week drinker and something happened (details not important) and I started drinking more daily. Once the ritual formed even though I didn't love it my OCD kicked in and I just kept doing it. So drinking became no different than my need to wash dishes at a specific time each day. The sad thing is I am generally considered a very smart person but as I always say smart people are completely capable of doing really stupid things too. So do I have an alcohol problem or a ritual problem... probably a little of both.
Last Sunday night I really did not want to drink but it was my scheduled drinking day. See? Stupid. Just saying no more though frightens me. I think I might be heading in that direction but for now I will stick to the plan even if it results in some stupid behavior
I think self reflection is part of the journey. I think there is something we both gain from drinking and so we do it. But I think once we figure out why we are drinking (which we probably know deep down) , we can work on the habit. And create a new habit. Lately, meditation is really working for me. I go on insight timer app and pick a guided one and lie down and listen. It is changing my brain, I think. I dont know how or why but meditation is becoming my new passion.
I think you're making some real progress on your own journey. It's all about learning and growing. Xo1 -
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WinoGelato wrote: »Sigh. Never mind. Not today, not the right thread.
Ha me too! I’ve been off the wagon and need go get back on but motivation has not been there2 -
Ouch. OK. So many of us were feeling it in January and now sort of despairing in April. I can’t speak for anyone else but for myself I have to look in the mirror and say “Girl, you can’t drink.” I absolutely HATE that thought. But it’s reality. That doesn’t mean I won’t drink. It just means I’m being honest out loud. I appreciate a place to say that without fear of judgment.8
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WinoGelato wrote: »Sigh. Never mind. Not today, not the right thread.
I see what you wanted to do there.for those of you familiar with AA/ the 12-step approach who like the idea behind the Just for Today book but maybe aren't so into the 'higher power' stuff, i highly recommend the book "Beyond Belief: Agnostic Musings for a 12-Step Life." I found it at a bookstore while i was in treatment. It's a nice collection of daily reflections/meditations/quotes for living sober.
Thanks! Much appreciated.2 -
JulieAL1969 wrote: »Excerpt from a very good article:
"You could have two women, same age, same weight, and give them the exact same amount of alcohol every day for a year,” says Wallace. “One might develop a problematic relationship to alcohol, and the other might not. Why? Because of genetics and emotional factors. It’s much more complex than just the amount that you’re drinking.”"
https://www.self.com/story/alcoholic-or-just-really-like-to-drink
I think I own the farm on stupid reasons to drink. I am a creature of habit. I like doing the same things at the same time. I used to be a once a week drinker and something happened (details not important) and I started drinking more daily. Once the ritual formed even though I didn't love it my OCD kicked in and I just kept doing it. So drinking became no different than my need to wash dishes at a specific time each day. The sad thing is I am generally considered a very smart person but as I always say smart people are completely capable of doing really stupid things too. So do I have an alcohol problem or a ritual problem... probably a little of both.
Last Sunday night I really did not want to drink but it was my scheduled drinking day. See? Stupid. Just saying no more though frightens me. I think I might be heading in that direction but for now I will stick to the plan even if it results in some stupid behavior
Very insightful. Need to think this through as it sounds a bit like me.
Also related is the post on how much is a problem for you/me.2 -
On my second week back at work, for which I am so grateful. It's out of the question for me to drink during the week, I just couldn't balance it along with work...even though years ago I used to do it almost daily. But I have changed, gotten older, and just can't tolerate it anymore.
So I will plan sometime throughout the weekend to indulge, if I wish. If I don't, then all the better. It's like the food part of weight loss...if I plan and know I'm not depriving myself, I can have anything.1 -
No alcohol for two days. Guess that makes today hump day. I feel good about it. The real decision for me is when I get home. That first drink, is it water? Juice? Wine? Vodka? Whatever I start with is it for the night usually. If that first glass is water it will be all night. Just have to make one good choice and should be ok for the whole night. It has not been difficult the last two days so I’m trying not to dwell and just do it.6
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With all the mark zuckerberg and facebook stuff, have you guys noticed what the top ad on this page is? hmm makes you think. I'm on my computer not my phone. It may be different on my phone.
Add: It is different on my phone. No ad.
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With all the mark zuckerberg and facebook stuff, have you guys noticed what the top ad on this page is? hmm makes you think. I'm on my computer not my phone. It may be different on my phone.
Add: It is different on my phone. No ad.
Ads are very personalized and targeted to individuals based on your search history, key words you may have used in forum discussions, and algorithms that predict what they think you’ll be interested in. Right now I’m seeing campground ads because I was looking for a campsite for Memorial Day weekend.2 -
Happy Hump Day! Back on track with logging, exercise, and no alcohol since last Friday. Hasn’t been a temptation, but we are finally supposed to have some spring weather here and I know when the grill is going and kids are playing in the back yard the Rose will be calling my name...4
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My goal is moderation after an almost daily habit of a glass of wine or two. After maybe 5 weeks I'm having nights where I don't even think about wine so I feel like the gate is open and I'm running free.4
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SanDiegofitmom wrote: »also, speaking of your earlier posts do you ever get the dark chocolate peanut butter cups at TJs? Soooo good
Oh yes, exactly those. Dark chocolate PB cups from TJ's. They are perfection and a great, reasonably low cal blast of something sweet after dinner. Here's an "amusing" story (if you're not me, that is). One of the clerks there told me about a year ago that I could slow the consumption rate down if I froze them, which I did. Things went along fine for a couple of weeks until one, day, after lunch, I bit into a frozen one and cracked my front tooth. It fell out within a week and I have been in the process of a $5000+ implant ever since. I still don't have a real tooth, but on course to have one by mid May. It's been a yearlong process. So, the moral of the story is don't abuse your teeth by biting down on hard things, LOL.
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Got through yesterday fine with the sweets by portioning out the ones I was going to have and then sticking to that. Bigger containers are hidden so I don't see them every time I open the fridge. I swear, this sweet obsession is becoming a bigger problem than wine.
@NovusDies - so interesting, your post on habits. I've learned in giving up wine Mon-Thurs that they are strong for sure. But what's worked at least semi ok for me is to also telling myself that my daily wine was "just a habit," and habits can for sure be changed and new ones established. We humans are pretty adaptable. Just like I said to myself about a year ago, "I don't eat donuts anymore," I can also say to myself, "Oh well, no wine tonight because I don't drink wine Mon-Thurs anymore." And, so far, that's been that. Somehow the more I say this -- to myself, friends and family -- the more it seems to stick. So, all I'm saying is that change is for sure possible, but it can take awhile to establish those new habits. You can do it and I'm pulling for you!
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For the past year or so I have drank upwards of 6 ciders about 5 times a week, every week. I have not taken a vow to not drink, just became more aware of the amount of empty calories I was taking in. Today, if I don't drink tonight, will be my 7th day without alcohol. That saved me at the very minimum 5700 calories over the last week!!! When I saw this post, I was like OMG this post was totally meant for me, today. Last night I cried, fighting with myself, after cracking one open...I won, I did not drink it, and after awhile I was okay with that decision. Okay, enough rambling...thanks for this post!!!6
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DeniseMayree wrote: »For the past year or so I have drank upwards of 6 ciders about 5 times a week, every week. I have not taken a vow to not drink, just became more aware of the amount of empty calories I was taking in. Today, if I don't drink tonight, will be my 7th day without alcohol. That saved me at the very minimum 5700 calories over the last week!!! When I saw this post, I was like OMG this post was totally meant for me, today. Last night I cried, fighting with myself, after cracking one open...I won, I did not drink it, and after awhile I was okay with that decision. Okay, enough rambling...thanks for this post!!!
Think about the money you saved too! I estimated that I'm saving about $50-$60 a week by being AF Mon-Thurs. Great job! There's alot of gains by being AF and Moderation! What will you do with your extra cash?3 -
WinoGelato wrote: »With all the mark zuckerberg and facebook stuff, have you guys noticed what the top ad on this page is? hmm makes you think. I'm on my computer not my phone. It may be different on my phone.
Add: It is different on my phone. No ad.
Ads are very personalized and targeted to individuals based on your search history, key words you may have used in forum discussions, and algorithms that predict what they think you’ll be interested in. Right now I’m seeing campground ads because I was looking for a campsite for Memorial Day weekend.
That's true. It just freaked me out for a minute. lol.1 -
@Orphia
I don't know how many reasons are out there for drinking but I doubt seriously it all boils down to a single formula. By the same token I doubt I am completely unique in my particular situation.
@kittybenn
I have to live a rule before it takes hold. Luckily I am the kind of person who uses rubbing alcohol as aftershave and I don't mind going outside in the freezing cold without a jacket. To simplify I can endure just about anything if I know relief is right around the corner. I think that is the reason I can't just say no more yet. The part I really need to figure out next is how to drink less on allowance day. Last Sunday I promised myself I would drink less and before I realized it I had drank the same amount because that is how much I always drink when I drink and as I mentioned I really didn't want to drink at all but it was friggun allowance day.
The good news is that even though the plan is not yet perfect it is still working more than it doesn't and going two weeks in between is not that much of a struggle. In two months I have shed quite a few pounds too. I am already back to 2010-2011 weight with my eye on 2005ish in another few months.
Good for you on the donuts. My no-more list started about 4 years ago and it has been that long since I have had a donut. I visited sausage and half a biscuit about 18 months ago but I immediately regretted it and have not been back. I have to remind myself from time to time that it is irresponsible at my age to eat like I was still 20 and we all know I shouldn't have been eating that way then either.3 -
SanDiegofitmom wrote: »also, speaking of your earlier posts do you ever get the dark chocolate peanut butter cups at TJs? Soooo good
Oh yes, exactly those. Dark chocolate PB cups from TJ's. They are perfection and a great, reasonably low cal blast of something sweet after dinner. Here's an "amusing" story (if you're not me, that is). One of the clerks there told me about a year ago that I could slow the consumption rate down if I froze them, which I did. Things went along fine for a couple of weeks until one, day, after lunch, I bit into a frozen one and cracked my front tooth. It fell out within a week and I have been in the process of a $5000+ implant ever since. I still don't have a real tooth, but on course to have one by mid May. It's been a yearlong process. So, the moral of the story is don't abuse your teeth by biting down on hard things, LOL.
Oh my gosh the worst! I just had a new 1400 crown done. The expense of teeth is insane!! I usually put them in the fridge good compromise - cold eat longer but not too hard 1
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