He's/She's Just Not That Into You

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  • covetthycarbs
    covetthycarbs Posts: 300 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    So what are some things (petty or otherwise) that would turn you off from continuing to date a person?

    Did you watch this movie when you were home not being sick yesterday?

    No, I watched like 7 episodes of Friends.

    Basically I wanna know if any of these things apply to me. Wondering why I can't get anyone to date me longer than like 3 months. 😕

    Some ppl may be afraid to commit esp if they are at an age where the next logical step is marriage and they just don’t know if thats what they want. So they run

    Dating more than three months doesn’t mean marriage automatically
    Not at all, but some people have a timer esp if thats what they think they want or completely not what they want but thinks its what the other wants
    So three months is the limit if you don’t want marriage yet you think the other person might. Why not seven months? Or five?

    There is no “limit” im just merely quoting what was given to me

    My point is, some people date because they are trying to find “the one”. Maybe thats why it didnt last because they realize he/she isnt so they stop persuing after x amount of months or vice versa so they move on to the next

    Some people date because they just want to experience as much as possible before settling down. Maybe after x amount of months, they want to experience something new

    Some people date not expecting anything serious out of it. When it gets serious they run because thats not what they want and probably intimidated since it gets too serious

    There can be hundreds of reasons for why someone would leave or break up and it doesn’t necessary mean its something you did wrong. U know the phrase “ its me, not you?” , its a real thing. Some people just dont have their priorities straight when it comes to dating and they just dont know what they want

    Edit* when i said timer i meant to get married, not the months to date

    I got your point and I agree. I just thought you meant it was official that it was three months then marriage lol.
    I see now
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  • tinak33
    tinak33 Posts: 9,883 Member
    If I were dating, I'd rule out anyone who mocks or belittles; anyone who sees things as strictly black and white without compassion; pessimists; dreamy-eyed optimists who never do anything to make their dreams happen; people who don't read books; addicts not in recovery...

    I guess it's a long list and they're the kinds of things you can't figure out from a questionnaire or a single meeting.

    But wouldn't it be cool if you could hand over a questionnaire before the dating? And then if things look good on paper, see if things work in person.....
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  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    LMNOP55 wrote: »
    Muffin tops

    (like, if they eat the tops and leave me the stump)

    Why do you think we would want to eat the stumps!!!

    Especially if the tops have the big sugar crystals on top, I will leave you the stump every time.
  • ChaelAZ
    ChaelAZ Posts: 2,240 Member
    After all the personality, humor, likes and interests, there is always a layer of sexual compatibility. Seriously, if she doesn't find I float her boat or she isn't into me like I feel comfortable and confident she's happy, let's just part ways and not deal with the drama down the road.
  • urloved33
    urloved33 Posts: 3,323 Member
    the beer and video games every waking moment guy. UGH.
  • mholl15
    mholl15 Posts: 139 Member
    boring in bed, you should always pretend to be THE best porn star the world has ever seen, lol
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    mholl15 wrote: »
    boring in bed, you should always pretend to be THE best porn star the world has ever seen, lol

    Pretend? PRETEND??
  • Just_Mel_
    Just_Mel_ Posts: 3,992 Member
    ChaelAZ wrote: »
    After all the personality, humor, likes and interests, there is always a layer of sexual compatibility. Seriously, if she doesn't find I float her boat or she isn't into me like I feel comfortable and confident she's happy, let's just part ways and not deal with the drama down the road.

    So you wouldn't want her to fake it once in awhile?
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    ChaelAZ wrote: »
    After all the personality, humor, likes and interests, there is always a layer of sexual compatibility. Seriously, if she doesn't find I float her boat or she isn't into me like I feel comfortable and confident she's happy, let's just part ways and not deal with the drama down the road.

    So you wouldn't want her to fake it once in awhile?

    No, but @mholl15 is all about making believe, lol.
  • ChaelAZ
    ChaelAZ Posts: 2,240 Member
    ChaelAZ wrote: »
    After all the personality, humor, likes and interests, there is always a layer of sexual compatibility. Seriously, if she doesn't find I float her boat or she isn't into me like I feel comfortable and confident she's happy, let's just part ways and not deal with the drama down the road.

    So you wouldn't want her to fake it once in awhile?

    Nope.
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    edited August 2018
    Jealously, insecurities, possessiveness, hot headed.

    Can't carry a conversation.
    No sense of humor.
    Can't put their phone down.
    Substance abuse problems.
    Narcissistic.
    Bad hygiene.
    Mama's boy.
    Deadbeat, lazy.
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  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    LMNOP55 wrote: »
    Muffin tops

    (like, if they eat the tops and leave me the stump)

    Why do you think we would want to eat the stumps!!!

    Especially if the tops have the big sugar crystals on top, I will leave you the stump every time.

    Savage.

    I go straight for the jugular.
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    81Katz wrote: »
    Jealously, insecurities, possessiveness, hot headed.

    Can't carry a conversation.
    No sense of humor.
    Can't put their phone down.
    Substance abuse problems.

    Hot-headed I get, but what about...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P4OGY0pQFG0
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  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    SwannySez wrote: »
    Doesn't always want to put out when I want him to. 🙄

    What? That's not a man. Or even a human. I think it's probably a mannequin with a tape recorder duct taped to it.

    Well Damn, I never thought of putting a recorder on it. This could be a game changer 😜

    I'm here to help. The first one's free. After that the tolls ad up quick, baby. Luckily, I work for innuendo.
  • AmberGlitterSparkles
    AmberGlitterSparkles Posts: 699 Member
    Bad temper controlling tendencies.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    edited August 2018
    Racist
    Bad hygiene
    Whiney
    Not great at sex
    Not affectionate
    If they don't seem very into me
    Not kind or not respectful
  • nooshi713
    nooshi713 Posts: 4,877 Member
    edited August 2018
    Smoking
    Any anger or addiction issues
    Selfish
    Lazy
    Poor hygiene
    Overweight
    Short
    Only texts and doesn't value phone conversation
  • dblbbl88
    dblbbl88 Posts: 857 Member
    Racist
    Bad hygiene
    Whiney
    Not great at sex
    Not affectionate
    If they don't seem very into me
    Not kind or not respectful

    All of these and including:

    Self-Degrading
    Lazy
    Sexist
    Controlling
    Jealous
    Clingy
    And there's more, but then I just sound picky....
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    I smolder with rage when they're financially supporting their adult offspring and their grandchildren then they won't buy me a pair of front row tickets to the Barry Manilow concert.

    That's because you came and you gave without taking, but I sent you away.
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,855 Member
    If they lack manners
    If they lack common curtesy and respect for others
    If they are gossipy about their friends
    Already said, but if they don’t put their family first
    If they don’t like kids
    If they don’t like animals
    If they are stagnant in life
    If they have bad hygiene
    If they have no hobbies or passions
    If they are a showboater
    If they lack communication skills
    If they don’t inspire me to be better

    I thought I'd been eliminated when you got the part about hating snowboarders. . But then I read it again.. How do you feel about guys who are easily confused?
  • Just_Mel_
    Just_Mel_ Posts: 3,992 Member
    I'm not seeing many dudes posting....