What's with the diet shaming?
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When asked, I always say “I gave up alcohol and got used to being hungry”. That’s usually enough to stop any follow-up questions.14
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stlbluefansarah wrote: »Why can't people just say, "Keep up the good work!" and keep their opinions to themselves anymore? I'm not looking for an answer to this question. I guess I'm just looking to vent and commiserate with anyone else who is experiencing the same.
Keep up the good work!
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One of my favorite phrases is repeated thousands of times a day. "Should the use of oxygen be necessary, first affix your own mask, over your mouth & nose, before helping others". This is also "expert" advice. If we were all genetically created equal, MFP would not be necessary. Where in the world would they find a platform to show off the expertise? My genetic code may be missing the ability to effectively use carbs but FILTERS....that is what is missing in many of the "experts" genetic code...please affix the mask (filter), OVER YOUR MOUTH, before helping others.9
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I agree with what someone else said... diet shaming is similar to mom shaming. Everyone has an opinion and thinks their way is the right way. Why can’t we all just have our opinions and stfu.11
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@nooshi713 omg! I feel ya! I was raw vegan for a few years a while back- I needed it at the time, but don't feel it's a good fit for me any more. Didn't feel sustainable with a husband and sons who are hard core steak and macaroni and cheese lovers 😂
Now my aunts and cousins are pushing the keto thing because that is their current kick. It may work for some, but that's not for me either.
The older I get, the less inclined I am to do any specific eating styles. For me, looking for balance in the calories in and out is easiest and most effective long term.
Same here. I need something flexible, this whole mom & responsibilities thing doesn't work well with a lot of restrictions. I also don't subscribe to the whole "eating clean" thing either. Just mainly healthy with a moderate about of not-as-healthy.5 -
I just keep at the most basic level when asked.... "I eat less and move more".
If someone wants to get into detail I'll mention logging my food and calories - CICO 101. If they are really interested I might mention macros..... lol.... but that's usually when the eyes start to glaze over.8 -
I think not going into specifics is key. I’m very lucky, because I’m at home every day, and because it’s winter, I hardly see anyone. I’ll probably run into people in spring, which means I can just put my head down and get on with it in the meantime. I don’t mention anything I’m doing with weight loss or fitness on any social media. I only plan to address what I’m doing if asked, and it’s because of the types of opinions op has mentioned.
When I am asked, I’m just going to say, ‘good old fashioned hard work!’ If pressed further, I will add, ‘exercise and eating well.’4 -
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Oh, yes, and I forgot to mention, most importantly: if someone then proceeds to lecture me about paleo or keto, or similar, I intend to simply say, ‘nah, I don’t believe in fad diets, but thanks anyway.’6
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stlbluefansarah wrote: »I recently restarted my quest to lose weight, and after almost 2 months, I am down about 16 pounds. In the past, I've tried traditional diets and less popular diets, and I finally found one that's working for me (i.e. I'm losing weight and pretty easily able to stick to it.) I am proud of myself. Some have commented on my jeans fitting more loosely, and it feels good. With that loss, a few have asked how I'm doing it, so I tell them. Diet and exercise, of course. But then when I tell them the diet, 90% of people tell me I should be doing this, instead of that, and I'm not doing it right, etc., etc.
It feels like if I were to tell 147 people about my diet, I would get 147 different opinions on what I should be doing instead. And each of those 147 people is somehow an all-knowing nutrition expert who knows THE ONLY healthy way to lose weight, be it low-carb, low-cal, IF, vegan, gluten-free, etc.
Why can't people just say, "Keep up the good work!" and keep their opinions to themselves anymore? I'm not looking for an answer to this question. I guess I'm just looking to vent and commiserate with anyone else who is experiencing the same.
Sadly that’s just what people are like!
Well done on the lose. Oh and ‘keep up the good work’ 3 -
tennisdude2004 wrote: »stlbluefansarah wrote: »I recently restarted my quest to lose weight, and after almost 2 months, I am down about 16 pounds. In the past, I've tried traditional diets and less popular diets, and I finally found one that's working for me (i.e. I'm losing weight and pretty easily able to stick to it.) I am proud of myself. Some have commented on my jeans fitting more loosely, and it feels good. With that loss, a few have asked how I'm doing it, so I tell them. Diet and exercise, of course. But then when I tell them the diet, 90% of people tell me I should be doing this, instead of that, and I'm not doing it right, etc., etc.
It feels like if I were to tell 147 people about my diet, I would get 147 different opinions on what I should be doing instead. And each of those 147 people is somehow an all-knowing nutrition expert who knows THE ONLY healthy way to lose weight, be it low-carb, low-cal, IF, vegan, gluten-free, etc.
Why can't people just say, "Keep up the good work!" and keep their opinions to themselves anymore? I'm not looking for an answer to this question. I guess I'm just looking to vent and commiserate with anyone else who is experiencing the same.
Sadly that’s just what people are like!
Well done on the lose. Oh and ‘keep up the good work’
It is so annoying. They see the results. Yet they argue. They have not done any actual research, yes they argue. They have not tried it , yet they argue. Please let's agree to disagree. You have got this. Bravo!!!5 -
SuzySunshine99 wrote: »If you tell 0 people about your diet, you will get 0 opinions. If people ask me how I lost weight, I am purposely vague and will sometimes just refer them to MFP.
LOL same- or I say I haven’t lost it, it’s just moved around
Everyone will have a perspective on how things “should” be. If you find what works (and it’s healthy and safe) have at it!
Like I wish I was into Paleo (because meat and veggies, hello?!) but I find too many things I enjoy and help sustain my appetite aren’t on the plan- so we do what works for us
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MsHarryWinston wrote: »
I play the holophoner now too.3 -
but do you play it well? That’s the question.MsHarryWinston wrote: »
I play the holophoner now too.
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I think a lot of time people who aren't succeeding don't want to see others succeed so they do anything they can to accomplish that. They tell you it won't work in hopes to make you give up. When you give up they can feel better about their own failures (Both to reach goals or take the first step to their goal). As long as you are getting the right amount of calories keep at it.2
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Please try not to be put out by what others say. You are doing what is right for yourself, providing for your own nutritional needs. The only thing which really matters after that, the object of your affections holds you as his. Many would give their eye teeth for that simple statement.1
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Had a group of co-workers that cornered me in the elevator, ask me how I did it?
I said, "Ate less, moved more."
One guy laughingly replied, "We were hoping you wouldn't say that."
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People love gimmick diets. Hate the word---DIET!
Just translates to temporary weight loss and gaining it all back then some.
Eat less...move more....LOG what goes in. This is a lifetime commitment. People do not like to hear this....they want that gimmick 3 -
Get 100 nutritionists in a room together and you will find 100 different opinions on what one should and should not be doing.
We may all be a part of the same species, but we each have subtle differences in chemical make-up that determine how we process foods.
High five to you for sticking to what works for you and continuing to work toward your goals!!
Meh, we’re not really that different. The OP lost weight by doing exactly what every other person who has lost weight has done - created a calorie deficit. How she chose to achieve that deficit may be individualized but the calorie deficit, where CI<CO is what causes the weight loss. That’s the part that I think many people don’t want to hear - that it is just that simple (but that doesn’t mean it’s easy).10
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