Less Alcohol- June 2018- One Day at a Time

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  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,377 Member
    @NovusDies Thanks so much!! I will copy and past link when I get back to my home computer by the end of the week on our new thread. Thank you and your wife, and Orphic , and everyone for the organization of our tips and tricks. I know it took many hours to create this amazing document!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,377 Member
    @NovusDies I am so thankful for you!!! I am looking at the resources on this thread we have all contributed to. I am so grateful you have put it all together. To everyone who posts, please keep it going. I know we have all learned from each other what works and what may not work. We also have each other as a safe space to be honest about our thoughts.
  • lorrainequiche59
    lorrainequiche59 Posts: 900 Member
    JenT304 wrote: »
    Thanks @islandbeez. I am going to do that sober school workshop starting right now. Thanks so much for sharing this. I was debating going to get a bottle of wine but thought I would check in with my pit crew here first for some support and that was exactly what I needed to see. Making some tea and watching first video now. XXOO

    Good Plan!! You CAN do this... <3
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,377 Member
    @NormInv also I'm sorry your going through tough times - I didn't mean to minimize that in my response.
  • islandbeez
    islandbeez Posts: 162 Member
    NormInv wrote: »
    islandbeez wrote: »
    NormInv wrote: »
    @NormInv also I'm sorry your going through tough times - I didn't mean to minimize that in my response.

    Hmmm Julie, lest you forget, I amplify my plight with exaggerated irony.....I am doing quite well thank you :)

    Oh, Normy! There are words for handsome devils like you...and the words are not "handsome devils". ;-)

    On another note, my 22 yo daughter has been the DD for her friends so far this summer and I mentioned that must be kind of a drag. But she said, "Momma, I don't mind, I feel like crap after I drink, but dealing with their obnoxious drunk antics is getting old." So that made me feel good. Hope they never have to go down this road.....

    You set a great example for her, Momma!

    I always say if you can't be a good example be a horrible warning! But thank you, Norm. She is seeing the positives and it makes me happy. :smile:
  • trishfit2014
    trishfit2014 Posts: 304 Member
    NormInv wrote: »
    donimfp wrote: »
    @erikNJ, I think it’s key that you’ve “never been a problem drinker [your] whole life”. The folks Annie Grace addresses when she says moderation doesn’t work are those who have been problem drinkers. That includes me. I would SO love to be a moderate drinker. Yes, alcohol is a poison but I refuse to deny that a lovely wine can be a genuine and worthwhile pleasure (See Wedding at Cana). However, in this 7-month journey I’ve had to face the fact that I am not able to enjoy that pleasure without nasty consequences. I enjoyed the complimentary champagne delivered to our hotel room last Friday on our anniversary. Then I had too much alcohol Saturday, yesterday, and today. It will take an effort to go AF once again.

    @JulieAL1969, thanks for articulating the downsides of the slippery slope. I miss feeling and looking my best.

    In my case this is how the slippery slope worked...I went on vacation and allowed myself to drink, it was a great time and i would do it all over again....so I get back and I was like ok, lets drink through the weekend and then I will be back on....then abstained for 4 days...then i was like, dayum i look so good and am so thin, whats one more drink gonna do....so i get another....then it was like, well its the weekend and i am already so handsome so why not.....then it was like....holy crap I am fat, high BP, high pulse, my girlfriend left me, my dog avoids me, all my money is gone....so ima like.....take me back my MFPals!!!!

    Thanks for the smile. Your MFPal are here for you. I am sure your dog will take you back too. ;)
  • donimfp
    donimfp Posts: 795 Member
    @Norminv, have you ever considered writing country music?

    I'm glad you're back, too. And thanks to you and others for understanding that slippery slope. That and watching the Sober School video from yesterday have made me determined that today will be a good Day 1.
  • mgiron
    mgiron Posts: 6 Member
    You guys NEED to read the book: Kick the Drink. Really recommend it to change your mindset about alcohol.
  • NovusDies
    NovusDies Posts: 8,940 Member
    mgiron wrote: »
    You guys NEED to read the book: Kick the Drink. Really recommend it to change your mindset about alcohol.

    Change it in what way?

  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,377 Member
    mgiron wrote: »
    You guys NEED to read the book: Kick the Drink. Really recommend it to change your mindset about alcohol.

    Thanks so much! I went on Amazon and will check it out. Xo
  • NovusDies
    NovusDies Posts: 8,940 Member
    mgiron wrote: »
    You guys NEED to read the book: Kick the Drink. Really recommend it to change your mindset about alcohol.

    Thanks so much! I went on Amazon and will check it out. Xo

    I think that is on the resource list. :)

  • kittybenn
    kittybenn Posts: 444 Member
    One day, I had a drink at lunchtime, and then I wanted to have ten more and it took a lot of unnecessary energy to stop at two drinks.
    Yep, that's exactly me. I can really get carried away. I'm moderating, I guess, but have gone back to the carefully measured 4 oz of wine every night. Just don't know what to think about that. Haven't had any social occasions lately, which is where I tend to go a little crazy, so haven't been drinking anymore than just my little half a cup every night. We'll see how things go . . .

    Wanted to share with the group that I ran across this book recently and downloaded the first section: The Here-and-Now Habit, How Mindfulness Can Help You Break Unhealthy Habits Once and for All by Hugh G. Byrne.

    My Kindle version said you can go here for his free meditations: harbinger.com/32370. You have to sign up, but they're pretty interesting. Also, don't know if any of you have the app Insight Timer? Most of their content is free, but they're starting to sell their courses for a pretty moderate amount of $. His is $4.99 - called How to Change Unwanted Habits with Hugh Byrne. I'm pretty drawn to the idea of mindfulness helping us surf through urges and overcome bad habits, so this is right up my alley.