Why did you get married?

vm007

Hi,

Just wondering why does one get married?

"Life partner" - well , that one can be without married as well

"Someone with you in thick and thin" - if you are good friends with someone it'll be same

"It shows how much you love someone" - really now?

"For love" - umm ok- but do you really need to be married to them?

"Societal" - yes that I can some what understand but people will talk for a while then they will forget and accept as it is

"Family pressure" - I think same as society- will talk for a while then shut off

"Kids"- Sure, but if you aren't married and have a kid out of wedlock- that doesn't mean you can't raise the child in a wholesome environment.

"Gives meaning to life" - what does being married have to do with it?

"Friends come and go-life partner is for life" - marriages end too

"To carry my legacy" - isn't this just ego and what if the child is a total screw up?

This is me just having a conversation with myself. There is a divide between me versus myself.

Just wondering because one can surely have a wholesome relationship for life without being married, right?

Movies and all have made "hippies" or "that culture" look bad but didn't they have it right in the first place? Some tribes

did that too- one can have multiple partners and still live a happy , wholesome life.

So why did you get married? What am I not understanding? What am I missing?

Motorsheen

So I could use the Freeway's Carpool Lane.

vm007

Motorsheen wrote: »

So I could use the Freeway's Carpool Lane.

haha- do ride share .

sardelsa

Because I wanted to

bojack5

To have sex and not be a sinner

Motorsheen

CoffeeAndContour wrote: »

Citizenship

sorta changes the meaning of: "Ohhh! Canada!!!" , Eh?

jgnatca

I was going to say, “It’s a contract.” Before formal marriage an oath under a tree was sufficient. But then there were too many young men claiming they never promised.....

Now we have signatures, witnesses, and a DVD.

SpartanRunner1978

She had a couple of kids...us top 1%’ers need all the tax write-offs we can get!


Please know I am joking!

BrSpiritus

Because my wife and I are Catholics and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together without extramarital sin. Also I wanted to give her the opportunity to move to the US and become a citizen.

Beaster_Bunny

I lost a bet.

RoxieDawn

Because he asked me.

Motorsheen

VegHeadGettingFit wrote: »

I lost a bet.

best answer


.... and probably applies to 99.9% of us



(whether we know it or not)

Dootzy1

Because I couldn't imagine life unfolding in the future without him in it. And because I believe that our marriage is a sacrament. (The relationship has not disappointed us for 36 years.)

BrSpiritus

Motorsheen wrote: »

VegHeadGettingFit wrote: »

I lost a bet.

best answer


.... and probably applies to 99.9% of us



(whether we know it or not)

The only betting I remember is my mother's side of the family betting I would be divorced within a year.

BrSpiritus

changeconsumeme

For the health benefits, initially.

I’m committed to him, he’s committed to me, and now we have a piece of paper that also wins us some sweet benefits to show for it going on 10 years now.

We aren’t interested in procreating. We just want to build our life up together.

bluets2011

Because I didn’t know better :-(

vm007

I get fingers pointed at -that I only ask this question because I've never been in a relationship. The "encounters" I've had were meaningless and pointless. However, tbt -I have good memories from them. Yes, there were awkward moments, rejections, drama but also joyous moments, fun the whole spectrum.

Some of them are married and happy now. I have lost touch with all of them after they got married and even with my male friends who got married our friendships waned as well and is basically limited to barbecues and what not.

I get told, you've never been in "love"- I do not understand this one. If you love someone- marrying them -isn't this selfish on both ends as in saying that we don't trust each other enough to stay together without a piece of paper saying so? -if a person is going to cheat and one thinks they can stop that behavior because of marriage isn't that delusion?

I , also get told -you are talking about all this because you aren't married yet -well DUH! isn't it good I'm thinking like this right now rather after getting married.

mustacheU2Lift

VegHeadGettingFit wrote: »

I lost a bet.

Misty_1375

Can I plead the 5th? Don’t want anything to come back and haunt me 😑

Misty_1375

bluets2011 wrote: »

Because I didn’t know better :-(

I can relate