How do you get over an ex?
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What I do and what you should do... lol. Honestly I replace them. Go out with a friend you have been neglecting. Do something you like to do that you put off because of them. GO ON A DATE.2
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It's true. I must not want to be loved. It's actually better than believing I'm unlovable.0
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BeckyWTGH407 wrote: »What I do and what you should do... lol. Honestly I replace them. Go out with a friend you have been neglecting. Do something you like to do that you put off because of them. GO ON A DATE.
I never have to feel guilty for going out w friends, spending money on myself, watching what I want on tv, hell day drinking if I do feel! It’s empowering to have so much independence
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Write poetry, songs, prose.2
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LindsayGii wrote: »Maybe if your pic wasn't you with someone else you wouldn't have an ex.
If that’s the reason he’s an ex, she dodged a bullet2 -
Time is the only thing that's ever worked for me.5
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*kitten* his brother. If he doesn't have a brother *kitten* his sister. If he doesn't have a sister *kitten* his dad/mom.7
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Get under someone else?6
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Welcome to chit-chat. If you don't want sarcastic comments this probably isn't the best section for you, at least right now. I'm going to guess based on the facial structure and your comment that the lovely lady in your profile pic is related to you. Start by leaning on family for support.
As for other tips, time and self-reflection and sappy love songs helped me. Time is obvious, I suppose. When the wound is fresh it's easily rubbed raw over and over. You can't make the process go any faster. You just have to get through it. How you get through it matters more than how long it takes (imo).
Self-reflection is where you look deep inside and evaluate what you learned from the relationship, what you contributed vs. what you could have done differently, and where you'd like to go in the future. Try not to play the blame game. Evaluate it as objectively as you can. Sometimes speaking with a therapist helps you step outside the pain and think rationally.
As weird as it sounds, sappy love songs with good lyrics help with the self-reflection and self-talk, at least it did for me. I think I played this one about a billion times after a particularly hard break-up: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l6iso5FHJxM and this one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IAQYVpZdquc
I kept telling myself "I will get over you. I will get over you and I will be happy. I won't resent you if you're happy, because I still love you and want you to enjoy life too. Neither of us should wind up miserable forever."7 -
caco_ethes wrote: »LindsayGii wrote: »Maybe if your pic wasn't you with someone else you wouldn't have an ex.
If that’s the reason he’s an ex, she dodged a bullet
Oh, op is a dude? I mean the opposite0 -
Block delete all info and stay busy5
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Max_Adams25 wrote: »Ideas?
A trip to Las Vegas and an extra five thousand dollars to burn.1
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