What is Love?

caco_ethes
caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
edited November 27 in Chit-Chat
Baby,

just hear me out.

What is it, honestly? How do you know when this is what you’re experiencing? People sometimes say “I really really like him/her but I don’t love him/her”. This graduates to “I love him/her but I’m not in love with him/her”

What even are these feelings?

How do you know?

How do you know?

A for real discussion but gifs are also encouraged.
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  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    Don’t hurt me
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    edited June 2018
    Baby don’t hurt me
    Baby don’t hurt me

    That was exactly what I was thinking...

    @denny_mac isn’t the only one who can do ear worms, I just pick better ones
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  • Crochetmama84
    Crochetmama84 Posts: 224 Member
    I can only speak from my experience but I knew I was in love in a few ways:

    1. I was unconsciously doing things for him that I hadn't before - like when stopping for groceries I'd buy something for him just because I knew he'd like it, or when I'd get up to get myself a drink I'd get one for him too.

    2. I'd look forward to coming home just to see him. Even if we had no plans beyond sitting in front of the tv all night, I wanted to come home just to spend that time with him.

    3. When thinking about the future he was always a part of what I envisioned.

    This.
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  • huntersvonnegut
    huntersvonnegut Posts: 1,177 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Don’t hurt me

    That’s what safe words are for.












    Kidding, kidding! ;)
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Don’t hurt me

    That’s what safe words are for.












    Kidding, kidding! ;)


    Coconut...


    Coconut!
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Don’t hurt me

    That’s what safe words are for.












    Kidding, kidding! ;)

    Only answer I’ve understood yet :smirk:
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    Love is a homeless guy searching for treasure in the middle of the rain and finding a bag of gold coins and then slowly finding out they're all filled with chocolate and even though he's heart broken he can't complain cause he was hungry in the first place

    Yeah but they’ll melt in the rain unless they’re covered with a candy shell but since they were wrapped in gold foil that’s unlikely so he was basically screwed all along and nothing changed except he foolishly got his hopes up and that’s why love sucks yo
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  • Wingsont84
    Wingsont84 Posts: 335 Member
    Love is steak and eggs, and if that's not love then I don't know what is... Maybe bacon and eggs
  • huntersvonnegut
    huntersvonnegut Posts: 1,177 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    Don’t hurt me

    That’s what safe words are for.












    Kidding, kidding! ;)


    Coconut...


    Coconut!

    Yeah, but I said I was kidding. About carrying if there's a safe word. Or not. ;)
  • T_143
    T_143 Posts: 1,022 Member
    Baby don’t hurt me

    Love hurts.... I know :-(
    You just know

    I agree with this! I think you do just know. It’s a different kind of feeling. It’s something that you can’t really put into words.
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  • bhadbahabi
    bhadbahabi Posts: 575 Member
    I don’t know anymore. I’ve experienced a few things that I thought were love and I still think they were but ultimately I’m thinking it’s hormones and then a decision to stay????? That’s as far as romantic love goes. I’m not confused about loving a pet, family, friends.
  • 4legsRbetterthan2
    4legsRbetterthan2 Posts: 19,590 MFP Moderator
    I dont know. I still dont feel like I have ever really "been in love". I am not trying to sound sad or anything. I care alot about my husband and definitely wouldn't give him up lightly, but I just have never felt that whole "i cant live without you" type feeling that maybe love is supposed to be. Or not. Shrug. I never wanted to feel that way either so maybe that is the problem.

    Possibly, but a lot of the times people don’t appreciate what they have until they loose it. I’m not saying that, that’s your situation. I’m just stating that generally speaking sometimes we don’t realize how important a person is, until they are gone and we’re left with that void. It’s in that moment we come to terms with our choices.

    Thats a good point. Im not willing tp experiment to find out right now (hummmmm, maybe I am more needy that I want to admit?)
  • BrokenFather
    BrokenFather Posts: 136 Member
    Love fills you, makes you forget about all else, the good, the bad. You’ll do anything for it if you have it. Love makes you travel far away to experience it. You’ll take small breaks to enjoy it, take it in. You’ll breath it in and it’s scent will cause all of the stress to leave you. Love causes pain, excruciating pain. I takes your breath away...causing your chest to hurt. It causes fear, some of the greatest fear you’ll ever experience.

    My children have taught me that love can be selfish. The loves of/in my life have taught me that love is selfish, painful, exciting and heartbreaking.
  • T_143
    T_143 Posts: 1,022 Member
    Love fills you, makes you forget about all else, the good, the bad. You’ll do anything for it if you have it. Love makes you travel far away to experience it. You’ll take small breaks to enjoy it, take it in. You’ll breath it in and it’s scent will cause all of the stress to leave you. Love causes pain, excruciating pain. I takes your breath away...causing your chest to hurt. It causes fear, some of the greatest fear you’ll ever experience.

    My children have taught me that love can be selfish. The loves of/in my life have taught me that love is selfish, painful, exciting and heartbreaking.

    Well said!
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