How do you get over an ex?
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LindsayGii wrote: »Maybe if your pic wasn't you with someone else you wouldn't have an ex.
If that’s the reason he’s an ex, she dodged a bullet2 -
Time is the only thing that's ever worked for me.5
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*kitten* his brother. If he doesn't have a brother *kitten* his sister. If he doesn't have a sister *kitten* his dad/mom.7
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Get under someone else?6
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Welcome to chit-chat. If you don't want sarcastic comments this probably isn't the best section for you, at least right now.
I'm going to guess based on the facial structure and your comment that the lovely lady in your profile pic is related to you. Start by leaning on family for support. 
As for other tips, time and self-reflection and sappy love songs helped me. Time is obvious, I suppose. When the wound is fresh it's easily rubbed raw over and over. You can't make the process go any faster. You just have to get through it. How you get through it matters more than how long it takes (imo).
Self-reflection is where you look deep inside and evaluate what you learned from the relationship, what you contributed vs. what you could have done differently, and where you'd like to go in the future. Try not to play the blame game. Evaluate it as objectively as you can. Sometimes speaking with a therapist helps you step outside the pain and think rationally.
As weird as it sounds, sappy love songs with good lyrics help with the self-reflection and self-talk, at least it did for me. I think I played this one about a billion times after a particularly hard break-up:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l6iso5FHJxM and this one: 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IAQYVpZdquc
I kept telling myself "I will get over you. I will get over you and I will be happy. I won't resent you if you're happy, because I still love you and want you to enjoy life too. Neither of us should wind up miserable forever."7 -
caco_ethes wrote: »LindsayGii wrote: »Maybe if your pic wasn't you with someone else you wouldn't have an ex.
If that’s the reason he’s an ex, she dodged a bullet
Oh, op is a dude? I mean the opposite
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Block delete all info and stay busy5
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Max_Adams25 wrote: »Ideas?
A trip to Las Vegas and an extra five thousand dollars to burn.1 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Max_Adams25 wrote: »Ideas?
A trip to Las Vegas and an extra five thousand dollars to burn.
Dont forget the Peyote1 -
Time. Everything else is just a distraction. But enjoy the distractions they will get you to somewhere, someone new.5
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For all the people interested thats my friend and nothing to do with my split.9
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@xFunctionalStrengthx sorry who was talking to you?0
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Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »Max_Adams25 wrote: »Ideas?
A trip to Las Vegas and an extra five thousand dollars to burn.
Dont forget the Peyote
....... it's already in the glove compartment, with the ether.
*with a nod of respect to HST.3 -
If there is one time in your life when it's appropriate to be selfish, getting over a relationship would be that time.
Focus on yourself... exercise and eat appropriately... sleep well... read some good books... meditate... take care of yourself exclusively and do the work necessary to fall back in love with yourself.2 -
Listen, you are going through a lot, but this area of the forums is full of sarcasm and people being silly and funny. If you can't handle that you may not want to be involved in Chit Chat. It's where people go to get away from too much seriousness.
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.... for too much seriousnessess.3 -
I started remodeling my house. Doing the demo work with friends while crunshing some beers was therapy2
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Max_Adams25 wrote: »@xFunctionalStrengthx sorry who was talking to you?
Public forum. You post publicly, you're going to get a bunch of different responses. Don't like it, you have two options:
1). Grow a thicker skin
2). Disconnect from the internet
Simple as that. I get it, you're hurt, your angry. You think your world is collapsing in on you. Reach out to your friends and family, they are your support.13 -
Make a pitcher of kool aid and listen to some Adele songs.
*covers head from the hit*2 -
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I don't have an ex.0
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You don't "get over". You learn to live with your loss. It is like grieving someone's death. Trying to forget usually backfires in the long run. Live with your memories and with your pain and accept that you feel this way because you are human. Tend to your humanity and more importantly to you. Your ex is gone but you remain, you are alive and the world did not end. Welcome others who support and love and figure what it takes for to love yourself. Ask yourself how healthy it is to allow another person to dictate how you feel. Above all, consider that the other person not being there is not a personal commentary on who you are.
Be well.3 -
Time and keeping busy.
Mourn a little the passing of your relationship, reflect on what went wrong but then go do something new with your life. Better yourself. Meet new people. Move on.
Do not e-mail/call/text/talk about your ex and what you used to do and how much you miss them. Do not take it out on other people.
Get therapy if you need it.
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Time, yes. I don't call or text. When it's over, it's over.
I also put up huge walls and barriers as a coping mechanism. In one way it's good because it helps these sorts of things be less painful, but it makes me pretty closed off to the opposite sex as well. I have basically have no expectations ever, for any man. Then I rarely get hurt. I might cry for a half day.0 -
Tears, self loathing and ben and jerry's2
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I would love to know the same ☹️2
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It all depends on the ties that bind. If you have children together you will have to find a way to deal.
If there is nothing in common the ex will fade in to the rich tapestry that is the background of your life, both lovely and bittersweet memories.
I suggest studying the background of the Mona Lisa for inspiration.0
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