What's with the diet shaming?

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  • Posts: 5,609 Member
    I recently restarted my quest to lose weight, and after almost 2 months, I am down about 16 pounds. In the past, I've tried traditional diets and less popular diets, and I finally found one that's working for me (i.e. I'm losing weight and pretty easily able to stick to it.) I am proud of myself. Some have commented on my jeans fitting more loosely, and it feels good. With that loss, a few have asked how I'm doing it, so I tell them. Diet and exercise, of course. But then when I tell them the diet, 90% of people tell me I should be doing this, instead of that, and I'm not doing it right, etc., etc.

    It feels like if I were to tell 147 people about my diet, I would get 147 different opinions on what I should be doing instead. And each of those 147 people is somehow an all-knowing nutrition expert who knows THE ONLY healthy way to lose weight, be it low-carb, low-cal, IF, vegan, gluten-free, etc.

    Why can't people just say, "Keep up the good work!" and keep their opinions to themselves anymore? I'm not looking for an answer to this question. I guess I'm just looking to vent and commiserate with anyone else who is experiencing the same.

    Sadly that’s just what people are like!

    Well done on the lose. Oh and ‘keep up the good work’ :wink:
  • Posts: 31 Member
    If you tell 0 people about your diet, you will get 0 opinions. If people ask me how I lost weight, I am purposely vague and will sometimes just refer them to MFP.

    LOL same- or I say I haven’t lost it, it’s just moved around :D

    Everyone will have a perspective on how things “should” be. If you find what works (and it’s healthy and safe) have at it!

    Like I wish I was into Paleo (because meat and veggies, hello?!) but I find too many things I enjoy and help sustain my appetite aren’t on the plan- so we do what works for us

  • Posts: 2,839 Member

    Did you contract space worms that jazzercized your muscles from the inside?

    I play the holophoner now too.
  • Posts: 699 Member
    sullus wrote: »

    I play the holophoner now too.
    but do you play it well? That’s the question.

  • Posts: 78 Member
    I think a lot of time people who aren't succeeding don't want to see others succeed so they do anything they can to accomplish that. They tell you it won't work in hopes to make you give up. When you give up they can feel better about their own failures (Both to reach goals or take the first step to their goal). As long as you are getting the right amount of calories keep at it.
  • Posts: 2,303 Member
    Please try not to be put out by what others say. You are doing what is right for yourself, providing for your own nutritional needs. The only thing which really matters after that, the object of your affections holds you as his. Many would give their eye teeth for that simple statement.
  • Posts: 1,899 Member
    People love gimmick diets. Hate the word---DIET!
    Just translates to temporary weight loss and gaining it all back then some.
    Eat less...move more....LOG what goes in. This is a lifetime commitment. People do not like to hear this....they want that gimmick ;)
  • Posts: 1,027 Member
    sullus wrote: »

    I play the holophoner now too.

    :D
  • Posts: 15 Member
    sullus wrote: »
    I tell people I ate an egg salad sandwich out of a vending machine in a bathroom in an interstellar truck stop. Usually short circuits the conversation. [/quote

    Did it help you to play the holophonor?
  • Posts: 50 Member
    VUA21 wrote: »

    I think carbs are the younger sibling to sodium. They have such bad reputations, but unless you have a medical reason, there's nothing wrong with either. Also, I live in the West Texas desert (current temp at my house 101° in the shade) I drink 2-3 gallons of water a day because of the heat, I need to up my salt intake or I can get really sick.

    I wonder if it has something to do with all the footballers in the 80's (at least here in Australia) talking about carbon loading the night before a match, then getting fat in retirement. I know as a kid before athletics, cross country or race walking days (so Friday or Saturday dinners) Dad always cooked us a big plate of spaghetti. We needed it as goodness knew what we would eat the next day. Of course now I need to eat more carbs due to the nature of my job, but my sister is most likely trying not to have so many.
  • Posts: 31 Member
    Interesting reading the posts above, I generally find most people demonise fat over carbs, and the shops are full of 'low fat' options.
  • Posts: 25,763 Member
    rgg71 wrote: »
    Interesting reading the posts above, I generally find most people demonise fat over carbs, and the shops are full of 'low fat' options.

    Where do you live? Here in the US, low carbohydrate has been the preferred diet method since the Atkins craze of the late 1990s. In fact, ketogenic diets (which are prioritize fat) are probably the trendiest thing in the fitness community right now.
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