He's/She's Just Not That Into You
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Lack of ambition.1
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AmberGlitterSparkles wrote: »Lack of ambition.
I was gonna post a response, but I lost interest.8 -
No job
And if they’re an only child0 -
Things that push me away from dating someone include:
- co-dependence or excessive neediness (any good relationship needs time apart)
- bad personal hygiene (bad breath, BO, thinking that washing your hair once every two weeks {that's ONCE every TWO weeks - name that tune!} is sufficient ... ewwww)
- desperation (with or without the flop-sweat)
- no ambition (have dated some women who claim to have dreams/goals and do nothing to achieve them - sad, really)
- bad teeth (I currently live in Asia, and there are lots of pretty women who have the most egregious snaggle-teeth - I seriously worry about what would happen to my tongue if I kissed them - would it get hooked up or shredded or what?)
- laziness/inactivity (I want someone I can hit the squash courts with or go hike a mountain or do some trail riding)
- victim mentality (one thing about human beings is that the longer we live, the more baggage we have, but some people just can't learn to cope with their past {or worse, conflate the tiniest of events into a personal apocalypse}, and I'm not looking for a project to save)
- ignorance (I can deal with stupidity - stupidity can be cured - but ignorance, not so much)
- HYPOCRISY - oh this one really rattles my cage now that I think about it.
- People who insist on taking pictures of food they ordered in restaurants instead of, oh, I don't know, EATING IT.
- Instagram-based narcissism (wow, you took 100 photos of yourself in various poses and finally found one that looks good ... yes, you are total wife material)
- People who duck-face for photos. Seriously? What the Hell is wrong with you?
- 撒娇 (sājiāo) - this means acting like a spoiled child when you're an adult, usually to get your way or get attention. See comments above about neediness.
- Cellphone addicts - no, I don't need to be the entire focus of every minute of every day, but if we can't have a conversation without you looking at your gd iPhone or eat a meal without you suffering DTs from not having it in easy reach ... yeah, we're not going anywhere.
I'm sure I have a lot more, but these are just off the top of my head (as I try to avoid doing work).
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Things that push me away from dating someone include:
- co-dependence or excessive neediness (any good relationship needs time apart)
- bad personal hygiene (bad breath, BO, thinking that washing your hair once every two weeks {that's ONCE every TWO weeks - name that tune!} is sufficient ... ewwww)
- desperation (with or without the flop-sweat)
- no ambition (have dated some women who claim to have dreams/goals and do nothing to achieve them - sad, really)
- bad teeth (I currently live in Asia, and there are lots of pretty women who have the most egregious snaggle-teeth - I seriously worry about what would happen to my tongue if I kissed them - would it get hooked up or shredded or what?)
- laziness/inactivity (I want someone I can hit the squash courts with or go hike a mountain or do some trail riding)
- victim mentality (one thing about human beings is that the longer we live, the more baggage we have, but some people just can't learn to cope with their past {or worse, conflate the tiniest of events into a personal apocalypse}, and I'm not looking for a project to save)
- ignorance (I can deal with stupidity - stupidity can be cured - but ignorance, not so much)
- HYPOCRISY - oh this one really rattles my cage now that I think about it.
- People who insist on taking pictures of food they ordered in restaurants instead of, oh, I don't know, EATING IT.
- Instagram-based narcissism (wow, you took 100 photos of yourself in various poses and finally found one that looks good ... yes, you are total wife material)
- People who duck-face for photos. Seriously? What the Hell is wrong with you?
- 撒娇 (sājiāo) - this means acting like a spoiled child when you're an adult, usually to get your way or get attention. See comments above about neediness.
- Cellphone addicts - no, I don't need to be the entire focus of every minute of every day, but if we can't have a conversation without you looking at your gd iPhone or eat a meal without you suffering DTs from not having it in easy reach ... yeah, we're not going anywhere.
I'm sure I have a lot more, but these are just off the top of my head (as I try to avoid doing work).
You're single aren't you? 😂😆 kidding..
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Things that push me away from dating someone include:
- co-dependence or excessive neediness (any good relationship needs time apart)
- bad personal hygiene (bad breath, BO, thinking that washing your hair once every two weeks {that's ONCE every TWO weeks - name that tune!} is sufficient ... ewwww)
- desperation (with or without the flop-sweat)
- no ambition (have dated some women who claim to have dreams/goals and do nothing to achieve them - sad, really)
- bad teeth (I currently live in Asia, and there are lots of pretty women who have the most egregious snaggle-teeth - I seriously worry about what would happen to my tongue if I kissed them - would it get hooked up or shredded or what?)
- laziness/inactivity (I want someone I can hit the squash courts with or go hike a mountain or do some trail riding)
- victim mentality (one thing about human beings is that the longer we live, the more baggage we have, but some people just can't learn to cope with their past {or worse, conflate the tiniest of events into a personal apocalypse}, and I'm not looking for a project to save)
- ignorance (I can deal with stupidity - stupidity can be cured - but ignorance, not so much)
- HYPOCRISY - oh this one really rattles my cage now that I think about it.
- People who insist on taking pictures of food they ordered in restaurants instead of, oh, I don't know, EATING IT.
- Instagram-based narcissism (wow, you took 100 photos of yourself in various poses and finally found one that looks good ... yes, you are total wife material)
- People who duck-face for photos. Seriously? What the Hell is wrong with you?
- 撒娇 (sājiāo) - this means acting like a spoiled child when you're an adult, usually to get your way or get attention. See comments above about neediness.
- Cellphone addicts - no, I don't need to be the entire focus of every minute of every day, but if we can't have a conversation without you looking at your gd iPhone or eat a meal without you suffering DTs from not having it in easy reach ... yeah, we're not going anywhere.
I'm sure I have a lot more, but these are just off the top of my head (as I try to avoid doing work).
Umm, good luck with your endeavor towards finding perfection. 😁😁4 -
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_Maid_of_Mischief_ wrote: »justinewillcutyou wrote: »Bad hygiene. Mama’s boy.
I love it when they're a mama's boy, I think it's the cutest thing ever ❤
Yeek...I dated a mama's boy for a while, just long enough to realize what a train wreck our life together would have been. That was a horrible lesson. But like they say, every relationship is a lesson, even the bad ones. Maybe especially the bad ones!0 -
_Maid_of_Mischief_ wrote: »
It's a work in progress.
Umm, good luck with your endeavor towards finding perfection. 😁😁
Thanks. With 7 billion people in the world, I'm sure I can find one or two that fit the bill.
AgainWithTheSurfyPants wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »
You're single aren't you? 😂😆 kidding..
Jo!! HAaahah I thought something very similar! What a list bro.
Yes, I am single, but I'd rather be single and content (which I am) than dating and miserable, and I find it sad that people seem to think that being in a relationship requires some measure of selling out. There is a reason people have standards, and I've seen too many friends and family members in *kitten* relationships because they are afraid to be alone so they lower their standards and expectations, which is monumentally stupid. Relationships should make you happy; they should make you feel good, not stressed out and not like you compromised yourself, but too many people are quick to do that out of desperation, and then justify it to themselves in some fashion or other. That doesn't include when the investment model kicks in and people stay in relationships simply because of the amount of time they've spent in it - again, monumentally stupid.
Think about all the relationships you've been in and think about how they impacted the subsequent relationship - you avoided the things you didn't like in previous relationships when going into the new one, and you kept an eye out for any appearance of these things (because people are just so full of artifice when first dating), so everyone has a list of things that are acceptable and unacceptable (and the unacceptable can be divided into hard and soft limits) when it comes to dating, and this list is based on past experience of what made you unhappy in previous relationships - why repeat the past if it made you so effing miserable the first time around?6 -
leut_underpants wrote: »leut_underpants wrote: »
You're so mean. And it was Mandy. She was his dog. He wrote that song for her. Didn't you watch his interview on the Today Show?
Time for fact checking...
I'm not mean. At least not right now. :flowerforyou:
The song was originally Brandy, not recorded first by Manilow, and thus not about Manilow's anything. He didn't write it, he only changed the name and covered it.
The original writer has clarified that the song wasn't about a dog, that was only a ruse to get rid of a reporter.
I've only watched the Today show as a captive in a dentist's chair. I find it incredibly shallow television.
I have no idea about Mandy's or dogs or Barry Manilow, but I do know how to page @newmeadow aaaaand be unintentionally mean.
Damn, Leut! Who knew you were the resident Manilow expert?0 -
Avocado_AS5 wrote: »If they're selfish in bed.
Truth!0 -
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AgainWithTheSurfyPants wrote: »_Maid_of_Mischief_ wrote: »
It's a work in progress.
Umm, good luck with your endeavor towards finding perfection. 😁😁
Thanks. With 7 billion people in the world, I'm sure I can find one or two that fit the bill.AgainWithTheSurfyPants wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »
You're single aren't you? 😂😆 kidding..
Jo!! HAaahah I thought something very similar! What a list bro.
Yes, I am single, but I'd rather be single and content (which I am) than dating and miserable, and I find it sad that people seem to think that being in a relationship requires some measure of selling out. There is a reason people have standards, and I've seen too many friends and family members in *kitten* relationships because they are afraid to be alone so they lower their standards and expectations, which is monumentally stupid. Relationships should make you happy; they should make you feel good, not stressed out and not like you compromised yourself, but too many people are quick to do that out of desperation, and then justify it to themselves in some fashion or other. That doesn't include when the investment model kicks in and people stay in relationships simply because of the amount of time they've spent in it - again, monumentally stupid.
Think about all the relationships you've been in and think about how they impacted the subsequent relationship - you avoided the things you didn't like in previous relationships when going into the new one, and you kept an eye out for any appearance of these things (because people are just so full of artifice when first dating), so everyone has a list of things that are acceptable and unacceptable (and the unacceptable can be divided into hard and soft limits) when it comes to dating, and this list is based on past experience of what made you unhappy in previous relationships - why repeat the past if it made you so effing miserable the first time around?
Dude. I'm tryin' to watch porn over here..you're killing my boner.
The things I do for my friends...
*commences fluffing*1 -
_Maid_of_Mischief_ wrote: »
It's a work in progress.
Umm, good luck with your endeavor towards finding perfection. 😁😁
Thanks. With 7 billion people in the world, I'm sure I can find one or two that fit the bill.AgainWithTheSurfyPants wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »
You're single aren't you? 😂😆 kidding..
Jo!! HAaahah I thought something very similar! What a list bro.
Yes, I am single, but I'd rather be single and content (which I am) than dating and miserable, and I find it sad that people seem to think that being in a relationship requires some measure of selling out. There is a reason people have standards, and I've seen too many friends and family members in *kitten* relationships because they are afraid to be alone so they lower their standards and expectations, which is monumentally stupid. Relationships should make you happy; they should make you feel good, not stressed out and not like you compromised yourself, but too many people are quick to do that out of desperation, and then justify it to themselves in some fashion or other. That doesn't include when the investment model kicks in and people stay in relationships simply because of the amount of time they've spent in it - again, monumentally stupid.
Think about all the relationships you've been in and think about how they impacted the subsequent relationship - you avoided the things you didn't like in previous relationships when going into the new one, and you kept an eye out for any appearance of these things (because people are just so full of artifice when first dating), so everyone has a list of things that are acceptable and unacceptable (and the unacceptable can be divided into hard and soft limits) when it comes to dating, and this list is based on past experience of what made you unhappy in previous relationships - why repeat the past if it made you so effing miserable the first time around?
Most of this is very well said3 -
Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »AgainWithTheSurfyPants wrote: »_Maid_of_Mischief_ wrote: »
It's a work in progress.
Umm, good luck with your endeavor towards finding perfection. 😁😁
Thanks. With 7 billion people in the world, I'm sure I can find one or two that fit the bill.AgainWithTheSurfyPants wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »
You're single aren't you? 😂😆 kidding..
Jo!! HAaahah I thought something very similar! What a list bro.
Yes, I am single, but I'd rather be single and content (which I am) than dating and miserable, and I find it sad that people seem to think that being in a relationship requires some measure of selling out. There is a reason people have standards, and I've seen too many friends and family members in *kitten* relationships because they are afraid to be alone so they lower their standards and expectations, which is monumentally stupid. Relationships should make you happy; they should make you feel good, not stressed out and not like you compromised yourself, but too many people are quick to do that out of desperation, and then justify it to themselves in some fashion or other. That doesn't include when the investment model kicks in and people stay in relationships simply because of the amount of time they've spent in it - again, monumentally stupid.
Think about all the relationships you've been in and think about how they impacted the subsequent relationship - you avoided the things you didn't like in previous relationships when going into the new one, and you kept an eye out for any appearance of these things (because people are just so full of artifice when first dating), so everyone has a list of things that are acceptable and unacceptable (and the unacceptable can be divided into hard and soft limits) when it comes to dating, and this list is based on past experience of what made you unhappy in previous relationships - why repeat the past if it made you so effing miserable the first time around?
Dude. I'm tryin' to watch porn over here..you're killing my boner.
The things I do for my friends...
*commences fluffing*
I know. I know. You’re next. Get me a bottle of water. I gotta stay hydrated.0 -
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If he sends random messages via fb messenger every couple months....hes just not that into you.0
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If he admits that in a matter of weeks or days youll be deleted from his accounts...hes not digging you.0
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If he says he'll call and doesnt...its a dud.2
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If she doesn’t send a friend request that includes a nude of herself with the words “Be my friend. FOREVER!” scrawled on it in red lipstick - or blood, who can tell? She is just not that into you.
Lookin’ at you, @AgainWithTheSurfyPants...0 -
_Maid_of_Mischief_ wrote: »
It's a work in progress.
Umm, good luck with your endeavor towards finding perfection. 😁😁
Thanks. With 7 billion people in the world, I'm sure I can find one or two that fit the bill.AgainWithTheSurfyPants wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »
You're single aren't you? 😂😆 kidding..
Jo!! HAaahah I thought something very similar! What a list bro.
Yes, I am single, but I'd rather be single and content (which I am) than dating and miserable, and I find it sad that people seem to think that being in a relationship requires some measure of selling out. There is a reason people have standards, and I've seen too many friends and family members in *kitten* relationships because they are afraid to be alone so they lower their standards and expectations, which is monumentally stupid. Relationships should make you happy; they should make you feel good, not stressed out and not like you compromised yourself, but too many people are quick to do that out of desperation, and then justify it to themselves in some fashion or other. That doesn't include when the investment model kicks in and people stay in relationships simply because of the amount of time they've spent in it - again, monumentally stupid.
Think about all the relationships you've been in and think about how they impacted the subsequent relationship - you avoided the things you didn't like in previous relationships when going into the new one, and you kept an eye out for any appearance of these things (because people are just so full of artifice when first dating), so everyone has a list of things that are acceptable and unacceptable (and the unacceptable can be divided into hard and soft limits) when it comes to dating, and this list is based on past experience of what made you unhappy in previous relationships - why repeat the past if it made you so effing miserable the first time around?
:flowerforyou: buy a cat 😆2 -
starring at the phone!!1
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Selfish guys who lie or liars who are selfish
Are you a lesbian?
Or have you actually met a man that wasn't a liar?
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IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Selfish guys who lie or liars who are selfish
Are you a lesbian?
Or have you actually met a man that wasn't a liar?
yes0 -
IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Selfish guys who lie or liars who are selfish
Are you a lesbian?
Or have you actually met a man that wasn't a liar?
If she is, she’s like the worst lesbian ever.0 -
IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Selfish guys who lie or liars who are selfish
Are you a lesbian?
Or have you actually met a man that wasn't a liar?
If she is, she’s like the worst lesbian ever.
Im working on it sheesh so judgy.1 -
mustacheU2Lift wrote: »IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Selfish guys who lie or liars who are selfish
Are you a lesbian?
Or have you actually met a man that wasn't a liar?
If she is, she’s like the worst lesbian ever.
Im working on it sheesh so judgy.
How many licks does it take to reach the tootsie roll center of a tootsie roll pop?0 -
mustacheU2Lift wrote: »IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Selfish guys who lie or liars who are selfish
Are you a lesbian?
Or have you actually met a man that wasn't a liar?
yes
To what? I'm guessing the first one, cause I never met anyone who could say yes to the second one.
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »IHaveMyActTogether wrote: »mustacheU2Lift wrote: »Selfish guys who lie or liars who are selfish
Are you a lesbian?
Or have you actually met a man that wasn't a liar?
If she is, she’s like the worst lesbian ever.
Im working on it sheesh so judgy.
How many licks does it take to reach the tootsie roll center of a tootsie roll pop?
Thats deeply personal.0
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